Due in Nov 05 - Part II

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Here we go all!

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Oh god Hellkat. I am so sorry love. Life is so unfair. You have been a lot of support to Diddle, Peepee and CP3, I hope we can all be as supportive to you.

That's good!
Think we are. Both of us are utterly gutted though. It was odd, I was going to tell my dad today but thought no there's no point. Weird really 'cos up until then I still felt pg.
I did lose my cool exterior though (briefly in the hospital) when the sonographer told us. I burst into tears, composed myself, went to the loo, cried and kicked the wall and door alot. Felt bit better after.

aww ty cads!
You all will be. I've made some amazing friends on here and not planning on losing you! Feel shitty atm but will bounce back on the ttc thread asap! I'd start trying now but unfortunately got to wait for 2 af's.

Oh god hellkat im so sorry i dont know what to say. I feel kind a guilty for been pregnant!! you must stay in touch along with Cp3 and the others.I feel like i am loosing all the friends i have made here.

XXXX! sounds like you've had a dreadful day hellkat...v. sad to hear that things haven't gone to plan. just from being on this thread for the last 8 weeks i've discovered exactly how common miscarriage is during these early days, it must be a little helpful to know that you are not the only one? i was trying to see what your history is but we don't have that on this thread? is this your second child? make sure you get a nice dinner with wine and lots of cuddles this eve. i wish you good fortune next time you conceive. I'll will let you know how i get on tomorrow

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I don't know if i'm making it up but I really feel like something must be up-I haven't had any morning sickness... anyway all will be revealed tomorrow. wish i hadn't told so many people now...

oh my god Hellkat!!! what going on, i am filling up just reading you message. i wasn't expecting that. I am so sorry, you are more than welcome to join us whereever you want. wish we all lived next door to each other and could pop round for tea and hugs. I am on loads of threads at the moment. have joined the ttc orderyourbabyhere.com, when you're ready and a few miscarriage ones too. i set an spril m/c on up if you want to join.
life is bl*dy s*t. i am so sorry.
we must meet up and fall apart together.

How far along are you?
won't they do a d&c or would you prefer to m/c naturally.
god i feel bad just saying the words. sorry if that upset you, i bet its all you're thinking about.

Hellkat - Jenjam's message sums up everything I want to say. I'm sorry mate, I really am. Sending you big hugs (((hugs)))

Jenjam - i had that feeling a while back then the m/s kicked in with a vengeance, how far are you anyway? Maybe it's just stopped?

Layla's mum, glad all went well with scan. I had mine this morning, just saw a sac with a little pea in it, I am 8 weeks gone and obstetrician said he was really surprised with my history being as it is - wasn't sure whether to smile or cry..

Enthusia, i am worried about you, it's been a while..pls let me know how you are

Hi Cha Cha, i was just thinking about enthusia too and I logged back on and saw your note. who are both first baby people, both due around 10th of Nov. how bout you? i've lost track of who is where in the process. I'm 11 weeks tomorrow (I think). this really is an eye opener to me - i knew miscarriage was common, but I don't know I guess i didn't think it would happen to many of US - how many nov thread mumsnetters have experienced miscarriage now? hang on just a second away from the doom and gloom ( i do sometimes send myeslf down a black alley) - i also want to say a big fat Congratulations to laylasmum. yeeeahaaa! You and your DH must be very pleased and relieved.

Cha Cha where abouts are you in your pg?

cha cha. doh! just read bottom part of your last post. i see exactly where you are up to - ignore my Q

I know Jenjam...it's quite sad. I'm still not terribly excited, hate to sound so bleak but it could happen to me at anytime. My obs did confirm though that if the heartbeat is detected early (he detected mine at 5+3) less than 3% chance of miscarriage. This is my first pregnancy and have suffered with endometriosis thus TTC for over 3 years and have had 2 laparoscopies in the process, am no stranger to heartache...(i say this in an Australian Olivia Newton John type accent - sorry Grease lover)
Never mind, haven't eaten yet...doo lally!

Hiya ChaCha

Felt a little out of it on here for a while. Have been reading the threads on and off and felt there was really little I could add and did not feel connected to most people.

I am really sorry for all the loses that have happened since I last posted, my heart has been going out to all of you, but just feel as if there is very little I can say, having no experience, and as someone else said, I feel quite guilty and scared about being pg.

