The November 2023-ish baby club!

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A new thread, under a new topic!
Welcome all and please tag anyone I’ve not, because I just copied and pasted from the old thread…

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@travellingislife
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@TMI2000

@TMI2000 we have at 5 weeks pp, I was honestly to worried about doing anything before that and admit I was a little anxious doing the deed but it was fine (I had c-section)

This is a random question…but when did or has anyone started ovulating yet? I’m pretty sure I’m ovulating at the moment (usual cramping/discharge) but can’t remember it being so soon after with previous births, I’m 5wks4days pp today. I do suffer badly with ovulation cramping m but my god the cramps today are something else😩hoping this isn’t how it’ll be going forward 🤞🏼 has anyone else noticed the same?

myself and OH have also recently been chatting about permanent contraception, more so vasectomy. I really don’t think I could put myself through anymore down there after the section and infection, I have major fear now. Any other couples thinking of going through the same? We don’t know anyone close enough that has gone through it so really don’t know what to do/expect.

@Katiec1 I was sterilised during my section. I have 3 DC and have had 3 sections, all with different complications, lots of internal adhesions and the last 2 with minor infections around my incision.
Another surgeon was actually called into the room to unstick adhesions to my right tube to make sure the sterilisation could be done, so I think they thought it was better that I didn’t get pregnant again, enough to get someone else in to finish the job instead of abandoning it, which is what I was warned might happen if they weren’t able to do it.
This meant that my section took about 2 and half hours, although DS was out within minutes.
It does still feel very final and I am still worried that I might regret the decision in the future, but me and DH are both 33 and decided we have to stop somewhere … right? I also think I’d have been advised it wasn’t safe to have anymore anyway, but this wasn’t a question I was brave enough to ask after the tubal ligation was complete.

We haven't tried yet ..mainly due to lack of sleep/tiredness/colds and flu and managing a toddler.
But I remember from last time. It wasn't too bad (post section).
@Katiec1 also thinking of a vasectomy. We know A few people who have had it done with no issues

We were 4/5 weeks PP before doing the deed again. I had, had a section and it was fine to be honest, no pain or discomfort whatsoever.

i am 33 with 3 children and my husband is booked for a vasectomy this month. We made the decision when we first found out I was pregnant, and my husband went to the doctors about two months before I was due to get the ball rolling but we had agreed he wouldn’t do anything until baby was here and I had fully recovered. We know that we don’t want anymore children as after two boys and a girl, that’s definitely it for us. We asked our self when would we stop and we both felt there was no need to extend our family any further, we are ready to enjoy the finality of our family unit.

we know quite a few people who have gone down this route too and it sounds like a fairly simple
procedure with a very minor and short recovery period.

Whilst we are on this topic, is anyone considering having another baby? I can't believe I'm considering it given I was adamant in pregnancy that I couldn't do it again. We are both getting on in age (late 30s) and I feel like I want to try for another one asap before I turn 40 (it took us well over a year to conceive this one). I'm not sure where this feeling is coming from and I haven't even voiced it out loud, forget mention to DH (as he will get his hopes up!). My best friends have been struggling to conceive and one had a miscarriage so doesn't feel right to discuss with them.

I would love another baby, but after my 1st pregnancy I ended up having Irish twins as they call them , as my older 2 are 10 months apart and this is my 3rd baby and I don't fancy having another set of Irish twins xx

We are going down the vasectomy route too. It’s just terribly hard to get a doctors appointment to even start the ball (excuse the pun) rolling

@JoyApple I am also late 30s and have just had our first but would love another baby. I reckon we will try after a year to allow my recovery from the c section. I am nervous though. I had issues with pre-eclampsia and pgp before and after the birth and am looking at other posts talking about intimacy and realising I am still bleeding quite heavily almost 6 weeks in so maybe I need to forget this pregnancy before we plan another!

We might have a third. Undecided. If we do it’d be a bigger age gap, maybe 4 years or so. I want to have some time not being pregnant or breastfeeding and have chance to focus on work again for a bit. lol and get to consistently sleep all night for a year or two.

I’m 28 so we have plenty of time.

@Nov2023 it's tricky isn't it? What I'm dreading and feeling unsure about is the pregnancy too tbh. Morning sickness in the first trimester and sheer exhaustion and weakness in the third trimester.

Morning everyone,
I can’t remember who it was who mentioned that when the baby isn’t taking the bottle all of a sudden it may be because they are actually aware of who is feeding her. That seems to be the case for us. Now DD is taking the bottle from me but not from my husband, only if I sit next to them. We shall keep persisting as I really want him to be able to help with the feeding.

We are definitely not having sex yet, I’m 7 weeks pp ( emc) but don’t feel up for it, too tired and I don’t want the intimacy.

I really feel like I’d like another baby but I’m too old, I do feel sad because I’ll never have another one, I wish I had been ready for children earlier in life.

I forgot to ask in my previous post: my DD has started having a poo every 2-3 days, is that normal?! She is exclusively breastfed. This never happened with my DS so I’m a bit worried. She is 7 weeks.
Maybe it’s my diet over the Christmas period , normally I eat tons of vege and very healthily but it’s been less so over the holidays..

@Travellingislife
I'm still struggling with the bottle. 8 week old just won't take to it :(

Also ebf and have notice that poo's are every2-3 days too.
Currently baby is recovering from vaccines so has been cluster feeding/snacking and has had really disturbed sleep at night. Did anyone else experience this?

