November 2022 babies Thread 5

[NotAdultingToday]

1st - @Eryr22
2nd - @KDerbs @Kathno4
3rd - @Dontbeaneejit @SareBear87
4th - @Elle1709

5th - @readytoglowx
6th - @Bramblecrumble21 @1mel90
7th - @starflake
8th - @LittleJumpingBean
9th -@circe22 @TFMinx
10th - @ALittleBitofVitriol
11th - @amyrose223
12th-
13th- @CurlsnLipstick
14th- @Grgs @roobearbaby
15th - @KatieP8
16th -
17th - @Kez152
18th - @NotAdultingToday @cocobeau @FishyBaby @bubbano2 @WandaVon @Ccatalina @Beanniebaby22 @tigger2022

19th - @tb4122 @StrongUsernameHere @OtiMama

20th - @JanuaryBirthdays @Bubblegum20
21st -@GeorgieEm

22nd -@arianasky @smiles39
23rd -
24th - @CurlyNo2
25th - @sarahj878 @jordini @curlywurly10
26th - @dreamcatchmee
27th -
28th - @greenerfingers
29th - @teddy2806
30th - @rickandmorts

[ALittleBitofVitriol]

I may have spoken a little too soon and posted on a lovely day! Weighed ds yesterday and he's not gaining enough, has dropped from above the 85th% curve to below the 50th% curve, was unsettled and hungry. Poor baby, he's fine, vigorous and wet/dirty nappies so I'm not too worried. My supply is increasing but not fast enough apparently. We're supplementing with formula for a little bit. I never had this problem before, I was exploding with milk with my older kids! I won't lie I was upset yesterday feeling like a failure. Motherhood is a roller-coaster! This is my 5th time breastfeeding and it's still hard.

Hope you all have a lovely day!

[Laneymoo]

Glad to hear your baba is more content @greenerfingers I was the same, my mental health was suffering badly and I wasn't expecting that. I also found it very overwhelming at the realisation that most of the feeding responsibility would be on me and I couldn't face that exhaustion!

[Laneymoo]

You're absolutely not a failure @ALittleBitofVitriol you're doing your best. I'm sure your supply will come in soon!

[greenerfingers]

Bless you @ALittleBitofVitriol, it's always hard when they lose weight. We've lost a lot too but again a content baby. They do say milk can take a little longer with c sections so perhaps it's that? Mind you it's my second and my milk still isn't in and it's day 4. My first came in at day 2. I'm pumping constantly and topping up to help little one and it's also increasing my supply much faster. We've also got some formula on standby too in case we need more.

[ALittleBitofVitriol]

My milk came in late day 4/early day 5 after the caesar too @greenerfingers. He's 4 weeks now! Milk is there just not enough, he's been relatively settled and gaining slowly, but the past few days it became clear that he was just still hungry and was gaining slower than I had thought. He hasn't lost weight but he's only gained about 300g total, he should have gained about double that. I think it's just a combination of things, caesar, he was a bit slow to feed well at the beginning, then I needed the antibiotics/was a bit unwell. And I'm just older and things seem to be harder every step this time around! Supply was the one thing I never struggled with previously 🤦‍♀️

[Beanniebaby22]

They really don’t tell you enough about the challenges of breast feeding! I’m using nipple shields now which is a faff but still easier than making up bottles in the middle of the night.
Im still pumping a lot of milk too. It’s handy then there’s breast milk on standby if I’m occupied and need DP to do a feed for me.

Is anyone else having horrendous night sweats?! I wake up drenched every morning. I would usually have the window open at night but don’t want the baby to get cold.

[Laneymoo]

I agree @Beanniebaby22 I felt the antenatal classes were all just about the latch and nothing about the reality of bf.
I'm very very warm in bed at night, I'm also suffering with postpartum stank. I watched a video where the lady said she smelled like an onion for 3 months and that's how I feel!

[TFMinx]

Oh @Beanniebaby22 I've only just stopped sweating 18 days after birth. I'd have to change my pyjamas part way through the night as I was just drenched.