Life for me has been a rollercoaster over the last week, but I am settled at the mo. Having slight cramps at the moment, so a little nervous but I think it is just stretching! I have a scan a week Wednesday, can't wait as that will be week 12 for me. I really feel as if that 12th week is golden and that I am battling my way to that point. There just seems to be so much in the way, and so many things that can go wrong in the time. Is there anyone else who feels this nervous?

I also feel quite guilty when posting good things on here as the last thing I want to do is make people feel upset or uncomfortable.

I imagine most of these feelings are hormonal, so sorry for upsetting anyone, will pop in from time to time, I am sure!

Good luck to everyone on the journey to the 12th week!!!!

JenJam

It is good to hear from you again too. I also feel very nervous about it all. I wish I could get excited and enjoy my pg, but find I worry most of the time! Glad I am not alone!!!!

Enthusia, I am like you, inexperienced, a bit scared, swinging wildly from euphoric happiness to grim moodiness, my lifestyle isn't really set up for a baby, so i'm also struggling a bit with the potential change in identity. And then I feel guiltiy when I read about other peoples' misery because they have completely embraced their baby. it seems very unfair. i am also v. excited about the changes and really looking forward to this baby. You and I also share in common 1st baby and similar dates -i'll be 12 weeks next week (i've managed to wangle a scan appointment tomorrow at 11 weeks because i'm impatient.) But I don't have m/s, or sore boobs altho they are big, i am being a bit stroppy/hormonal towards my boyfriend and i'm eating like a pig (but that might be psychosomatic or a legitimised natural tendency). lol

Unlike some of the others I haven't yearned for a baby for months and months we thought we would quite like to have one and the next month - bang - it seemed liked my partner and I were getting one.

I imagine a long time spent ttc would amplify the pain of losing a baby. it is hard to understand and i'm also worried about putting my foot in it and being insensitive - especially in email which tends to come across as flippant and jokey....but think everyone here realises that the intentions are good so don't worry about that

i am sad for everyone who has had probs so far, this pg malarky seems to be taking up all of our available brain and heart space.

well really must go now to supermarket as we've nothing in and we've had way too many take-aways recently, i fancy a trough full of lasagne again bye JenJam

Enthusia - please don't feel bad for posting good/happy news. this is your thread not ours, i hope you don't mind us m/c folks staying with you, but please don't feel bad for doing well and feeling ok.
Post as much or a little as you want.
I hope that you're doing well, and have been thinking about you, as we were due the same day. I will keep my eye on you, and hope that you stay healthy and positive.
big hormonal hugs for you.

JenJam

Thank you so much, I feel you have hit the nail on the head as to how I feel. Although I also feel sick etc!!!! Your message has really made me feel better as I was feeling quite alone in my thoughts. DH and I have spoken about having a baby for years, but only decided 'Oh What the hell' at Christmas, so to conceive in Feb was amazing. I have therefore felt very strange when reading other people's sad threads on here as firstly, nothing I think of saying seems to be enough or capture how I feel, and secondly with each piece of unfortunate news I wonder will it be me next, how would I cope, can it really be that I will have a fine pg, when all these other decent people who have been trying, wanting for longer than me are having problems?

Thank you for your message, I will try and post more regularly.

Sorry to anyone if I ever seem curt, insensitive or selfish, it is not meant!!!!

I thought that's why you hadn't been here for a while, but i was worried. We have sooo much in common Enthusia, i missed not reading your msg's - try to post more often. I am actually due December 1st now, the scan changed dates this morning so don't know if i still qualify as a Novemberer. I am off to enjoy a long awaited Greek dinner..yummy scrummy...Good luck to us all xxx

Of course not Diddle, and everyone else, please do not go, you have just as much right to be on here!!!! I like hearing from you, just feel helpless for you and insensitive and selfish at times.

its lovely to hear how well you are doing, makes me feel positive for the next time.
You should all just be yourself and say whatever you want. Thats what boards like this are for

I miss you!!!!!!!

Don't feel insensitive and selfish, feel lucky and happy and hopefully not too sick.

Actually, seeing as i have hormones as an excuse, i will spill the beans!!! Have been looking fwd to sharing some marking books/being sick/passing out stories in the class with someone and you weren't there!!!!
Huh!!!!!

Hey Diddle
You well?

cha cha - very well i think. feeling quite okay and want to start trying again now. The waiting if so hard. got my glass of rose. the only thing that seems to be taking its time to get to normal is my cooking skills. we seem to have been living off take aways for most of the last fortnight, so i will be just as big as you all are really soon.

How about you?