why do people judge us young mums?

[youngmumtobe]

im 19 and due to have my first baby on the 24th march but im being induced on the 12th. i always get judged by people as i dont look my age. wheneva i go out people stare and make comments it realy makes me paranoid.i dont get why people judge without knowing our situation i mean im still living at home and plan on stayin here for a good few years. im going back to college and work after iv had baby as i hate being on benifits.i just dont get why we are judged we make good mums aswell just coz we are young it dont mean we not gna be as good as a older mum.

YMTB- have you 'joined' your ante-natal group on here?

catinthehat1 patranzie all you like at least im aiming to make somthing of myself even while being a young mum.!!!

What's a bitch/bastard?

Hi Noonki, you seem to have been taking lessons from LEM. I would tone it down a bit, looks a bit bad on your search history.

LadyOfWaffle na i havent yet but to be honest if people are going to judge me and bitch like they have on this thread i dont see the point.xo

noonki thanks for the surpport. it just makes me laugh at how they can say i need to grow up yet they the ones pickin on my spelling a stupid things n they ment to be adults.xox

I have asked for this thread to be pulled. A horrible example of bullying and "ganging up". Catinahat - you are a nasty peice of work.

YMTB - I was just worried about all these disabled people being MADE to express their feelings and emotions by you. Just felt your choice of expression was odd that's all.

Somebody else may know this - is "patranzie " an Afrikaans word? Is it like "patronise" in English?

catinthehat - you must be joking - I should worry about swearing yet it's fine to bully a pregnant girl,

Er, didn't you leave LEM?

LucyEllensmummy i just find it funny as my post was nothing to do with all of this it has just been taken way out of contex.xo i do thankyou for your surport.xoxo

LEM, LEM, LEM.

Please, not before I have committed all your charming comments to memory.

Or are you trying to erase the fact that you have shown yourself up?

Bugger off moondog, i used to have a lot of respect for you but lately your posts just seem to be wanting to have a dig at people.

Oops there goes another pearl

I think its funny really, that on here we are all as we want to be. No one has to know your age/job/background, you only have to tell as much as you want to - does that make sense? On here, people assume i'm in my 30's (mnetters have told me on certain threads where age has come up) i am actually 24, but in RL i look about 16. So on here i get treated as an average mother, but in RL i get dirty looks. I will say the same to any mother who is worrying about what other's think "fuck everyone else, your priority is you and your baby, if you want help, don't be afraid to ask because people will respect you a lot more if you are prepared to admit when your struggling"

As for the people on here who think its ok to pick holes in people for fun, do you really think thats fair?

sorry catinthehat - you can't bully me the same way you can a vulnerable young mum, i couldnt give a flying fuck what you think about me - my opinion of you remains the same.

Yongmum - if it is pulled I wish you all the best for your future, and come back when hopefully this pack has disbanded. Maybe then you will get a less judgemental response.

catinthehat1 grow up i have experiance of workin with disabled i did it for work experance and my sister was disabled but she passed away. like i said people judgeing before you know the situation.

Never, ever post on Mumsnet if you don't want to be judged. It's an occupational hazard.

mine too catinthehat - Re-read this thread, it is abhorent.

there's judging then there's bullying.

I really had no idea that some people on here were so hostile - catinhat you really are horrid

noonki thank you. xoxo

Yes do come back youngmumtobe and tell us all about your new baby.

Have you spoken to your Health visitor yet? probably still midwife care - i can't acually remember. When you do, ask them about homestart - this is an organisation for parents, they are brilliant. I used to go to a homestart playgroup with DD. One of things i found a big problem as a 35 year old mum was the cliques at mother and toddler groups, you might notice this more - homestart groups don't allow you to be left out. They have people there to help with the children (i found this invaluable as i actually got to drink my tea before it got cold!) and organised some fantastic trips - got to go to lots of places not open to the general public and made lots of friends, of ALL ages. Also they may have groups specifically for young mums.

I think your chosen career path sounds really great. You come across as a really positive young woman and you would clearly have alot to offer.