Due May 2009 Hairy Mary!... We're on the final stretch!

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Thought I'd better start the new thread before it was too late. Here we go!

Just wanted to say to Matthewsmum if you are feeling that low please please go and talk to your mw or hv about it. I was diagnosed with ad a couple of months ago, and although I felt terrible about being labelled about having depression, the support I have had since then has made a big big difference to me. I'm not on drugs, just getting lots of time from mw, hv and a 'well being' team doing some cbt with me which I am finding really helpful. There is lots in your post that reasonates with me (e.g. ignoring the fact I am 34 wks pregnant, spending no time with DC, being grumpy all of the time, being called 'the worst mummy in the world' by DD1 this morning) and I just wanted to add my support to you.

Dandy- your message was very well said. I wasn't medically advised to have a cs last time, but when i asked for one, I didn't have to justify it at all (I had my arguments all prepared!)- my consultant had my case notes and said he had no problem with me having one, and that was that. I had it all planned- DH was having 6 weeks off work so i didn't have to lift my DD (2.6) til i was able to. I was a bit worried when DH said he could only have 2 weeks off this time as i knew it would be hard. But now i have help for the first 4 weeks i feel a bit more relaxed about it (although DS is a bit of a climber so i will have to watch out!)

Blotted thanks for the website info. Will have a go at the inversion and will no doubt enjoy the lightheadedness that am sure will come with it!

sausagenmash - really hope you get the form next week! Thanks to Dandy for getting me that phone number for the helpline (I think it was Dandy - really sorry if it was someone else!) - I haven't phoned them yet but intend to soon.

emmabemmasmom, welcome! There was another newbie on a while ago and I can't remember her name - sorry!! But welcome to you too if you read this.

I haven't had time to fully catch up but just wanted to say hi. I'm full of cold at the mo and feeling crappy - not sleeping for more than about 90 mins-2 hours at a time cos of it.

I'm also sick of my maternity clothes! I'm going to try to buy some trousers that can be altered after the birth, I think.

I'm trying to stay as open-minded as possible about the birth and not write anything off. I see my midwife next week and as well as asking her if she's going to measure me, I'll start discussing the birth plan I think.

Hope everyone is well. xx

Thanks MsG - I actually had a phone message today on my mobile from the HiPG people to say that my hospital now has them in!!

Am well p*ssed off. I've had an email from my tutor to say that the 'unratified result from the external examiner' is back, and can I go in tomorrow and see her at x time to discuss it? Bit difficult with me in Wiltshire and them in London ... I DID tell her I'm on annual leave and away this week. Anyway, I don't think it sounds that great - so ho hum, looks like I'm about to be kicked off my course. I think I've got a sleepless night ahead of me - will call them first thing tomorrow morning.... Booooooo

Fellow diabetics...are you about?

Quick query: I've been testing my blood an hour after eating today and after breakfast I had a reading of 5.3, after lunch I had 5.7 and now after eating this evening 5.4. I'm supposed to aim for below 7.8 after eating and below 5.9 before eating.

I'm not sure why but I'm having a little panic about this. I did an exercise DVD after breakfast which could explain the breakfast one, and then went for a swim with DS before lunch which I guess could explain lunch, BUT I forgot my insulin! This evening I sat on the sofa and did nothing, so no reason there....

My average reading for the week is 6.1, which is slightly higher than by 14 day reading. Should I calm down and not worry about it, or is it odd and something to worry about? I just sense sometimes that my diabetes isn't that bad and perhaps there is a problem with the pregnancy as a result?

I'm being silly aren't I? I tried ringing the diabetes nurse but no answer there, and I suspect she will make me worse as she told me that my GD would get progressively worse, not better! But then she also told me not to exercise in case it skewed my results

I think I need a slap....

Welcome to emma and a bug hug to matthewandbumpsmummy who sounds like she needs one!

llare that sounds iffy to me, 5.7 an hour after eating with no insulin?! Have you got someone about this evening to keep an eye on you in case you hypo?

I'd give your midwife/delivery ward a call and ask for their advice but I'd also have an extra snack before bed just to tide you over.

No...I'm on my own. I was just thinking about having a snack however. Why do you think it is iffy? The day before yesterday was on the high side but not over target, so today does seem weird.

Right. I'll call the midwife....

Thanks for all of the welcome messages!

Just reading and thinking on what everyone is saying about c-sections.

Hope I do not have to have one, but I will do it if it is totally needed.

I was in labor with DD for 39 hours. There were talks around me about possibly needing one but I just kept on and I am happy I did, however I would not judge someone who would choose to go ahead with one either.

To each their own! Just wish there was a way to do it with no pain eh?

I am feeling a lot lot better about the what if's re baby size thanks dandy and everyone my logical side reasons there are lots of non size related reasons for measuring above my weeks.. and i am carrying totally out to the front this time. it's just when i wake up in the night my brain gets irrational!

matthewnbumps you are not alone with re cbeebies. i'm doing my best to do activities/playgroups every am with ds during the week but i really start to flag in the afternoon. by the time dh gets home i'm cream crackered. try to get some early nights to offset the nightly loo visits if you can. tiredness really brings you down. i spent most of fri and sat sobbing at the slightest what if thought. after sleeping better sat night i was much better sun and no tears since. talk to your mw though if you feel totally consumed/overwhelmed though.. it can only help.

Hi Emma I meant to welcome you earlier, but with the c/s debate thing going on I forgot. If you want to add your name to the list later on when someone got round to copy it onto this thread then go ahead. You don't need to ask for permission really

llare Just a thought, but considering it's so different from usual: you haven't changed strips recently and forgot to calibrate the machine or something. Other than that: like blotted said, get in touch with your mw/lw to see what they say and have a snack to hand.

