Due April 2009: Episode 18 - Mumble gets married and we have triplets and twins here!!

[PuzzleRocks]

Let the ramblings commence.

Juw - i hvae 2 cats so if you wanna borrow one of mine.........

Oooh, yes please Nutty! Perhaps we could work out some kind of rental arrangement

Thanks for the advice re nursing bras. Will go and get fitted this week.

I feel crap today as slept really badly thanks to horrible indigestion.

Have asked my mum to go and pick DS up from school as haven't got the energy to get dressed .

DH has also been relegated to the spare room as he snores like a trooper. It means that the dog and I share a superking size bed .

Talking of weight loss I can't wait to shift the post-baby surplus. I have bought a gorgeous size 10 Patricia Field dress to wear for the baby's Christening. Will have my work cut out but at least it's something to aim for .

BB, I'm sorry, but I'm laughing a little bit at your DH taking advantage of your presence. At least you're not being woken up by him thrusting his erection towards you & groping your bottom in his sleep

I can see how annoying that'd be, though - it's bad enough that we don't have our own bodies in the first place, never mind them making it worse. Build a barricade of pillows between you, perhaps?

WRT weight, at least it'll be spring, so we have a few months (in theory) of wandering around with prams in the sunshine without it being too much of a chore. All of my excess weight is fluid though, of course, & will come straight off without a problem. There's not an extra ounce of fat on me I actually haven't weighed myself in a very long time. May get the MW to let me on the scales later so there's someone to console me as I cry

frekkles, am a bit of your morning! & love the cat analogy - good that you're getting a bit more settled Hopefully you'll be running around, dragging dead things in from the garden & sitting on people's heads soon

Ohhh, barbarella has 2 pink & a blue! Finally we know Can't wait for the pictures. Great names, too! Really unusual & pretty. I can't wait to have her back so she can tell us all the details.

Auld How awful I know it's likely to be a terrible time for you, but LO won't have a clue what's going on so long as there's a plentiful supply of milk & cuddles, & DS is still too small to understand most of these adult problems & certainly won't remember them. xx

Puzzle, your posts always make me chuckle I'm going to be searching for that lunchbox thread once I've finished catching up here - sounds like it has the potential to be very nasty I really hope that I don't become one of these people who becomes concerned about 'superior lunchboxes'. I can be a bit competitive though, so I'm worried it's possible!

& as for the anal beginners kit, it does claim that it'll entice you to break the anal barrier - I see that it's effective even over the internet. Very enticing indeed!

Trista, that sounds horrible! Are you okay now? Glad you're another cabinet snooper

surprise, I love the idea of that electric-shock watch

Springy - "him thrusting his erection towards you & groping your bottom in his sleep" YOU LOVE IT!!! lol you just cant indulge right now.

Right. Me post, but it won't take long.

DH has definitely been reading our thread again. Definitely. As in I'd almost bet my life on it. He denies it completely, through all accusations, promising me that he hasn't been on Mumsnet & has had no access to what I've been saying, etc. But he has. This is the second time now that I've been pretty sure - the first time could've just been coincidence, albeit a striking one. This time he's definitely been reading.

What do I do? After the last time I made it really clear that I didn't want him reading & he promised that he wouldn't because it's 'my' thing. So he's broken that promise & is now breaking more as he lies to my face about it repeatedly.

I know it's not that big a deal in itself (although I actually feel like it is, given how openly I talk about everything here & this is my safe-to-be-completely-honest place) but the lying & broken promises are doing my head in.

I don't want to cause a scene because I can't really prove it. Not in any indisputable way. Even though I know, he can just keep saying 'I haven't done anything!' & we're at an impasse.

So do I just let it go? Pretend like I believe him & be really careful what I say here in future? Or keep pursuing the issue?

& DH, if you're reading this now, for fuck's sake just own up & save us both a lot of trouble.

Nutty, maybe a little - although being woken up isn't great, seeing as I get no sleeping time as it is with all the weeing & stuff!

& if you read what I've just posted, you'll see that I don't think I'd be indulging at the moment anyway

Well! Away for 5 minutes and come back to thrusting erections!