My DD is full of cold. I feel so sorry for her as there's nothing I can do to relieve the symptoms. We've got an aspirator but it's not drawing anything out. The cold has definitely come from my DS and his school germs sadly.

[CurlyNo2]

Wow feel like I’ve blinked and 2 weeks has gone by since our little boy arrived. He’s still not settling at night so we feel like walking zombies at the moment.

I hope everyone is ok and on the mend. Congratulations to our new babies!

For those ladies who had a c-section, did anyone have one sided pain in the incision area? Everyone who looks at my wound says it looks great, but one side really pinched and feels quite sore and stiff.

[Anna783426]

Night sweats over here too, wake up not knowing if I'm drenched in sweat or milk or both. It's delightful...

[TFMinx]

@CurlyNo2 me! Turns out I had a stitch that wasn't under the skin and needed removing. My midwife did it in my home and was completely painless. I feel much better in that area now. Have a look to see if you can find and plastic; that's how I found the root of my pain.

[FishyBaby]

Joining those struggling with birth weight, and have been put on a pumping and top up plan. I'm only just keeping up with the initial pumped volume 30 ml a session. Does anyone know if that will increase over time? They suggested giving more when she can finish that much - I just don't have any more to give!

[greenerfingers]

If it's ok on your scar @ALittleBitofVitriol just keep letting him dry suckle till your supply becomes as he wants. My first went from 48th percentile to almost 9th within the first few days. He wasn't suckling well and by then my supply diminished, needing to build it up was so hard as now his stomach size had increased from formula and was way ahead of me. We would dry latch constantly every hour for 15 mins and within a couple weeks my supply felt like it was matching him, by 15 weeks he was 75th percentile. An extreme case but really taught me about the supply demand needed and a breastfeeding support worker told me to stop the top ups with formula unless absolutely necessary and to just do the dry suckling and hand expressing wherever I could. It just meant a slower start but he caught up. It went against the midwives advice but it worked better for me in the long run.

@FishyBaby that sounds about a good amount to be pumping, do you hand express at the end too as that's better than a pump and will really drain the breasts encouraging more milk.

[FishyBaby]

Thanks for that reassurance on the volume @greenerfingers . I'm getting more through at some sessions but the midwife suggested I should be upping the expressed bottles by 10ml every time she finishes one, and I can't guarantee keeping up with bottle feeds of 40ml or more every three hours! I haven't tried hand expressing on top and will give it a try if we are running particularly short on a feed.
I hope she is managing to get more from the breast now anyway, so won't need so much from bottles.

[dreamcatchmee]

Hi everyone congrats on new bubbas!
I had baby on 1st Dec ❤️

[Laneymoo]

Been struggling a little bit the last couple of days. Feeling anxious and overwhelmed 😕 finding it all a bit relentless and boring and then feeling terribly guilty for feeling that way. There's been a lot of tears!

[roobearbaby]

I can totally relate to that @laneymoo.

Is anyone else's baby still nocturnal? Not had a wink of sleep overnight for days!

[Beanniebaby22]

@Laneymoo I feel the same. Have you talked to anyone about it? GP/ Health visitor?

@roobearbaby yes DS is cluster feeding all night 😴

[greenerfingers]

Is this your first @Laneymoo ? Sorry to hear you're feeling that way. I felt this way with my first and all the changes were very overwhelming for a while. This time it's easier as I know what I'm doing more and a toddler keeps me busy. Don't feel guilty, a baby is life changing and the initial change is very hard. Are there any good shows you can binge? Go for walks or to cafes etc? Any baby groups near you?

[CurlyNo2]

My baby is 15 days old and is asleep all day, very calm and content and then come 7pm he goes ape shit! Cries all night. Me and my husband finally got to sleep at 6am this morning because he had screamed all night. He had to be up and out at work too.

Although I’ve been through this with my 1st son, I know it doesn’t last forever, but I dread nighttime.

I went out for my first proper outing today since the section. Already feel like I’ve overdone it.

