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March 2009: Beware of TMI . . . we're getting ready to give birth and there's nothing we won't share.

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MKG · 02/02/2009 13:14

Ok so I'll start it off.

Has anyone else had a huge increase in discharge? It's gone from clear and not too much to thick and white, and copious amounts.

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kanga5 · 10/02/2009 16:21

hi
I would suggest adding:

if you don't mind students,
who your birth partner is,
and if they want to cut the cord,
your views on whether you are ok to be cut or would prefer to tear,

on subject of bag packing I decided to be organised this time and start now (I am 34 weeks) especially as it is half term next week, and I feel too tired to be doing it at the last minute....

goldmother2b · 10/02/2009 17:31

here is my birth plan too

Birth Preferences Sheet

My birthing partner and I have given careful consideration to each specific request on this birth preferences sheet, and we feel that it represents our wishes at this time. We understand that these choices presume a normal pregnancy and birth and we realise that as labour progresses, we may choose to change our thinking. Should a situation arise that constitutes a medical emergency, please know that you will have our complete cooperation after we have had an opportunity for an explanation of the medical need and have sufficient time to discuss the decision between ourselves.

My husband Rob will be my birth partner. I request that my birth partner stays with me at all times and is fully informed and involved in any decision making process.

Rob can be contacted on xxxxxxxx

Important Information

I have gestational diabetes that I have controlled well with diet since diagnosis.
I have symphasis pubis dysfunction (SPD) and must be encouraged not to aggravate this, by adopting appropriate positions during labour and birth. I find lying on my back especially painful, and that maintaining the same position for prolonged periods also aggravates my condition.

Coping With Pain

I will use:
? Breathing and relaxation techniques
? Partner massage
? TENS
? Entonox
? Bath / Birthing Pool

I do not want to have an epidural for vaginal birth as this could aggravate my SPD and cause damage to my pelvis. I would prefer not to use Pethidine.

First Stage

? I am hoping for a natural birth using only natural pain relief, Entonox and a warm bath / birthing pool where possible. I would like to be offered any natural therapies available such as aromatherapy/acupuncture but will ask for any drugs should I feel it necessary. I plan to bring my own birthing ball.
? I do not want my labour speeded up by medical intervention unless there is a risk to me or my baby, and only after full discussion with me and my birth partner.
? I would like to remain active and use whatever gravity assisted positions I find comfortable during all stages of my labour. If the baby appears to be poorly positioned or labour is not progressing well for some reason, I would appreciate it if you could suggest changes of position or movements that might help. I understand that because of my gestational diabetes I may need to be monitored, and would appreciate that consideration be taken to ensure any monitoring does not inhibit my desire for an active birth.

Second Stage

? I would like to give birth with an intact perineum and would appreciate your help and guidance to achieve this. I would prefer to tear than to have an episiotomy, but will consider an episiotomy where this should be necessary to prevent severe tearing and long term damage.
? I hope that my baby?s entry into the world will be gentle with dim lights and soft voices.
? We would like the cord to remain intact until it has stopped pulsating. My husband would like the choice of whether or not to cut the cord at that time.

? I wish to have a managed third stage but for the syntometrin to be injected after the cord has been cut.

After Delivery

? I would like my baby to be placed on my chest as soon as possible after delivery to establish skin-to-skin contact.
? I intend to breastfeed my baby and would appreciate your support to establish this. Under no circumstances should my baby be bottle fed or given formula without our consent.
? If, for some reason, I am unable to hold my baby while the placenta is delivered, I would like my husband to hold him/her using skin-to-skin contact.

Vitamin K

I would like vitamin K to be administered by injection after the birth.

Wheelybug · 10/02/2009 18:14

oh Wow Gold - that looks far more professional than mine..

Boobz · 10/02/2009 18:56

I copy and pasted from your plan Wheely!

goldmother2b · 10/02/2009 19:30

I copied and pasted a fair chunk from one given out at NCT antenatal class!

MKG · 10/02/2009 20:14

HI everyone!

I had my strep B test today and the midwife asked if I would like an internal so I told her, "While your in the area and have me here let's take a look". We didn't expect to find much, but I am thinning and softening, so am nicely on my way, but still lots of time left.

