I have a question. I'm probably getting a bit hysterical over what's simply a bank error, but we'll see.
Last Friday, the massive argument we had started with me asking about a 10 minute phone call from Sky, trying to sell him insurance that we don't need (we have a communal dish, etc) for £9 a month. I knew what it was about because I was sitting next to him & the flat was silent - I could hear most of what she was saying. In the end I had to tell him to hang up because he was on the verge of getting cornered into buying it & we can't afford it.
He then went off on one about me treating him as a child (I wasn't, but we'd had the big finances talk the day before that) & said that it was none of my business (despite it being our money) because they'd asked to speak to him, I shouldn't have been eavesdropping, etc. In the middle of all this, he said that he'd put it all in my name so I could deal with it. I didn't agree or disagree with that, but said that it wasn't the point.
I've now found a direct debit has been taken from my (private, personal - not joint) bank account by Sky, for £23, which is what we pay for our Sky / phone / broadband package. It's left me overdrawn (& I don't have an agreed overdraft, so may well get charged).
Either it's a big coincidence & the bank's somehow made a mistake, or he's set up a direct debit from my account without so much as asking me. I really want to give him the benefit of the doubt (especially as he'd have had to have done it after we'd sorted things out between us, not in the heat of the moment), but it seems a bit unlikely that it's a coincidence.
What do you reckon? How easy would it be for him to do that? Is it even legal? & if he has done that, that's a whole different kettle of fish, isn't it? That's not just being unable to control his temper, that's something else...