Due Novermber 2008 - Let's here it for the BFP's!

[Heartmum2Jamie]

After a bit of cajoling from some friends (some of whom I hope can join me here soon), I decided to take the plunge and start this thread.

Anyway, I have just found out I am pregnant again, got a BFP on Saturday 23rd at 12dpo, which gives me an EDD of 3rd November 2008 (or the 4th, depending on which calculator I use). This is my 4th pregnancy and will be my 3rd child. I am super excited and a little scared & nervous after a previous missed miscarriage.

I hope I don't get too lonely waiting for more BFP's to roll in! Please come and join me.

I think that you're spot on there, Betti. I really think that's the case with my MIL too. She only had one child because DH's dad absolutely refused to have any more. He was one of those people who would never change their minds and whose first response to most things was usually "no". DH can be a lot like that too, which is why there is such a big age gap between our first two and our last baby and this little one. MIL knew I wanted more children and that DH was saying no - she would go "oh, just like his dad". When DH eventually changed his mind, I think it shocked her. I also think that she's quite jealous and resentful of the fact that I was able to persuade DH while she couldn't persuade his dad.

Creena

glad your scan went well and that you saw a tiny heartbeat

I've just come back from mine and all is looking well. We saw the yolk and sac and it's all in the right place and size for the dates (she put me at 6 weeks exactly, EDD 6th November), and we saw a tiny flickering foetal pole, but only measuring 2mm. The sonographer said it was "too small to assess viability" and noted on the report that the embryo wasn't seen, but she said everything was looking very good otherwise. I'm a bit disappointed as we saw a heartbeat at 6+3 with DD, and this hasn't really reassured me. But, the sonographer explained if conception happened a few days after I OVd then this would be right. I'm thinking it must be a slow lazy sperm that fertilised this one, so probably a boy .

I'm trying to convince DH that we need to spend another £70 in a couple of weeks!

Thanks for the ad Browny!!

Here's a weird thing I am not a pasta lover, or really any sort of carb....just been to the supermarket and returned with not 1, not 2not 3 but 4 (!!!) packets of pasta....can anyone phathom that?!!

As for the MIL - mine is a class A pain in the posteriur...her reaction will be awful but you know what.....stuff her

I am really nervous and scared but remaining positive!!!

My MIL's reaction (after the initial dumbfounded silence) was "I can't have six grandchildren". She has the knack of making everything about her.

LackaDAISYcal....are you sure we don't share a MIL???!!! if not, they are definately seperated at birth......

I hope not, or you're my SIL who had twins in August

hello everyone, thanks so much for all the support.
they did a pregnancy test when i got there which was positive, calmed my nerves, then waited 3 hours for scan, dh thankfully able to stay.
Scan showed intrauterine sac but no heartbeat as yet. so scan again in 2 weeks (27th). they think 5 weeks gestation. nothing to explain bleeding, which continues.
relieved for now, but two weeks seems like forever. but hopefully i will be chatting to you ladies for the next 8 months!
off to bed with ds

LackaDAISYcal, I can see that as being something my MIL would say as this will make her 6th grandchild too. At least this was planned, unlike SIL who had a HUGE shock when she found out she was pregnant with her 3rd. The scan sounds good too. I think if you saw a flicker of a fetal pole, everything will be ok. I am at 6+3 today and have been umming and ahhing all week about asking the midwife about a scan, but am glad I haven't now as if I had a slow sperm do the honours (which may well be the case as 12dpo is the latest I have ever had a BFP), I would be worried if they hadn't off seen what I thought they should see, lol! I am still toying with the private option too, but dh woud flip and it is alot of money really, which I would rather put towards clothes for me or babe or possibly a 4d scan later on (Woohoo, get me thinking positive, thinking of the second trimester, pmsl!)

Oddeyes, I am glad your scan went well too and that they can't see an obvious reason for the bleeding/spotting. Finger crossed the 2 weeks doesn't drag too much.

Dozymare, I am laughing about your pasta buying! Mind you, the boys and I have just had poppadums for a snack as that is what i wanted

Goodness me - we all seem to have MIL expecting their 6th child with us!!!! AND they all seem to have the same reaction!!!

ODDEYES - please please try not to worry to much, keep positive and I am sure in 2 weeks you will see your little worm's heartbeat. At least they didn't find anything unusual or out of the ordinary. The good thing is that you are being closely monitored which is a good thing....you will be here for the LT I am sure!!

I'm of on a girls night out tonight with 8 girlies who cannot beleive I am driving...One of them knows but i will find it so hard to keep quiet!

