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October 2005 - part 3!

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SusiS · 19/04/2005 08:31

goooogooooo

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mawbroon · 05/05/2005 13:42

So jealous of all these scans you are getting. I am in West Lothian, and same as Montaguemonkey, we only get one scan at 12 weeks. BUT I am going to the hospital at 17 weeks to get the bloods done for Downs etc and the girl on the phone at the hospital said something about a scan. When I asked her if I was getting another scan, she really wasn't that sure. The words "elbow", "arse" and "don't know their from" come to mind here. I have asked DH to come to the appointment just in case they surprise me by doing a scan. So who knows!
I really would like to find out the sex, but am not prepared to go for a private scan (cheapskate). We are pretty sure about a boys name, but no idea for a girl.
Going to pick up a trailer load of baby/toddler things which I am buying second hand from my boss. I have also just been approved as a childminder which I plan to do once our baby is around 5 months. HA ask me again if it is such a good idea when I am trying to look after a 5 month old baby!
Cheers

ruthiemum · 05/05/2005 14:40

Just got back from Midwife, seems everything is fine, got a 1 in 16,000 chance of having Down Syndrome and everything seems ok. They have to keep an eye on my iron levels though as I want to have a home birth, really hope that everything progresses as normal so I can have that - really do not want to go into hospital. Got my 20 week scan in two weeks so that is something else to look forward to! DH doesn't want to know and I DO! So will ask the scan person to discreetly tell me what sex it is and try and keep it a secret for the next 20 weeks!

bonniej · 05/05/2005 14:56

ruthiemum, that's going to be difficult, if you know and you can't tell dh. What about when you're buying baby things, you'll be heading for one colour and he might guess!!! I'm glad dh is the same as me and wants to know because I know I wouldn't be able to keep it quiet if he didn't. I'm still waiting for the results of my screening test. It seems to have taken forever (2 weeks today) but I suppose with the bank holiday everything's been delayed. I don't know what I'd do if my risk was high as I don't fancy having an amnio. I'm just keeping my fingers crossed everything is ok. Pouring with rain at the moment which is depressing as i've bought loads of summer maternity clothes that I can't wear! Glad everyone seems well, roll on october

ruthiemum · 05/05/2005 15:11

BonnieJ - Well I told DH that I will buy things and put them at my mums, I know he won't be able to wait and will FORCE me to tell him he he! I think it is practical knowing what sex the baby will be so you can get everything ready. I would really like to be a really patient person and wait for the surprise but there is no chance of that happening - God it is killing me waiting nine months for a baby never mind not knowing the sex. Know what you mean about waiting for screening results, mw started talking really sympathetically as well before she told me and I thought that was it - either I've got Aids or bad screening results. I'm sure once they come back ALRIGHT you can relax a bit more, I feel really good now. When did they say they would be back?

penpal · 05/05/2005 22:56

Started sorting out my baby clothes in the last week. Planning what I need to buy, new pram, newborn car seat/carrier, trying to buy clothes that will get me through the (hopefully hot) summer. Then Bam. Went for 16 week blood test (late but within timelimit), first of all couldn't get any blood out of me. Then couldn't hear heart beat. I trust my midwife implicitly as she was with me for my first born and second (this is pregnancy no 4, I have two children).
So she referred me to hospital yesterday and she said today she didn't think it was anything apart from the baby lying in an awkward position. Anyway, scan showed the baby has died, I am (?) 17+5 weeks. I go in on Monday for drugs to stop my body producing pregnancy hormones (ie holding onto the baby) then on Wednesday I will be induced to give birth. Labour without the bonus! Great.

Now that I've stopped crying constantly and asking questions it lookslike I'm going to go through hell next week. As my first two births had retained placentas which meant surgery, same is likely to happen, plus my previous labours weren't fast, first one at 41 weeks took 2 days of being induced before I got labour going. Three full days in total, last one was, well, long enough. So rough ride coming up, DH taking time off for Mon and Wed in hosp but then needs to be away at v.important work conference th+fri so if I go on longer he'll have to leave me to it. I'd better get a damn good summer hol this year I can tell you........... losing the poor mite is hard enough at the moment. Still can't believe he/she gave up on me.........

Piggiesmum · 05/05/2005 23:09

Penpal, so sorry to hear your news ((hugs))

jessicasmummy · 06/05/2005 02:05

really sad for you penpal.... accept my sympathies please xxx

JoolsToo · 06/05/2005 02:09

oh that's so so sad

SusiS · 06/05/2005 07:42

oh penpal, i am so sorry

you snuggle up to your dh really tightly! i am sure he doesn't want to leave you especially now! and he will make up for it in a big way!
you both deserve it

thinking of you!!!!

