Due in September 2009 - Calling all the Christmas and New Year BFPs!

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So excited to be starting my first thread!!!

Just had a BFP this morning a couple of days before AF is due and according to FF, my EDD is 1st September 09.

I have one DD (March 05) and had MMC in late September this year, so a little nervous but really ready for this.

Looking forward to a few more people joining me on here!

Honestlyandtruly I should get another opinion, perhaps there is another doctor you could see?. My thoughts are with you.

Allgoingsouth well done, another geriatric. you're not having twins as well are you?

Honestlyandtruly So sorry to hear your news. I think phoning nhsdirect is a great idea under the circumstances.

AGS and Neddie I'm glad there are people older than me here, having their second, or third and fourth (!) - I feel quite old to be having my first (36), so it makes me feel better about the possibility of having more than one. Not that I can actually imagine one yet...

Don't worry lemmonmoon many a good tune played on an old fiddle. Had my second one at 35 (I like to spread them out). I had 14 horses all in and needing mucking out. At 3 months a young stallion knocked me over an embankment which I rolled down at high velocity. At 8 months I fell (buckled) and landed bum first on concrete paving. And at 8 1/2 months pregnant I got in 180 bales of hay off the fields. I am taking it easy this time (due to bleeds and it being twins) and not doing anything strenuous but it shows that us oldies can be tough too.
Ps I had that child in an hour and a half.
I am being unzipped this time as I can't face any more the other way. Hope that gives you encouragement.

HonestlyandTruely am so sorry to hear your news. Please take good care of yourself x

My Mum had my sister when she was 42 (she didn't know until nearly 6 months that she was pregnant - she assumed she was premenopausal ) and my great grandma had a child every other year from the age of about 20 until she was well into her 40's (13 surviving children ) so older mums aren't unusual in my family. Me, I'm 35 next week and even then my GP said I may be treated as an older Mum as I turn 35 early in my pregnancy. I was extremely cross - I may look old, tired and haggard but inside I'm as young as I ever was .

morning ladies

another white day today, been in tears all morning! its ds 1st birthday today and we were supposed to be having a tea party for him and the grandparents were making him a cake. everyone has cancelled as they cant get here, ds has no cake its just a disaster and i just feel so i know its probably hormones and ds doesnt understand anyway but its not the point...

tiger - at your doctors comments on being an older mum!!

neddie - glad your taking it easy with the twins sounds like your quite active!!! i had a fall with ds at 8 months slipped on concrete and landed on side of bump - i didnt even get checked out but looking back now i should have just incase!

honestlyandtruly - thinking of you xxx

i dont want to bring a dampner on things but with my first pregnancy i had 3 heavy bleeds (to the point where i collapsed) after first 2 i was scanned and a strong heartbeat seen everytime after the 3rd the baby had died and was booked in for medical treatment but later that night mc naturally. when pg with ds i had a bleed and he was born nice and healthy at 9 pound!!! what im trying to say is whatever these doctors are telling you, they actually do not know what is going to happen and if they are trying to prepare you for the worst then i think it is wrong because the world works in mysterious ways.

sorry that was a load of babble and it doesnt actually convey exactly what i wanted but i hope you read it with the best of intentions. I have just been in 2 situations where each time the outcome looked bleak but yet i still had ds at the end of it. chin up ladies xxxx

Honestly, I'm so sorry you are going through this, I hope you make a speedy recovery.

Iamamummy, its a shame no one can make his birthday. I was really excited about ds's 1st birthday too. Can you wrap him up warm and go out in the snow? You could take lots of pictures and turn it into a special treat. I bet when he is older he will think it was great that it snowed specially for his birthday and won't even notice that his tea party wasn't on the right day. Can you get out to the shops and buy a sponge cake, you could get some of those icing tubes too and make a little cake for him for you to have today? Or you could stick a candle in a banana for him to blow out- my ds would have loved this just as much as cake, he is a banana fiend!! I hope you can do something to make it a bit special anyway.

My nausea turned into sickness a couple of days ago which is a bit rubbish, but only once a day so I can cope thank goodness. Still so tired though!

There is nothing wrong with being an older mum, or a younger one for that matter! Whenever you choose to have babies someone is bound to tell you its the wrong time and you should have waited/done it sooner. Just like every other part of motherhood you can't do right for wrong. Pah!

HonestlyandTruly - I'm in a similar situation as you, had my scan on monday at 10 wks and no heartbeat, booked for another scan on tuesday with a choice of medical or surgical management afterwards. You need to be able to talk to someone you can answer all your questions without a language barrier.
I assume I'm allowed to put phone numbers on here. Here are the phone numbers I've been given in case you don't get anywhere with NHS direct.

Miscarriage association - 01924 200799
Also the Gynae Assessment Unit who are looking after me I'm sure might talk to you over the phone or direct you to someone who can - 01332 785637.

There are also some good threads on here about miscarriage, they might be able to help.

Hi everyone. Thank you all so much for your kind thoughts, it really helps. I've called my employer's Healthline in the UK and spoken to a (lovely) medical professional who is going to get back to me with some advice. They've offered to find another doctor for me to see here for a second opinion, if that's what I want. I don't think there's much hope but it's so nice to have someone on the other end of the line who will listen and advise. Part of the problem here, I think, is that there is a culture of doctors telling patients what to do, and what's best them, without any kind of consultation or explanation. Other western friends have had the same experience with medical care here. I've also now done some research of my own on the internet which says that a foetus with a heart rate of 50bpm is very unlikely to survive.

