Due Fab Feb 2009: the Curry and Cake Club

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Here is our new thread!

evening all.. i am in need of tube journey sympathy, and also some of the assertiveness you all have when asking for a seat. I know Swampy does it and someone else mentioned doing it as well!

On the way home tonight.. stood because there no seats, no problem it was a quiet carriage, which generally means you will get a seat within 3 stops or so.. but this time.. for each of the 5 seats that came free over the next few stops, someone (always female sadly.. what has happened to sister hood?) pushed past me and sat down. Some even looked straight at my big stomach as if to contemplate offering me the seat and then just looked away. Finally just before I thought I was about to pass out, a lovely lady offered me a seat, to which I tried to say thank you for..but instead burst into tears ! I was MORTIFIED. Here I was sat inbetween everyone who had pushed past me for seats, crying my eyes out. It was the longest tube journey and I was quite shakey when I got home..

My DH's response was 'Always Ask For a Seat'...which is true, but somehow hard to do somedays.. anyway long and rambly note..but thought I would share.

not tried the wedding ring test. what do i do? Dh will tell me off if he sees me performing strange rituals.

This morning I stood - only one stop but man in priority seat was VERY busy studying his paper and I couldn't swear woman opposite wasn't pregnant too...

Stuck my big bump right in man's face till he couldn't ignore it anymore then when he finally offered the seat to me I smiled (can a swamp-monster do that sweetly?) and said, "no thank you."

Nkweto, if you felt mortified, imagine how those evil cows who pushed past you felt? They must feel like sh*t .

I've demanded seats before but not till I was about 8 months pg and just COULDN'T stand. I've considered asking for seats this time, but just can't quite summon up the assertiveness either, so you're not alone. I have taken to ripping my coat open and sticking my belly out even more as I board trains though!

I think often other women don't understand pregnancy and how uncomfortable it can be unless they've been there themselves.

Dangle your ring (any ring will do) over your bump, preferably from one of your own hairs. Keep it as still as you possibly can. I will start moving - backward and forward for a boy, round in a circle for a girl. This method NEVER fails .

nkweto-poor you. Assertive thought winging their way to you. Handbag the b*tches tomorrow!!
Coco- have you tried the chinese one???

Coco, I think you are right.. remove the jacked and position yourself where there is no doubt to anyone that you are pregnant LOL. yes there was lots of awkward shuffling, but deary me that made the journey seem even longer.

Hee Hee Swampy, must practice pushing my bump right in peoples faces. All the talk of Tiffin cake is making me very hungry.. must find out what sweet things we have in our cuboard...

ring is doing BOTH

Sounds like a conflict between what it IS and what you WANT!

You haven't joined the FB group, have you Coco? Come on, I want to seeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee you!

I don't go on FB much, will sign up tho... what do I do?

I just logged on to facebook for the first time in ages, and found out one of my BF's DHs has just auditioned for Britain's Got Talent. Is that like X-factor? How come she's not TOLD me?

Do you think you can see the baby's bits on the scan if you look REALLY hard?

Ah - it is now invisible - mrsy has hidden it from the trolls (but I am already on it, hee hee). If you accept my friend request, I should be able to send you an invitation.

You certainly can see the bits if the baby is in the right position and you know what you're looking for. Once they had been pointed out to me, everything was as plain as the nose on my face. Or something.

Before that it all looked a bit like clouds in the sky.

ok dokey.
What flavour is your new baby, do you know?

Introducing... DS3!!! Too, too much testosterone in my house!

Hello guys, sorry haven't been around for ages.
I finally plucked up the courage to ask for a priority seat on the bus next to the pushchair with dd in it on Tuesday. I wouldn't have asked but the seat behind was free (i couldn't free seat because of dd in the pushchair). The bitch in the seat near the pushchair refused!! She said, "I'm getting off soon." and she did about 4/5 stops later, I wouldn't even have asked but the seat behind her was free.
It's really put me off asking again.

swampster, off to look at your ds3 now!

i thought you meant you'd posted a scan picture up, have you?

LOL

People keep telling me if you've got two of one flavour the 3rd is 80% likely to be the same as the first two.

A good friend (and the only friend I have with 3 kids) has just had her 3rd boy too.

No, sorry idbi - I was just confessing the flavour to Coco.

have got invite and tried to post an introduction thingy.

tired technophobe and have to deflea cat now, back tomorrow!

Next time you need to ask more loudly, idbi - there's often someone (usually standing or they would have given you their seat already) who will help you fight your corner.

Or else go limp and faint into the bitch's lap (yes, of course I pull that one regularly).