Officially blooming part 2

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Thought I'd start a new thread as there were only 3 posts left!

twinkle - that consultant was quite arrogant imo. What a twat!

yup - I'm knackered. Was completely mis-sold pregnancy - no glow has every happened!

Knackered - tick ( but I have been a lot better recently)

DD was 7lb 12, I seem to be about the right size for dates atm so I'm hoping that this one won't be much bigger.

Bratnav - my BMI at booking in was a smidge over 35 . I will also get a growth scan at 34 weeks.

Saw the MW today, all well. Heard the heart beat but I know all is well as this baby never seems to stop moving about

I am not too knackered but I think it's because I was working in a very physical job and have now slowed to a virtual standstill.

Cleaned the house today, did 2 washes and aproper cooked dinner for DD2 and myself and made some muffins (with cherries in them too!)which is a feat as I don't do cooking.

I have decided that I have had enough of dear Old Blighty- can't get DP a job or buy a house where we want and the weather is crap. I am off to Spain after these have hatched (Germany is too cold and I don't speak any German as yet). I didn't sleep all night thinking about DP away in Germany all the time and being cold and miserable- may as well be riding around the Spanish countryside in the sunshine when he visits (twins in saddlebags as someone suggested). Cost of living cheaper, housing cheaper,flights cheaper, family over there........I can't wait.

I know I'm a pain for repeating myself but I do hope you're all taking pregaday. It's supposed to be taken from 16 wks and is full of folic acid + iron. If I even miss a day I'm shattered a couple of days later. Wish I could take it when not pg too!

blue - am sure you're right but I get terribly constipated when I take it. I'd rather be knackered than in pain on the toilet It got so bad that I was worried I might injure the baby iyswim - straining

Neddie - don't blame you for buggering off to Spain. Quite envious at the thought of you galloping around the Spanish countryside

AprilMeadow - for your DS getting in the school of choice! One weight off the preg brain! Me and DH are thinking about schools already! There is a lovely new Welsh School which we are in the catchment area for and we really hope bubs will get in! Am stressing already! Not that I speak a word of Welsh and have difficulty pronouncing half of it, but DH is fluent so would like bubs to be as well! Although there is a possibility they will talk about me and I wont have a clue what they are saying...!

FairySparkles - £300 !! cars are a great PITA sometimes! Hope the firemen made it a bit better though !

Very tired here too Audrey! Also have missed out the 'energy spurt' of the 2nd trimester. I seem to have shin ache in both legs by the end of the day as I spend all day on my feet - REALLY am ready to finish work NOW!!

Blinder - hypno lady says I can contact her at the beginning of July when she has a few couples finishing their courses, and she will fit me in! Am chuffed and really looking forward to it! Glad that DH can go as well just to give him an idea of all things birth related, and seeing as the poor thing cringes at ads for tampons I think this course will be a great help! LOL! Thanks for the recommendation!

Hi all,

Not a good day today. I have been feeling exhausted for a couple of weeks now, but today when I ate lunch I passed out after and the schools called DH to collect the DDs Felt very rough again after eating tea, any thoughts?

Also, I know this sounds mad, but can a baby move around too much? Yesterday he moved constantly and fiercely all day, left me feeling shattered.

April - fantastic news re the school, we are waiting final confirmation thay DD2 has a place from September in the same school as DD1 and DSD, looks promising though, and it is such a weight off my mind, you must be thrilled.

bratnav x could be blood sugar levels if its an after food thing? Try NHS Direct tonight -they are pretty good, I've rung them a few times since preg x x

Sorry to hear that, bratnav. I nearly fainted after lunch a few weeks ago, but have been trying avoid getting too hungry since then. I have generally felt a lot better since about 14 / 15 weeks, but am beginning to feel breathless quite easily which is not very nice. Only 25 weeks now, so wasn't expecting that for a little whle yet.

Not sure if it's all related to iron - I'm not taking any supplements as it tends to bung me up, too. I have a mw appointment tomorrow, and this was already on my list of questions, so will let you know if she can tell me anything useful.

