The November 2023-ish baby club!

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A new thread, under a new topic!
Welcome all and please tag anyone I’ve not, because I just copied and pasted from the old thread…

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Glad the nap are better now @user666555

We’re doing ok although had a few rough nights of ‘split nights’ just wanting to play in the middle of the night for a couple of hours, and we went back to a night feed too, although last night she was great and no night feed so it seems very up and down atm! I know her tummy has been giving her bother since starting weaning she seems quite constipated, other than prune purée and water any other tips to help constipation from solids? I think that is affecting her sleep also as she done a massive 💩 yesterday and slept like a dream last night

Does anyone else's baby tend to look around as opposed to straight at them when they hold them in their lap and you and baby face each other? My DD tends to look left or right. She will make eye contact if I sing or speak in a high pitched tone but prefers to look around. Spoke to the HV who said she'll come and do a developmental assessment. Feel anxious.

My babies eye contact is great but she’s not babbling, just making noise. I’ve asked hv to come out also! X

my baby has good eye contact unless he is tired but no babbles. should I be concerned? He has also stopped sleeping.. He had about a month of sleeping well and wasn't too bad but has now had 6 weeks where it is worse each night. I lost count at 15 wakes last night I feel like every time. we have a step forward we have ten steps back at the moment!

We have limited eye contact and no babbling, just noises; my LO is one of the older ones in here too.
Lots of rolling with purpose though so I’m assuming he’s developing movement first…

No babble as such here. Noisy when tired, hungry or when baby wants something (or is annoyed that 3yo has taken something away!)
Nearly 7.5mo, I'm not concerned, they really are so different. We've had our first rolls this week though!

@DollyGx@DollyGx how has sleep been? I've barely had babe in their cot this week. I want my bed back!

@Thack she’s actually been really good this week! (I’m sure I’ll now have the night from hell after saying that out loud 🫠). No more split nights and she’s been sleeping peacefully until around 4/5ish then waking for her dummy but as soon as I pop it back in she’s asleep again. She has been waking earlier than usual though, 6.15 being the earliest, regardless of what time she does to bed, so that’s a bit annoying! But I’m thankful for the peaceful sleep before that. Sounds like a tough week for you, you’ve just got to do what you need to do! Hopefully bubs will be sleeping better soon. I think I must have the only baby on the planet that actually sleeps better in her own bed than in mines, it seems to excite her too much! I’ve still got her in the snuzpod though, that’s the next big thing, putting her in her cot/own room, dreading it 🙈

My LO has been screaming the house down for a feed around 2-3pm. She goes to bed around 10ish. Looks like we've hit another growth spurt maybe?

Can anyone else's baby not sit up yet? Mine can't and it's really making me feel anxious.

For those whose babies do sit up - how can I help her strengthen those muscles that'll help her sit up?

Thanks x

@user666555 i don't think that's abnormal, but we've just had a huge spurt. Very suddenly wants to be pulled up to standing, and can entirely support their own weight (I literally have an arm around for balance but that's it), can sit for short periods, is trying to bring knees in under hips during tummy time and pushing with arms more. Literally within the space of about a week.

Sleep still dire 😅.

My baby sometimes has great eye contact, like doing nursery rhymes, other times will refuse to look at you if holding him. Interestingly, if I hold him he'll ignore me and laugh and stare and babble at DH. If DH holds him he laughs, babbles and stares at me. Think he's starting seperation anxiety now.

Have you noticed a link with eye contact and tiredness? It's normal for them to avoid when they are winding down for sleep.

@FlyingHighFlyingLow so true, it is all so fast around this age! DC1 and my neices and nephews started crawling, cruising, using sounds better and getting teeth in at 9-10 months. It's not far away.

Saying that, a 1yo in a group I go to has only recently started crawling. She's a bright little thing, just she's been happy rolling around places and chillin'.

Hi all, do any of you have any advice for ditching the dummy? Sleep is still such a massive issue here and I think the dummy is contributing to it massively. Tonight I decided after 4 wake ups since being put down at 7pm that it has to go. How do I soothe little one without creating any further issues? He doesn’t respond very well to us doing check ins/shushing/patting etc, this seems to make matters worse but it breaks my heart hearing him so upset. Any advice much appreciated! Thank you.

@Chlo496 sorry no advice as we are also in the same boat! Tried going cold turkey but that was a disaster. I’m still to move her into her room/cot and when I do I’m just going to chuck a few dummies in her cot in the hope that she’ll start putting it back in herself 🤞🏼 (wishful thinking 😬)

@DollyGx it’s tough isn’t it. We decided to go cold turkey and he’s been without it since I posted so about 2 days now. There is a bit of crying to settle, bedtime is much worse than naps but is lessening, he only had it for sleep anyway.
In all honesty it hasn’t really improved the wake ups, we’re getting a few more longer stretches rather than waking every hour or so crying but maybe this will improve as he gets used to not having the dummy, I am still glad we have done it though. We’re planning on moving him into his own room too, as I think we disturb him when we come to bed, but we haven’t even got it ready yet!

