The November 2023-ish baby club!

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Welcome all and please tag anyone I’ve not, because I just copied and pasted from the old thread…

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Feeling envious of the sleep stretches too! We are stuck in a cycle of going to sleep late. Baby is so fussy at night and cries almost non stop from 9pm to maybe am or just after so we only go to bed then. Tried putting him down at 8 but wakes up inconsolable at 9. He has stayed asleep as late as 9am though but wakes to feed every 2 to 3 hours and can take a while to settle again. Hoping he develops a better schedule as he gets older but reflux and wind have him fussy and difficult to settle for now

@Travellingislife it was painful for me. For DS most of that time he didn’t have any symptoms so long as we still gave him the oral gel.

It’s made me really wary of taking antibiotics when breastfeeding now.

Hi, do any of you have a car mirror for baby that stays in place and doesn't need adjusting? Ours keeps falling off so I need to get a new one. Checked reviews for a few but they seem so mixed. Thanks

@JoyApple we've given up on mirrors; DH found a camera on Amazon and I really like it. The other DC can’t adjust it or pull it off like they do with the mirror.

Oh she’s not perfect with her sleep, I don’t think any baby is to be honest, not at this age. My little one does sleep long stretches but she can also have periods where she doesn’t sleep much and she’s very difficult to settle. We’ve had this the last couple of days where she’s refused to settle till 12am and then wakes up three hours later for a bottle, whereas before that she was going 10pm till 5am for almost a week. I think babies can be so up and down so when we do get a long stretch I always remind myself to try and make the most of it because it’s not guaranteed she will sleep again the next day 😊

I'll take a look at my mirror tomorrow, it was from boots, hasn't failed me.

"I believe" in the four month sleep regression. With DC1 it was going ok and then all of a sudden went to pot. Fingers crossed it doesn't happen here and good sleep continues for those blessed with it.

@PinkPlantCase @JD90
Did you have to get a swab done at the gp before getting treatments?
My nipples may be a bit pinker than usual and they might feel a bit tender after feeds. Not sure if it’s in my imagination, if it’s normal or if it’s thrush! My LO is quite fussy when she eats but I think she’s always been. My brain is mush lol, can’t remember anything!
I might phone the gp on Monday but don’t want to go unnecessarily.

Morning all,
What’s your LO’s routine at the moment? Do you have one? Sleep patterns etc?

My DD seems to wake up around 6am, feed, stay away for an hour then sleep 2-3h but she’ll be disturbed when I take my DS to nursery and take the dog out for a walk but doesn’t seem to mind, she continues to sleep on and off.
She eats about every 2h-3h in the day and generally sleeps well. She’ll be awake for 45-1.5h after she’s been feeding. She is a bit restless around 5pm and doesn’t seem to know what she wants to do, we carry her a lot then, but she settles and go to sleep and doesn’t have an awake window before I go to bed with her between 8-9pm ( super early I know but I’m knackered). Then she has a feed, pretty much a dreamfeed, and sleeps until 1ish if I’m lucky, she usually eats again 3h later. I feel that she isn’t awake much compared to what my DS was but I probably can’t remember correctly.

@JoyApple ive got the Onco car mirror, got it off Amazon a few years ago for my son and then I thought it was a bit faffy but with my dd I’ve not had to adjust it yet. Maybe I just got better putting it in place this time around 😅

@Travellingislife we don't really have much of a routine. Weekdays I have to get baby up around 6:30 so I can feed, get DS ready for nursery and do the nursery run. Like you, babies routine does get disrupted as she will sleep in the car etc but I don't really have a choice and she has to 'fit around nursery runs unfortunately.
Wake windows are roughly 1-1:30 and she's fed on demand which ends up being every 2-3 hours too.

Evening routine is again a bit haphazard. I aim to feed and have her sleep in the sling whilst
I sort out DS (bath, book and bed) but to be fair 70% of the time it doesn't always work out and I just wing it!

I think a routine will be easier after 12/16 weeks.

@Travellingislife were not in much of a routine either. LO wake windows like others are around an hour but like you he can get fussy in the evenings and he’s not sure what he wants. He’s definitely a fomo baby and fights his sleep a lot during the day. He’s fed on demand every 3-4 hours and usually go to bed at 10ish and either wake up once around 3am or last night he slept through til 5 which was bliss!
8 weeks today and dreading the 4 month sleep regression!

No real routine here at all with my 9 week old.

We get up any time between 6am and 11am depending on if my DH is home to take my 4 year old down for breakfast or not (he works shifts).