You can always rely on me, Ju

It's good to know Springy - it was all getting a bit tame

I vote for you keep saying what you want to say here - if he then sees something he doesn't like, well, he'll have to deal with it. Horrible to feel you can't express yourself openly. Plus, you do say lots of nice stuff about him too!

Springy - how DO you know he has been reading it? Did he say something?

Of course, you could stalk him via the internet history, and question any mysterious gaps where whole hours appear to have been erased - but that may be the beginning of the path which leads to bunny-boiling!

Springy - tis why we love you xx

oh babe, buggering nightmare, i think you have to let it go otherwise you will be back and forth forever. can you change your id and password?

SPRINGY'S DH GET OF THE THREAD OR WE WILL COME AND GET YOU (yes we know where you live mwahhhhhaaaahahahaha)!!!!!!! you have been warned!! MN is FEMALE territory and you are only welcome here when given permission or to update about springy or the baby.

Springy's DH, get off this thread now. Dadsnet is for people like you!!

what gave him away??

Springy, just name change perhaps?

Aloha Boffin, how you doing? [smnile] xx

I can't use internet history, as we each have our own laptops & his is so important that it's passworded

BB, we were talking in bed last night about all sorts of things & I was saying that I hoped that he didn't think that I was a rubbish mum, blah blah blah. & he directly referenced what I'd said in my post about alternatives to blackout curtains. BUT HE WASN'T IN THE ROOM WHEN HIS MUM HAD THAT CONVERSATION WITH ME. The only way he could know about that conversation is reading what I said yesterday. It wasn't even that he said 'well she did this...' it was '& other stupid advice my mum's given us...'.

It's also a bit that I try really hard to be neutral about her & give her the benefit of the doubt to him, even though she tried her best to ruin our wedding day & stuff. But here I do tend to let rip, thinking that it won't hurt anyone because nobody knows her & it's better that I vent my frustration safely than cause marital rows. But still, it's not nice to think that my uncensored ranting & bitching have been read by someone who does know & love her

Hmmmm about the passworded laptop

I was thinking about namechanging, but it won't do that much good. He still knows where to find our threads - it's pretty obvious that I'll be in the April 2009 group - & I'd be really easy for him to identify no matter how misleading my name was.

It's partly that he's been reading that bothers me. That does bother me a great deal. But it's mostly that he keeps lying about it & breaking promises & trying to make me feel like I'm insane for being so sure of something that he claims is untrue.

I think you'll just have to tell him what you have told us .... that he has been rumbled again. He will probably go red and stomp off for a bit or something, but you gotta be honest in a marriage. Spouse espionage is the thin end of the wedge IMO.

On a more prosaic note, I am proud to announce we now have a working washing machine, so that has to be a good thing.

Lets all jump thread together, to one with a coded name....1,2,3...go!

I would be really upset - like you said it's not that it is a secret - if DH asked (and he does regularly) I would tell him, and I often let him read little bits it's more the secretive stuff and the lying about it that is hurtful. I don't honestly think there is all that much you can do annoyingly as at the end of the day, its you vs him! But Springy's DH, if you are reading this I hope you noted 1. How we all were with you for the body comment and 2. It really isn't appropriate even if it is done with good intentions!

Ju, it's been passworded for forever - I think it comes from when he was living with his two brothers & he's not had reason to unpassword protect it.

It really pisses me off though, because when my laptop was broken & he left me his to use whilst he was at uni, he created a special 'guest' account, so he didn't have to take his password off.

& also, you were lucky enough to miss our huge relationship issues a few months ago, but in the midst of it all he read my chat logs whilst I was away for the weekend &, trusting him, left my laptop here. I got back to find that he was deeply unhappy about some of what he'd read (which was fair enough - they were old chat logs & not great reading material for a current partner) & he was absolutely furious about it all. Of course it was completely irrelevant to our relationship at that point & if he'd just not been such a nosy , he'd not have been bothered by them.

I feel like he can't keep his beak out of my business & now he's getting deceitful about it It's really not good.