Late July Due Date

[ninemonthwait]

Anyone else just got their BFP? After 15 months of trying I have finally got mine, I am so excited but terrified of the long nine months ahead. Will definitely be going for an early scan in December for some reassurance!

Hi, got my BFP last week, due 20th July.
First time pregnant and absolutely terrified but happy to be here.
I had a week of light bleeding and cramps before it finally cleared up on Sunday.

Hi, can I join please? Got my BFP yesterday after 2 years of trying for my 2nd baby. From nhs calculator due 23rd July, but definitely going to book for an early scan too xx

Hey everyone sorry for being so quite had a busy week!

Congratulations to everyone here that's recently received their BFP. I am waiting to contact EPU for an early scan as I conceived again right after miscarriage before having 1st AF. This makes me really unsure of exactly how far along I am. Had been using OPKs which seemed to peak 26/26th October however, i got a positive FRER on 5th, I had 1-2 on clear blue on 7th, 2-3 on 10th and on 15th 3+. I would like to go for a scan as soon as possible but don't want to go to early as will make myself more anxious if I don't see a heartbeat yet.

Anxious week as have been having some cramping which I can describe as mild however I'm aware of it, feeling very nauseous and tired though and boobs have started to feel tender. Hoping everything goes well and everyone has a happy and healthy 9months

A really silly questions... Does DH need to be there for the first Midwife appointment or is this just about you and your health and to book a scan which he will then attend?

They normally ask a lot regarding family history in relation to medical conditions here is Scotland anyway not sure the same everywhere else? I brought my husband with me last time just to make sure I answered all the questions correctly as it then determined which pathway pregnancy follows

@mumof1babe I’m in Scotland too 😊 central region. Thanks for that though, I really didn’t know what to expect from my first appointment! Do they do a scan?

@amysara24 I'm east coast! We don't get a scan at booking in appointment only at 12 and 20 weeks via nhs however in my last pregnancy I couldn't help myself but book lots of extra private ones! I'm getting an early scan in next week or 2 as I've recently had a miscarriage which I think is good reassurance. First midwife appointment was questions, more questions, options given for where to birth, bloods taken and flu jab, weight and BMI, took approx 1hr!

@mumof1babe thank you for that - I really didn’t know what to expect from it! I have my midwife appointment on 6/12 and a fertility clinic scan on 11/12 (I’ve been being seen by them to help TTC!). I was tempted to book an early scan as there is a local clinic but I’m thinking it’s just over 2 weeks til midwife and then a few days til scan.. so I’m trying to hold off 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’m just so worried something will go wrong!

@amysara24 no problem! I have my first midwife appt on 6/12 aswell! Once I go there she will book me in for 12 week scan but will go to EPU before midwife so that they can confirm how far along I am, never expected to conceive again right after our miscarriage. You must be so happy to have your BFP and some support from fertility clinic will hopefully help ease your worries. I didn't realise until I went for my checkup after miscarriage that they would scan me early if I fell pregnant again, just assumed I would have to pay £70 for an early private! I think I was very naive before we suffered the loss as to the difficulties some people encounter when TTC and throughout pregnancy. My first pregnancy was a breeze so didn't really consider the possibility of having a miscarriage when I found out I was pregnant in September, it all happened so quickly and now I'm very on edge this time round, hoping that the early scan will go well and possibly help me chill out a bit... if that's even possible 😂 here for a hand to hold, it's a very nerve wracking time but I'm sending you positive vibes!

I'm North West England and my last booking in appointment was a million and one questions. I didn't take DH but it's good to get an idea of any family history beforehand. Be completely honest with them up front about anxiety or depression so they are aware and can offer extra help when/if needed. Oh, and get ready to pee in lots of pots and become a bit of a pin cushion x

@mumof1babe I’m so sorry to hear about your loss, that sounds like a really horrible experience. Congratulations on your bfp this time though!
I have pcos so needed Clomid to make me ovulate! I’m up at forth valley hospital, and the midwife only has 2 days of appointments a month which is why I got in so early!
There’s a private clinic in Falkirk which does early viability scans for £49, and I was so tempted (they do later scans in 4D etc too) as it seems reasonably priced but I’m hoping I won’t need it.
It’s strange isn’t it, just how nervous one little bean can make us even at this stage! But I definitely wouldn’t change it for the world!
I was on a TWW thread with some of the ladies here who also got a bfp, so it’s really nice having that support, and someone who doesn’t think I’m crazy for worrying at every little thing!