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triceratops · 06/05/2005 08:45

Oh penpal - what terrible news. I was really hoping that everyone and their babies would be OK from now on. Finding out that the baby has died is my worst nightmare. I have a partially separated placenta and have been bleeding for the last three weeks, so every time I go in for a check I am expecting the worst but trying to stay positive.

I hope that you and your dh and the rest of the family will be able to cope over the next weeks. I don't know what I would do in the same situation, it is just too horrible to imagine. You have my greatest sympathy.

jolovett · 06/05/2005 09:26

So sorry to hear your news penpal. Hope you and your DH find the strength to get through it. Can't begin to imagine what you're both going through.

mishmash2 · 06/05/2005 12:52

Huge hug penpal to you and your DH. I'm so so sorry to hear your news. xxxxx

Jockey · 06/05/2005 13:02

Penpal - I'm so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you xxx

bonniej · 06/05/2005 14:35

penpal, i am so sad to hear your news I will be thinking of you on Wednesday xxxx

morningpaper · 06/05/2005 14:44

so so sorry Penpal

Joseyjo · 06/05/2005 16:43

penpal - we will miss you, take care and look after each other.

alterego · 06/05/2005 19:45

So sorry to hear such awful news penpal. And really hoping that Wednesday will not be so bad physically as you fear.

mawbroon · 06/05/2005 21:36

Penpal - heartbreaking news. (((hugs))))

SusiS · 07/05/2005 07:10

morning ladies!
i really could do with some sleep! wake up every night at 3ish am and can't go back to sleep! and ds wakes up at 5ish so we get up anyways! 'aaarrghhh'

oh well, guess not much sleep for the next year or so (must be sort of 'preparation' for when bubs is here)

besides that i am feeling fine! just got the feeling that bump is growing by the minute

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Jockey · 07/05/2005 19:31

I know exactly what you mean SusiS. I am suffering sleep deprivation also at the moment, particularly as 2 year old has a nasty cold and waking every hour or so! Just as I am drifting off, he wakes up again - torture. As you say, good preparation perhaps?!? I'm doing some pretty stupid things at the moment too - like trying to fill the petrol tank when it's already been done by dh. For goodness sake!!! And this is before the baby!

The only time the house is quiet is when Dr Who is on (ah bliss) - I must watch the repeat tomorrow!

Hope you all enjoy the rest of the weekend...

YOKEFLEET · 07/05/2005 19:41

Penpal - so sorry to hear your sad news.

mawbroon · 07/05/2005 19:41

Evening all. I have experienced my worst really really irrational hormonal outburst. I was in the greenhouse when this baby blackbird flew in. Not just any baby blackbird, but one of the offspring of the adults which we fed over the winter, watched them nesting, watched them gathering worms etc to feed to the young. It is a delight now to see the young ones and how they are getting on. So, anyway, in it flew and then proceded to get itself stuck between the glass and the wooden earth beds. I was trying to get it out and couldn't despite removing one of the bits of glass. It was getting more and more stuck as it flapped about and I burst into tears and had to get DH. He was like "for f**s sake it's only a bird". This just made me worse and I had to go inside to cry my heart out as I couldn't bear to watch. Luckily he managed to rescue it, but was well annoyed at breaking one of the panes of glass. As soon as the bird was free, my tears stopped and were replaced with an overwhelming surge of joy. CONTROL YOURSELF WOMAN!!!!
At least there was a happy ending!

Convinced I am feeling the baby kick this last couple of days. Possible do you think? 15+3 first pregnancy? Or is it just my dinner......
MB

Elf1981 · 07/05/2005 20:17

Mawbroon, I totally sympathise! Glad the birds okay though

triceratops · 08/05/2005 18:37

Mawbroon - I could feel the baby kick last time for about three months after I gave birth to him. I am convinced that about half of what I attributed to my darling ds was actually wind, not that it matters.

I am still getting all soppy over ever little knock and bubble that I feel in the right general area . I am looking forward to the first time I feel hiccups, that was my favorite part of the last pregnancy. How I can think hiccups are cute is beyond me, but I do.

Joseyjo · 08/05/2005 20:05

i have just started to get identifiable kicks now and i am 18+4, 2nd pregnancy. i thought i was getting fluttering a while ago, but nothing consistent. apparently having an anterior placenta means that you can't feel movement as early because the baby kicks that instead!!
after my son was born i could still feel him kicking. very upsetting actually and apparently really common - something like still being able to feel sensation in amputated limbs i think.

i completely understand the emotional outbursts - i burst into tears after having a completely normal conversation on the phone with dh and sat on the floor going "i really really love you" fortunately, he had hung up!!!
today i have a cold and am feeling quite sorry for myself. planning the day off tomorrow to catch up on some sleep - rock and roll lifestyle huh?

can we have a list of whose detailed scan is when and whether they are going to find out the sex (and tell us )? i am already having a naming crisis!!!
Mine is Fri 20th May and i will be 20+2.