Due Oct 2007 - This little Piggy had a section, this little piggy stayed at home!

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Ok... this is scary.... never started a thread in ante-natal before! Please come and join me ladies, it's lonely here!

not sure i like being at the top of the list! i KNOW i wont be first to pop anyway!!! just as well, not quite ready yet!!!

night all!

oh and muppett you truly ARE a muppett at the moment!!! i LOVE the greasy conditioner look!

Hello, anyone around... can't sleep...

So much for dh telling me to go to bed earlier if I was so tired went to bed at 9.15, woke up at 10.40 with heartburn and needing loo... not been able to get back to sleep since feel tired though, just that heartburn is keeping me awake and it it wasn't for that I have the window open because I am so hot, but all I can hear is a howling dog or a fox or something and that's keeping me awake. I think I may be dropping off ds at nursery in a few hours and then going back to bed.

Muppetgirl - you muppet

Hi everyone,

Mrs Fish, I feel for you with the crap night's sleep and the heartburn. Thus far I've avoided heartburn but the insomnia seems impossible to escape. Daytime napping does help a bit, I think. Have a good rest today if you can!

Jersey, I expect the situation with your sister is difficult. Your mum is probably really worried about her as well as excited about your baby and is thus seeing you as 'lucky' and her as 'unlucky' and not computing that you're also exhausted and in need of TLC! I know from friends that IVF is pretty emotionally draining and your sister maybe isn't coping with that very well knowing that you're pregnant at the same time. Lots of hugs to you because you need support as well and it sounds like you're shattered!

Lisa, how are the contractions?

Ejt, how was your son last night?

And Muppet, the hair story made me laugh!

Has anyone found out the name of Dal's lo or heard from Dal?

I'm working at home today so am likely to be surfing in and out of here (!).

Morning all

Choc - Rhydian was absolutely fine last night - mind you, I had taken the revised dosage of the pain medication, so unless he'd really shouted, I'm not sure I would have heard him anyway!

He came bouncing in to see me just before 7 this morning, with the BFG - asking me to read a chapter ... very cute!

Have not long dropped him off at the childminder ... and am now sitting waiting to phone the antenatal clinic to find out if the consultant is there today.

Was thinking of going to a Welsh refresher course today, but I really can't be bothered ... am feeling a bit emotional and sore today!

Have fun "working" from home!

Jersey - big hugs to you!

muppet - I have done the conditioner thing myself before now ... 2 differences though - I couldn't blame it on pregnancy, and (worse still), I was already at work when I realised! Never mind, you'll have deeply conditioned hair now!

Mrs Fish - hope you managed to get back to sleep last night.

lisa - I have emailed you and your bump buddies each others' details ... hope they're not needed quite yet!

greedy - hiya - you're the leader of the pack (hope you like my singing!)

everybody else! - bore da ... have a good day everybody!

hi all,

sorry but a selfish post this morning-i am so tired again, i stopped counting after getting up 9 times in the night to use the toilet, i just can't function properly, what can i do apart from stop drinking!

Morning J20 - I'm with you on the sleep front. I lost track the amount of times I kept waking up, and that was after finally dozing back off at about 2am. Just dropped off ds at kindergarten and am now thinking of going back to bed for an hour or so.

Regards drinking = loo, I stop drinking after about 8pm but am still up at least 4 or 5 times during the night

i need to sleep, but waiting for the plumber!

i'd normally try to hold it in so my bladder streatches, but it hurts.
i'm going to ring docs to see if they've got my test results back yet regarding water infection!

enjoy the peace while you've got it mrsf

Have just got back from dropping ds off at nursery and drove home crying...

He was fine going in until a little boys mum left and then the little boy literally started screaming. Ollie looked at me and just grabbed me. He was crying, I was trying desperately hard not to. I also said to the teacher that his shoes are a little tight and that his new ones have been ordered and they arrive thur to which she said 'oh, he can always wear his home shoes' to which I now feel awful sending him in in shoes that don't fit (She was lovely and suggested he wear his trainers to which this got him even more upset as he wanted to wear his school shoes)

I know a lot of this is hormones but I feel like I've really let him down.....

I have a thing about him having the right thing at the right time as I always had uniform out of the lost property box/second hand which is no bad thing but we lived in quite an affluent area and I just wanted to wear the same uniform as the rest of my class. (Not the '70's version iyswim) My parents would cut off the top of my shoes when they became too tight and I still had to wear them -for summer and 'indoor' shoes. I just want Ollie to have what he needs at the right time.

Feeling so emotional atm

awww MG, have a {{{{{{{{{{big hug}}}}}}}}}}

he'll be fine, when you go to pick him up, he'll have forgotton all about it.

i know what you mean though, i hate seeing dd look trampy-even though she choses to sometimes!

