Fab Feb Thread: 22 on show........33 to go.......!!!!

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Ooo I feel all important now.

Back from lunch

My mum who is usually quite a sensible woman told me the other day (when I said that DD is feeding pretty much 3 hourly and twice in the night) that she just used to feed us at 10am,2pm,10pm,2am and 6am. I asked her what happened if we might just have woken a bit earlier and be hungry for a feed?? Her 65 year old brain must be feeling a bit fuzzy because according to her we never woke earlier looking for a feed and never really caused her any trouble at all (and there were 3 of us......). I just told her that I can't believe we were all so perfect. She must have also told her sister (my aunt) about our chat because she went on about it yesterday again ........?!

I'll just muddle along in my own sweet way. We all achieve the same end goal really don't we just by slightly different methods. I do confess though that even though I feel slightly less lost this time, each child is different so I'm still trying to find my feet with DD - she's not like her brother - they like to keep us on our toes these babies.

Pempe forgot to congratulate you too...sorry ! Hope you're getting on ok.

We've got visitors coming this afternoon - they don't have kids so am hoping they have lots of energy for entertaining DS I love my visitors who don't have kids and want to play.

MrsY and PT

So glad you are safe and well at home with your lovely babies but sorry you both had such a traumatic time. Nothing prepares you for the shock of it all when things don't go quite to plan.

MrsY - I still check on DS's breathing during the night (he's nearly two!) - can't help myself, it's become a habit though I have stopped getting up especially to check - it's only if I am up to go to the loo anyway (yes, that'll be all the time at the mo) that I find myself in his room listening for breathing noises.....

well good morning....my backs gone again - my sis wonders if it could be baby lying on a nerve lower down affecting my shoulder blade area. I can sit here and type as i not moving very far, but can't twist from side to side, or get up without wincing, huffing and puffing.

I am now a PS3 widow, DH has been holed up in the bedroom for about an hour and half playing Fifa 09....might fein contractions to get his attention! It is his 30th birthday, I should give him a break really!

Off for a bath to loosen up this back.....

Im home!!! Poppy Louise made her arrival on Friday 13th @ 5.38pm - 6lbs 8oz ( so not small at all!!)

She is absolutly beautiful & were so in love - Will update soon with all the details & some pics.

Hugs to all - hope everything is ok xxx

Congratulations

Congrats KT on the arrival of Poppy Louise (more beautiful names). Am so pleased she arrived safely and see, I told you it was your abs of steel making her look smaller to the medics...

Neerly - ouch, poor you! Are you using heat on the back to see if it helps at all? Really hope it unlocks again for you soon - sounds awfully painful.

Baby girl, born at home at 4.59am today- no name yet, 9lb exactly Too tired to post further details yet, but a positive experience and a gorgeous baby

congrats KT too

Apologies to everyone else but just enough time to post a link for Pempe.

contact info for La Leche League Greece which I hope you might find useful. Also Tiktok on feeding board here is brilliant as is the Kellymom site IDBI linked to. You can certainly crack this but you do need the right support & advice. The sooner you do this the better before it really starts to affect yor supply and you get locked in a vicious circle. Many babies will gobble down formula in a bottle regardless of how much breast milk they've just had because it requires so much less effort. Whilst you are fazing out the formula you could try cup feeding instead.

Gotta run. Back later!

Congratulations to KT and Jennifer.

Love the name Poppy, it's DD2's middle name.

JenniferT did you get your cinema trip in?

Well done KT and JenniferT - lovely news!! Gosh babies all arriving fast now.....can't wait till Thurs

Congratulations KT and JenT hope you are all well.

Ds1 also had really bad reflux so winding him was quite difficult as you didn't want to make him sicker or aggrivate anything more. Luke isn't showing signs of reflux thank God as he's not been sick yet! He does get a bit jerky when he's laid down after a feed, but that might just be because he's not used to having so much room to move iyswim, so I'm trying not to worry too much about that.
A bit more of the scab fell off from what was left of cord so now b-button is a yellow wet patch, so have cleaned with cotton wool and waterand will see what cmw says tomorrow.

I'm finding I'm being more pfb with Luke than I was with ds1. When ds1 was born I didn't get that big rush of love the minute I saw him. It didn't even really register that I'd had a baby for a while and I remember realising I was madly in love with him when he was about 5 months I mean I obviously must have loved him because he was my son, and I took care of him in terms that he was fed, clean, warm, hugged and all the rest of it, but I didn't actually recognise a true feeling of love until he could sit up and laugh and hold his toys and things.
I think because he was crying all of the time due to colic/reflux, the first 4/5 months were really difficult. Dp was at work all day every day so didn't see how bad it could get and I felt quite alone for a long time. It was almost like I just did all these things because I had to iykwim.
Once he came out of the colic and reflux, things got a lot easier and I was able to actually enjoy being with my baby rather than getting upset and feeling like a crap mum because I didn't know what to do and there not being anything I could do to help him.
This time, the love has come alot quicker, when Luke was born, I couldn't take my eyes off him (which was annoying the midwife stitching me up as I kept dropping my leg). I'm alot more responsive to him crying (suppose because he's not doing it all the time) and things feel just different. I don't know whether that's because I'm no longer as selfish as I was when ds1 was born, and I have learnt so much over the past 18m being a mum so am able to see the things I could have done differently last time. Also at the hospital I knew that that was the only time that me and Luke would have on our own so maybe that helped with the bonding too.

