Due April 2009 - Festive bumps explode into crimbo, April mums wait in limbo

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New thread here (I hope!!)

fab will be online & ordering in march then yippee i love the metal urge stuff at the mo and crimbo is the best cos they bring out all the lil holiday sets

Apparently I gave him permission at some point in the middle of another argument about a month ago. I don't remember, but what with my general forgetfulness recently & everything going on, I suppose it's possible. Still not sure that Sky are at all in the right (it wasn't just an upgrade, it was a complete account switch) for allowing it to happen / being so rude to me on the phone, but I'm not having their baby, so meh.

He's now making me lunch before he walks to me to the train station so he can carry the stuff I'm taking to & visit my friend in Manchester, so I can't complain too much. He's generally lovely, although I know there are many issues. Hopefully things'll pick up soon.

I'm off for now, then. Won't be back until at least tomorrow night, so I hope you all stay well & don't miss me too much xx

Have fun snowy (you know we're gonna miss you!!! lol) xx

Wow snowy you really do keep us chatting - has been so quiet all afternoon without you!!

Hope everyone is having a good night - am having a very stressful day at work but am going home to nice dinner and forget about it all until tomorrow!

Am feeling miserable I'm full of cold and DH is out on the town for his first work's Christmas party. Last year he came home about five hours after he said that he was leaving the party. He was absolutely steaming drunk and woke up DD who was only 6 months old. Today he said that he was going to work late and not start drinking at 5pm like other people and then join them for the meal at 7:30. At 5:10 he was leaving the office with the others to start drinking He's already said to not wait up for him as he'll be late. He thought that it was funny this morning when he said that he would babysit DD for me in the new year when I have a work's do to go to. I felt like turning round and asking him who he had arranged to 'babysit' her tonight and tomorrow night while he is out on the piss. I feel grumpy because I feel so poorly and he is more than happy to miss out on the hardest part of the day with DD without even giving it a second thought.

Moan over

Swaliswan aww hunny it sucks being at home ill and babysitting when they're out on the lash, i have it to come tommorow and saturday (tommoz is works do and sat is a friends b'day bash)

take pleaseure in being extra noisy early in the morning when he has a hangover and you dont (and hide the paracetamol and alka seltzer lol)

My DP is also out on the lash tomorrow night. Agree it is the hardest part of the day to get DS fed, washed and bedded at a decent hour, probably only to be woken up at 1am. It's not good is it. I love Christmas but not all the partying that DP does (this is about his 3rd, with at least another one planned). My total? One, which was his, where I was the designated driver.

hellooo ladies.

sorry for no posts recently but had a hellish time (blush) with constipation.

Big TMI alert.

Bleeding, rupture, so painful I was vomiting (( eat your weetabix for goodness sake people or the poo fairies may not visit you either!

xx

I have promised dd that she can have cookies and milk and sleep in our bed tommorow as long as she does'nt keep getting up, she's v happy about it bless

oh mathsmummy poor you xx how are you doing now?

am eating sooooo much fruit at the mo i dont need the poo fairies

Poor mathsmummy, due date twin!

I have missed you!!

can't sleep can't sleep can't sleep! feel sick, sore legs, sore back and wriggling baby inside me!

so vampire sex wins! my vote was for unicorn.

i hope that my boyfriend will dress up as santa. he's dressed up as a white rabbit and before.... infact that may even be the time that mattered if you catch my drift

poor poor mathsmummy x

Morning

lol at white rabbit how you feeling this morning frekkles?

white rabbit!

I am ok now. In fact it was v good practice for giving birth. But I have realised that I am complete wimp!

Last day of work today hurrah! DD and I are celegrating (her latest favourite word) by ordering pizza (called pizzy in our house).

How is everyone? What have I missed? xx

Mathsmummy - hope you are feeling better, that sounds awful. I can,t eat weetabix as lets just say it seems to keep me in the loo all morning along with most breakfast cereals lately. Get well soon x

Snowy - I was on the phone to sky for wait for it.....2 hours the other day and shouted at them like I have never shouted before, they are a complete an uttuer bunch of w.......Got of the phone and burst in to tears and told DH that I would not talk to them again until I give birth

VBM - Do you work for the health service. As a nurse myself you sound suspiciously like an insider, sorry if you have mentioned this before.

Well in terms of our men drinking, I suppose I'm winning that one - DP can't for 4-6 months anyway.

He was told this morning that he's "severely depressed" & has been put on anti-depressants & will be referred to a mental health worker for counselling. He seems rather shocked by it, to be honest. I think that it's only now hit him that it's so serious. I'm generally pleased about the outcome so far - at least now we have a name for it & a plan of action & it's not just me supporting him anymore.

