Due April 2008 -The one where SCORPIO GETS MARRIED!!(and we get virtually drunk)

[VictorianSqualor]

[EllieG]

Hmmmm....not sure. Something about being in 3rd trimester?

This thread's gone so fast! I think we all talk too much

[scorpio1]

or have nothing else better to do, hee hee!

We haven't really got a new topic either - the food porn seems to have died down, and i'm married now. Guess 3rd trimester is it!

[Peachy]

That's coz nobody has any sapce to firt a meal in any mroe (well I don't anyway)

Just think- by the end of the next 1000 messages- !

[EllieG]

Can't fit big meals but I do like a lot of snacks...

[VictorianSqualor]

Hmm, I just read the Dyspraxia website to see what you;re dealing with Scorpio and DD seesm to have about 95% of the symptoms, she doesn;t have a problem with reading or maths and she doesn't have tantrums or 'off days' but that's it. I'm confused now! I always thought she just had problems with concentrating etc cos she's wishy washy and that her co-ordination was cos she is left-handed (even though she uses both hands, seems to use left more).

DP's grandad had a second fall today and was in the consevatory for about 6hours before his nan bothered to do something about it his parets only live next door but she didnt ask them for help, he's been taken to hospital and will hopefully be getting some respite care tomorrow.

[scorpio1]

Don't worry too much VS, its hard for me to say about your dd iyswim, or to compare. some children are naturally dreamers or not as co-ordinated. my ds2 is a leftie .

whats going to happen to your grandparent are they going to have to go into care?

[VictorianSqualor]

I think if there was more to it than her just being a dreamy leftie then I'd imagine the school would've noticed something anyway surely?

TBH Scorpio we're kinda hoping dp's grandad will go into care, he has ahd quite a few falls and DP's nan has just been leaving him there, apparently when DP's parents got home (they live next door to the GP's) from the hospital they went to see nan and she was happy cleaning and stuff, then when they menionted he was going into respite but would possibly be coming back she kicked off, we've also heard she has been hitting him, it's horrible, DP's mum has been trying to get the social services in for ages but the nan wouldn't let them in so it's a good thing really that he is in hospital

We have another scan and bloods etc at the hospital tomorrow anyway so are going to pop in and see him.

[scorpio1]

i know what you are saying about your GD, vs. whilst he is in hospital you can ask to speak to a social worker who can help you with queries or sorting out a 'home' place. he may be haappier there in the long run anyway by the sounds of it.

My grandad was 96 when he died 3 weeks ago, luckily he didnt have falls bbut had dementia; his daughter (my nan) found him 3 miles away from his flat not knowing who he was so he went into a home in the end as well, he was happy.

as for your dd, the SENCO @ school noticed it within 3 weeks of him starting ft school last january.

[Peachy]

VS it migt be wortha skingt he SENCO- just so she can keep an eye? Better to know one way, it'll be nagging you now (how old is she? I'd expect a child of school age to have established hand dominance by now you see).

But it really is probably nothing, and even if it isn't dyspraxia in't the end of the world, there's lots a good OT can do to help with it.

[VictorianSqualor]

She is seven, with most things she uses her left hand but sometimes uses her right, this may just be because a lot of the time it's 'expected' iyswim, I make her put her knife and fork in the right hands but apart from that she chooses and I think at school they were teaching to write right handed so she ahs to kind of get round that.

I did discuss her handwriting with her teacher at her parents evenign but she said she wasnt too worried about it (it's unreadable tbh) because everything else she does is what would be expected of a 7year old, she isnt behind in anything except her writing.

I'll probably just keep an eye on it and mention it again at the next meeting.

[Peachy]

Sounds like its probably fine- but I would let ehr develop a hand dominance herself (BIBIC are big on establishing hand dominance, its linked with getting the brain to correctly use the different hemispheres and causes blips if delayed or someone is made to use the wrong hand).

panicking today as Dh has put my MW notes 'somewhere safe' - always bad news! Seriosuly praying he finds them tomorrow!

[EllieG]

Mornin' all. How's everyone today?

[eva07]

lots of stuff going on here.. thinking of and feeling with you all!

elli, we can do the very-poor stuff together. as I won't be able to have all the check-ups necessary for austrian babys with evabean for the so-called mutter-kind-pass, I won't get any payment from the austrian social security.

after 3 weeks of working full time and visiting family and friends in my spare time and not a minute left for me alone I'm feeling quite tired now. but it's just this one more week, then I'm leaving. leaving my family and my friends. it's kinda hard, but I'm looking forward to my 'new' live as well. beany, new love (dp), my first house (ok, it's rented, but hey...), new impressions and experiences... lots of good stuff coming my way

[eva07]

just read my post again - if you get the impression I'm a bit weird and confused - I sympathise with you

[ToastAddict]

Morning - it's been ages since I've been on, work seems to have gone a bit crazy, and I'm getting mildly panicked that I only have 7 weeks left..... but on the other hand, hugely excited that I only have 7 weeks left!!