Just texted Dal
she replied

" Hi. Am fab. Stayed in hosp to establish breast feeding and rest. Leave this afternoon. Tell everyone that horror stories re c sections are rubbish! Have named our little boy Ryan. Say Hi to everyone. Will try and post tmrw. x"

awww, thats great

Just a quick post so I can find this thread again...

Feeling knackered and p*ssed off with myself. Dh got home earlyish so I could go to bed at around 8 which was great. He woke me up to take my AB which was lovely of him. Then ds woke up at 02:30 and after 1.5 hours of getting up every 5 minutes or so to re-settle him, I wound up shouting at the poor thing and terrified him so then there was no hope of him settling. By then dh was wide awake as well so he got up with ds and they watched tv together until about 06:30 this morning. So not much sleep for anyone in our house last night. I feel awful for losing my temper with ds, but I'm SO knackered and worried about things with this pg at the moment...

Congratulations Dal on the safe arrival of Ryan! Guess Dal gets to start the postnatal thread then!

muppet: have a hug (((muppet))). I know what you mean about giving children better than we had. We too had lots of second hand clothes but the shoe thing wasnt as bad as what you said.

I slept like a log from 11-3am when i woke when i heard what sounded like someone messing with my front door . I sat listening, convieced myself someone was trying to get in . I feel asleep about 4.30am in the end adn didnt wake till 10.30!! I feel very refreshed but SPD is bad as i didnt wake to move. I think the last week of sleepless nights has caught up.

I have a meeting with Tanisha's school this afternoon, so hopefully should get some idea of what she does while there.

My friend pointed something out. If im contracting but pains arent increasing she think im contracting but not dailating. Will see how things go with consultant tomorrow.

Morning all

Lisa

oh muppet - big hugs to you. I know it's impossible not to worry, but he will be fine (as someone else said) - we've all got so much on at the moment it's impossible not to get so upset. try and give yourself a treat.

sorry to hear about all the insomnia going around - mrsfish and j20, you have my sympathies. I only get up once or twice and am a zombie, so can only imagine....treats for you too

massive congrats again to DAL and hope the going home bit is lovely.

well MIL is here today, so I've had a morning working from home and this afternoon get to go to the supermarket on my own!! (that may sound odd, but anyone with DC will know that going on your own to these places can seem like an absolutely joyous experience!) I had planned to go to the cinema, go shopping, sleep etc but as usual, jobs get in the way - sounds terrible but just having peace in the house is so restorative anyway First time she has had him on her own......wondering how they are??!

question for those with DC at nursery - I was wanting to get DC into somewhere for a couple of mornings a week before this LO arrives, but no luck as the waiting lists we're on are ridiculous (next intake sept 08 ) but there is one other place which may have a space but I'm now wondering whether I should try and do it before LO arrives??? Do you think it would be just too much stress, upheaval etc in this last 6 weeks?? I think it may be but would love to hear from those who already do nurseries etc. He's a very sociable little boy (2.5yrs) - I'm just so anxious not to do anything to disrupt his routine and security at this point! thanks and have a good day everyone!

Gosh everyone sounds so tired at the moment must be horrible not being able to sleep, hope people get some rest today. I feel so lucky I am just getting up once in the night still. Have had some horrid heartburn though and kind of pains like someone is stamping around on my bladder with big boots on.

Muppet girl I know what you mean about the second hand stuff everything we had came from a jumble or hand me downs I can remember thinking please can't I have just one new thing at the right time! I'm sure J20 is right though he'll forget about it soon enough.

Is anyone else planning on using re-usable nappies at all? or has used them before? It's like a whole new world to me.... so confused about how many and what type to get! I have got quite a few now to try so maybe that's best to do at first as I won't know how big this little one's going to be?

Nellie - ds is at nursery and loves it there although he is going through a clingy patch so is distraught when we drop him off - apparently, it lasts for about 2-5 minutes! If you put him in and decide it's too much, you can always take him out again. But if you are going to do it, I'd do it sooner rather than later so it doesn't actually coincide with the arrival of the new baby.

I agree with mumpbump. Ds has been going to nursery for two afternoons a week since he was 6 months old and he loves it, gives him a chance to play with other children which he doesn't get at home. He has just started a new one, second time today which is now 2 mornings a week, but I have also kept him in the old nursery too which he now goes for one whole day on a thursday. It always takes me ages to get him out when I pick him up as he enjoys it so much. Its a win win imo, he gets to play and have fun, I will get to have some time to myself for housework etc, and when this lo is born some one on one time with him too

I also agree with mumpbump ... do it sooner rather than later!