I am, however, a bit daunted by what's to come. I'm worried about the side-effects of the anti-depressants (common ones include erectile dysfunction, which I've had to compete with in the past with a previous boyfriend & no matter how much it's not his fault I take it really personally - I know that's wrong, but I can't help it & difficulty concentrating, etc. - it feels a bit like an excuse not to listen to anything I say ) & I'm worried that I'm not going to be strong enough to hold everything together through the inevitable bad times that are to come. The counselling will be really hard-going, I'm sure, & raise lots of issues that I'll have to help him work through. Then coming off the anti-depressants is possibly going to coincide exactly with the birth, or at best soon afterwards. I know that's difficult for people & although the counselling will hopefully make it easier, I can't see that the lack of sleep, etc., will do anything but make it worse.

So overall, I'm pleased. But full of concerns. But yes, I'm going to try my best to be supportive & help him through this. Hopefully it'll get easier soon anyway.

frekkles, I hope you're never going to tell your poor child about the white rabbit detail - that's the sort of thing that requires counselling

mathsmummy, that sounds awful! But I hope you've enjoyed your celegration

hopeful, I HATE Sky. I'm really considering writing an angry letter. They'd been really good before that, but I'm seriously unimpressed. They had no respect for me at all, despite the fact that it was my money & our flat. Grr.

Swaliswan, I hope you feel better soon xx Enjoy your weekend - go out & get your hair cut or something lovely & leave him to 'babysit' DD. Make sure you fill her up with lots of sugar beforehand

your back lol

its too blooming quiet without you lol

please note i do love the rest of you in equal measure!!!!! xx

just realised have made myself look like a crazy wierd idiot

Hopeful1, without wanting to give myself away too much, 'cos this is my private space, I am actually a widely published educationalist with a university research and teaching post. I do occasional NHS/Royal Colleges work in the area of medical and dental education, and I have sat on boards such as PMETB. I would therefore say I know a bit about matters medical but also know my limitations!

Evening Ladies,

A quick update from me. I htink DH got home about 11:45 all safe and sound and in a respectable state. If I hadn't spent the previous few hours throwing up spectacularly, I would have been relieved. I'm not sure that he got much more than a grunt of recognition that he was home safely and that he had been sensible in catching a bus. My throwing up continued all night and all morning. I even threw up some dioralyte. At one point I thought that I was going to end up so dehydrated that I would be in hospital on a drip. Thankfully things have gotten better. The midwife came to my flat for my normal check and everything was OK. Apparently norovirus is doing the rounds of all of the hospital sites in Southampton so it's not surprising that I seem to have it. Typical, I finally go back to work after months of throwing up just to get a vomitting bug. I seem to have caught every bug that is rife in Southampton at the moment from one patient or another

Anyway, DH had to come home to look after DD so he didn't get to his two Christmas parties that were going on today. I don't think that he is impressed but there's not a lot that I could do.

Hi everyone,
Mad panic in the Alliance household, as we fly to Scotland for Christmas this afternoon.
Just to wish everyone a really Happy Christmas, I probably won't have access to Internet much over the coming week.

P.S.
Got blood test results back and I am a freak of nature: after the 85g of sugar my blood sugar level was lower than before...how is this possible???

Hello All. The Boffin household is ill today - ds2 has a temp that has ranged between 101.5 to 104.5 and threw up once in a watery fashion, and BoffinMum and BoffinDad just have very slightly raised temps but haven't thrown up. Do we think this is norovirus related? There doesn't quite seem to be enough dramatic puking for that (sorry if TMI).

Haha, hello Nutty It's nice to feel loved sometimes

Boffin, you really are a Boffin! Get you! I'm impressed! Sorry to hear you're all ill. Not sure about what it is, but doesn't seem much fun either way.

Swaliswan, that sounds awful! You poor thing. I hope you're going to take things very easy until you're completely better. & don't let DH make you feel guilty!

Auld, have fun in Scotland! Impressive strangeness with the blood sugar levels!

TMI alert - My boob (yes, one of them) has started leaking! It started last night, with a clear liquid & if I squeeze it, it turns milky coloured. I wish I could say that I haven't been squeezing it, but I'm a little bit fascinated. I haven't told DP yet though, because I think that that really will be the end of my sex life I'm strangely proud of my body, though! I'm 24 weeks today, so have managed to grow a viable baby & am now getting ready to feed him. It blows my mind.

I hope everyone's okay. We've still not heard from LuLu, have we? Have a good weekend xx

'course I'm a Boffin! And a well pleased one because our department did well in the RAE ...

Update: rang NHS Direct about poor ds2 and we're going to see how he is at 4pm before deciding whether to call the GP.

Was actually quite impressed with NHS Direct this time - usually they just say 'go to A and E' in response to everything, but this time I got really sensible about advice about ds2's chest.

BTW Swalis, they actually closed our local hospital last week because of noro. I am trying not to think too much about 'Survivors' at the moment!