Due Fab Feb 2009: the Curry and Cake Club

[onwardandupward]

Here is our new thread!

laidbackinengland - you made me laugh doweries!!!!!!!!! just going to plant the idea of eloping with which ever gender they fancy

congrats on the girl, after three brothers she is going to be very spoilt protected in every which way .

great title - I could eat cake all day long

Hiya! Just come back from holiday had a great time, we have our scan on Monday and will hopefully find out if we're having a baby brother or a baby sister for our little DD whose been an angel on holiday! feel a very proud lucky mummy!

Oh and I never need an excuse for cake and chocolate!! its my biggest weakness aways has been! lol

Morning

Where is everyone? I have had a lovely sleep and we all had breadkfast in bed closely followed by an intense naming session.

We now have a shortlist:

Frank (I like it, DH sort of likes it)

Franklyn (DH would prefer this, I'm not so keen)

Jed (we both agreed on this one)

Lorenzo (I LOVE this, DH likes it)

Laurence (will be used as a middle name)

We are going to the library today and into the city and then coming home to complete the Christmas cake- fruit has been soaking overnight...

MS will you stop talking about cake.......

why do my kids never stop winging?

it's getting to the point where i'm embarrassed to bring them places as while everyone elses kids will play about, keep themselves entertained and just get on with it my 2 are hanging off me whinging for things, whining, crying and fighting about toys with the other kids.

i'm sick of spending my time at peoples houses mediating fights, giving out when they're so naughty and listening to ds tantrum for things constantly

it's as bad when we're at home. i'm so tired of it now

Oh PT sorry you are having a bad day. You kids sound normal to me. I have 3 neices and while they are lovely on their own they are a handful when they are all together when we are out.

All kids are like this so please dont be embarrassed, other people will not even notice (they are too busy hoping there child is not the one to have just hit that little girl!!). Today is just your day to have the wingy children. Next week it will be someone elses turn to have the wingy children and you will not even notice.

make that month to have whingy children and it might be more accurate.

it's been bothering me more and more but last night at my friends really hit home how differant my 2 are. her daughter and 2 other little girls she was minding for the weekend were there as well.

they played quietly in the bedroom, watched a dvd, i had a tickle fight with them which did cause some shrieking all right but they calmed down again and pottered about and gradually fell asleep and except for wanting a cuddle now and again were no bother at all. if my 2 had been there they would have been shrieking, fighting, getting clingy and tantrumming for things and generally making the evening miserable for everyone.

But that would be at home and in front on you. These girls were not at home (except your friends little girl) and their parents were not there.

My mum was always being told what a good and helpful girl i was when I was at friends house but when I was at home I was a rotter........

Please try not to worry is is normal, me and my sister are very close in age and were always arguing and competing with each other. It drove my mum to distraction and sometimes I am sure it was our behaviour that added to her depression . But we were only children and didn't know what we were doing, we are really close now though!!

i think it is alot to do with them together as opposed to them individually as when i'm at friends house whie dd is at playschool ds is generally alot calmer and charms everyone, until she comes out of playschool and they start whinging and whining and squabbling with me and each other. and the few occasions i have to bring dd with me somewhere but don't have ds she is quite differant as well.

i just wish they didn't rub each other up the wrong way so badly! am hoping as they get older and get more independant friends it'll ease somewhat.... right? [wishful thinking emoticon needed]

thanks for listening to my complaining though.... i can grin and bear them for so long and then comes a day where my head just feels like it's going to implode and poor dp has enough work to be doing without listening to me have a breakdown about the kids!

PT that is what we are all here for. Lets face it we all need someone to vent to once in a while.

The fact that they are not like it when they are on there own speaks volumes to me. It is purely sibling rivalry!! THings calmed down between me and my sister when I started primary school and had my own friends.....

Hope you can have a more relaxing afternoon!!!! I am going to have a small gap between my two so I know that I will have the exact same problem soon enough!!

thanks

things may get worse rather than better after xmas though as they'll be in the same playschool til the end of term

on the plus side they'll be driving their teachers mad rather than me for a few hours a day it's going to happen alot during primary as 2 and 3 classes are in the smae room with the same teacher at a time as it's a tiny school.... lets hope they learn to ignore each other before then!

and to think, there's only going to be 2.5 years between ds and baby so it's probably going to be as bad with them!!!!!! what have i done

ah but they will be so close when older it will all be worth it.......

Hi PT
I have 2 dd's that are a year apart, they get on well most of the time but sometimes they drive me absolutely insane with their arguing!! They are also in the same class at school every other year as it's only a small school, but tbh i don't think they bother with each other as they've got their own friends. I'm just hoping they become best friends when they're older......

