Due Fab Feb 2009: the Curry and Cake Club

[onwardandupward]

Here is our new thread!

Coco, FB group says you haven't replied (so you haven't joined yet and therefore can't post). Love to the fleas.

nkweto - I'm so relieved I drive to work, as I cry when I can't decide what I want to eat at the moment!

MS - hehe! just the sort of status my hubby would post - just to prompt questions from friends (although his status the other was that he 'had suffered a humiliating defeat at the weekend' which a friend took to mean that I had got my own way over something, so I HAD to correct him that actually, John was talking about 'playing with little men' - warhammer figures - which has apparantly worried and intreghued his mates ).

Speaking of facebook, I saw that a friend of a friend is pregnant, and apparantly, looks huge. I saw on the 'feed' thingumy that my friend had commiserated that babies grow 2lbs a week in the last month or so - if I'd of seen that and not known the truth, it would have scared me into labour!!!!

Oh, and Cocodrillo - come join us!

Apologies for attrocious spelling - I forgot to spellcheck

TBM - so so glad Fifi is still wombside

Swampster ....all the best people have three boys first .

Off to bed. Have had a long day with my patients and am losing patience ! Got a great dress in Monsoon which isn't maternity, but I bought a couple of sizes up and hopefully will get me through Christmas too.

I had the most hideous time shopping earlier - only thing I liked was a top in Topshop, which they didn't have in my size. Ended up standing in the changing room in Dorothy Perkins crying - it really doesn't take much to set me off!

We have a 30th birthday party to go to on Saturday (surprise party, quite casual, in a pub by the Dome) and I have not got a clue what to wear. I can't even fall back on an old-y but good-y outfit with new fab heels, 'cos it wont fit, and I'm not allowed to wear heels...

nkweto, that's horrible. I rarely have a problem in the morning as about half the southbound trains start at my station and I usually get there with enough time to wait for one that does. But I usually stand for one, often two stops on the way home and the other day it was all 3 - my journey's only 10 minutes but the stops are quite far apart. It's amazing how absorbed people in priority seats pretend to be in their copies of London Lite.

Idontbelieve it, I'm shocked by your story, what a selfish bitch. Mind you, I've had two times on the bus when I asked someone if they would move because there were absolutely loads of other seats and I had a buggy (but wasn't pregnant again at the time). The first time the guy moved but then stood by the door berating me for not saying "please" - this was a seat that was marked for priority, unusually, for those travelling with children. There were loads of seats.

The second time it was an older woman, but the seat available was I thought a more comfortable one - forward facing - and on that particular bus layout there's one flip up backwards facing seat where you can sit with a buggy and if someone gets on with a 2nd you'd have to give it up anyway. Also, it's very likely that having a buggy there is going to make someone occupying the seat more uncomfortable. A middle aged woman sitting nearby and incidentally taking up the outside of two seats then started berating me for asking the older woman to move that short distance (I hadn't and wouldn't have asked her to stand up) and started on about how in her day buggies had to be folded. FFS.

Yesterday Tink wouldn?t come near me, I think she was rather confused by seeing me after two weeks. This morning she woke up about 5am and shouted ?hello? rather than calling for someone like she normally does, so I think she didn?t quite think that I might be really there [bless] She had the biggest grin on her face and went straight in my bed for ?me me? (I?ve been told it?s ok to continue as long as I don?t get contractions from it) took her awhile to figure out how to do it. She?s been quite clingy all day and even woke up after going to bed tonight looking for me and just curled up on my lap for more ?me me?. I can?t believe how much I?ve missed her!

Just spoke to her dad and he?s worried about leaving her here (at my parents) on this long term basis that seems to have been adopted. I can?t get out of my flat very easily on my own and it?s even harder with her, added to that that I?m still contracting and could have to go in at any time and if I?m on my own I would have to deal with her first, I could get Sure Start to increase the hours so I?m not left alone with her but we still have problems with evenings - I just said to him what would we have done if we had had her with us on Friday?

Thank you all again, I?m glad there are people out there thinking about me. Reading the glue and sticky comments gave me a chuckle, it?s my sticky blood that?s causing the problems! How ironic, eh?

Mrsy, do you want to go with my suggestion to you awhile ago to keep the right people in the group?

mumoverseas sorry to hear about your crash, I bet it was scary afterwards worrying about the baby but glad to hear that you?ve come out of it ok.

Suggestion for the name to include ?no babies in this thread please!?

