Due April 2008 -The one where SCORPIO GETS MARRIED!!(and we get virtually drunk)

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i have for years been putting off a visit to the docs for Reilly, to get some help with suspected dyspraxia.

Every parents day they mention his symptoms and i hate it, im scared and unsure. this time dh rang and booked him a docs appt for tuesday, seems less worse becuase i dint make the appt.

He is behind @ school, writes most things backward, etc etc. his behaviour has been terrible since xmas and we dotn know why, he hit 2 people at school this week, im so ashamed.

I guess the appt next week will help, i know there is something wrong and i just need it diagnsed iyswim so school can teach him differently.

His behaviour could be absolutely normal for a child of his age what with the new baby coming and his age, so I'd try not to worry too much about that if I were you.

Go and see the docs, find out if he does have dyspraxia and then deal with it from there, he may not have it, but at least you're on the right steps.

{hugs}

there are definite symptoms though, other than school work. he has most of the symptoms they diagnose by.

I need to know though

Hi Scorpio, I'm really sorry to hear that. But it will be good to have a diagnosis, and then you can work on helping him - or finding out what else might be the problem if its not that.
xx

scorpio - don't be ashamed hon, is not your fault if he has this and does not make either of you bad. A diagnosis, like someone said, could be a really good thing as will entitle him to extra support and he might come on in leaps and bounds.

i know all that logically, just hard to do it iyswim? I'm sure that whatever happens it will be ok

Hiya Scorpio- can empathise, when ds3 regressed I hid my head under a bush and ignored it- Paed even asked me about some things I'd said at intial assessmenta nd I relaised how much i'd been in denial and burst into tears [bluhs]- that was Monday.

Dyspraxia is not the end of the world, but of course it hurts when our precious little ones struggle. Dyspraxia affects kids at different levls and getting professional support is important as it makes such a difference, and as self esteem can often be affected as a by product of these conditions doing it now is good- but its also good not to rush into it and let them catch up if they will naturally.

have a look at www.bibic.org.uk if you favour the holistic appraoach (no diagnosis needd, we've been going with one or the other for years) and hugs X

Scorpio, my ds2 is dyspraxic and struggles in school with it but he is now having lots of help and is really coming on! Yesterday we were with his OT and she said that he has come on hugely for the simple reason that now he is bigger his upper body strength has increased and this in itself has improved things for him. I think I have dyspraxia too, to a milder degree but it was never diagnosed and I've done OK! The outbursts are probably down to frustration with himself more than anything else. I have found that discussing the dyspraxia with ds2 helps: e.g if he complains about his difficulty with handwriting, I say "Oh but that's because of your dyspraxia, you'll have to work harder at your writing but you will get there"
Mind you, he does try to blame dyspraxia on not making any effort to clean his room so maybe I've shot myself in the foot there!

Ah the room cleaning- top bibic tip- dyspraxic and asd kids struggle with organisational skills right? (asd and dyspraxia considered on same spectrum now, with dyslexia, adhd etc)- and it can seem very over whelming for them to see a huge mess and just ehar tidy up. BIBIC chap said to make a tripod from 3 bean canes and move it around the room, getting them to clean everything under thata rea a bit of a time. Strange- but works fine!

see ds1 is fine with tidying - he does the hand flapping thing, bangs into stuff, writes backwards but can read well, has very sudden temper tantrums and cannot ride a bike, etc etc.

Anyway, thankyou all, i knew you would support

DH bought me this today

Ah that bag is fab- have just demanded it off DH (assuming oil pouring from car scenario outside is not fatal to both Espace and bank account!)

All those things are rmeminiscent of ds1- except the bike. i think ds1 is quite lucky because despite his ASD (and obv. dyspraxia more likely to have physical issues but less yto have the mental stuff- ds1 cantr ead for example), he is genuinely gifted physically. His athletics skills are amazing and he started Gymnastics yesterday and has already passed 2 levels! Its good that he ahs something he can claim as his own.

Went to rugby for the first time for a few weeks today and saw a friend I haven't seen since Christmas and she thought I loked full term- and I do! Feel like I am going to pop now.

bag is really lush

Thankyou Peachy, i have read the Dyspraxia foundation website and he has the majority of the symptoms. I hope the doctor will take me seriously ( I am young and he may not know i know what im talking about). I'm going to tell him that the SENCO sent me (she has) so that may make him listen.

