March 2009: Pelvic pain, sciatica, and getting kicked in the ribs: Are we prize fighters or just entering the third trimester?

[MKG]

Here's our new thread ladies.

Slickbird How awful for you. So sorry that you have all had that extra worry and stress.

Just a quickie, where can I get arnica tablets? Holland and barrett only seem to have cream. Is that as effective or should I try and find the tablets?

Boobz Thats a lovely nursery. Mine is also DS1 bedroom so it is packed with his toys, 2 cots, xmas decs waiting to go in the loft, box of stuff for charity shop, Stocks of wet wipes and nappies and all the stuff that I need to put in hospital bag but wont do till at least next week! Its a bit like a bomb site! Oh and all the crap essentials that I got from asda today and need to find a home for!

That reminds me. Asda was fab and defo worth a trip even if I did spend £170 and that didn't include any grocerys well not many.

MKG You have all the best ideas and tips. You amaze me!

babyinbelly

mothercare or holland and barrett or boots.

I do know that they come in different strength, but i can't help on which one are the best as i haven't used them. As i have been lucky as although both dd's have been over 9lb i wasn't that bruised or torn.

Slickbird

Sorry to hear about dh & dd, I glad you are all ok. Make sure you report to your council so they have a record of it.

OMG slickbird - I burst into tears just reading what happened so can't imagine how you must have felt/be feeling. You poor thing - and your poor dh. The only comfort is that your dd2 won't remember and I bet she is running around being her cheery wee self and dodging all the cuddles you will be needing from her .

Look after yourself - what a huge fright for you all.

Boobz - your nursery is gorgeous - I love the hungry caterpillar stuff!

For all of you who haven't started on eth nursery - don't worry. Dd stayed in eth room with us for 9months - it was only meant to be 6 months - but me and dh were a tad paranoid about her stopping breathing (which she did in dh's arms just after she was born - so you can understand his paranoia - mine was just mummy madness ) that we actually found it really hard to move her through to her nursery. We had the room painted and the cot up before she was born - but nothing else done!

twocute - would also recommend Lansinoh nipple cream and definitely Metanium.

When dd started getting a sore bum I started off with bepanthen as an every day cream - and use Metanium is she ever gets a rash - it is great stuff!

Morning!

Losing the will to live at work at the moment so sneaking onto MN more these days

Slickbird am so glad you are all ok! How is your DD2? Poor little thing - black ice is a right nightmare, I cant believe they went right over a hedge, that car is amazing.

Babyinbelly what did you get in Asda? I got a few things like a microwave steriliser and some tiny clothes

I went to TK Maxx afterwards and it was AMAZING, honestly, if there is a good one near you, go!

I got a rocker, bouncer play thing half price at £35, a really nice monitor half price (£65) with a motion sensor and temperature thing and all this other stuff that you probably dont need but will calm an anxious mum like me, a gorgeous sling reduced from £50 to £15, two Grobags for £10 each plus some other bits.

Feels really real now!

Glad everything is fine slickbird that must have been utterly terrifying! Guess it will be hard to let them out of your sight now.

In peculiar news DP and I were bored last night so took the furniture out of what will be DD's room to go into the living room. To start with we couldn't make it fit (it's a small house!) but eventually having rearranged the entire space it's somehow managed to look far bigger than it did before. It's really very peculiar.

I'm going back to work today just in time to face Ofstead. Wish me luck!

So this thread is nearly done - only another 100 or so posts and we move onto our 4th one. And that one will be where all the birth announcements start coming! Mad to think of it like that...

Thanks for all the lovely comments re nursery. How many of you are putting baby straight into cot / nursery from birth, and how many are having the baby in your bed room in a moses basket for the first 3 or 6 months?

Good luck Law! I am avoiding doing a scrap of work for the second day running.

Thank you all so much for your lovely messages of support, it means a lot. I have been blubbing on and off with the shock and relief of it all and yes, I do keep cuddling and kissing DD2 (and DD1!) (And DH...!) and just feeling so thankful that they are still here. DD2 is happy and cheery and I just feel their escape was totally miraculous. MKG The carseat was a Britax one that we had since DD1 was little, but it has been fantastic and totally did it's job. As we're not allowed to use it anymore, I've brought it in to the living room and DD2 is using it as an armchair and constantly trying to do the clips! She seems to have developed a strong affection for it - but I'm not surprised as it saved her life!