Mayan test doesn?t work for me but I?m sure they don?t use our calendar

Coco that?s right (not sure the exact %) but basically the ph balance of the womb has more to do with sex than the sperm does, although it?s not 100% guaranteed that a woman who is more open to one will always have that one as they do get through sometimes.

morning all, hope everyone ok today.
TBM, sorry to hear Tinks was a little funny at first, and is clingly, poor little thing is probably just confused. I hope you manage to sort out whatever arrangements are best for you all, it must be so difficult for you. Are your parents far away?

nkweto, that is awful the way you (and some of the others) are treated on the trains/tubes. People can be such pigs! I used to get it on the shopping buses out here when my DD was very small and in her pram and car seat. I'd get to the bus stop really early to get in pole position to get on (sometimes half hour early) but then in the split second I'd take her car seat off her pram to put her on everyone would just push past and I'd often have to carry her in her car seat above my head to the back of the bus. Funny how most people would just look away as if they didn't see me! bitches! Problem is, I didn't used to have the confidence to say anything! Not anymore. Have to go back on the bus now as car broken and will be far more assertive this time! (I hope!)
BTW, mayan and ring test didn't work with me and as for the old wives tale about it depending on your shape thats rubbish as far as I'm concerned. I've been a fat lump each time and I've had boy,girl,girl and now another boy! Enjoy your fridays x

chilledmama forgot to ask what is the Chinese one? Got too bogged down in swinging rings around!

Right ladies - am going to post new thread title shortly.

Nkweto - what horrible people in your carriage. This is the patented Dinkystinky method of getting a seat (used EVERY morning this week on the tube) - get on packed tube, say "excuse me, rather pregnant lady trying to get to a seat" rather loudly as you head towards the priority seats, when you get to the priority seat, look the person sitting there in the eye and say (practice saying this in the mirror) "Excuse me - this is a priority seat. Please could I have it as I am rather pregnant" (Gesture to bump). If they say no, look shocked and appalled and about to cry and some other bugger in the priority seats will generally give up the seat - or if feeling bolshy (as I generally am) ask them why they are less able to stand than a 6 month pregnant woman in a packed tube carriage with the distinct possibility of having her bump banged into by people going past.

Works every time (and is striking a blow for bumphood).

For what its worth, when not pregnant, I always offer my seat to pregnant women or women with little children or elderly people/people on crutches - think is basic human decency thing.

Right, new thread created - get yourselves over to it.

TBM - so good to see you out of hospital with that little lady still where she belongs . Can you stay with your parents and Tink? Not much fun for TBD though. At least then, you would have someone around if you had any further problems and you know Tink would be happy and safe. Anyway, think positive thought and repeat the mantra "baby stay inside, baby stay inside"

I know what you mean about being housebound - even playing with ds can be problematic at times. If he wants to play with his trains on the floor, I just tell him mummy is the fat controller and has to work from the sofa otherwise I would get stuck on the floor! My dodgy back is giving up and all my pelvic area is knackered now, and I cannot manage more than an hour or so out on my feet. Got physio on Tuesday, so hopefully they can do something to help.

rosie - I am sure you will look fabulous on your wedding day. I was 6w pg with ds when we married, and ds thinks that he was there. He doesn't quite get the idea that he was in my tummy yet (he's only 2), but it is quite sweet when he asks "where me mummy?" You'll be able to do the same with your lo in years to come.

Commiserations for those who are having tube seat troubles. I am lucky that only commute once a week and have changed the station I board at so I get a seat. It means us all being up an out of the house half an hour earlier than previously (usually bribing ds with the chance to go and see a train so he will get dressed), but there is no way I could cope with the sardine-like quality of the other train. Sending assertive vibes your way gals!

MOS - what an awful experience. So glad that you and all your family are ok. Have only holidayed there, but found Saudi a really strange place from a woman's perspective IYKWIM.

Better go and do a proposal for a project and finish a community profile [weary emoticon]. Anyone would think this course was a PhD with the amount of work involved. I only want to be a jeffing librarian!!

I appear to have become a lurker - I'll try and post more next week. I'm unbelievably busy at work and knackered in the evenings so not much time online for me.

So glad to hear that you're holding in there TBM, fingers crossed that things stay as they are for as long as possible.

I had a hospital check up yesterday and all is well, and my BP is still normal. Hooray! I've also been booked in for another scan at 34 weeks (being a bit on the tubby side has SOME advantages, they want to scan again to check the size of the baby as they can't feel him as well through my stomach, but at least we get to see him again before he comes out!).

Could someone put a link in to the new thread - I'm always worried I won't be able to find it and I'll lose you all!

