why do people judge us young mums?

[youngmumtobe]

im 19 and due to have my first baby on the 24th march but im being induced on the 12th. i always get judged by people as i dont look my age. wheneva i go out people stare and make comments it realy makes me paranoid.i dont get why people judge without knowing our situation i mean im still living at home and plan on stayin here for a good few years. im going back to college and work after iv had baby as i hate being on benifits.i just dont get why we are judged we make good mums aswell just coz we are young it dont mean we not gna be as good as a older mum.

OH MY GOD Mrsjammi - you worry about your precious wee DS who is sexually active and you think it would be a bit much to be expected to support him if he got a girl pregnant - well, i have read it all now!!! I am lost for words - teach him respect for women and about contraception, if you are so perfect then you wont have this worry will you

Now i really am outahere this thread is giving me indigestion

I just really object to teenage parents all being tarred with the same brush, when we are certainly not all Jeremy Kyle candidates.

xposts Mrsjammi, it appears you have taught your DS correctly, my apologies

Noone cares,noone gives a crap what 'lifestyle choices' you make.
Shag a baboon, live in a tree, spawn 13 children, paint your tits blue, spend half the year in Kathmandu.

Just don't expect me to pay for it.

Fine. When teenage parents support themselves and their babies then I will put my tar brush back in the tin.

lol moondog you made me think of braveheart stylee norks

moondog, while mither on about your taxes paying for young single mothers. What about all the money that is being spent on iraq etc, all the money being thrown at the banks because they fucked up. Single mothers? Low down on my list of things to moan about paying tax for.

Believe me, YMTB, I'd be ALOT more supportive (funny, you spelt support differently again this time - not something generally associated with dyslexia) and accomodating too - IF I didn't work to pay taxes to pay for young silly girls to have kids and then bleat about the 'adult' people having a bloody opinion.

One day - a long time in the future - you will GROW UP.

Some of us do support/have supported our own families as teenage parents.

Thjought you were off LEM?

To an extent, I agree. I work hard, pay taxes, support myself and I am a young parent and I do resent those people who sit on benefits when I bust my arse and spend a fortune on nursery fees and my money helps support them.

However, the OP has said that her parents are supporting her, not the state. I think we should perhaps not bash her over the head with the 'we hate teen mums on benefits' stick as she isn't one.

Oh oh oh oh!!!! your baby is due on my DPs birthday!!! The very best of luck with it all - go out there and prove all these harradens wrong.

Haribosmummy
people like u make me sick just because i carnt spell i have a disability tanx. for your infomation i have done 2years at college already!!

yes my partner does work an is surpporting me.

no mrsjammi, you are being flamed for hitting post to early and not reading my subesquent apology for xposts.

lol mrsjammi

up yer bum moondog, im going now [pokes tongue out]

Scorpio - Please don't think that this thread represents all teenage / young mums (or our views on them)

It doesn't.

this is really quite specific to one silly young girl who seems to think she's owed something by society and doesn't need to consider INPUTTING anything...

Not all young mums are like that - I think we all appreciate that MANY young mums are great.

LEM I don't think I've been a harridan. I don't necessarily agree with how the ops going about things (part jealousy as I would love to be able to afford to go back to college but that won't happen 'til they leave home) bu I have given her constructive advice which she has neither taken on board nor thanked me for.

I also have to add all my dyslexic friends tend to use a spell check of some sorts, I find it slightly odd the op doesn't especially if she wants to be taken seriously

It's not just about a few quid to support someone for a couple of years LEM, before they go back to 'college' and then secure a plum job, supporting thier families.

It's about the statistical correlations that exist between young single parenthood and academic failure,illiteracy, family break-up, crime, domestic violence and so on and so on.

It's there whether you like it or lot and it costs a fuck of a lot of money to pick up the pieces of someone's thoguhtless behaviour.

One of the admin. girls in our office is pregnant, and already bored with her boyfriend.Speaks airily of breaking up with him, saying she has bought up another kid alone 9not his) and financially she is better off without him.

It just staggers me,this relaxed attitude to having children and making no attempt to sustain a rlationship and family in which they can grow up.

OK, I make you sick... You don't leave a great taste in my mouth either.

I hope the birth goes well and you enjoy motherhood.

LucyEllensmummy thanx. im getting quiet annoyd with some of these soo called adults on here. and im the one who needs to grow up. this is the type of judgement i was tryin to say about its people like them who make me sick.

Have you actually read the OP haribo?? She is going back to college, her DP is supporting her (yeah it might not last, but you only have to look on the relationship forum to see that age has nothing to do with that). Her PARENTS are supporting her and she intends to get a job and support her son = that doesn't sound like a silly little girl to me.

NOW I REALLY AM GOING

The OP is not without ambition, though, and she wouldn't be the first teen mum on this thread to get a degree and a good job later! Seems to me the ones who shout "troll" loudest, are the ones most likely to feed any troll.

youngmumtobe, don't take too much notice. You've only a week to go, away and put your feet up and relax while you can. No point getting your blood pressure up to dangerous levels.