Hello, how are everyone doing?
We are definitely going through a regression/ progression , whatever you want to call it, of some sort. About 10 wakeups in the night, only napping for 20 mins then waking up upset and still super tired, takes ages to get her back down, if I manage it at all, and very annoyed/ grumpy/ easily upset.
She’s 7.5 months now and I remember that my DS went through something similar around 8 months.
She’s not started crawling yet but you can see she’s trying to.
We’ve still not got any teeth coming through, I thought they had come out a month ago but it was false alarm 🤪
Hope everyone are doing ok!

@Travellingislife We sailed through the 8 month mark 2 weeks ago and smugly thought we’d skipped the regression… alas no!

Since last week Lo has been ridiculously clingy, having far too short naps and we've been subjected to several 3am wake ups, which seem to be angry rants, not hunger, not cold etc, just a cross baby!

We’ve still only got the bottom two teeth that arrived 3 months ago. No sign of the uppers erupting anytime soon.

Weaning remains a slow process, we’re off purées but a fine mash is still demanded. I half expect we’ll hit 1 year, still making slow progress and he’ll suddenly ask for a cheese sandwich!

Lo is rolling everywhere now and enjoys pulling the elder DC’s toys over…
He gets into crawling position quite easily and I think it’s only a matter of time before he starts pushing himself backwards and we have to block the gap between the floor and sofa up, where all his siblings have gotten stuck over the years!

@Spareincoming haha they do tend to give you a false sense of security. I hope this phase won’t last long.

We’re doing a mix of baby led weaning and purées, she seems to like everything so far.
She’s drinking from a cup and takes milk from it too, still not very keen on the bottle.. I’m still bf but would like to stop soon.

I’ve not taken the dummy away, I’m still too scared..
We tried to put her in a cot in her own room but we had to keep going in so she is in the cot in our bedroom now, we’ve taken one side down so it’s like an extension of our bed, it makes it much easier to tend to her when she wakes up in the middle of the night.

@Travellingislife Which cup are you using? I’ve always used a munchkin 360 but none of mine have taken to it before they’re 1, I’d like to start this Lo earlier if I can.

I don’t take the dummy away until 12-18 months; I see it as they’re using it to soothe whilst they can’t effectively communicate so why rush to take away that comfort.

I've just about persuaded him to nap in his own room, but no luck overnight yet. Thank goodness we’ve two identical cots or I’d be moving the blumin’ thing about constantly!

@Spareincoming I started using a Doidy sippy cup but now she drinks from any old glass.

That’s clever having two cots!

I’ll probably keep the dummy for a while too, it is great for soothing her and my son never took one and it was very difficult to soothe him at times.

@Travellingislife Drinking for a cup is great! My one started well-ish on sippy cup but never got any better and is messy with it now. and the doidy cup too so he just isn't drinking much water yet!

@Travellingislife my friend had twins and was done before I had my first, so we got given a lot of doubles of things, ignoring the storage issues that’s presented, having has been a godsend at times!

Think we’ve got at least one Doidy cup somewhere, (though it could be being used as a Dollie’s cup…) I’ll find it and give it a try!

We've come out of the sleep regression, for now at least! Baby is still on my bed far more than I'd like but I accept that for now.

A little bum shuffling is starting and they look interested in pulling up but haven't done it yet. No rolling, rarely lifts bum when on their belly.
Food is blw, they are keen and will try everything (yay, someone in the house finally eats my cooking!!).

This zombie thread popped up this evening. I really needed this:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/parenting/4615182-9-month-old-not-standing-no-words?reply=119367450

@Thack The Bluey episode
mentioned on that thread makes me bawl every time!
I try not to worry about milestones now, my tribe have all been so different and at 40 and a bit I’m more
accepting of comparison being the thief of joy!

@Spareincoming so true! I recommend "baby race" to new mums I meet, it's one of the best.

Somehow, all the extra scans and worry of a low centile baby has set me on edge more now than it did when I was pregnant. I'm a little more alert to signs of problems, but at this age so much happens in a short space of time that I know I need to be patient.

This baby is working on everything at the same time so is master-of-none right now. I'm sure I'll be mum bragging in no time.

Had anyone gone back to work? I have my first WFH kit day this week. My brain is jelly but my bank account will thank me.

@Thack to be fair I was the same until we got through the surgery and procedures, then I almost gave myself permission to calm down!

I’ve been back at work for almost 3 months. I’m back part time and I’m glad of it!