I think I'm hungrier when the baby's more active. She's been on the go all day , so expect to not be able to stop eating tomorrow. Definitely goes in phases at the moment.

Hmm - cherry muffins...

I too am extremely knackered, had about 2 weeks of feeling good and then got a urine infection and although better from that I've not regained my energy since.

Had a really bad evening last night, hadn't heard from one of my best friends for about a month and was feeling really hurt about it. Saw her DH last night and he told us that she had a miscarriage about a month ago (so felt like a crap friend for not knowing). Turns out they hadn't told us due to me being pregnant and happy and that she finds it difficult to see me, they've been trying for a while to get PG. I did have a big bout of guilt when we found out we were expecting and agonised for 2 weeks before I told her. So her husband tactfully telling us that she is feeling resentful and jealous is really hurting me. I know I'm being selfish about it but we've been friends for over 4 years and it would be nice if she could see me as me still and not just 'pregnant'. I'm sure that she would never have told me that's how she's feeling but unfortunately her DH seems to think it doesn't matter what he says to us as he sees it that we have it easy, as we earn more money than they do (this isn't the first incident of him speaking his mind without caring if it hurts us).

Sorry for the rant but needed someone to talk to and DH is trying his best but thought some other opinions would be good.

Sorry computer played up and I missed bratnav's post before I put mine on, hope you're feeling better bratnav, take care of yourself.

looking at my notes it looks like the femur length is small,about 36mm, head just under 200mm.
Regarding the tiredness once I get started I'm Ok, but I do get tired in the afternoon. DD seems to be dropping the PM nap - which I am not pleased about. DH and I have been suffering though due to DD waking at 5.30 and coming into us.

Bratnav I didn't mention your DH yesterday. hope things get better. My DH has serious health problems (linked to Crohns disease and bowels) and he hasn't been brilliant recently.
Poor you with the fainting, I agree though that blood sugar levels and possibly dehydration could be the cause.

Sprinkle, it is hard we had a similar experience in school when I was pregnant last time with 3 of us Pg and a colleague having 2 miscarrages(in fact she has just had another)I also have a friend who has had two failed IVF attempts and she will not try again. You can only offer your friendship and if they want, involve them in yours and your babys life. I did feel very guilty talking to other members of staff in earshot of this colleague.

Thanks for the kind words

Sparkles, I can see both points of view I suppose. When one of my BFs was PG at the same time that I had a MC (before DD1) I just couldn't be around her or talk to her, her bump just felt like it was staring at me IYSWIM.

OTOH, I can understand completely that you feel hurt that you weren't told, and also that your friend can't see past the PG part of you. Would it be worth trying to meet up with her, just the 2 of you, just to get the first metting 'after' over with?

It also doesn't sound like her DH has much tact either. What does what you earn have to do with them? I know that some of our friends have a household income of about half ours, others earn 10 times what we do, what the heck does it matter?

That sounds hard Sprinkle - perhaps you could write her a note or a card and say that you understand that she's feeling very down but you hope that she feels able to chat soon as you don't want to lose her friendship? I agree that her dh sounds awfully tactless.

Neddie I don't blame you for wanting to move to Spain - especially after getting rained on again this evening. DH travels to southern Spain a few times a year for work, he has asked if his company need someone out there full time but so far no luck [sigh]

Bratnav, I don't know about a baby moving too much, it might be worth starting a separate thread perhaps? It stands to reason though that if you have an active baby you will need to take in more calories to sustain the activity iyswim? Would your midwife have any reassurance for you?

Thank you, it's good to know that others have similar experiences. I have tried to be so gentle and not speak too much about my PG in front of my friend unless she asked questions, and she is not the only one I know who is struggling, my SIL has had 2 failed IVF's and is about to go in for a 3rd and I have another friend who is having fertility treatment as she has had 6 miscarriages in 2 1/2 years (not sure how she's coped so well with that tbh). I feel their pain so much and was so scared about telling them, but they were both brilliant about it, if a little emotional. My other friend I felt had been withdrawing from me before this happened and I tried to talk to her and tell her I was worried our friendship would be effective, etc however, she is not very good at sharing her emotions and keeps things bottled up and hidden from everyone.