I do plan to call the council today - I'll try and not lose it at them.

And we're on the hunt for another Subaru!!

Have a good day everyone.

Slickbird so sorry to hear about the accident - glad to hear (almost) all is well.

MKG - sports bottle is a fabulous idea. Even if I end up having another section it will help me be able to drink properly as last time my recovery bed was broken so I couldn't sit up for a day.

Millie your local TKMaxx sounds great - I might have a look in our one although you usually have to sift through piles of stuff on the floor to find anything

Boobz - I co-slept with DD for the first three months and then moved her into the cot next to the bed for the next year - she didn't go into her own room until 15 months! She was quite a good sleeper and it took a while to kick DP out of the spare room (it was his office) so it worked out fine for us.

FWIW we've never had any trouble with DD wanting to come and sleep in our bed all the time - in fact she hates coming into our bedroom because it's so boring!

Can't believe how organised everyone is - I'm so far from packing a bag it's untrue - probably because we've got to move house between now and the birth . But I did get some newborn nappies yesterday and was shocked at just how small they are compared to DD's!

MissModular... sorry if this is a bit too personal, but didn't having DD in your room curtail the sex a bit? Or did she sleep through you having sex? Or did you just have sex during the day when she wasn't in there? Just trying to get my head around how it would work...

Hi girls,

Woo hoo- 5 weeks to go... this business of not working is just fab... Someone mentioned being sick after breakfast- we've had that today- my dd and myself just vomited our breakfast and yesterday the only thing i could face were yogurths. I think there is defo a bug about.

Slick so sorry to hear about the accident. Hope you are feeling calmer today!

boobz - cool nursery! Well, we had our girl for 6 months in our bedroom and we co-slept for the first 2months- it was lovely but at the end we felt a bit anxious about crushing her and we didn't rest properly.
Baby monitors- we used them just when we were downstairs and once she was in her own bedroom we used them very briefly as she kept me awake almost all night. Babies make lots of noises and I couldn't sleep. You develop a maternal thingy that you wake up instantly when baby cries.
for us having our little girl with us was not a problem to get giggy. At first you think- Oh my god! We are at it and she is awake in her cot- but you get over it- well at least we did! I guess is a personal thing!

Someone mentions Blooming Marvellous- my pet hate company- They were so crap 2 years ago- had various issues with them and I finally decided not to buy anything else from them.

Well girls, have a lovely day! Apparently the weather is gonna turn cold again from next week- so keep warm!!

xx

With DS1 who was hospital for 3 weeks, he slept in our room in a moses basket for 2 weeks and then went into a cot in his own room right next to ours (I'm a really light sleeper and got NO rest).

With DS2 we're putting the cot next to my side of the bed with the rail down to make feeds easier, and putting the moses basket downstairs for napping while I play with DS1 purposes.

We don't co-sleep as DH smokes, but he's on night shifts so won't be sleeping when the baby does anyway. If I have the same problems with sleepin this time then DS2 will be going in his brother's room!

LOL at Boobz thinking about sex already. After the boys were born dh found out that for about 6 months that whole region was exit only.

LOL Boobz, it wasn't the baby in the room that curtailed our sex life, it was the tiredness - well for the first few months anyway! But like Sunshine, we carried on regardless anyway - like I said she was a very good sleeper - wish she still was!

Hedge--I want to know if I picked the right hospital or not. It's been on my mind.

LOL MKG

Hi Girls,

Boobz both our girls slept in our room until they were 12 mths, the sex was never really an issue tbh, although once we established a bed time routine with them (ie they went to bed before us) we would tend to be abit more flexable about where we got romantic LOL . However i have lots of friend that have moved there LOs more or less straight into the nursery with no problems.

slickbird let it rip with the council, that road should be bloody gritted!!!

Hedgewitch congrat on your new teeny tiny niece!! (saw piccy on FB she looks a little stunner!!) at you LO being an estimated 5lb already!! what did your DS weigh?

I think the advice about keeping the baby in with you for 6 months is that that is when they are most at risk of SIDS. Having you in the room breathing is meant to help regulate/stimulate the babies breathing and lessens the risk.

I also know lots of people who have moved their baby out early on with no problems. It just wasn't something we wanted to take a risk over.