Thing is though he can read well and run, play footie just fine, but other stuff is a no-no.

I'm sure it will be fine whatever happens.

Peachy, LOL and thanks but ds2 just prefers to watch TV! He can actually tidy when he wants to !

Oh and people - don't forget we can apply for maternity grant (£500) from 29 weeks pg, get the forms from your jobcentre.

Morning All, I don't often get to use the pc pon a weekend so thought I'd catch up with how you all are

Scorpio that maternity grant sounds interesting, who is able to get it?

done a bit of searching:
You must be receiving:

Income Support
income-based Jobseeker's Allowance
Child Tax Credit at a rate higher than the family element
extra Working Tax Credit relating to a disability, or
Pension Credit.

I'm not sure if i qualify; it said on the form you must get more CTC than £545 per year, and we do, but then they waffle on and you lose your sureness iyswim! I sent it off on thursday so hoping to hear from them soon, i always have heard from them very quickly.

how exciting I have just ordered thigs

cot

Ah thats nice

We are buying Millie's when she needs it iyswim, she will be in a moses basket first. We will prob buy her a cot bed.

feel crappy today.

DH has gone training and to the gym unitl 3pm, he left at 11.20am.

the CSA are breathing down our necks again, wanting to know about any cirumstance change. Just know they are going to sting us for even more money every week. Feeling quite resentful about that at the moment.

Worried about docs on Tuesday.

Seems like groundhog day here - here i am alone, again, with kids, tired and want someone to help me. DS2 is still off nursery this next week.

I have 3 assignments to do, no time to do them or inclination.

Have a few biggish bills to pay at mo. We have the money, but just another stress when i wanted to spend the money on something else and then letters come asking for £xxx that i was planning on buying summit else with. Am a little skint after wedding.

outlaws have been irritating me this week.

Sorry just feel down today.

we qualify for the surestart on the absis of the disability WTC which will help immensely- may have to defer rest of uni year as ds3 now no school palce after Easter and that rather screws dissertation!

Scorpio- tha annual pay rises ahve gone out for many epople, thats why csa and wtc poeple doing teh change of circs letters- we got one, but ds's pay rise is smaller than the loss he'll make on the business this year (planned loss, been investing in tools etc). I shall get carers whenever uni finishes for me, but I only get to keep £10 a week after WTC

DH is self-employed builder though, we don't know about income until at least May after we have handed in tax stuff to accountant lady. We alredy pay £35p/w, petrol costs is extra, he lives 300 miles away so thats alot of money too.

His ex is type of woman to tell them to check it all now, just incase she can get anything extra. We know money is not spent on him, he wears poor clothes and his mum has rang before now asking for it early because she is going out .

I did the online calculator and we may have to pay a tenner more a week. Feel quite resentful that one child is supposed to cost that much (£45p/w) from just one parent. I have tried talking to DH but he just dimisses it. I am worried that it will strain our other bills, etc. it will go down by £2 p/w when Mills is born .

That doesn't amke sense does it- ten unds more reduced by £2 when another child comes along?

It seems so wrong when your Dh amkes the effort to pay eyt others take the mick so much- I ahve one 'friend' (cant satnd her actually) who is trying to claim maintenance for 5 kids from her XH, even though only 3 are his- I understand that she needs the house becuase they all have to live somewher together (he tried to argue he would only provide a house for 3 kids- should point out that he ahs several other owned homes), but maintenance is so wrong. Yet its going to court.

Sounds like a frustrating day scorpio - maybe you're suffering from a bit of post-wedding blues hon x
Talk to DH and do something nice and relaxing this evening, like have a nice bath and let him take the strain with the kids.
Hope you have a better day tomorrow matey x

Everyone gets a maternity grant here and maternity allowance (providing you've paid your contributions of course). Annoying thing is we get waaaay less statuatory maternity pay here than rest of UK. I think you guys get 39 weeks right? We only get 18 so am going to be VERY poor for rest of my year off.
Never mind, will be worth it to spend time with elliebean

DH is doing kids.

Got a new tumble-drier today, mine broke about 6 months ago, but got a full size one this time i can manage ok now without it but i dont know how i will with Millie here as well. I got some of those tumble drier spiky drying ball things too.

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