LuckySalem, I remember feeling like you about this hospital, when pg with dd.
About not plugging things in - silly people. No one minds here, although I think the rules are the same. Anyway, one good thing about not having a mw constantly in attendance is you can use the power - what they don't know won't hurt them. Chances are the mw on duty won't care anyway. Plug in your recharger and hide it under the bed...
The delivery rooms in this hospital have lights that can be turned on "dim". Also, what about glo lights - www.iwantoneofthose.com/lifestyle-home/mood-lighting/index.html.
About the cord - tell them you refuse permission for them to cut the cord. And please would they go away and leave you and dp with your baby? When they come back, they can cut the cord. They don't need to watch it, do they? My experience is that as soon as you show any assertiveness, or awareness that they are only advising and not telling you what to do, you get treated better and given choices.
I think they'd have more mws if there were more women. Sometimes here there are women in v early labour on the antenatal ward, and they won't send them up to the delivery unit cos there isn't a mw for them. Then you hear someone on the phone calling more mws in.
Being alone on the ward with a new baby and no dh was always my fear too. Now I'm an old hand and I tell him to stop getting in my way and go home... But the chances are good that your baby will have a feed after the birth followed by a really long sleep, and you can sleep too. You will be knackered! Also, babies are born around the clock. You have 2 in 3 chance that yours will be born at a time when dp can stay with you cos its not night!