Due March 2008 - for our early arrivals and the loooooong 3rd trimesters

[merryberry]

Hello all.

had complete and utter hormonal melt down yesterday and ended up bawling my eyes out so have come on here for a bit of a whinge so apoligies in advance. decided to put up the crib as dh has no interest in anything baby related, of course could not get crib to go up and had what can only be described as a paddy . then went downstairs to find that dh had dropped new le crusent casserole dish on the floor and a load of the enamal has chipped off . were skint as weve had to buy a bigger car (to fit all the car seats in) and said car is going to cost a lot more to run then the old one. my heatings buggered so even more cash and im feeling like a rather large fat whale and having a constant battle with my sweet tooth (its winning). there whinge over

oh yeah and dh is in a right old grump because he turned 30 on sat and has 'done nothing with his life'

Tesco and/or Ocado has also saved my life! We've used it for a few years now due to car-free status. Just to join in on the carseat conversation: we have a carseat, but no means of practicing fitting it into a car!

Last Monday at work too- hooray!

Have a subject coming in for an experiment on Wednesday and my boss seems to think I'll be able to analyze the data before Friday, hmm...

spugs chin up girl- it could be worse. give dh a swift kick up the arse and make sure he is aware that you are feeling the size of a house!

Also 30 and not acheived anything- what does he class the kids as? fwir you have 2 already and this is the third- there are men out there that would kill to be able to have three kids- tell him to stop being selfish!

Anyhow- i am at work today alone- no twins, no buggy, nothing to feed or change- just staff appraisals to do- it feels horrible!!

We must be due a few more babies pretty soon, i'm surprised we've only had three

Poor Spugs, hope you are feeling better! It is a bit odd that no more babies have arrived. I'm 36 weeks today - one of my brothers came to stay for the weekend ("it'll never be the same again") and it was a bit strange to think that he was born at 35 weeks and now 6 foot tall.
Trying to get hold of the isofix base for baby care seat was a bit of chore, Halfords may have had one but I couldn't make them understand that 'easy base' and 'easy fix' weren't the same. They kept (well twice) appearing with 'easy bases' so I give up in the hope that weekday staff will be better.
Managed to find a pregnancy labour yoga workshop to drag DH along too yesterday. It was really useful. No actual yoga exercises, but DH got to hear the grizzly details and the men were shown how to rub our backs, suggestions on what to say to support us and told to remind the MW that we don't want to lie on our backs. He was totaly out of his comfort zone but I think it was really useful for him - he has definately been more 'caring' since and I think it will make him feel a little less helpless.
Very jealous of you ocado ladies - we are beyond the delivery zone and nearest waitrose is 40 mins away!

Morning all, not had much to report lately as I'm just tired and pathetic right now.
Preggers Not sure how I feel being so close to a yummy mummy. Still, I'm a lot yummier now than I'll be for a good long while.
Fitnforty hope you had a lovely birthday.
spugs Poor you, sometimes everything gets on top of us. Try not to take DH's comment about his life too seriously. I understand it's very hurtful though.
Online shopping is the only way for me right now. Couldn't bear a huge schlep round the supermarket.

Well, I've just come back from my growth scan, or rather LO's. Good news is he weighs only 6lb at 36 weeks and the placenta has moved!!!! Wahey, I have a high placenta. I think some of you may know what that will mean to me and DP!
Bad news is that he's still breech so will find out mode of delivery on Wednesday hopefully when I see the obstetrician. Also, he had his face towards my spine so couldn't get confirmation that he's a he. But I did see a lovely halo of hair. He has a rather large abdomen but he wouldn't be my baby if he didn't. Can't wait to meet him now.

Hope everyone else is ok and apologies if I've missed saying something to anyone else.

Yesterday sounds like meltdown central! I did the same b/c my DH spent the couple hours I was laying down playing his guitar and watching TV. Nevermind we had people coming round for dinner and the dishes he promised to do on Friday night were still (gross!) sitting around festering.

The most frustrating part of these last few weeks is having the time to do everything, but feeling exhausted after an hour's shopping or whatever. Guess I have to just do one thing everyday and hope it all gets done!

Builder will show up tomorrow (if I'm lucky) and get started on the nursery. Oh, I'm so on the ball! Please oh please don't come early!

Good news, glam! Having scan myself on thurs, so looking forward to having idea of size of LO. Exciting stuff!

Oooh well done, Glam's placenta! I'm expecting you won't be on here much over the next few weeks while you spend "quality time" with DP... Enjoy!

DH arrived back from US yesterday and I was so happy to see him. I was even happier when I realised that he had actually read some of the Baby Whisperer (!) and he spent more time buying baby clothes on Sat than he did buying stuff for himself. He's been very preoccupied with work recently and it was so lovely that he seems to have switched into baby mode all of a sudden. So spugs, there is hope that your DH may do the same quite soon. In the meantime, I'm sending a big hug and virtual chocolate to you

Right I'm off for cake. Only 8 days left at work, so only 8 more chocolate brownie breaks to go...