Kitti - I used reusables with ds, and will be doing the same again. I'll be using disposables for the first few weeks though, just until things settle down.I've still got the nappies I had with ds, but I lent them to a friend in between, so some of them have worn out - the ones I had with ds were kushies (shaped ones that you put a wrap ove the top of) ... I've topped up with cotton tots (also shaped with a wrap over the top).I didn't find them a great hassle ... in fact I credit the reusables with the fact that ds was dry by day at 22 months ... he could feel when he was wet so learnt the cues for potty training earlier.

Any questions on reusables - fire away!

muppet - just want to send you a big hug ... ds won't remeber about the shoes in a couple of days time ... I used to have a lot of hand-me-downs as a child, and also had my shoes cut down - but it wasn't that unusual where we lived, as it wasn't a very affluent area.

mumpbump - big hug to you too ... thinking about you!

love to all!

Muppet ? big hugs ? that must have been very upsetting for you. But everyone is right ? he will be absolutely fine. And you certainly haven?t let him down.

Congrats to dal!

Nellie ? ds loves his nursery and settled in really easily. He was 8 months ? think its easier when they?re little. I would say to avoid any big disruption when lo arrives so probably better to either do it now or to wait until a few weeks after ? I have heard its best to do stuff like this so he doesn?t associate it with lo arriving if you see what I mean? Good luck!

Kitti ? haven?t tried reusables but a friend who has said don?t get one of the big kits with everything you need ? try different types like you are as different ones fit different babies better?.

Big hugs to everyone else - think we're all having a rough time of one type or other at the mo....

Well I have been totally lazy on m yfirst proper day of mat leave! Stayed in bed all am, slept till 10 then read. Off to get up now as goign for lunch with another mate due in Oct - we are taking advantage of the fact both our boys are in nursery / childcare so we can go somewhere we wouldn't be able to with them! So better go make myself look presentable!

Then have consultant appt later this pm about booking section....

See you all later....

HI all,
Thanks for you reassurances. I know I'm being silly it's just, as you all know, everything is of the utmost importance atm and things I would normally be able to filter out -like these thoughts- eg at 3am this morning when I couldn't sleep due to thoughts about birth ect and I actually thought 'can you do anything abut it now? NO then boody well go back to sleeep you silly cow! but this is close to my heart and are overly sensitive anyway I know I am being over the top...

Ollie won't remember but for that moment I was transported right back to my own school days. Don't get me wrong I was always a fan of charity shops and was known for my dress sense as I never really follow fashions and are happy to wear what I want rather than what I have to to fit in so in that regard being different/standing out at an early age did me no harm at all. I just remember the feeling of being ashamed and that is a feeling I never want Ollie to feel (or Henry)

It's strange my brothers have hang ups of their own from our upbringing, my older brother always has the most packed fridge as he hated bringing his mates back and there being no food in the fridge. My middle brother has gone so far as to say that he doesn't want any children as he said 'my own childhood was crap, why on earth would I inflict it on another child?'

It does make you think about the HUGE responsibilty we bear for our children and that if we f**k up, they'll remember, hence the worries I have about Ollie and shoes!

...goodness, that was a bit full on!

Thanks for listening
Emma
x

muppetgirl - you carry on - the more you vent at us, the better you'll feel!

And, I know what you mean about everything seeming of the utmost importance ... blame it on these bl00dy hormones, (and not sleeping properly, and fears / anxieties about the birth) etc.

Can understand that issues from your past influence how you respond to events in yours and your children's life muppet. Don't feel bad about it or apologise for it.

I am incredibly lucky that I had a wonderful childhood and am still very close to my family. Doesn't stop me being insecure in not being able to live up to that for Sam and Adam though.... Parenthood is such a massive responsibility is't it?

Thanks ejt! one thing that's slighty confusing me is once I have the nappy, the wrap, the booster and the baby inside how the hell am I going to get the babies tiny clothes on over the top

Slightly more seriously how many roughly do you think I need if I am planning on washing every other day? I don't have a tumble dryer and don't want to get one if i can help it is this going to make it really tricky to dry them?

Alice I am also loving being on maternity leave I am planning on baking a cake this afternoon haven't decided what type yet maybe chocolate mmmmmm. I know i will never have this time to myself again so am making the most of it.

Hello, illicitly stopping in during my lunch break (!)

just to send big hugs to Muppet.I am not surprised you're tired and emotional and I agree parenting is a big responsibility. I'm quite in awe of those of you managing it plus being pregnant. Being pregnant consumes enough of my energy!

Oh and hearing you call lo Henry and Alicet call hers Adam almost made me cry thinking of the los as real people already - talk about pregnancy hormones!!!

Everyone else, hello and more later....