Anybody else due in NOVEMBER 2009 :-)

[piper84]

hi ladies

Got a postive test last thursday, (and one everyday since ) after 4 long years of trying .
anybody else due in november?

try to stay positive - many people have no symptoms at all for their entire pregnancy. I can't believe Iggypiggy's doc said to be concerned about lack of symptoms. Things that they say - honestly!

Brightonbaby - I think the issue was more that I did have symptoms, but that they have eased...

I know some people don't get symptoms.

thanks for thoughts all. xx

Ah, iggypiggy- what a wait. You will be in knots, no doubt. However, at least there is still a heartbeat, so maybe baby is just growing slowly, or your dates could be a little out? I really hope you get the result you want in just over a week xx

Hi all

Iggypiggy my thoughts are with you. It's a worrying time. My symptoms have definitely decreased the last couple of days. I just don't know whether to worry or not. Everything is just one big worry sometimes.

Got doctors appointment today. I have to take the DSs with me. I hope they don't listen too hard as I don't want to tell them until I have had the 12-week scan.

iggypiggy I'm so sorry you are in this position I truly hope you have some surprise good news. Did the doctor say there was a chance that might be the case? It's the not knowing that is so awful isn't it. At least if you knew one way or another you could "deal" with it so to speak. I really am sorry x x

easyeggs yes - he said there is a small chance that it could be ok - but is only a small chance as the heartbeat is slower than they would expect even for 6 1/2 weeks.

Being in limbo is no fun... does make me wonder about whether an early scan is a good thing or not... still - will be nearly 9 weeks by time of next scan - so guess it should be more definitive.

becky everything is a worry at the mo - and I've never been PG before so have no idea what to expect.

Thanks all for comments xx

Morning all

iggypiggy i'm sorry your scan wasn't good news, I'm keeping everything crossed that when you go back your little bean will have grown stronger.

i haven't been on for a couple of days and there is so much to catch up on, cupcake I'm very sorry to hear your news.

piper Congratulations on the twins, how exciting!

I have been feeling terrible the last week or so, I had to tell my friend/neighbour as I couldn't get ds1 to school I felt so bad,so she has been taking and collecting. I have not been sick just very nauseous and very very tired and really dizzy (I've had to come off medication and I think the dizziness may be down to that).

Anyway, hello and congratulations to all the newbies and good luck with all the up coming scans.
Sory for long post

Iggypiggy - thinking of you, you poor thing.

ok - all this talk about twins (congrats Piper!) is making me slightly concerned - I also have very early MS - only 6 wks now but have been nauseus for ages (since conception really!) and vomiting started today in earnest.
Plus my tummy is HUGE! with DS1 my bump didnt appear until about 6 months! and now suddenly i have had to start putting elastic bands on the buttons of my trousers!
My grandad was a twin, and my cousin has twins... nah... [tries to talk herself out of it]
So... anyway, how do you get an appointment for an early scan? I am going to be at Kingston Hospital and they have an early preg unit - can i just call up?

Hi all,

Well I had my early scan today, and I'm not sure how I feel now...

Basically, with the scanner, she couldn't see anything in the sac, so she then used the TV probe/scanner. With this she found the baby, just the one, with a heartbeat. I felt really relieved and was feeling very, 'phew!'

But then, she said the baby was only measuring 5mm, so she said I am only 6 weeks pregnant. The problem is, which I was trying to explain to her, is that I know the EXACT day of conception (20th February), and she was saying, no it was probably the following week. The thing I kept explaining is that I left the country on 22nd February for a month and didn't see my dh, so I definitely didn't conceive after the 20th February, so how can I only be 6 weeks?

I thought I was 7+4. I'm now worrying, why is the baby small? Is everything going to be ok? She told me at this early stage it was hard to get accurate measurements, but was sure I am no more than 6 weeks pregnant, she even tried to say initially that I was 5 weeks pregnant until I explained that my husband I were in different countries on the date of conception she was suggesting!

Cupofteaplease and iggypiggy I am so sorry to hear about your scans but surely some people have rather small babies and some have big ones. Could this not be from the very beginning? I have read online about women who had 2 week difference in sizes at the beginning and then it all turned out fine. I am keeping everything crossed for you. Hopefully it will be ok next week.

Also took your advice ladies and called the hospital again yesterday. This time I managed to get through second time round and it seems that it was the secretary?s first day so that would explain the lack of answering the phone days earlier. Anyway she confirmed I was indeed on the system and said I should?ve received 2 letters (I didn?t) and said I am to see the mw on 7 and scan on 16 April. Except I am on holiday from the 4 for 10 days so that wouldn?t work. She could only offer me 15 or 16 to see mw ? but agreed that 12 weeks is late so said she would try to squeeze me in this week and call me back. She did! I am seeing the midwife on Friday at 9! Result. I hope I will still get ultrasound next week at the gynecologist next Wednesday though and NHS will be for reassurance only and for my dh who will miss the first one.

ursigurke how did you get with St Mary?s?

I meant how did you get on

Oh dear cup of tea - well there is a heart beat - thank goodness. Maybe the egg lingered around before implanting? I hope that you aren't going to worry yourself sick now - babies are all different, even when they are growing - and all their stats and averages of waht "should" be are just that - stats and averages. How many poor women panic that their baby is too small or too big... and when born they are perfect. Oh i will keep my fingers crossed for you that your baby is born just perfect!