If we're in bed, she'll feed and doze on and off.

She then has to fit in around the nursery run / shopping/ chores so I just let her do what she likes really. She isn't a buggy fan, so is in the sling or carried.

If she's hungry she's fed and this can be anything from every hour to every 3 hours.
She gets one bottle of formula a day, whenever she seems to be hungry and my breasts aren't overly full.

If she seems tired (red eyebrows, upset) I'll try and help her sleep by walking/rocking, but I don't pay attention to timing to be honest. Sometime she'll feed to sleep.

We head up to bed between 11pm to 1am and she'll usually sleep quite well, but wakes every 2-3 hours for a quick feed.

This is all interspersed with about 12 nappy changes as she poos ALL the time!

Oh and a bath when she poos through!

And I should add, I also WFH so I'm forever trying to fit in work on my laptop. I work for myself, so no meetings or deadlines, but it's still quite stressful.

@Travellingislife I never saw a dr in person when I had it. But I had been breastfeeding for 18 months so knew something was off. And the white in DCs mouth that’s probably the most obvious sign.

Routine wise DD is a very strong napper, she’ll have 2 3 hour long naps a day and the odd shorter one. Naps in the sling or pram. If I put her down at the right moment I can rock her to sleep in the pram inside the house.

My DS has never napped for 3 hours in his life 😂 it’s funny how different they are.

@PinkPlantCasemy DS is the same! He was an awful sleeper, still isn’t great tbh. No 2 is much more chilled and a much better sleeper thankfully, long may it last!

@PinkPlantCase my four year old has always been a terrible sleeper, even now he still has nights where he wakes constantly. My daughter is so different, she’s much more chilled and definitely a better sleeper, it’s quite refreshing to be honest as I prepared myself for her to be like her brother and a poor sleeper but she’s so much better than I anticipated.

Posted elsewhere but baby fed for ages on both sides. Emptied first, good go at second, 5 weeks old. Then he threw up quite spectacularly and basically emptied his stomach over me, clothes, him, bed ... everything. So he's still hungry! But he's just emptied my breasts so what now?!

@FlyingHighFlyingLow your breasts will never be completely empty so just let him feed. Milk is continuously made x

@FlyingHighFlyingLow you can’t run out of milk.

Thank you ❤️ long night as scared of how much he threw up but all smiles again this morning!

@FlyingHighFlyingLow my DS threw up quite spectacularly all over his pram while we were in a cafe a few weeks ago and I was quite worried, but he must have just had a ball of wind because there was no more puking afterwards and he was absolutely fine. Hopefully the same for your LO.

I hope everyone is doing well. I posted before that my baby is in no form of a sleep routine at over 6 weeks. I don't mind but don't want to create future issues either! His daytime wake windows are wildly unpredictable -could be 45 mins or 4 hours. Obviously I try to put him down every 90 mins but he either won't settle or he will settle and his digestive issues will wake him and he won't resettle. On those days he won't even sleep when I take him for a walk or a drive he either cries for hours or happily looks around the pram but won't shut his eyes. He will nap in a sling but that could be a 10 minute or 4 hour nap. I end up so unsure if i should be waking him or letting him sleep when he feels well enough to sleep. Has anyone had similar? This baby is the opposite of everything I read!

@Nov2023 I'm sorry to say, your baby is.. . Completely normal 🤭
They sleep when they are ready in the early weeks. Some days they have a growth spurt or development leap and their wake windows will change. The activities, sights, sounds, fresh air or a big feed etc. may tire them out quicker.
Mum having a bath, food or a cuppa is likely to wake them.

With DC1 I used the Huckleberry app which was good for seeing trends. I'm waiting untill the four month regression to show up this time because it all goes haywire at that point.

Try to look for signs of tiredness. Heavy eyes and red eyebrows are a big one here.
Then, have a routine to signal that it's time to sleep and help them wind down.
At night a wash, change, book and feed then cuddles will be my full routine (I'm not there yet). Whatever you do, consistency is key to making them secure. If you want to bum pat, then do that each time. Or rock, jiggle, shush etc. Your DP should do the same too.

Think routine rather than schedule. In a few months you can go by the clock but for now I suggest just go with the flow!

We have the red eyebrows here too and I find it really useful to know that she's tired. Never got that clue with DS!

I think she's definitely having a growth spurt for the last couple of days (9 weeks now) as she's been so unsettled in the evenings and feeding non stop. After about an hour it's quite uncomfortable and I feel like she's just chewing on my nipples :/ I guess it's her trying to build my supply.