GracieGirl Thanks so much for your advice, and for the number of the Miscarriage association, which I may well use in due course. So sorry to hear that you're in the same boat. I'm glad you've found someone to talk to. Take good care of yourself and I hope we both manage to get through this stage quickly so we can start looking to the future.

Thinking of you lots Honestly and GracieGirl.

Looking forward to my booking appointment next Wednesday. Will ask then about the possibility of a little scan, I'm a bit paranoid as I haven't had masses of MS. I'm feeling quite tired in the evenings but not exhausted and sometimes I'm a little nauseous but also nothing horrendous. I know I should be grateful (and I am) but I'm desperate to see a little heartbeat and know I'm ok for now.

Currently, I'm avoiding my mum. She texted me to say she's bought bibs already . I'm really angry with her for not listening (obviously worried in case things aren't ok with the baby) and for thinking she's coming to all the appointments. Decided not to tell her anything else and when we finally have the scan, she'll be the last one to get a copy. Don't want to be too harsh with her but I can feel a bust-up brewing!

PCH I think you are right to be firm with your mum, I'm sure she's just really excited but I can understand your frustrations.

Does, anyone else feel like they have a permenant hangover?

GracieGirl and HonestlyandTruly, I am so sorry for you. Hope you can get through it all as soon and best as possible.

lemonmoon, I'm in your boat: 37 and pregnant with my first. I always wanted at least two children and did hear the clock ticking pretty loudly lately.
So I am delighted to be here and luckily not suffering too much from nausea &co. (so far).

PurpleCrazyHorse I've got my booking appointment next week Thursday, should be exactly 8 weeks then, and haven't got a date for a scan yet either. Yes, and I also feel the need to see a heartbeat soon!

afternoon ladies

i have started bleeding and cramping dont know what the future holds now.....trying to get hold of docs for a scan.

xx

I had a mother of all headaches yesterday. And feel lethargic (which is not like me at all!!I am like the proverbial hamster on a wheel)my body feels like a big fat slug and I haven't got on the scales (I am normally quite skinny-under 9 stone)as soon as I get pregnant-it's like someone's blown me up with a football pump.
Purplecrazyhorse tell your mum to stop. I am not buying anything till their born. Admittedly I already have a cot from the first two etc but anything else will have to be a mad dash the next day.

Hang in there-imamamummy it might something else. My thoughts are with you. Hope everything is OK.

Oh fingers crossed for you iamamummy. My mw told me that I could self-refer to the epu if that happened, and if it was shut to just go to A&E to get a scan, so hopefully you'll be able to do that at least.

pch that is exactly why I haven't told my mother. I dread that kind of excitement. She told me a couple of years ago that it was 'disgusting' that I hadn't had any children, so I feel fairly ambivalent about sharing it with her. We're not that close either(perhaps unsurprisingly). I'm sure you have told her to stop already, but you'll probably have to do it over and over. How frustrating.

Thusnelda - glad I'm not the only one! Also glad to hear tales of hefting hay from Neddie. I've been horrendously knackered but looking forward to getting back into walking my usual amount if the fog ever lifts. Know just what you mean about feeling like a slug, unfortunately.

thanksladies

i have spoken to my lovely doctor and he has said the epu is shut, he has given me his direct number to contact him first thing monday for a scan. he was very sympathetic and explained everything to me, but i have been through this before i know exactly what to expect its just gutting its happening today of all days ds first birthday. My previous mc was on my 21st birthday.

il keep you all updated but for now i think il lay low for a while. love to all xxx

Thinking of you iamamumy - keeping everything crossed your worst fears aren't realised.

PCH - try not to worry about your lack of symptoms being a reason for concern. My symptoms are even more minimal and my scan has shown all is ok at present.

Have booked nuchal scan for 2 weeks today - so keen to see beanie again, but a little apprehensive that everything is ok.

Sorry to hear of all the problems honestlyand truly and Iamamummy.

Nice to see several older mums on here. I will probably be now classed as an older mum although I don't feel like one either.

My quesiness seems to have eased too, I had no sickness with DD just a bit of nausea. I am sleeping badly though.

hope all is okay, iamamummy.

what is with this not sleeping business already? i was up at 2am for no reason.

I am feeling worried. Still feeling sick but not as bloated and (.)(.) not as sore as they were. Terrible migraine yesterday and head still hurts. I know epau will be closed till Monday and am slowly getting scared that all is not well.

I have been awake since 7am this morning - is indecent on a Saturday! Especially as it has been a struggle to get out of bed all week for work!

I had my booking in yesterday at Queen Charlottes - anyone else there?

silentlywondering my sypmptoms have eased off too and my (.)(.) aren't as sore as they were, but I had an early scan on Wednesday and the EPU Dr said it was normal. Try not to worry (easier said that done ), hope you are ok.

Thinking of you Honestly and GracieGirl

xxxx

Only time I have had such a rapid easing off of symptoms has been just before I had my m/c's so am feeling quite worried.

Silently - hoping everything is ok for you. Take comfort from what the others have said about the easing of symptoms - how many weeks are you now? It is possible that as you get closer to 12 weeks, that your symptoms will ease anyway as the hormones settle. Please try to relax and not get too worried.