With regards to her DH, I don't know why it matters but apparently it does, he never mentions it outright but as soon as I got my job he changed towards us as he couldn't call me an 'unemployed bum' anymore. He has quite traditional views of men and women and I have a tendency to argue with them and be a bit more feisty than he would like!!

Thats a tough one Fairysparkles, I would think that she must feel that its very hard to see any pregnant woman at the moment, it wont just be you that she feels resentful of. You know that feeling of when your TTC, and its taking a bit longer than you thought it would (this was my experience anyway), and there seem to be bumps everywhere, thats hard enough x x x Dont let them spoil a minute of your pregnancy though, and try not to feel guilty x I hope I've made sense and not offended x x

Oh heck, I take such a long time to type..

Thanks for caring blue I'm taking mine, well the equiv. version anyway.

And I know what you mean ladylush I have similar issues too but some nice dried apricots along with the tablet and orange juice seem to help a treat , but not heard of the hot eye sockets thing though.

Bratnav - I hope you find out what's wrong re the fainting or at least manage to find a way to manage it! I am with you on the baby movements, mine spends days/eve constantly moving the furniture around it literally feels like it is turning somersaults again and again but I hadn't thought about it being a problem though.... hope not.

Sparkles - that is a really tough situation, FWIW I've been on both sides of this and I think you just have to accept that everyone has their own way of dealing with mc. Hopefully she'll be back in touch soon but 1-month isn't really that long to come to terms with it IMO. The best thing you can do it be there when she's ready and don't take it personally. I hope that makes sense.

Right, cake and bed me-thinks....

Oh heck x 2, just realised I wrote Fairysparkles instead of SprinkleofStardust sorry! Definately time for bed!

Actually I had a three hour nap this afternoon but I haven't been sleeping well at night so that's my excuse. I often find if I wake up to turn myself over it wakes the baby and then I can't get back to sleep easily because I'm being hoofed.

Sprinkle I really feel for you. My friend had a mc at 11 weeks, jut before I found out I was pregnant. We'd always joked about being pregnant at the same time, and then the worst happened. She had a terrible time of it and it was very distressing. It still is sometimes - I feel guilty when we're out and people ask how I am, because I feel they should really be talking to her. We've talked a lot, and cried a lot together, which I think has been the way we've coped, and I know my friend still has crap days and she mc at Christmas (she's only just started trying again after complications). A month isn't very long, especially if they've been trying for ages, but her dh sounds like a bit of an arse. OTOH maybe she thought getting him to tell you would be easier than it would for her. I'd maybe send a card and tell her that you understand and how sorry you are, and that you'll be there for her when she's ready to talk.

Bratnav, I second the advice to try NHSdirect, or if not, call the midwife tomorrow. It could be blood sugar so a simple test could sort you out. I've fainted oodles in my time so i know how horrible it is.

Sprinkles - I agree with the other sensible advice. I've been through 4 m/c and found that it was a while before I felt able to talk to/see friends. I doubt it's personal - she'll probably be wanting to avoid any pregnant women. Her h is very tactless though and sounds like an arse. Not fair to make you feel bad. It's not your fault after all. Maybe you could send her a card or some flowers to say how sorry you are for her loss and that you are there for her.

Pebblebeach - I tried all manner of fruits and seeds. Unfortunately I am prone to constipation anyway so pregnancy itself, let alone pregnacare just makes it much worse. Glad you managed to sort yours out though

audreyraines and Peeblebeach

I am the same been pretty much tired the whole time... never have bloomed yet!

I'm 24 weeks now and had a couple of refreshing days at the begining of this week where I thought I might be coming out of a tired stage but I have returned to knackered again already.

I don't even have another child as an excuse, this is my first!
I am wondering about Iron levels.
Everyone keeps saying - oh you will get really tired soon too!