We're almost at 7 weeks and bub was around 9lb4 at the weekend when we weighed her, have her 6 week assessment at the weekend with the HV so will get a more accurate measurement then.

As for sex... well I haven't even contemplated it yet, I'm struggling with my MH (not PND but an ongoing decades long thing) and am struggling to get back to a place where I even want my OH to touch/hug me let alone anything else! I know I'm now at a point where I need to push myself to be more affectionate but it's not easy. I also know it's going to cause bleeding and as I've been co-sleeping it's going to be a matter of finding the right time and place too when it does happen.

Also doesn't help that bub has been poorly, nothing serious just a general seasonal virus. I am definitely super thankful that I work in nursing with adults and children with bubba #2 as I'm so much more chilled about things and happy to manage more at home and wait it out at home. OH is way more twitchy as its his first so it's all new to him so I just explain everything to him and he settles. We both still have thrush though and the oral gel that we should be using has a long standing supply issue so we've got to go for another 2 weeks of the original treatment we were given and hope for the best...

Apologies for the essay 🤣

FYI

@foodislife1 That’s so hard when they don’t take the bottle, my ds didn’t for a very long time even though we tried everything. Eventually when he was eating more solids he started taking it but it took until about 10 months. Try and persist as it might start to work but some babies might just refuse.

My dd just took a bottle from my husband again, I’m very grateful! Now we need to make sure he feeds her everyday to keep it going, we had a day or two when she just refused it, from both of us. Not sure what that was but then she started taking it from me again. My dh has been sitting next to me while I was bf then when I was giving the bottle, next he was holding the bottle and I was right there, to now when he’s back to doing it on his own.

She’s not had her vaccines yet but it sounds normal for them to be a bit unsettled. My son was I seem to remember. My midwife told me I should give calpol regularly the first 24h.

Hey, we started being intimate again about 3-4 weeks but I didn’t tear or have any stitches so it just felt a little bruised. I did bleed a tiny bit after the first couple times, we have 3 kids so no idea how to find time but I try make it work as it’s important to my husband and to give each other time 😂

baby girl is 7 weeks ebf, and I think she has reflux 🥲 I’ve never had a baby with it before but she’s bringing up alot of her feeds after, she’s getting very unhappy in the evenings mostly and very windy baby. She has hip dysplasia so in a Pavlik harness so obviously very stiff and kept in the same position. Not much I can do for her I don’t think with her only having breast? But I’m going to keep her upright a lot, infacol and possibly cut out cows milk from my diet to make sure it’s not that.

Happy new year all! How different 2024 is going to be for us all!

Our new year has had an unexpected start; we saw the specialist yesterday about an element of the condition LO was born with.
We were expecting the same result as with previous dc where the specialist has said watch, wait and hope to avoid the surgery as it often amends itself by the time the child is 2. And in both counts, it has.
Alas this time the specialist has judged it to be too severe and surgical intervention is the only option and he’d like to operate within 12 weeks! Slightly terrifying. We’ll have to wait to see where the operation can take place, there’s 2 usual options but if no where is available in the time frame we could be sent to Liverpool!

Hello everyone ,

My little one is very congested & snotty is there any remedies or anything you can give them ? His 8 weeks Tuesday, his not had his jabs yet , his taking his bottles completely fine & heavy wet nappies & pooing a lot too, but where's he so congested his getting frustrated and won't sleep at night , I've tried nasal drops but doesnt seem to be helping . This weather doesn't help either as it's so cold atm , it's upsetting as we are both not getting much sleep with it xx

@TMI2000 after such a bad tear, I would not be rushing to get back to sex. Fine if you feel ready, but completely understandable if you don’t. I waited 9wks after a third degree (different baby), was terrified, but it was actually fine. Hope it’ll be ok for you too, but it can take a while.

@Spareincoming sorry you’ve got these worries. Looking like our eldest will need a (relatively small) op this year too, which is scary enough, never mind with such a little one.

@LeeanneD11 lots of recommendations for nosefrida sucker thing for congestion on an earlier thread. I haven’t tried it yet though.

Can anyone recommend a comfortable rocking/gliding nursing chair?

@LeeanneD11 nosefrida snot sucker and saline spray is my go to, plus a warm mist humidifier overnight. I breed ‘em snotty!

@reememberly We have the basic Kub nursing chair and footstool; we’ve had it years and it’s been great; the lift up to adjust the recline arms can be a pain initially but once you’ve found the right recline that suits you and baby it’s fine.
We’ve been through surgeries before but never so young!
We’ve known this specialist for years and I know he absolutely wouldn’t be doing it if he didn’t deem it absolutely necessary and I do have every confidence in his decision but this little one seems to have it rough!

Thank you for the recommendation I will give that try,

So overnight his still very congested , and when he cough his cries and has very flushed cheeks , he slept from 12.30-8.30 and normally wakes for a feed . His so just unhappy xx

@Alloveragain3

Hope your well I read on the last thread about your little one being admitted to hospital for RSV - I hope your little one is fully better now. But I was wondering what thier symptoms was please , my little one is very congested , very wheezy and cries each time he coughs . He very sleepy , eating and pooing ok atm , but his not very alert today xx

@LeeanneD11 when I called GP about my little boy’s congestion he said as long as he had no fever and was still feeding normal with expected wet and dirty nappies to try and ride it out.
But if your instincts are telling you he isn’t right, it really doesn’t hurt to have him checked if you’re in the UK you could always get advice from 111 and they might get you an appointment somewhere rather than waiting in A&E. A doctor would always much rather see a well baby for reassurance!