Due Dec 08 - Christmas inductions ... The Holly and The I.V.

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Here I have done it!!!!!

Just need more babies now!!!!!

Kayz that's exciting! Hope it means things will start happening for you soon...
Have come over all tearful all of a sudden. Flippin hormones. Am having the most stress-free, no-plans, easy-peasy day but just want to weep. And I was fine till an hour ago! Saw my CPN this morning (she's keeping an eye on me coz of bad PND last time) and felt so fine she was really pleased - have 3 more days off happy pills left then have to stop ready for due date before starting a different one. Feel like a fake now coz I said how well I was and now I feel blue! Will probably be happy again in another hour.
Have a bit of a forboding (SP?) feeling, like my BP might have shot up or something, but can't really justify ringing the MW for a 'gut feeling'! Due to see consultant Fri so should just hang in there till then.

so sorry for x-post there Bisou. WOuld not have had a me-rant if I'd seen yours first. That's so sad.

Oh Bisou - I'm so sorry. It's so sad when these things happen. I hope you're keeping your chin up. Am thinking of you. x

Flumpy - congrats! Gorgeous little thing - I'm so jealous. Gasping for mine to arrive now - I don't seem to have any fear about birth at the moment. Think it's because it's such an unknown. PLUS I know it's going to be hideous and awful, but I also know it will finish and you get a lovely little baby at the end of it! Hurray! Also I try not to think about the labour part too much!

Exciting re all the shows etc - although I did hear that it can still be up to 2 weeks after that that the baby makes an appearance, is this true?

Big love to all

x

Bisou I'm so sorry

Hang in there trace {un-MN style hugs}

exciting stuff Kayz. Of course you could still be weeks away but stuff is happening!

iphones are beyond me. My mobile makes calls and sends texts. I dread it dying as I don't think they make them that simple now!

Shaved legs? Tidy up your fanjo? Huh? What's that all about then? I am cultivating a forest.Far too much like effort to sort it out.

jj I find it odd too how every labour, every woman etc is different. I'd quite like my waters to go this time, I want one of those huge gush stories instead of not having a clue what happened to them (only logical explanation is in the bath while throwing up so didn't notice).

Cat you have odd dreams

Bath thermometer! That is what I was going to get from Tesco! Or I could just wait until I pick the pool up this week and see if there is one.

Must go sort out boxes in the spare room. Tis my task for the day then the only room left to organise will be this one where the pool is supposed to be going!

Hi All
My first day of mat leave. Dropped DS off at CM this morming and have been marking students work and tidying the house ever since! Now got another 10 mins before he needs picking up.
Flmumpy: Congrats. She looks lovely- great name too. till not agreed on a name with DP yet!!! Congrates Pixsix too
Reban, Mismama and Katie: I am based im Bromsgrove so not too far so not too far from any of you if we do plan a Midlands meet up.
Lady T, Verso and Daisy: I hope all goes well tomorrow. Looking forward to regading those birth anouncements. It has made me realise that I really must pack my hospital bag!!
Kayz: certainly sounds like a show. I had one 3 weeks before with DS so may be a while yet.
Summer lightening: I hope you are feeling better soon. It may be worth a trip to the GP as this cold/ flu bug does hang around for ages. I had my cold for 4 weeks. After 3 I went to the GP who prescribed antibiotics and that finally seemed to make it better.
Bisou: I am so sorry to hear about your boss.
Big wave to everyone else.

Bisou: I'm sorry to hear your news . Must have been a shock.

Simmo: have just been getting a few odds and ends for my maternity bag, including cotton wool and cleansing wipes (much easier in hosptial than taking your usual facial stuff). I think I have everything now except drinks and snacks, must pack it all and check at the weekend.

I think I have a migraine. My head feels awful and I'm sure there is a woodpecker in there hammering on my skull.

