Due April 2008 - Lets see those LO's!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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New thread!!!

I couldnt leave you in suspense tempting as it was .............

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Argh!!!!
Very good

My mum was an Aries, I'm a capricorn, we actually got on ok when she remembered she was a mum so hopefully that means aries and capricorn dont clash too much!
I'll have a look at specific parent/child relationships for you later in my books though and let you know what it says, if you're lucky there will be a good moon sign to calm the fire a bit!

I hope a pisces and an aries baby get on ok. I am told it should be ok though.
DP is a scorpio so things should get interesting.

One of my fears about having the baby early is that it will be an Aries! My mom, dad and sister are Aries and I didn't get on with any of them growing up! I still don't really so I am keeping my legs closed until the due date to ensure it is a Taurus! I'm a Leo btw and DH is a Capricorn (he gets on with EVERYONE though!)

Thanks for that VS, would love to know what you think..perhaps I should get my chart done? I've never felt like a die hard Capricorn to be fair, so maybe I have some air or something in my chart.

Eek M2BR, good luck keeping it in there till the time is right! I feel the same way about Aries, I just don't seem to get on with them. But I'm hardly going to care really when the day arrives am I

Right then ladies, I need advice.

I keep having panic attacks and getting very very stressed out.

One day I am absolutely fine and happy, the next im in tears in a state.

As I have said before my mum is a manic depressive and hasnt been to see me since I got pregnant. I know that has stressed me out a lot. Also seem to have fallen out with quite a few of my friends who have said I have changed since I got pregnant. They are friends who are quite selfish and bossy and take drugs and stuff when they go out, so I guess they havent appreciated me sayin g exactly what I think when normally I would keep quiet. Not all my friends have fallen out with me, I guess they are just nicer people.

DH and I get on so well most days, then when I am at my worst we have massive rows about nothing. He has said that I am difficult to be around and angry all the time and have changed and am hormonal..... grrrrrr.......

I thought people were supposed to make allowances for pregnant people but the people closest to me seem to be telling me I am horrible.

Told midwife I was stressed, she ignored it. Told doctor and they have refered me to a phychiatrist who I see on Thursday. That has made me feel properly mad.

I think I have worried so much about getting PND like my mum had, that I have made myself depressed worrying so much. It also seems like I am the only person feeling like this. Everyone else seems really happy and excited. Im excited about the baby but not at all excited about day to day life at the moment. Im so up one minute then down the next, its really confusing.

Aussiediva, what's your DOB and time/place of birth?
If you want to email me it so it's not quite so broadcasted you can do
fan-fkn-tastic at hotmail dot co dot uk
I dont have the time or patience to do a full chart but I can do you a basic one including your other main planets.

The panic attacks could be purely hormonal (have had a few myself) and exaccerbated by pressure on the lungs.... I woulnd't worry too mucha bout PND until after the baby arrives, you can't possibly know where your hormones will end up yet. though.

I have just ahd a local political p[arty on the phone asking me to stand in the elections ina few weeks , has everyone else given up on this baby coming so much they're looking for a career for me or what? And Dh has gone from not hearing from work colleagues outside work for years at a time to three calls a week with subtle reasons he ahs to be in that evening... 'of just thought i'd phone you to say my wife hurt her wrist'

Excuse the lack of empathy but why on earth shuld I give a damn????? I can hardly say 'well my waters broke earlier (if they ever do) but that's OK, i'll labour alone and amke sure Dh comes in, I can cope with 2 disbaled kids, one otehr and being in labour as longa s your wife has back to back cups of tea,

can you tell I am feeling very hormonal this evening? pmsl

*three calls a day

jennie, try not to worry that is probably what is making you worse!
Hormones do make us feel shite, I get just as many lows as you I'm sure and have had PND, severely, the best thing is to just get checked over and if you're at riskof it, get on some tablets or something. PND is only really awful when not picked up.
Also keep talking, here, to your pysch, whoever, just feels better to get it all out sometimes
xxx

Thanks VS and Peachy. I think it just gets me down that so many people keep telling me I have changed and am not nice to be around. DH said our house was "abject misery" today, whatever that means.

tell him he should try beinga round me at the moment- I can assure you I would be making him grateful - I have driven my DH to lego marathons in a desperate attempt to escape!