Ooh, HQ, that reminds me. I have a sliver of carrot cake in the fridge. Must...go...get...it...it's...calling...meeeee....

glammama So happy about your placenta situation! Mine is moving but still borderline an low. Coming up to RL on Thursday for a scan which finally make the decision one way or the other.

HQ so impressed with your DH! Did you do anything to get him to switch into baby mode? My DH is very much taking a back seat.......

All this cake talk has forced me to have a toasted hot cross bun!

2 weeks of work left for me. Went and did hospital tours over weekend (lovely local mw led unit or not so nice maternity unit 15 mins drive away) - hoping to stay low risk and go to mw unit (8 min ambulance transfer if I need epidural/problems to hospital).

Managed to bump into neighbour at hospital whilst on the tour! - she had her lo on Saturday - Zac, born 7lb 1oz - started in pool but then ended up emergency cs (stressed baby/poo in waters/ had twisted wrong way to get out!) - he was cute! All she said was "have an epidural!"

That was after a party on Sat night when all I got was horror stories from mums with kids and everyone (even strangers) deciding my bump is their property to feel - grrr! wish I'd worn my "do not touch the bump" top now!

Good news glam on your placenta - good luck doup with your scan!

As to DP and baby stuff - mine is still on practical mode (putting new door on nursery, painting etc) and has ignored all prompts to read books

doup - not quite sure what did it. I had a bit of a strop about 2 weeks ago where I got very emotional and said I didn't feel he was supporting me at all and had no time for me It was probably way over the top, and I did admit as much later, especially as he is really stressed with work and he is actually a very thoughtful lovely husband, but I think it helped clear the air a bit. I actually backed off from talking quite as much about the baby after that cos I think I had scared him by how completely baby-focused I'd become (which was a reaction to him not seeming so interested).

But TBH I think most of it was that he was sat in a hotel room last week not at home with me and the baby so probably started to feel a bit lonely and that got him interested! Anyway, baby now has a happy mum and very cute clothes from dad. Long may it continue!

hello all - haven't even managed to read all the recent threads but just wanting to pop my head in to say a big hello and hope everyone is ok. Sounds like there is quite a bit of 'high emotion' going on - I@m with you all on that - tears and tantrums definitely high on my agenda. My DH has been away for four days and I feel homesick for him to come back...so I sympathise with all those of you who have DH/DP's who work away. Anyway - just popping in as I said and wishing all well. Had a scan last friday 35_+6 weeks and weighing 7lbs! Looks set to be an 8lb plus baby but that's ok. Was strange remembering my neice was born at 6lbs 8oz - funny to be able to imagine what the baby looks like now! Scan was fun - baby average on everything apparently except size of its cheeks - big puffy cheeks - so cute!
happy days to you all and I'm sorry not to be in touch more. I love hearing all but sorry not to be adding to it at the moment.

hugs

Doup I may be able to pop out on Thursday for a coffee if DP is home as I'm waiting for a delivery. What time is your scan?

cheers ladies, its nice to know that im not the only one whos having hormonal flips dh has redeemed himself by fixing boiler , getting me the right sized allen key for crib and explaining the 'nothing achieved' comment. basically all our single childless friends are off travelling etc and hes a bit jealous. he did admit that 3 children, a fabulous wife , and managing to get into the fireservice (5000 applicants 22 places) were pretty good going. so im now much more chilled out

i havent tried my car seat yet, its a mothercare own one and should be fine. i did quite fancy the maxi cosi and isofix one but it works out so pricy, plus id need the adaptors for the bug as well.

im very jealous of everyone whos only got 4 weeks left im one of the last and still only 33 weeks, does anyone else feel like they have been pregnant forever? or is it just me.

glam - congrats on the placenta, enjoy

spugs- I'm only 33 weeks too! You're not alone. Just think, thhough, you get the extra time to prepare!

lol imjim @ LO's cheeks! I'm assuming you mean the ones on its face?
Baby here has no chance- both DH and I were massively chubby-cheeked babies!

Big cheer for the placenta glam. My midwife would be thrilled to know this as she is a huge fan of prostaglandin ripening the cervix at term. I had to let her down gently re: chances of me and dp getting jiggy, given my exhaustion levels

spugs, turtle I think 32/33 weeks were the worst for me in terms of 'argh it's never bloody ending this PG malarkey'. Now I've only a few weeks left, I'm really enjoying it, especially as this is the last time I intend to do this! Also, not having been ill or strained anything for a few weeks is a gorgeous bonus [touchwoodtouchwoodtouchwood]

Had another obs consultant appt today, followingup last weeks big baby scare. My GTT was, of course, normal. BP, urine everything very normal, baby engaged 3/5 head down hurray. I'm not gaining anymore weight. I am anaemic, quite a lot, and lord knows how long that has been going on for. Certainly explains extreme breathlessness.