[FishyBaby]

@CurlyNo2 I know the feeling about kicking off at 7pm. I don't know what it is but it's definitely the witching hour - and about the one time of day that it gets to me so much that I routinely have a breakdown.

Luckily we can get her to settle overnight by about 9pm and then it can be a battle to wake her for feeds. (Apart from the cluster feed night)

[tb4122]

Just wanted to add myself to the nocturnal baby crew. Quite content and sleepy in the day and overnight a tiny terrorist who won't be put down, cluster feeds and poops his nappy mid feed so even if he does look sleepy when he's finished feeding, he then needs changing and starts screaming. This went round three times last night. He also started screaming for food then refusing the breast and I nearly had a breakdown because I just didn't know what to do with him. Finally went down at 6:10am this morning then luckily slept until about 9:30am so at least we got a little sleep.

[NotAdultingToday]

Birth List 👶🏻

Oct
20th - @Anna783426 due 8th Nov
27th - @LittleJumpingBean due 8th Nov
@amyrose223 due 11th Nov

Nov
1st - @Elle1709 due 4th Nov
@Kathno4 due 2nd Nov
2nd -
3rd - @Dontbeaneejit due date baby
@ALittleBitofVitriol due 10th Nov
@Somethingabitdifferent22 due 10th Nov
4th -
5th -
6th -
7th - @NotAdultingToday due 18th Nov
@mjb0616 due 11th Nov
@Elleb87 due 13th Nov
@Laneymoo due 8th Nov
8th - @Bramblecrumble22 due 6th Nov
9th - @CurlsnLipstick due 13th
@WandaVon due 18th Nov
10th -
11th - @Eryr22 due 1st Nov
12th-
13th- @Beanniebaby22 due 18th
@JanuaryBirthdays due 20th
14th- @TFMinx due 9th
@roobearbaby due 14th
@Bubblegum20 due 20th
15th -
16th -
17th - @blacksheep2014 due
@Grgs due
18th - @CurlyNo2 due 24th
19th -
20th - @OtiMama due 19th
21st - @feistymumma due
22nd -
23rd -
24th - @FishyBaby due 18th
25th - @tb4122 due 19th
26th -
27th - @smiles39 due 22nd
28th - @greenerfingers due 28th
29th -
30th -

Dec
1st - @dreamcatchmee due 26th

[NotAdultingToday]

Congratulations @dreamcatchmee 😊

I had night sweats for a couple of weeks too, they seemed to have mostly stopped now

@Laneymoo i had that with my first too! Its such a culture shock no amount of preparing is enough i think

Also nocturnal baby club here too. Im especially enjoying being woken up to the huge poos at 3/4 🤦🏼‍♀️ its just not something i want to deal with half asleep!
Hes also not been sleeping well during the day unless on someone or we are out. So i have a cranky baby with a bit of a cold so thats fun whose not really napping during the day so i cant nap or do jobs.
On the plus side i have finished 2 shows (ones i have been meaning to finish for ages with a few episodes left), watch 2 new shows, watched 2 documentaries and 1 and a half films (ds1 stole the tv when i was half way through my second film!) so im catching up on my programming 😂

[Laneymoo]

Thanks @roobearbaby it's comforting to know other people feel the same.

@Beanniebaby22 I do have great support, my partner is brilliant and so are our families and I've lots of pregnant friends/friends with kids. I'm in Ireland so we have public health nurses who visit us so I think I'll ring her next week and have a chat if I'm still feeling this way.

@greenerfingers yes this is my first baby. I have been trying to get out of the house every day as that seems to make such a difference. We went to MILs for dinner tonight and it was lovely to get a meal handed up to us and they all fussed over the baby and fed her and I got to drink a hot cup of tea. So I do feel a lot better now. Its such a rollercoaster. You always hear how hard it is with a newborn but I don't think anyone is truly prepared for it!

I did a pregnancy yoga class and we are meeting next week and there has been talk of joining Clap Handies as a gang so that would be nice.