Just be warned - newborns are sooooooooo noisy - they grunt and squeak in their sleep - we called dd "the creature". I found that with her beside me I would wake up automaticalluyy every 3 hours or so just to check (and sometimes find dh round my side of the bed checking too ) but my waking normally co-incided with a feed as well.

Boobz.....sex.....the baby won't notice but my body/mind was in no place for nookie for a long long time!!

laweaselmys hope work is okay - look after yourself!

Had 32week check with midwife - have protein in my wee so getting that checked out. Also get very dizzy with flashing lights - but my blood pressure is fine so they haven't sent me to hospital yet (meep thinks she should maybe use this as the incentive to pack her hospital bag!)

Hedgewitch - congrats. No idea what my bump weighs in at yet though the MW (not my lovely usual one) said "oh your bump is big" then totally backtracked saying it was measuring fine and was nothing to worry about - now I have this niggling worry in the back of my mind that my bump is ginourmous - sigh!

slickbird keep those cuddles up - you, your dh and your dd's all deserve them.

HI all !

Congrats on your neice Hedgewitch

We put dd into another room (not her room which was further away) at about 3 weeks because she was so noisy. She was still only about 3 or 4 metres away from us with a monitor at my ear turned up full blast. That said, I am going to try and keep this one in our room for 6 months but we'll see how it goes. I don't really want to put our cot in our bedroom because its ginormous but we're borrowing a crib which I think should last 6 months.

Hedge Congrats on becoming an Auntie! Where does your sister live?

Also, I did actually chase the ins. company today about the car seat and hopefully that will be covered. If it's not, you got to wonder what the hell you're paying fully comp for!

Twocute - I spoke to the council about the road being gritted and they said that they do it anytime between 8am and 3pm, but on a daily decision basis. Obviously they do the main roads first. I protested that gritting them after the time many people are going to work was a bit pants, but it's all down to policy and shift work etc etc.

Still I am going to resume my mission to get traffic calming measures installed as we don't even have a pavement by our road so it's all a bit of a nightmare. I think I am now a woman possessed! I could do without all this and insurance claims etc while I really just want to concenrate on getting this new babies things together and working out where to put things. Including him!!

Meep It's cuddles aplenty here!

Aye, we too had both our DD's in our room until 6 months (made me happier) but, yes, they are noisy little so and so's!

P.S. I recommend the LANSINOH for sore nipples too. I got it last time (tenner a tube) but I still have tonnes left, and I was using it a lot cos I had a nightmare start both times. Determined to get off on a better footing with it this time. But I will be cracking the tube open again!

Slick - horrors! So glad to hear all's well that ends well (except for ye olde smushed Subaru and the council members that you will hopefully drag over the coals).

Boobz - great nursery, especially all the fairy lights. I wouldn't mind that look in our own room! Poor Cletus has nothing in his nursery yet, as it's my office and I can't bear giving it up. We've put the cot together in our room, though, so at least he'll have somewhere to sleep.

We bit the bullet and bought a Bugaboo. I hated paying for it, but honestly, it does seem to suit our needs in a way none of the others we saw did - and DP loved it. As that's the only thing he's felt strongly about (he's more the "whatever you think is okay" type), I gave in. Anthracite base and off white tailored fabrics - it's looking quite sleek!

All you UK dwellers - where can one pick up Lansinoh? My pharmacy here only stocks the teeny tiny 10g tubes, for which I paid 10 EUROS. I'll be in London the next two weeks for work, so...does Boots stock it, or just specialty stores like Mothercare or Holland & Barrett?

I'm just back from Amsterdam after a two-day meeting. Note to self: 3-inch heels for 16-hour days at 32 weeks pregnant is probably not the smartest of ideas. But at least I looked good! And the heels were ankle boots, which cleverly hid my swollen ankles.

slick so sorry to hear about your DH and DD's accident - what a relief that they are all ok, and glad to hear that you are sounding a bit chirpier this afternoon - focussing your attention on sorting out your council!

boobz our plan is to keep LO in with us for as long as she is requiring lots of night feeding, in a bedside cot that my DH is currently building to my specifications. With regards to sex, I watched the 'bringing up baby' series last year that looked at 3 diff methods of baby rearing, and the one that involved co-sleeping said that sex is perfectly acceptable even when baby is in bed with you as long as you are aware of its location and don't squash it or bounce it off the bed