Bump is getting bigger by the day, I was really worried I squished it too much yesterday, as I bent down to pick something up off the car floor, completely forgetting I can't actually bend in the middle any more! She then didn't move much, which completely freaked me out, but she's back to her normal wriggly self again this morning

Can I ask the dumbest question? (so glad I know none of you in RL at this point!!!) Saw on this thread various websites for sexy nursing bras, which certainly seem a far cry from the Mothercare/M&S options. My question is....... aren't your boobs kind of "off limits" to DH/DP when you're BFing? i.e. they're likely to get any eyeful of milk if they play to much?? It would seem somewhat cruel if I got a gorgeous sexy bra and then said to DH, "Oh no, they're not for you!!"

Sorry, such a newbie!!

[EllieG]

Eva - you sound no more weird and confused than the rest of us!

TA - was wondering that myself.

Me an' DP tried to have a bit of nookie last night, and what with my hips aching and sore boobs and hurty tummy and baby wiggling and him not wanting to squash me/her and his bad back we ended up giving it up as a bad job! Made me a bit . What happened to spontenaity in the sack eh? If this is a sign of things to come it's going to be a very long 3rd trimester!

[scorpio1]

Hi,

i am a bit better today, DH rang me this morning because he noticed i am a bit crappy at the mo. he thought it was because i regretted marrying him i dont at all btw!

i explained it al lto him and we are going to talk about it all properly later, but we did sort most of it out on the phone. he offered to take a day off to do the school things cleaning etc but isaid no, i be ok. think im not used to being at home with kids constantly either - ds2 is not allowed back to nursery until next monday.

i think Millie will be born in 9 weeks and 6 days time, the 6th april. eek!! am both thrilled and scared! yesterday i got really excited about having a baby my little baby girl!!

Tumble drier coming later that will make my life easier.

how is everyone?

[EllieG]

Glad you feel a bit better after your chat with DH scorpio.
DP spent most of the night telling me how lovely I was and how much he still fancied me but I still felt rubbish and like he didn't. I was a bit scared he's going off me. Can't think about it too much as it makes me want to cry.

[scorpio1]

Ellie this also one of my problems. DH said i have never been more beautiful than when i am pg. He must fancy you ellie, he also loves you sweetie. and as for having sex whilst pg, try spoons (not too deep, comfy for bump) or girl on top (you control, he can help you move). sorry if TMI but 'from behind' is also good, but only if your bones dont hurt. Spoons is good because you dont have to open your legs at all.

as for boobs and milk and sex, my friend used to spurt when she came! think its a case of see how it goes for you....

goodness i am being frank today!

I do feel much better today.

[eva07]

elli I really don't think your dp is going off you.
I'm missing the vocabulary for such situations so I'm sending you just a big hug (((((elli)))))

[ToastAddict]

Ellie, I feel a bit odd having sex with a bump.... it just feels like there's someone else there! And my fave time of the day is lying in bed, just before I go to sleep, feeling her thump around - which hardly seems to be the right precursor to nookie!!!

My DH is still keen, but he has said it is very odd looking at me now, as I look so different, and he has to switch bits of his brain on and off, depending on whether he is focussing on me, his gorgeous sexy wife or me, about-to-be mum to his daughter.

I think it must be very difficult for him to get his head straight!

Sorry, just rambling now, guess what I'm trying to say is, don't worry that your DP is going off you, of course he's not. It's just that things are changing a little!!

[EllieG]

He says he still fancies me thinks am beautiful etc but is not the same as before - we always used to have a v active sex life (sorry if tmi) and now it's always me initiating things and it isn't good for my ego! And he will then say things like 'well pregnancy isn't the sexiest time is it darling? But it isn't forever' which doesn't make me feel better at all. I don't want to run him down as he is the most considerate of blokes generally, I'm just worried he is going off me.

[EllieG]

Sorry for moaning (again) and thanks for messages x-posted with them x

[eva07]

TA: I will try to breastfeed but me and my boobs are definitely not offlimits [blus] if he gets an eyeful I guess I will laugh so hard he will fall off me anyway. and I will tell him to get his own lunch and not take beany's...

[scorpio1]

maybe he is one of those men who finds pregnancy a little odd and womans business iyswim?

my DH is the opposite and has the horn for women even more when they pg -when davinia mccall was pg he waslike a dog on heat every time we watched BB!

he is right though ellie, its not forever, is he tired at the moment? money worries? maybe its not the pg or you at all.

he sounds like he still fancies you and of course he does, i bet its the whole pg thing AND sex together, iyswim?