She was again very 'that's a shame' about me going for indy midwife and home birth, but had nothing to say against it. Said to come back at 41 weeks to to talk about induction, to which I nodded politely.

attn 40+yrs mums Until I started leaving and she suddenly yelped 'hang on how old are you??'
Once I confessed to the big 40 last week it was all change: she wants me in for induction at 40 weeks. 'Why?' sez I. 'Because the risks of going overdue are much higher in 40+ women'. 'But I'm not showing any of them, are i?' Sez I. She tried to reassure me induction was fine and dandy. I very much begged to differ re: last relentlessly pointless induced birth and post natal experience and she conceeded that unless faced with specific threat to me or baby would leave us be. I will go back to talk about it day after my due date. I will be taking my indy MW with me, if she can come, that's for sure. I had to reassure her I had no death wish at all, just a positive belief I could have a damn good go at popping this myself one if all else remains equal. And that I trusted and was known well by my own midwife already. And am less than 10 minutes blue light away from two major teaching obstetric hossies (as shite as one of them may be, IME, of course!). And will have two midwives at my side from 5cm dilation onwards, which is up to 100% more than can be said for her unit.

So, wihs me luck, am gearing up to home birth in first instance...need to find a pool now. Only really want it for antenatal wallowing TBH. Can't even be bothered to concentrate on TV or books in evening now, just want to soak and daydream.

spugs, turtle - i too am due in late March so only 32+4. I feel left behind, I think cos most people on this board seem to be early March so we have lots of 36 weekers and not many in between them and us! I have visions of talking to myself on here in mid-April while everyone else has been on the post-natal board for about 6 weeks...

merry - you sound in a great frame of mind for birth (well done you for sticking up to midwife on induction thing). really glad it all seems to be falling into place a bit more easily now.

mb Grrr to your consultant about induction. I booked reflexology last time for on my due date, just told the reflexologist that if I didn't turn up I would be having the baby!! I had it on my due date and went into labour 3 days later, not maybe down to that but anything is worth trying IMO

Well its all go this week for me. Today dd's new midsleeper bed with slide and tent is coming! Thought she could wear herself out before bed by sliding and would have quicker access to the potty when she starts night training !
Tomorrow is my aneasthetic appt with the consultant, which I think will be quite traumatic, rehashing the last birth fiasco but hopefully therapuetic in that I should better understand what happened last time and be more able to deal with a c-section if its needed.

I also have my first NCT class tomorrow evening. I am looking forward to that as I didn'tget round to attending any last time.

Preggers I can't believe you are back working already- are you superwoman in RL?

Have we confirmed a meet up yet?

PS I am only 33+1 as well so know what you mean about the waiting.

Preggers - thanks for the tip on the Wallaboo muffs, had a look and got a blue one for my maxi cosi. It better get cold in March so that I can use it.

tomorrow is my last day at work and I really can't be bothered anymore. Just want to be home. My birthday is on Wednesday so at least I can relax and start maternity leave.

I'm 37 weeks this Wednesday (acc to scan) and getting very paroid at every bit of pain. Get period type pains quite often in the night but guess that's just the bladder which is the size of a pea right now.

LO moves a lot and was giving me some very uncomfortable kicks last night.

merry - this is my last one to (despite lots of family hints that 4 is a nice even number ), thats silly about the induction thing ive never heard of anyone being induced at 40 weeks because they were 40! you stick to your guns

im definitly glad of the extra prep time though i reckon im fairly sorted. ive finished putting crib up and ive even put the sheets and bumper in it . im trying to wash everything as well which i reckons going to take a while. but i have just managed to order all those little bits and bobs i needed so thats another thing done.

Hi everyone, haven't been around here for a very long time and the longer it went the more intimidated I got about how long the thread was probably getting.

I'm home sick today as I developed a really sore throat last night, so I've spent all morning catching up with you all. 10+ pages! you've all been busy.

I'm 35 weeks now so also feeling very heavy/cumbersome. I've adjusted to the tiredness that hit at the start of 3rd trimester so have stopped exhausting myself.

I had my first ante-natal class last week, which I enjoyed. It felt like a kind of milestone and it was sort of comforting to be in a room where most of the women were as giant as me.

merryberry I have to go to my hospital at term to be booked in for an induction 10 days later. Is this what happened to you? Or are they talking about inducing you on your due date if you haven't gone into labour. I was quite at the induction thing as I had no idea that was what happened. I thought they just let you wait until the baby came along. If I go 10 days over (which I thought was not unusual for a 1st baby) then I won't be able to go to the home-from-home centre where they have the pool and birthing balls etc.

imjin awwww giant cheeks - how adorable

Sorry if TMI. Has anyone been getting dry itchy nipples. Would nipple cream help?