I have just realised it is December next Monday!!!!! OMG, its all so close now.

good luck ladyt verso and daisy - must be so weird to know exactly the date it is happening. i quite like being in this limbo land of waiting and wondering.

however, baby furniture still has to be built, room to be created/tidied, clothes to be washed, bits to be bought, rest of useless stuff from under the stairs cupboard to be freecycled, rubbish to be taken to the tip, tax to be done, last 7 lessons to be planned, council to be written to... blah blah blah. maybe i don't have as much time as i thought...

we have now done all our antenatal classes: NHS (good breastfeeding workshop, bit rubbish antenatal), NCT (fabulous 2 day class, ok breastfeeding workshop) and yoga birth preparation class (okish). feel pretty confident about knowing what is going on, but it is all so unpredictable, isn't it? just don't know how much it's going to hurt and how much i'm going to be able to cope with it. must make sure i don't put pressure on myself to do it without pain relief.

dh got all weepy last night about worrying about seeing me in pain and wanting to be the best dad/dh in the world, and make sure we are a happy and content family. like most people, his family are a bit bonkers and i don't think he really had the most affectionate and loving upbringing (boarding school at 7), so i think it is all beginning to hit home.

went to the award ceremony last night (caved in and bought an isabella oliver dress/top - really glad in the end - felt great). dh didn't win, but it didn't matter. lots of posh people there, so fun to celeb spot.

apols for the me post

WG- DH's family and upbringing was a bit bonkers too (mine also for that matter) but he has to be seriously one of the bests Dad's/Dh's around. he had all the same worries, would he cope with seeing me in pain possibly losing it, during labour, could he make decsions for me if things went wrong, how would he cope with being a dad all that. But he was an amazing birth partner and an incredible dad and provider for our family.

so yours will be fine.

Bsiou so sorry to hear about your boss and such a loss for Australian Opera.

oh and do you have photos from last night, who did you see?????

Oh and thanks to my secret stork-er i got my lovely gift.

Bisou - there are a couple of pieces about your boss on the front page of today's Guardian website. It sounds like he was a special person who will be missed by many people - so sorry for your loss.

LadyT, Verso and daisydora - wishing you all the very best for tomorrow - we'll be thinking of you and waiting impatiently for news!

Sorry not to catch up properly on the thread - too much too fast and like everyone else feel like I'm in a state of permanent exhaustion at the moment.

We did get our first presents for the new baby yesterday (from someone visiting from the US) which did suddenly make it all seem very soon and very real...

I'm so impressed, WG, that your DH is worrying about all that. My DH I think has similar thoughts, but just isn't able to express them. He had a bit of a wobble last night because it's just under 2 weeks to the due date. I don't think either of us are really ready mentally. I don't think y ou can ever be! But keen to just get on with it. I'm worrying slightly that we're going to argue a lot as both get very very ratty when we're tired and lacking sleep. Plus I am rubbish at taking advice and not bossing. Bossing is, in fact, my forte. Think it could be quite a difficult time. I will just give him some leeway - afterall, I know just as little as him, let's be honest. And he is a wonderful, kind, funny man and I must remember that at all costs!

OOOH, and forgot to say and meant to: GOOD LUCK TO LADY T, VERSO AND DAISYDORA!

Can't wait to hear all your news and will be thinking of you all tomorrow - hurray!!

Beans: I would say that arguments are prob inevitable in the first year! The best advice I was given was in times in stress to treat your partner as you would a colleague, i.e. be polite to them at least! I think all you can try and do in those early months is be kind to each other. Which can be bloody difficult.

Oh and if you are considering divorce/murder/fleeing the country in the first year, take a deep breath and a tstep back. It's pretty usual to loathe your partner (or your mum, or friends who are obviously being completely unreasonable) because you are sleep-deprived, hormonally doolally and completely irrational .

It's not all gloom of course, having a baby reallt does bring you closer together and you also have periods of being so much more in love with your partner because they are so amazing at the parenting thing. Just interspersed with 'I'm going to KILL him, how COULD he do that??!'

Thanks, everyone. It's really weird knowing tomorrow is THE DAY. Very strange. Keep wondering where the time's gone since I finished work - never finished the little cardigan . Maybe I could have a mad dash and do it tonight?! >JOKE<

I'm with everyone who's weepy at the moment. Very very emotional today. The counsellor was ok this morning but gave the impression a bit that I should buck my ideas up - kind of stiff upper lip you'll be fine you're in safe hands yadda yadda etc. Mind you she also said I should get them to let her know when I arrive tomorrow and she'll pop up to the labour ward to see me, which is really nice of her.

Glad I'm not the only second-timer with low expectations, effie and hatty. I hope we can all get each other through the low times! Really hope we can arrange to meet up again once I'm allowed to drive... seems like it will be a long wait but it would be nice to have it to look forward to.