It's here!

joining the club

TinkerbellesMum DC3 (3rd baby. Lily-Hope born 20 weeks 28-29/9/05, Tink born 31 weeks 17/7/06, age 27, Birmingham) Official due date 01/02/09 but expected from early December
florrieandme DC2 26/01/2009
laidback DC4 27/01/2009 (age 34, North Devon)
nkweto DC2 30/01/2009 (age 34, West London)
oooggs DC4 30/01/2009 (age 34, Cornwall)
MamaGoose DC3 30/01/2009 (age 32, Spain)
MissMitford 31/01/2009
Plethora 31/01/2009 (age 37, East London but moving soon)
Ethelredtheunready (age 40, 2nd Baby, Tilly born 19/2/06, DC2 01/02/2009- Currently Chichester, soon to be Epping)
AngelDoll DC1 01/02/2009 (age 31, Sheffield)
Supersteph DC2 01/02/2009 (age 24, Torbay)
jenandbean DC2 02/02/2009
ruthmollymummy 02/02/2009
plantsitter 02/02/2009
Tummytrouble 03/02/2009
jamescagney 03/02/2009 (aged 33,Clare, Rep of Ireland)
Pregnantpopcornprincess DC3 04/02/2009 (pregnant with twins)(age 31, West Sussex)
MsLucy Boy 04/02/2009 (age 38, North London)
PinkTulips DC3 04/02/2009 (age 24, Roscommon, Ireland)
Davidsmom DC2 04/02/2009 (age 39, Cheshire)
MissDelighted DC1 05/02/2009
m2alyssa DC2 05/02/2009 (age 30, Isle of Man)
idontbelieveit DC2 06/02/2009 (age 31, Leeds)
Jelliebelly DC2 06/02/2009 (age 37)
Swampster (HasAWarmFuzzy) 06/02/08 (age 40, south London)
Gettingbigger 06/02/08
Guitargirl DC2 07/02/2009
Aila DC2 07/02/2009
Littlemissnorty DC2 08/02/09 (age 39, Kent)
Biscuitytrousers 08/02/2009 (age 31, Thames Ditton)
MarkStretch DC2 07/02/2009 (age 29, Norfolk)
KT1983 09/02/2009
Tinasan DC2 09/02/2009
Herbgarden 09-11/02/09 (age 38 Berkshire)
Ewemoo 07/02/2009
Singingintherain DC3 10/02/2009
KazzaL DC2 10/02/2009 approx (age 34, Ciren, Gloucs)
littleboyblue DC2 due early-mid Feb (age 27, Surrey)
Jenniferturkington DC2 11/02/2009
thehouseofmirth DC2 11/02/09 (age 38, Wimbledon)
Clarabumps DC2 12/02/2009 (age 27, Glasgow)
BumpVLump 12/02/09 (age 29, Surrey)
Louisebunny 13-15/02/09
Mapleleaf 13/02/2009 (age 38, Cambridge)
Nadssss 13/2/9 (age 29, living w. london)
Ranirani DC1 due 13/02/09 (age 35 in a couple of weeks, Herts)
Jelliebaby DC2 14/02/2009 (AGE 29, Cheshire)
Loopylula DC2 14/02/2009 (age 28, Sussex)
Dinkymum DC2 14/02/2009 (age 28, Notts)
Francesrivis 15/02/2009 (age 38, Devon)
onwardandupward DC2 second week of Feb (age 35, south west)
Americas 16/02/2009 (age 32, London)
MrsThreads DC1 16/02/2009 (age 36, Cheshire)
shubiedoo DC3 17/02/2009 (age 37, Canada)
Pluto DC2 18/02/09 (age 38, Kent)
CassandraB DC1 18/02/09 (age 35, Hampshire)
Catstar DC2 18/02/09 (age 35, Surrey)
Fruitstick DC2 19/02/2009 (age 32, London)
Imaginewittynamehere DC2 19/02/2009 (age 32, Cambs)
McDreamy DC3 19/02/2009 (age 37, Cyprus but will give birth in Bucks)
Dinkystinky DS2 19/2/09 (age 31, London)
DizzyBrummie DC2 17/02/2009 (age 36, Berks)
Rachrox DC3 20/02/2009 (age 28, Glos also!)
Calico1 DC2 21/02/2009 (age 40, West Herts)
Mentalpup DC2 21/02/09 (age 30, Glos)
Rosieposey DC4 21/02/09 (age 36, Wilts)
Winemakesmummyclever 23/0/09 (age 34, Lancs)
Neeerly3 DC3 23/02/09 (age 31, Mansfield)
Mirry71 DC1 23/02/09 (london)
LardyBump 24/02/09
Spottyshoes DC2 24/02/09 (aged 28)
Chilledmama DC2 25/02/2009 (age 31, Hampshire
Nellstar TBC
zikel DC2 TBC (23, Coventry)
Cocodrillo DC3 26/02/2009 (age 34, south london)
MrsBick DC2 26/02/2009 (Age 25, living in Surrey)
charlie7 DC2 28/02/2009 (Age 33, living in the Inner Hebrides)
dd1ofcolandgerry DC2 25/02/2009
theSuburbanDryad DC2 (age 26, living in South Bucks)
Babyignoramus DC1 27/02/2009 (age 27, Brighton)
Mumoverseas DC4 28/2/2009 (age 40, Saudi Arabia/West Sussex)
Blinamouse
Elkiedee
Questionkid DC1 3/2/09 (age 33, living in Wallington, Surrey)
mrsy first baby due 22/02/09 (24, Maidstone, Kent)