How cold is it ouside??? I've got extra padding and still freezing !

brothers and sisters will always squabble! My eldest two are a DS of 15 and a DD of 12. For about the last 8 or 9 years they have been squabbling on a regular basis and sometimes it has become physical. we are living abroad with the kids and after much soul searching we decided to send DD aged 12 back to a UK boarding school. DS half way through GCSE course so he couldn't go but he is returning to UK for A levels next year. Funny old thing, since they've been apart, they miss each other! Bloody kids!
Hate to rub it in Rachrox, but its very hot here! around 40 degrees today! sorry! Am looking forward to nice cool weather when I return to UK next month though!

mumoverseas Thanks...... ha ha!!

Grrr - we don't weekends like us?

My back froze at work yesterday and they had to call paramedics to get me downstairs and off to medway memorial to check things out (just a pulled muscle - note to self, don't lean forward while sitting on a chair to pick up phone from floor!).

Got home and curled up fully expecting J to look after me and cook and clean this weekend, for him to eat something dodgy and had awful s&d since 9-ish last night. All night every half hour he ran to the bathroom, bless him.

So I've been looking after him!

Oh, well. We might have a nice weekend soon...

Hope everyones feeling better soon Mrsy! xxx

just glanced at self in mirror getting out of bath

if my back was any spottier, I would put a collar on it and enter it in the dalmation section at crufts

[weeps piteously and self-indulgently]

PinkTulips kids are always good for other people!

Oh Mrsy, I really feel for you! As hard as it was getting downstairs last week I would have hated to be taken by paramedics (knowing my life it wouldn't have been paramedics, it would have been one of my trainers and they'd have played me up rotten!)

I've just come home from a night out on my own, went for an Indian which was very nice, then went to the cinema to see The Duchess also very nice. The screen hadn't been cleaned before my showing and looked like there had been a massive popcorn fight! I had problems finding space for my crutches to go down but as I got there late and it took me long enough to get in there in the first place I couldn't mention it till I left. The manager (I'm assuming) was horrified and gave me a guest pass, so more very nice! My hands are now killing as this is my first trip out on my crutches, took me ages to get the order right, I wanted to walk and swing rather than swing, step, step IYSWIM and that wasn't helping! It's not a very fast method of transport and certainly not comfortable!

BTW, I think I may be in tomorrows Mirror. The said Monday last Thursday but it wasn't and hasn't been all week. I was originally told it would go in their magazine so I'm thinking it may be tomorrow.

Just looked at the Mirror online TMB and there is an article about Liz Hurley flashing her knickers! is that really you?
Wish I could go to the cinema, the nearest one is a 4 hour drive away in the next country!

RANT ALERT RANT ALERT RANT ALERT

(D)H went to the football at 1.30pm yesterday. He said 'I'm going out for a few drinks afterwards'.

DSD came over at 4pm and I did the childcare thing, even though we have discussed at length the fact that I feel like a babysitting service and he actauly spends very little time with his daughter when she is here.

I went to bed at 10pm and text him to see when he would be home....no answer.

Fell asleep, he came in at 12pm and passed out on the sofa. I was then awake until 2am, DSD got up at 3.45am and then they both got up at 6.15am.

Today I am taking dd dancing while he looks after DSD and then we are supposed to be doing something as a family this afternoon. I very much doubt that will happen. I am knackered and cranky and shouty and I would just LIKE ONE WEEKEND I ACTUALLY ENJOY AND CAN DO SOMETHING FOR MYSELF!!!!!!

RANT OVER

oh dear, tell him you are going to a spa/shopping/check into a hotel to sleep next weekend and he can be on duty babysitter! I was knackered and cranky yesterday as the night before I was still wide awake at 4am and hadn't been able to get to sleep, finally dozed off around 4ish and then woke up at 6am with DH getting ready for work (office hours here start 7am) was a cow all day but last night he let me sleep in the spare room and looked after DD when she woke and I feel like a new woman today! tell him you need 8 hours sleep or will be a grumpy cow. worked for me!

No, No I'm not Liz Hurley, although according to that website that tells you who you look like I look like her

I used to call my ex DH long after we split up, I used it IRL and everyone knew it had a different meaning...

MS - did you ever have that talk with DH about getting your needs met ? My friends has a DSD and often does the lions share of looking after her when she stays whilst her DH goes cycling! He claims not to be very good at playing polly pocket ...how hard can it be ?!

So MS ..... what can you book/arrange/sort out for you to get some time for you my love ? BTW of your baby names, Jed is my favourite.

My DH has gone surfing this morning but got up with the kids at 6.00am so I could have a lie in. He knows how to give and take.

Weather crappy today - so it's another day of loafing and eating.

That's rather sexist of him laidback. TBD loves taking her downstairs to play with a ball.