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livismum · 10/02/2009 20:29

Hi all had my 34 week check with midwife today, took DD who enjoyed hearing the heartbeat. she did ask me what was wrong with everyone who came in to the waiting room though! baby is sitting just in pelvis and mw seemed happy everythings well.

as i was going she said they have had a few babys born at 36 weeks recently and as DD was born at exactly 37 did i have my bag packed?! well kind of but will def get on with it now! its bad enough family and friends saying ooh you are going to be early, but mw too? watch now ill go to 42!

meep · 10/02/2009 21:54

Am impressed with all your birth plans. At my hospital you get a leaflet where you can tick boxes to say what you want and what you don't want.

They did seem to follow mine where they could - it was just my body that didn't follow what I'd hoped for!

I know they'd read it because when I got to the labour ward I had an active birthing room and it took my dh to ask for pain relief for me and they never forced it on me. So they totally followed my wishes for as little intervention as possible to the point that I wish they'd just said, enough is enough earlier and wheeled me into theatre!!!

Also when they talked to me about having an emergency section they did mention the fact that I had "no forceps" (unless totally necessary) on my birth plan.

I hadn't thought of doing one for an elective section but I like what you've put wheely. The only thing I don't like about c-sections in my hospital is that they take the baby out of the room to do all the suction etc (which I know is necessary after the section) - but I was forewarned of this and told dh that he had to go with the baby at all times - which he did (he said he felt a bit silly and in the way but that they seemed fine with him being there).

They did actually drop the screen when dd was born and presented her to dh genitals first so he could tell the sex ! But afterthat she was all wrapped up - so this time I'm going to ask for skin to skin contact if possible.

meep · 10/02/2009 22:03

Also meant to say that a friend of mine had varicous veins down below in both her pregnancies - and they did go away straight after the birth and didn't cause any difficulties to her in labour or when pushing. The only bit of advice I can pass on is do not have sex as it causes an increased rush of blood to your nether regions resulting in said veins becoming swollen rendering you completely unable to walk! (and not due to the prowess of you other half !)

Wheelybug · 10/02/2009 22:03

Meep = from what I recall they did all the suction etc (presume that's what they were doing now you say it !) in the theatre so dd didn't actually leave the room until I was being stitched up and DH sat with her outside.

I remember only finding the sex out because the anaesthetist went and found out for me - no one told me - not even DH who was caught up in the moment I think.

As for the skin to skin - apparently its useful to tell them this before and then they can (apparently - although I'm not sure I believe they will) cut the gown to allow it. My main reason for this would be in the event of an early section again - dd only had issues with her body temperature and from what I've read immediate skin to skin can help this and maybe might have prevented her going to SCBU (she was only there for a couple of hours to heat up).

I have quite a few notes on c-sec birth plans which includes stuff like what sort of music you want, if any (with dd it was the middle of the night local radio !), no talking, dim lights etc. On this, it might sound silly but I kind of think I'd rather the surgeon was comfortable and as dd was born to the sound of crap radio and the anaesthetist on the phone talking about his new job then it can't get much worse .

Anyway, this ones going to pop out with some deep breathes and a rub of essential oils, but I guess I ought to be prepared Just in case .

meep · 10/02/2009 22:10

I think I still have a link to a c-section thread about all this stuff wheely so I will go and search for it.

I was asked what music I wanted with dd - but I was so knackered and full of drugs that I hadn't a clue and still couldn't tell you if there was any music playing at all!

The suction thing is the only downside of a section as they have to get the fluid out of the baby's lungs pretty quickly - whereas it gets pushed out naturally during a v-birth.

But I think skin to skin also helps with their breathing as well as heloing them regulate temperature.

You sound like you've got the right state of mind to go for a vbac wheely so I am sure it will work out the way you want.

Boobz · 10/02/2009 23:27

Anyone read any baby books, if you are a newbie? Am 2/3 of the way through The Baby Whisperer, and am starting to think I shouldn't have started down this road - am stressing myself out trying to remember everything and make sure I get a routine started from day 1 - that can't be right, surely?

Anyone read anything else - planning to do Gina Ford or summat?

DH late home - am up waiting for him. Bored.