Has anyone told their parents yet??!

testing testing - has this thread just reversed itself - I seem to be one page 1 but at the end of the thres?

ok - I'm back to normal now.

I haven't told my parents yet - want to wait a bit so they don't have to worry along with me at least for the enxt 3 weeks.

Off to cook now.....

When my Mum was in last night considered telling her but didnt as she started going on about how it wouldnt be too bad if we given upstairs flat since wont be needing double buggy once DD1 walking more in better weather. The way she said it put both of us off saying anything. It's DD1's birthday 26th so thinking of waiting til after then to tell my Mum and MIL so the day is all about DD1 and not shock at our news.

Hanaflower is there anychance the news will bring you closer to your parents. I found that when I was expecting DD1 and DD2 that I got a little closure to my Mum and even my MIL but normal service resumed when both DD's reached 6 months. My Gran died on 15th Feb so hoping the news might perk my Grandad up a bit. My Mum wasnt close to my Gran so dont think that'll make her any happier. I was really close to my Gran so the BFP came at a good time but also bittersweet as she not here to share the news. She was the first person I told about both DD's and even spoke to her when I went into labour with DD2 as she had said throughout my pregnancy that I would have her on 19th on not my date of 21st or hospital's date of 23rd.

Hi everyone, I cant believe how long our list is getting now!!

Dont post very often as not much happening for me at the minute (appart from the usual tiredness etc) but I have just had a call from the midwife (yes at 7.30pm!!) to arrange our booking in appointment and she is coming to see me tomorrow!!!!

I'm sure I didnt see midwife until about 8wks with my first but this now makes it seem a bit more real!

We havent told anyone yet but we are going to tell both our mums at the weekend, think they will be be pleased but a little suprised as dont think they are expecting us to have another just yet! Neither were we but we arent going to tell them that!!!!

Mum2ozzie and Scully - we were on the same miscarriage thread last August. Very glad to see you both here. I'm fairly affected by the experience and certainly will not be telling anyone until after the scan My weight's been pretty up and down for the last year and so people might think I've just gone a bit lardy again. After 2 extremely straightforward pregnancies I told loads of people then found myself having to explain no baby next time I saw them - to be avoided. Feeling very unusual about this one, am so thrilled but trying hard not to get too into the whole thing. I haven't been to the doctor yet - may try tomorrow and try to see if I can get an early scan.

Re books - I got The Encyclopedia of Pregnancy and Birth - Janet Balaskas and Yehudi Gordon and a few others the first time round. The reason I chose this one in particular was the extremely graphic birth photos. Towards the end I looked at them obsessively at the same time thinking ahmagawd. But it helped me a lot.

Re mothers/MIL - you could name any subject you like, rocket science, flower arranging or the Taliban and in 2 swift sentences my Mum would get the conversation back to her. One of the classics was over phone when I was going in for D&C and needed someone to look after kids. She said 'I'd come but I've got yoga at 12'.

We also haven't told out families yet. My Dad lives in the US and I could tell him, but we hardly ever have any communication via phone or internet. My mum lives with my grandparents and I am sure they will all be happy, but all have things going on in thier lives right now and with a previous m/c under my belt, I am not sure I want to worry them.

I've told my sisters, DHs parents and my close friends (oh, and half of MN ). I found that the support I had when I had my 2 mcs was brilliant, and I wouldn't have had that if people hadn't known. It affects us all differently I suppose

ahh - need reassurance - massive period type pains which are the same as I had when I was bleeding last time - no sign of blood at all and I know it's normal but I can't help but think blood is gonna turn up any minute

ahhh - it hurts- really had these with DS too - oh - please just be normal - I will be so gutted to see blood...

anyone watching pramface babies?!!

[sneaks in back door] hello

Hi - regarding good pg books I did a bit of research and bought 'Your Pregnancy Bible'. Seems very good so far! I also bought 'Minus 9 to 1' by Jools Oliver as my sister recommended it, and again is a good read. Started to feel my first bit of queasiness today, and I'm exactly 7 weeks - my book tells me for 7 weeks 'you may start to experience morning sickness this week'...glad to see things are going to plan!

hey misdee; you caused a bit of a stir yesterday . This is fantastic news for you and your family

Roca, I've had lots of pain on the right side and the scan today confirmed that the corpus luteal cyst is on my right ovary, so that's where it's coming from. Feels very periody and crampy, but perfectly normal.

Hey Misdee!! Loved your thread yesterday! Lets make a pact shall we? I won't tell HL about you if you don't tell them about me?! Deal?!

I watched Pramface Roca and was honestly pretty horrified. It was good to see the mums making the best of things in their own situations though.