why do people judge us young mums?

[youngmumtobe]

im 19 and due to have my first baby on the 24th march but im being induced on the 12th. i always get judged by people as i dont look my age. wheneva i go out people stare and make comments it realy makes me paranoid.i dont get why people judge without knowing our situation i mean im still living at home and plan on stayin here for a good few years. im going back to college and work after iv had baby as i hate being on benifits.i just dont get why we are judged we make good mums aswell just coz we are young it dont mean we not gna be as good as a older mum.

There is an extraneous letter in farther - no abbreviation there!

HAve any of you thought that the OP might be dyslexic??? I was going to ask her that because yes, her spelling is bad, and of course there is txt speak, but i see that alot on here - But her posts are articulate and actually show a degree of intelligence.

Can't believe you would judge her on that, it doesn;'t matter if she were illiterate it still doesn't mean she can't be a good mother!

some people are soo sad your pickin on things tha is not relavent i dont think i need your pitty and sarcastic remarks Haribosmummy seems as you need to grow up not me as your pickin on my spelling n acting childish.

sorry, at that point of me typing i didn't know about the dyslexia

and whats with the

I don't think you are doing yourself any favours using "txt spk" as it is not easy to read/understand and does rather associate you with Jeremy Kyle types.

You need to help break the stereotype, not enforce it and not spelling correctly doesn't help. I am sure you are a bright girl but it doesn't come across when you speak like that. Certainly on Mumsnet you will do better to conform to the accepted posting style.

Rubbish - you are not dyslexic.

Bad cross post! Didn't see you were dyslexic OP, apologies.

The idea about using a spell checking browser is a good one.

MrsJ I think you might be surprised at the popularity of your opinion.

OldLadyKnowsNothing tanx. have you seen some of the posts on here how stupid sum of them are and they sayin i ned to grow up.x

There are some HORRIBLE judgemental posts on here of a young girl who is ABOUT TO HAVE A BABY!!! It really saddens me! So her situation isn't ideal - have none of you made mistakes then?? At least she hasn't flushed it down the toilet! Or would you rather she did that? Honestly, im disappointed in a lot of you .

Some really nasty posts

Youngmumtobe - step away from this threads now, the bitches are out in force and you will just get upset - don't need that with just a few weeks to go.

Good luck with it all - I know you will make it work. xxx

Oh FFS.

She can't spell, she's a pregnant kid (or an idiot with nothing better to do on a Friday night),the dad has fucked off, she's found herself a new bloke in a heartbeat (who will also fuck off in a few months) and the taxes I pay will support her.

I'll judge plenty thanks.

A bit more judging would do us all the world of good.

Great, some lovely teenage parent bashing.

Another extract:

"But when the actions of others has such a debilitating effect on the rest of society, it?s time to stop being polite. It?s time to stop worrying about how people?s feelings might be hurt if we question the choices they?ve made".

paolosgirl do you know me no i dont think so. so how can you say rubbish your not dislexic yes i am i think i know!!

(Thursday here MD)

Paolosgirl - I really don't think I could have summed that up better....

Friday in the land of outraged Torygraph readers.
It's been a loooooooooong week.

I can't be bothered!! I really just cannot be bothered - i thought this was supposed to be a supportive sight for all PARENTS!! I don't even think that 19 is that young tbh. Just because we live in a society now where a lot of desperate women are getting pregnant in their thirties and think it gives them the right to judge everyone else who had their babies when they are biologically more able to cope!

Of course the OP is going to use txt speak, its because she is 19! Thats what 19 year olds do - doesn't make them stupid.

This thread has turned vile now - im off.

LucyEllensmummy thanks for the surpport. it just makes me laugh at how these women are ment to be adults and parents. i mean im 19 and dont pick on other peoples spelling some of these women need to grow up more than i do. and to be honest im now im a happy relationship and yes i think he will stick around so to the people sayin that he wont dont know our situation. thanx for the positive comments.xoxo

Agree wholeheartedly, moondog.

Silly young girl, no apparent ambition, living on benefits at home, baby's 'farther' has legged it, ex is now back on the scene (somebody please tell me he at least has a permanent job) and young mother wonders why people judge?

It's all such a tedious cliche, and I'm getting sick to the back teeth of tolerating and understanding and working my knuckles to the bone to pay my taxes to pay for yet another teenage unmarried mother to whine about people judging her.

There. Said it.

Sorry, ScorpiowithabigS, but YMTB really hasn't done a great job in trying to convince anyone she's ready for GCSEs nevermind parenthood.

You can have a baby where and when you want, of course you can.

I do rather object to paying for its upkeep though.

Why should I??? I'm already paying for my own kids.

LEM couldnt agree more. I always thought this was supposed to be a friendly site and i can not believe some of the abuse and bitchiness that is on this thread.