Slickbird · 11/02/2009 08:59

RE: Music, I remember with my first after a 48 hour labour and I had been ineffectively pushing for an hour (turned out my uterus was exhausted after 36 hours anyway - don't know how they knew that tho) I had to go through to theatre in case I needed a C-sec but they were going to give me an episiotomy and then get the hoover out and try that first. That worked and we got her out with the first push/suck - but I remember at the time as they stitched me back up, the radio in the theatre was playing, Atomic Kitten, "You can make me whole again" I've never heard that song the same way since!

laumiere · 11/02/2009 10:09

The only thing I read while pregnant was the NHS birth book (or, as my friend put it the 'so you're a teenage slut and you've ruined your life' book). All I can remember is that they coloured the semen in the ejaculation pic bright yellow like Play-Doh!

We needed diagrams of how you actually got pregnant where I used to live, the MWs would regularly get pregnant girls who had no idea how it happened.

In the event I was quite glad not to have read much, it meant I was much more relaxed when DS1 came 9 weeks early as I didn't worry about what could go wrong!

The only 'baby' book I bought for DS2 was the letsbreastfeed.com e-book and I haven't regretted it.

lizziemun · 11/02/2009 10:11

Never bothered with baby books myself and let dd's find their own routine.

DD1 natural routine from day 1 was 7,11,3,7,11 and 3am. Until she was about 9mths when dropped the 11pm feed. She didn't stop the 3am feed until she was 2yrs .

DD2 routine was 6,10,2,6,11 and 3am. She dropped her 3am feed at about 12wks. Which was a shock to my system as i was used to waking at 3am feed. She would feed at about 11/12pm and then go though the night. Since she was 9mths she rarely wakes in the night.

Thefearlessfreak · 11/02/2009 12:02

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twocutedarlings · 11/02/2009 12:12

Ive just got back from my 38 week antenatal and baby is 2/5ths engaged shock and MW said that she doesnt think i will have much longer to wait!! she actually offered to do a sweep, which i was quite shocked about tbh, wish to god that she hadnt said that i may deliver before my due date though!! i sort of have my hopes up now!! i will just have to try and but it to the back of my mind hmm.

fearless pleased your scan went well, try and relax and enjoy things now.

wideratthehips · 11/02/2009 12:13

oooh i'm excited today as i'm 36wks and having a scan to check size of baby and whither i can be induced early.....all bits crossed. (might find out the sex too)

dc2 was massive at 10lb 8oz and i have glucose in my urine and higher than normal in my blood.i want this baby out now.......

i keep getting numb thighs like ive poured icey water down my legs.....anyone had this before?

MKG · 11/02/2009 12:45

So glad everyone is having good news today!

As for baby books I never bothered. My theory is that my children are smarter than I am and that following their lead is a much easier approach to parenting. They have both put themselves into routines (not really a routine that I would have chosen, but I'm flexible and work with them).

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Millie26 · 11/02/2009 12:59

Hello!

V impressed with birth plans. MW not even mentioned mine yet, got no idea what I'm supposed to do.

I've got Jo Frost's book which I think is brilliant, although not actually had a baby yet so maybe its a load of rubbish.

She is really clear though and the book isnt dictatory at all, just really good solid advice and tips.

Fearless - hope you are ok, try not to let yourself get too stressed out about work things. I know exactly what you mean about positive thoughts - I've just started to think like that and it's surprisingly liberating isnt it?!

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MKG · 11/02/2009 13:27

I'm ready to hibernate too.

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babyinbelly · 11/02/2009 13:27

I need some good luck here please! sorry to bring down the thread after everyone doing so well but I have to go in for iron transfusion this afternoon. Takes 5-6 hours and they have warned me can bring on labour.

Was it tempting fate to do my hospital bag yesterday and get my TENS delivered this morning?

Hopefully all will be well and baby will stay put for a couple more weeks.

MKG · 11/02/2009 13:36

Good luck Baby! Try not to worry too much.

If the procedure does bring on labor remember that we are now at that point where everything should be fine. Stay positive.

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babyinbelly · 11/02/2009 13:46

I will be 37weeks on saturday so only 3 days off term. Just all a bit stressful and not really what i was expecting.

Thanks for the good luck! x

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