I'm saying all of this just to let anyone who may be feeling a bit unsure of things at the moment that that's ok.

I had the greatest lay in today. Didn't get up til midday and then had an hour in the bath with my book. Complete heaven!

THOM thanks a lot - I've been chatting to Tiktok (fabulous advice) and also been in touch with the La Leche League. Hadn't thought about (or even really heard of) cup feeding, so will look into that. My DS certainly does find it a lot easier and less tiring to drink from a bottle than from me, so it may be worth a try.

congrats KT! my, they are coming thick and fast eh?! I feel odd this afternoon, after a bath my back eased, but nether regions feel odd, dunno how to describe it other than u know after you have a bit of 'hows yer father' and later on you get the 'leaking' sensation (sorry TMI!), thats wot I got now, alongside the constant period pain type ache.

My money is on the next few days.....

Anyone who has other DC's and went into labour during the night, did you wake your DC's to tell them you were going and that your friend/family member would be there in the morning when they woke up? My DT's are 4 and know that mummy is going into hosp at some point to have a baby, but I worry when they wake at 6am and find Aunty xxx (my close local friend) downstairs, they might go a bit crackers....another friend suggested leaving a letter for friend to read to them and then for friend to ring DH for them to speak to him.....

Also, water birth - do u get in naked, or wear an old night shirt?

Neerly I like the letter idea followed by a phone call with Dad. I'm not entirely sure I'd want to risk waking dc's in case they get either too over-excited or too upset that you're going, either way resulting in them not settling back to sleep and being a handful for choosen baby-sitter iyswim.
I hate waking my ds as I know he'd never go back to sleep........

LBB, thats wot i thought, they'd either not wake properly and forget that i'd gone by morning anyway, or wake up fully and not go back down again for friend. My thought is, if I am in for a long while, can send DH home for a reassuring update with the boys and then he can come back in for the actual birth - but going on track record of myself and ALL the females on my side of the family, I will be going in at 3am, say and popping by 4am, so DH can be home for the 6am wake up!

I just read my post about feeling the love for my ds's back to myslef and have noticed I sound like a bit of a c-word. I don't actually think I wrote all that out for anyone else, but more so that if I said it and read it, it'd make me feel better and less guilty on how differently they have been treated in the earky days. anyone kwim?
I think maybe these pills are having a funny effect on me.....

Sounds like a plan Neerly Exactly what I'd have done if ds was older and could understand, send dp home for a bit if not much happening.......

Can I also quickly say that I am feeling quite jealous of all the attention dp is getting from ds1 at the moment.
See, I am going crazy!!
Ds1 has been following him around all week, has, every morning that dp has tried to lay in, gone crashing into bedroom and screaming til he gets up, he doesn't seem to care if it's me in bed.
Won't settle to sleep if I put him down, but drops off straight away when dp goes to him.
Ds has so much more fun in the bath when dp does it and is better behaved when dp is dressing him or changing his nappy.
Ds is ignoring me if I call him into another room and is far more interested in dp than me, and tbh, it's upsetting me slightly.
I should be pleased that the 2 of them are finally finding that special bond, but I'm finding myself feeling a bit childish about it all.
I know that if ds was all over me, I'd wish he was with dp, so I suppose it's quite handy as it's freeing me up to spend lots of time with Luke, but I want to have both of them!
I'm being really silly aren't I?
Things will go back to normal soon and I'll be complaining that I have to do everything with both of them.......
God damn these hormones!!!!!

KT and JT huge congratulations! well done to both of you.

Congrats to KT and JT!

Visiting time is over in the Stretch household.

Phew. I'm tired.

Tomorrow DH has offered to cover a shift at work even though he's on Paternity leave! Mind you we could do with the overtime and he's got another two weeks until he goes back to work so I will be on my own for a whole day with my two children

DD is feeling exasperated by the little amount of time we've spent together recently so I've promised her that tomorrow we will walk into the city and go for hot chocolate, go to the library and read books, and she can spend her pocket money on some plastic tat.

I am going to bed in approximately 2 hours.

Snore.............

Welcome new babies, cograts JT and KT.

Pempe, I think THOM is spot on about the feeding. I am amazed at how often and for how long I am feeding Jacob. And I'm quite sure he would knock back a bottle too if it was on offer.

He has now mastered the fine art of feeding lying next to me while I sleep. I wake up an hour after starting on boob no.2 and he is still glugging! And an hour after that... His middle name is Dracula.

If you let Harry suckle whenever he wants to, even 'on empty', you will soon find he has called in extra supplies. At which point he will have his fill, fall asleep and leave you with painful, engorged breasts for the next 12 hours - at least that is what my three have each done to me!

Where is thom?

Are you trying to start a rumour, LBB?

Start a rumour? No..........About thom? no, she popped into my head last night because I couldn't remember when I'd last read a post from her. Think it was when she was saying she didn't wand her lo to come just yet and that was on.........?

Scroll down (or up, depending on how you are set up) a bit, I was responding to her post at 15:15:10 today.