Hi all,

iggypiggy sorry to hear about your news, fingers crossed for your next scan.

cupofteaplease I had the same happen to me last week, I worked out that I was 8 weeks and when I went to have the scan they said that I was 5+ 4!! The baby measured 3.8mm. I went to see my Gp as I was very concerned and he told me that at this stage it is VERY hard to time and measure the pregnancy, and the thing to focus on is that the baby was viable and I saw a heartbeat. My GP told me to go ahead with the original date and they would work out my due date at my 12 week scan. If I were you I would speak to your Dr, they put my mind at ease.

iggypiggy am so sorry to hear about your scan. Please try and stay positive.
For what it's worth, I don't think one stiff vodka would do any damage either - if it gets to that point.

cupoftea how infuriating for you to end up with such an inconclusive scan. Great news that she found the baby and a hb but anything that puts questions around it just adds to our paranioa. What are you going to do now, will you wait now for the 12 weeks scan?

To all those with ms symptoms, mine was awful but have really eased since about last Thursday. I did go for acupuncture and felt much better afterwards, but also I think that as things develop your body gets better at dealing with all the strange hormones flying around and so symptoms can ease. Guess I'm trying to say hang in there! I'd definitely recommend an acupuncture session if you feel awful, sometimes actively doing something about it can trigger a change.

My scan is at 5:30 so hopefully I will have more positive news later.

As to there being so many of us .... valentines always triggers a flurry of November babies that's how we got my ds 3 years ago!!

Thanks all,

I don't know where to go from here, they have offered me another scan in 2/3 weeks, or I can wait for NHS scan, whenever that may be!

becks I'm glad your GP had something positive to say! My dh is being really positive- he keeps saying it's great news about them finding the heartbeat so that is all we should focus on. He is probably right.

Hi all, I haven't been on here for ages all 3 of my DC's have had sickness bug and me too, at least I can't really tell if it was bug or just MS. I have my booking apppointment tomorrow and my scan date should be on it's way the midwife said she was putting in for it when she made my 1st appointment.

Iggypiggy sorry to hear about your scan hope the news is better at your next one.

Cupofteaplease, with my DD I was told at my 12 week scan there was no way I could be 12 weeks because of measurements so they moved my date on 2 weeks she ended up arriving 2days after my original due date so I wouldn't worry too much even at this stage every baby develops differently.

It's great to see so many new people on here looks like Nov's going to be a very busy month for midwives everywhere.

I have just been to collect ds1 from school and 2 mums (at separate times) came up to me asked if I was ok and was I pregnant!!
I must say I have got a bit of a tummy already but didn't think it was that obvious!

tigger I've had a lot of people ask me too, or people have just said that I look different, whatever that means!! My best friend asked me before I even found out! When I was pregnant with DS my DH aunty told me to go buy a pregnancy test as she was sure I was expecting and sure enough she was right I think some people can just tell.

The Food Standards Agency has a very clear list of what you can/can't eat, including a list saying what it is OK to eat. Feta is fine....

www.eatwell.gov.uk/agesandstages/pregnancy/whenyrpregnant/

iggypiggy and cupoftea I am sorry to hear your scans weren't at all reassuring. It's just so worrying, this whole thing isn't it. I kind of wonder if that is why you don't get earlier scans on the NHS, because they can be so unreliable. It is making me doubt whether to have one at 7 weeks, for that very reason. I really hope everything turns out OK for you.

Can I ask, when did people start telling work? I threw up today and had to run through school as the only toilet is about 300 metres from my classroom! If it's going to be happening regularly, maybe I should have a quiet word with the Head. Loads of people have been saying how tired and ill I look as well... (thanks!) What is everyone else doing?

katster i told my boss already and HR who happens to be a friend and the only other mother in the office! they have been both sworn to secrecy though the others will be told after the scan if all is well.

I told my boss immediately, as once you formally tell your employer they are bound by different rules governing your care, and you have more protection. For example, if you take time off for scans, antenatal appts they must give you this time off as paid. If they know you are pg, you will not have to bunk off or take AL or make time up.

Also, pg related sickness cannot count towards normal sickness, and you cannot be disciplined for extended amounts of leave if it is related to pg, so if like me you have just been given a few days off for pg related exhaustion, it does not count as sickness for HR purposes.

You have to have a risk assessment, which means if there are any risks at work, either physical, emotional, stress related that can impact on your pg they can be identified and managed accordingly, for example, if you are required to work late evenings but you cannot physically manage it, this can be adjusted, if you are required to lift heavy objects this will be addressed, that kind of thing.

And finally, if things go wrong, you are entitled to a period of special leave absence.

Until you tell your employer, you are not covered by any of this. You can request that only your line manager/one HR person is informed until you feel ready for your colleagues to know, otherwise they are breaking the DPA.

i told my boss today as starting to look bumpy and really really tired whereas i am usually fully of beans. I really need my scan to move my date forward by two weeks if possible(!) as i may other wise miss out on contractual maternity pay by two weeks.....can you believe that....i n eed to have worked here for a year and 11 weeks before i have the baby and i will only have been here a year and 9 weeks if 6/11 is the correct due date.....i can see me doctoring the MATB1 form at this rate....