Bit of a pain today at the hospital - they had said previously that fathers are allowed to visit any time of day. This is great - but DH will be at work - so we'd asked if my Mum could come in to help me get meals (you have to walk to the end of the ward and queue - bit difficult with a catheter and I.V.!) and they said yes. Was just confirming this today and they said no, strictly no one apart from husbands/partners/boyfriends until 3pm .

Oh well. Looks like I will be losing weight post partum slightly quicker than I expected .

Speaking of arguing, does anyone know if the police will let me off if I murder DH and blame it on hormones.

He has come home from work in a foul mood. He had a go at me because DS did a poo literally as DH walked through the door. I am not f**king superwoman, I can not change a nappy in 0.5 seconds!!!!!!!!!!

Kayz- breathe.... breathe....breathe, now give him a glare, now ask him if he is ok?

Beans the snapping and odd arguements are unfortunately inevitable, but if you start off with having respect for each other it does help later on. Having kids brings out the very best and the very worst in us, just remember you love him rememeber it is just as difficult, self esteem reducing and scary for him but also remind him occasionally that it is all those things to you. You don't have to have constant heart to hearts but it's s good idea to be open about how you are feeling and what is troubling you, often it is the same for them.

Verso- a bit weird that women told you to get on with it not much else you can do but at least it has to be good to express fears and concerns. Sometimes these people should just listen.

also not good that they won't let your mum in, if i were you i would be on the buzzer every few minutes until they suddenly decide it's a good idea.

Verso: I'd ask again once you're there, as I'm sure many women won't have a partner available during the day so their mum/friend will be doing the same job. Or just get your mum to turn up and see if they can chuck her out .

Bisou so sorry to hear about your boss, how very sad .

kayz I had a migraine last night, I usually take meds to cure but can't during PG so had to endure the pain and vomitting all night . Hope yours passes quickly, mine just lifted about an hour ago.

Cat am totally with you on the panicking about becoming a parent - it is so scary. I have started reading the 'Baby Whisperer' which has lots if handy hints on how to spot what is making your baby cry and how to settle into a routine. One question I do have for those of you with experience is this: the lady suggests that after a feed you do some activity with your baby before s/he sleeps, but isn't it quite normal for a baby to fall asleep after a feed - I have seen them with that drowsy look in their eyes at the end of a feed.... am very confused.

All the best LadyT, Verso and daisydora - can't wait to hear the news !

mibbes- all babies are different my DS used to fall asleep after a feed but a friends DD is always awake and ready for action, just do what feels right for you and bub. And as far as rountines go i found we fell into one naturally so don't try to get yourselves into one. an it actually took several months before i could really see a routine forming.

Bisou-just read about your lovely boss in SMH, i didn't realise he was over here (in Swansea) when he died. Very sad for his family.

Just managed to smash a whole large jar of Jalepenos that DH bought today at Costco, luckily they come in two so he still has one jar. However, good news i managed to find the perfect dressing gown for popping on when i get out of the birthpool to keep me warm. Also bought some more pillows and a soft cushion for using on what ever i lean against during birth, the birth ball wall, DH's crotch, whatever. I love costco so much under one roof and so cheap. I also bought 6 nashi pears i love them and just what i feel like at the moment. Oh and i also bought 2 pairs of large yoga pants (not undies like tracksuit bottoms) to use for PJ's and yoga, and just slothing around, they are soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo comfortable and only £10 for the 2. oh they are just so stretchy and comfy i think this is all i will wear for the forseeable future.

WOOHOO!!!

Just went onto the Blooming Marvellous website to look at nursing bras. I got 2 Hot Milk ones really cheap. They were reduced to £14.99 and £9.50 so both together were cheaper than a brand new one.

I am so happy!!!!

Also DH is worried about his job. He works for a car parts manufacturing company. They make parts for Honda, Jaguar and Land Rover who are all slowing production so they aren't sure if their jobs are safe. So I've let him off.

Veggie: link to dressing gown? I'm looking for a new one as well...

oh kayz, thats a bit scary for you both. How is your head. I was just thinking do you usually have migraines are you feeling ok otherwise. Just be sure it's not something pregnancy related.

Not had a migraine in ages. I did have awful headaches at the start of the pregnancy. I don't know if it is to do with not getting much sleep last night.