Hi...I am well calibrated! I am very good with that, having been caught out before.

I've just got off the phone to labour ward. The midwife was very good and advised me to have a snack, test again before bed and ring back if low. So, I'm about to tuck into some cheese and biscuits. She thought that I've done quite a bit today so it might be that, or it could be that I don't really need the insulin and am managing well on diet and exercise.

Thanks for the advice...DS has just fallen out of bed, got to run.

llare 5.7 is a pretty low reading after a meal but if that's without insulin then I'd be concerned, especially if it's not within your normal parameters. Just keep an eye on yourself and I'd definitely call your diabetic nurse tomorrow for advice if you can't get anyone tonight.

Emma Hi! I'm pretty new here too and everyone has been lovely

I just had to get DH to help me take my bra off, the underwire (I know I know, I'm a bad pregnant lady) had come right through and dug into my boobsicle so it's going to have to get tossed out. I'm an embarrassment, 31 weeks pregnant and I'm still wearing (falling out of!) my pre-pregnancy bras. To bravissimo tomorrow, I suspect!

I just want to say to everyone that if you see me on here tomorrow: CHASE ME OFF! I really need to prepare for that job interview and I've written about 10 words on that subject and thousands here on mn. This site is addictive.

Well heated discussions on here today!!

I wont be around much over the next 2 days as I'm in London with work, so it will probably be quieter- i seem to spend a lot of time on here too lol

just had a lovely relaxing bath all to myself rather than the hurried one I usually get in the am with ds passing me an assortment of his toys from next to the bath so I don't get bored

Night night all... off to do my natal hypnotherapy in bed and hopefully get a really good nights kip

evening all.
welcome emma.
about c sections: i'm also measuring bigger -34cm at 31 wks. Not too bad and going to MW fri to determine if i need a growth scan. part of me thought a c section would be good so i can plan my espectations (had a bad exp with last labour).

but now, i'm changing my mind since i feel more confident about this impending labour than last time. I had been anxious & depressed (later PND) and wonder if that had something to do with my negative birth experience. now, after a year of counselling and getting my head round things, i feel this birth will be better, that I can cope, that I can have more control than I thought, etc.

also, the thought of going through the recovery from a cs with my very active 3 year old and 18 month old, sounds tiring and difficult.

that said, if i end up having a CS for whatever reason, i'm not going to regret/feel badly/etc. Actually, however this birth goes, I'll come out feeling postive and (someone used this word here before) empowered .

now, to do more of the exercises: 10 x... squeeze.

cross-posted a couple of you.
chase me off here tomorrow/thu as well, will you? it's my last week of work and I need to get things done!
night everyone.

Evening all,

I said the other day how i hadnt cried for AGES. Well if anyone was watching mistresses just now, and saw the scene where Harry decided to not fight for custody of baby Elsa and thought it was better to walk away and have no contact than face more pain in the future if Siobhan meets another guy, then it made me blub, and i am still blubbing 15 mins on. It even made my DH cry and say that it was really sad- it was so moving...

no pula, watching Shameless which I haven't seen since series 2. quite funny.

but am crying at most everything - the last song on Cbeebies before they turn it off made me cry tonight.

aaagh, computer crashed when I tried to post this so am fed up and retyping in a hurry.

hi everyone, and welcome emma

Poor you, llare hope you get your levels sorted out.

sausagenmash fingers crossed you manage some sleep and things aren't as bad as you think tomorrow.

I've been following the c/s debate with interest but no stong feelings as it's my first time (although I'm sure I'll have a whole variety of strong feelings after whatever happens happens!). It's great though - and has been so useful for me - to have this kind of forum where we can discuss all the stuff that's on our minds - whatever did we do before MN?!

Have just come back from a lovely long weekend in the Cotswolds with DH and my mum and dad. I mainly did a lot of eating (some illegal, oops!), a small amount of drinking (oops again!), a lot of sightseeing and a small amount of dogwalking - that's what I call a balanced lifestyle!

Mum and I also had a fabulous spa day - I had an over all body massage (including for the bump - the only thing that's sent him to sleep for at least a week), an hour of pedicure, a facial and a hair rescue treatment and the whole thing was just bliss. If anyone has any spare cash or time I can't recommend it enough...

Thanks to everyone for posting re maternity leave and due dates - am no longer worried I might be overdoing it. Have finally found a replacement to cover my mat leave so am relieved about that too (although he might even be too good ...)

Right, DH away with work so am off to watch a quick episode of Eastenders - am about 3 weeks behind, rubbish!

Question - anyone else suddenly struggling with names? We thought we had a definite top 2 or 3 and DH has suddenly voted in favour of something completely different which I like but which is very alternative for him - and he's showing no signs of changing his mind (usually he lasts 48 hours before going back to the original suggestions). I'm nearly at the 'I don't even CARE what we call him' stage which is clearly absurd and all to do with hormones rather than reality!

better go!

PS will everyone please stop being so blimming chatty and friendly? It's taken me hours to catch up and I've only skim-read a lot of it!

We can't decide on a name either. I only have one name that I really, really like and hubby hasn't come up with anything at all.

That said, DS2 thinks we're calling the baby 'Junior'. Or 'Miss Polly'

reebee we were told we're having a girl and have chosen rose as our fav name.. if sonographer got it wrong we're struggling as dh and i found it almost impossible to agree on a name for ds. will just have to wait and see

ds wake up time is improving.. since last fri it's now about 6.15am instead of 5am. hoping it will continue to get later over next few weeks and be back to his old 7.30am soon!