August 2021 - Scans and booking in!

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Continuation of August 2021 thread :)

@WolfMother326 yes, insomnia is raging here too. I've downloaded a mindfulness app to try and get back to sleep when I wake. Otherwise my mind wanders from randomly trying to remember a story book word for word (little Bob McGrew was a keeper at the zoo, looking after animals is what he likes to do....) , to upsetting myself thinking about what another loss would feel like. I've also bought an extra pair of cheap pillows to help me get comfy so I'm not tossing & turning x

@WolfMother326 Yep my sleep is shite - wake up a few times a night then I’m fully awake for the day at 7:00 (even on weekends 😒). I’m not even at the point of waking up at all hours for the loo so don’t know why it’s happening!

@HopefulB Glad your scan went well! 😁 thinking of you too @PurplePansy05

I told senior management really early on as I am NHS and didn't want to work on the wards, they were really nice about it and I'm glad I did as I ended up in hospital i the first few weeks.
I have since then had to tell a few others at work as sometimes I feel I need a substantial reason or justification to not do something eg, cant have covid vaccine I'm pregnant, cant check chemo I'm pregnant etc.

I feel the rest of the team have guessed if they haven't been told but I will tell everyone officially after 12 week scan and after genetic results are back!!

Yes @LyraShaeLilly I keep getting asked by my colleagues if I’ve had the covid vaccine yet as most of my team have but I just keep making excuses as want to wait for the 12 week scan.

Hello all 😊 Well that was exhausting, I was very anxious before and the appointment was long! By the time they scanned me, did all the bloods, went through my history, it was nearly 2 hours (including a 45 min delay, but let's not talk about that).

My son is fine 😊 He is a little wriggler, it's confirmed now, today he was waving at us and the sonographer 😂 So excuse an odd angle but since he was upside down (!) I had to flip the photo 😂 He's measuring ahead again, so we have an official EDD brought forward to 12 August 💙

As expected, I will be consultant led. I already have my 16 week appt and 20 week scan booked, I will also see my consultant in-between. DH was sobbing again, bless his heart 💙

I've had a very busy day off today picking maternity clothes and telling family and friends and I'm exhausted. Everyone has been so brilliant, so happy for us and I have a close friend and a good work colleague expecting now as well which is really nice. Lots of people cried happy tears for us, my mum couldn't even speak she was so overwhelmed and for me it is actually sinking in now as I am writing this and I'm sobbing my heart out because I've bottled up so much fear, worry and baggage from the last two years and now it just feels like my son is a little trooper and we're actually, dare I say it, doing fine. I can't quite comprehend this and I'm really overwhelmed now going into an uncharted territory of the second trimester. It's so much to take in.

I haven't told work yet but in view of the fact I have 3 appointments lined up already, I will do so later this month. I am wfh and don't really have to say anything. But I know my colleagues who know my story will be delighted. I'm blessed to have a good team, some of my colleagues have experienced their own difficulties with baby loss or infertility and we're close enough to talk about this and support each other. So I know they'll be happy for me and I don't think they'll be filling the gap which would be quite difficult to fill because of what I do, I think my big boss will take on more work for a period of time and my junior team will step up. I trust they can and will do this. I'm considering 9 months but this might be SPL. I find it important for DH to spend time with our son and he works shorter hours than me therefore long term it's important for him to feel happy and confident on his own looking after the baby. We have a strong partnership and always considered equal involvement in bringing up our children as an important part of this. He is delighted, I am pretty sure we'll end up doing SPL.

@HopefulB I am so happy for you. I know how much this means to you ❤ I hope you manage to breathe out a bit now and that you have your follow up appointments lined up soon xxx

Thank you everyone for thinking about me today. I hope all of your upcoming scans go very well, looking forward to your updates ❤ xxx

@PurplePansy05 he's just perfect! Glad you feel less anxious following all details thrown at you today. Welcome to 2nd trimester xx

@PurplePansy05, so happy for you!
(I didn’t mention the follow up for a reason - there are currently no scan appointments available before I am past 14weeks. I am trusting they will resolve this and not panicking yet!!!)

Sleep issues here too - although may have been anxiety last night! Was down to 18% deep sleep on my tracker (did I mention I love data points as well as reading?!). Waking early (usually to wee) then not getting back to sleep seems common though.

Congratulations @PurplePansy05, what a gorgeous scan photo! So delighted for you that you get to tell everyone now, must feel wonderful. Also sounds like your DH is so lovely, very happy for you both! x

Thanks to everyone else for replying about not sleeping - somehow it makes me feel better that I'm not the only one. I took a long walk this afternoon in the hope that tonight will be better.

@PurplePansy05 what a gorgeous scan - he looks perfect even if he was upside down! I was getting all emotional reading your post so I can't even imagine how you're feeling. So amazing hearing you say your son! It feels very real - I still catch myself saying 'it' and then feeling bad 😂

@WolfMother326 I had a truly dreadful night from nerves before the scan but now I'm just up to pee once or twice, otherwise OK. Objectively I'm sure I'm still getting almost as much as normal but I'm totally exhausted! Hoping now I'm second trimester (exciting!!) that it might improve...