And whilst you are worried about it, I don't care one jot. he put it in, he gets the fall out

I wish I could be like that. Normally I can cope with anything. But now, when we argue, I sit there and im not actually crying cos im holding it all in, but tears still start rolling down my face. Its so wierd.

I keep telling him its normal for a lot of women but he keeps saying that I dont understand how hard it is for him....... bstrd!

jennie - i think its normal for pregnancy to feel more emotional than normal, maybe not coping with things as u would normally as well as rying to deal with the physical difficulties of being this far pregnant. If only men could try it for a few days they would be a lot more empathetic to what your going through.

Also second what peachy said you cant tell what will happen after LO arrives, dosent automatically mean you will suffer as mum did, but you are in a much stronger position than others as you will be more aware of symptoms and can get sorted quickly IF it does happen. RL friend of mine is only just being treated for PND and her DS is 2 years old, if its any help the pysch nurse who visits once a week has probably helped more than anything else so dont feel bad about being referred to pyschiatry dept.

Hugs for you Jennie - I am so sorry you are feeling like this.

Thank u

The midwife is coming to my house tomorrow to go thru the birth plan for an hour rather than the normal 15 minutes in the portocabin. She just rang to say she is bringing the health visitor with her. That either means she is very worried about me or thinks DH is beating me up Not sure how I feel about health visitor coming round too.

Peachy thanks for the offer of the premmie size sleepsuit but we don't know if LO is DS or DD. Jennie- sending hugs thinking of you

Hello all - am finally into my last week at work - back was killing me today after full day sat at pc so think it's time to stop work

PFJ - glad your mum finally made it - good luck with all the "happenings"

jenjen - don't worry unduly about health visitor coming - the best thing you can do is acknowledge PND may be an issue for you (which you have already done) and ask the right people for help - if you don't need it then great - but it's there if you do. If you had a broken leg you wouldn't hesitate to ask for help. And you'd be surprised how many other people have been there before
(as for your DP tell him to shut up whinging )

I am v annoyed as I got all excited cos figleaves do underwired nursing bras - but they don't do them in my size - so another 6 months of droopy boobs coming up.....

Big hugs jenjen. There are others on here who are giving you much better advice than I ever can but just wanted to say I'm feeling for you.

It sounds like you're doing all the right things though. I'd imagine that recognising it could be a problem for you and speaking about it can only be a good thing.

Jennie, sending you big hugs...my mother is very similar and please be reassured that we are all going through massive hormonal changes, it's just that our circumstances are all different and so our stress manifests in different ways. It is impossible for our partners to understand fully what we are going through no matter how understanding they are - I have had many nights just sobbing because I feel so unlike myself and often very misunderstood. Now is the time you really, deep down, want your mum around to put an arm around you and tell you it will be alright. If you don't have that it really can make you feel very alone. You are much stronger than you think, and you've done the hardest part which is be self-aware enough to know how you are feeling. Stay strong hun.

Also, if your friends are telling you youve changed, remember that sometimes this is not a bad thing. Having a baby does change you we leave behind part of our old selves. If your friends feel threatened by you "moving on" let them - it's the new ones you make that will mean more to you in the end.

VS - you are such a star to offer! I'll email you my details and if you realy can be bothered then I'll be so chuffed

I am straight on to Figleaves now to see if my size is there - but judging from last time the day my milk came in my boobs had their own postcode.

LOL aussie - I am totally different size this time - last time I was a 36K never even knew it was possible to have boobs that big!

this time my nursing bra size is 32H - probably the difference made by putting on 4 stone first time and only a stone this time

Can you belive they have a nursing bra called "Hot Milk" ?!!

Thanks aussie and everyone for the hugs. Am defo missing having a mum around to help me. I texted her and told her and she said I was being silly. Normally I cope with her manic depression ok but at the moment its making me anxious.

Just going to watch Poppy Shakespeare on C4, the Times says dont watch it if you are feeling depressed - hell.

LOL at the nursing bra issues. I have no idea what size I will be so just bought one a bit bigger than the one i have now, which incidentally is too small. Does your rib cage get smaller once baby is born? I couldnt be bothered to get measured properly, probably regret that.....