why do people judge us young mums?

[youngmumtobe]

im 19 and due to have my first baby on the 24th march but im being induced on the 12th. i always get judged by people as i dont look my age. wheneva i go out people stare and make comments it realy makes me paranoid.i dont get why people judge without knowing our situation i mean im still living at home and plan on stayin here for a good few years. im going back to college and work after iv had baby as i hate being on benifits.i just dont get why we are judged we make good mums aswell just coz we are young it dont mean we not gna be as good as a older mum.

No, if you read the OP, she is on benefits. Delighted to hear the ex-now-current-again-for-just-now is working. Permanent contract, I hope?

Who needs to sustain a relationship, MOONDOG, when the Govt. is so happy to step in and help out?

Heya YMTB, I have skipped up the thread without reading much (have DS on my lap) but wanted to offer a few words of support I had DS1 at 19 and I wouldn't have changed it for the world. Just focus on being the best mum you can be and you will be as good as any other mum, regardless of age. Stick around - MN is a wonderful place for advice/support. I see you are being induced - I was induced with my first, it was fine Good luck!

og good more judging, bashing and bullying of some of society's most vulnerable.
Really nice...

bronze sorry i have been busy being bashed i havent managed to post back to you. i take the advice on board.

You're really not coming across as fluffy and cuddly and pink are you LEM? You might care to review some of the language you have been using about other posters and gauge whether or not this is suitable for the site.

LadyOfWaffle thank you. i wouldnt bover reading half the post im just gettin bashed for my spelling and being on benifits when i am aiming to come of them and go to college and better myself.xo

ra29needsabettername tanx and they say i need to grow up.xo

ANd, supersalstrawberry - no one is saying you did. I've already said that to Scorpio...

THIS OP has already SAID she's on benefits (or benifits, if you prefer)

No one is having a go at you SSS (or indeed, YMTB - I just think she needs get off her high horse and understand why people MIGHT feel a bit about the whole thing)

Sally S -
"I was a teenage mum
I wasn't supported by the state
and I didn't spend your fucking taxes"

EXACTLY!!! But she is busy spending yours.

Ah, well if you weren't spending our fucking taxes then you are not in the same league as the OP then, were you?

Not a bad day at work, thanks for asking, and a few more pounds put into the kitty for youngmumtobe.

supersalstrawberry thanx i feel as tho im being had a go at just because im on benifits and im dislexic and carnt spell. some people just make me laugh.xo

FWIW, I don't spend anyone's taxes bring up my son either.

YMTB - what are you doing at college?

Oh, I'm off.

You are just taking the piss now YMTB.

In fact, YOU make me laugh quite a lot.

first of the only reson im on benifits is because im not working. i was workin upuntill i was signed of work thankyou very much. as i have said before do i like being on benifits NO!!! i would rather be working!!

Oh for crying out loud, do stop with the dyslexic claim. You are fooling no-one.

I would imagine that's laughing "at" not "with".

LadyOfWaffle i did 2years on health and social care i was doing performing arts but had to give up because of pregnancy im going back to college in sept to do my performing arts. xox

paolosgirl like i said before do you know me no!! yes i do have dislexcia!! and im not goin to bover to try and defend myself as you are surpose to be a adult and mature!!

Ah, a great deal of call for tap dancing these days.
Definitely someone taking the piss just to see how many people loom up screaming in Pavlovian choral response

'Us young mmz r gr8'

Funny though.

No, please don't try and defend the nonsense.

Performing arts??? Oh, this just gets better! Is this in preparation for your appearance on Jeremy Kyle?

I had my Ds at 16, I was on benefits till he started school and I went to work, I have been paying my taxes ever since, he is 16 now.

I think I have made a fantastic job of raising him to the young man he is becoming, he is leaving school and going on to collage this year, my age had nothing to do with what sort of mother I am.

What you need to make sure, is you are the best mum you can be, grow a thick skin, as soon as you are able, you owe it to yourself and your child to support yourselves, man or no man.

Good luck.

izzybiz thank you. xox

Sorry that should say college