Thank you @Alittlexmasmagic! He really is perfect to me 😊 xx

@HopefulB As awful as it sounds and as we both know from previous experience some 12 week scans will sadly be cancelled due to loss. A lady dealing with my appointment told me the slots vary daily so I wouldn't be overly concerned. I would also say, your RMC should be able to step up and help you if needed and worst case scenario perhaps a private scan to take NT measurements? This is because 14 weeks bang on is a cut off for these measurements, so just to be safe. I wouldn't go beyond 13-ish weeks if so just in case your EDD is actually brought forward. Mine was brought forward by 5 days as the pregnancy progressed. Tbh I think he'll be born earlier than the 12th, I don't know why! I am sure your hospital will fit you in though, I'd keep ringing them regularly. xx

@WolfMother326 Thank you!! I'm sorry you're struggling with sleep. You're definitely not alone, my back is killing me (but pregnancy pillow is en route - yay!) and I can't get comfy. I also have vivid dreams and keep waking up, either to go to the toilet or because of my back, or just because my sleep isn't great. I didn't expect this to become an issue so soon and it's making me increasingly tired and absent-minded, I struggle to concentrate. xx

@biscuitcat Thanks a lot! I'm so glad it's done! I hope your sleep improves soon too and same for @HopefulB. You've inspired me to check my Fitbit stats now, I bet the sleep one will be shocking! xx

I'm also up at least once every night needing the toilet. Doesn't seem to matter whether I stop drinking a few hours before I go to sleep or not 🙈

I haven't told my work yet, I'm waiting for my partner to tell his family and then I will let work know. I'm currently 13+4 so still have another 11 weeks before I "have" to tell them.

@PurplePansy05 Got a bit emosh reading your post! So happy all went well

@MrsB2019x 😘 I'll be thinking of you tomorrow, have everything crossed for you xx

@PurplePansy05

So pleased for you, maybe now you can relax and get some sleep. Xx

@PurplePansy05 Mine is Thursday, but thank you anyway! 😘

@MrsB2019x I thought it was Wednesday today, I literally thought that ALL day. Sorry! My head's gone 😂😘

Thank you @LyraShaeLilly, I'll try my best to dose off soon 😊

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Congrats on all the lovely scan results!! It certainly is becoming real these past few weeks!!

I started my own business with a co-founder last year, and we're raising investment now. I've only told her and some of our investors. They're all ok with it - but basically assuming i'll still be working through, albeit at 2--30% capacity. 😫Back in the days when I had a FT secure well-paid job, I was looking forward to a full year off of mat leave! Will be lucky to get a month or two now.

I'm fuming from today though. An investor said they had a pitch event they wanted us to pitch at on Monday. My scan is Monday, so I said sure we'd love to, but if it's during my scan it will be my co-founder pitching. I told her, and she actually asked me to move my scan!!!!! Even before knowing the time! In the end there was no clash. But man, was I SO annoyed. As if you can just ask for a new date just like that?!

Anyway we worked it out. But I thought you lot would understand!!

@PurplePansy05 If it helps, so have I 😂

@Champson That is so insensitive of her! 😠 Glad you don’t have a clash though

@Champson I'm guessing she doesn't have children?

Delighted for you @PurplePansy05 what a wonderful day.

So insensitive @Champson! Not impressed with that.

I hope everyone manages to get better night’s sleep tonight!

Thanks for the support ladies :) And no, @PurplePansy05 she doesn't have any children!! but even me before being pregnant knew the significance of a 12-week scan?! Like, why else does no one say anything before that? Although, I didn't fully understand the scanxiety that came along with it until going through. I think I'm being very hormonal in my response today, poor lady!!

I don't think you are @Champson. She should not have said that. I think people who haven't gone through it don't necessarily realise how appointments etc. work in pregnancy so might be worth you making clear to her that you won't be "moving" any of your antenatal appointments at all 😂 (and I assume you'll have quite a few extra in a multiple pregnancy). Just better to get this clear now instead of you stressing out going forward, not worth it.

@Miniheart Thank you very much 😊

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@Champson she probably thought it was just like a blood test you can swap & change. Just to warn you my local hospital only scanned multiples on a particular day. This might not be the same at yours. It makes arranging your diary easy but might piss your colleague off even more xx

I took a long walk yesterday (which was great for my body/mind and terrible for my work productivity) - I think it helped me sleep better last night. Not a full 8 hours or anything, but I nodded off and stayed asleep until morning! Feels like a big success. I also drank a strawberry milkshake, which is the first time I've been able to stomach anything sweet since finding out I was pregnant. I hope this means the famously easier second trimester experience is well on its way!

@Champson I hope your scan (and your presentation) goes well on Monday! People are very inconsiderate when they haven't gone through something themselves.