@mumof1babe I understand what you mean about being naive to it. I had never really considered the struggles and worries and things that could go wrong before, I hadn't really given it much thought and just assumed it would happen when we were ready to start trying, but after 15 months TTC it completely changes your view and compared to a lot of others my journey could still be considered easy. I think infertility is still very much a difficult conversation and not something you learn about. It is such a difficult period as a lot of the time you are going through all the challenges it's hard to share with people as you may not want them to know you are TTC.

Fingers crossed in a few weeks all of us slightly anxious with our BFPs can let the excitement in once we have seen the beating heart!

Agree with @Kiki275 about the pin cushion part lol!

@amysara24 it's so amazing all the help that can be offered now a days isn't it! Thank you, was so let down by my body when it happened but have had some faith restored by conceiving again! And yes it's unreal how on edge a little bean can make you, think early scans are great but I have a slightly addictive personality so once I've seen it it's all I want to do if you get what I mean 😂 £49 seems like a great price for an early scan though! I think I'll definitely book a 4D scan later on to hopefully see more features! So lovely having other ladies who experienced the TWW with you here to go through pregnancy too is it. I've gotten a lot of comfort from talking to ladies on here and reading different information it's great

@Kiki275 😂😂😂 sounds wonderful! DH has managed to get the afternoon off work so he will be able to go (and answer questions about his family himself!)
@ninemonthwait it’s so difficult, I shared my fertility struggles with my parents and now I’m having a hard time keeping this from them for a few weeks until everything is safe!
It’s so difficult especially as I have a lot of friends / acquaintances who seem to be falling pregnant by accident - if only it were that easy for us all! My close cousin also announced her pregnancy with #1 the same day I was told I had pcos. I found that so difficult as I wanted to be happy for her but I was so devastated about my own news - like a double punch in the gut!
@mumof1babe I’d be lost without MN to be totally honest, I feel like I can be honest without anyone judging and it’s so good to be able to share and have reassurance from people in the same boat!

@ninemonthwait I totally understand you. My SIL found out she was pregnant a few days after we had our miscarriage and our family is very close so I almost felt like my family were just waiting for it to happen again for us and I have had to tell them we are pregnant again as couldn't bare the looks of sympathy and walking on egg shells worrying about talking about her pregnancy in front of me! Immediately regretted telling them however as they are so excited and talking about names etc and I can't bare to let myself get too excited until I know things are ok since it was snatched away from us so quickly before. Always just envisioned it was going to be get pregnant, waddle for 9 months and bam 💥 there's your baby. But no, now it's constantly checking when I wipe going to the toilet, wondering if my symptoms are still as strong and freaking out at every cramp. Lucky enough to seem to have no problem conceiving but now have so much respect for all women who have the strength to go on month to month as I can honestly say thinking about TTC again after our miscarriage and how long it may take broke me. Feel so happy for all the women here who are experiencing this fun, emotional, crazy ride that is pregnancy and can all offer each other some support through the good and hard times. Let's hope there's good times ahead for all of us

Out of curiosity- what number baby/pregnancy is this for everyone here? 💓

It seems like a lot of us share the same worries this early on. I am analysing every twinge and symptom and always fearing the worse. I just want the next few months to pass so quickly. My biggest worry at the moment is an ectopic or a missed miscarriage. Has anyone started to feel/be sick yet? Xx

Mumof1babe this is my first time being pregnant. X

@Missdrifter congratulations! Yeah, you're right I think any pregnant woman worries about almost everything and it makes it a long nine months. Those are my worries too however I am trying to tell myself that the outcome was decided at conception and what will be will be. I think I am able to think like that for short periods of time before the worry creeps back in. Hoping the more I tell myself that, the longer period of respite I get from the worries. Do you have any other first time pregnancy questions or worries I'm sure those of us who are on to 2nd/3rd/4th or more babies would be more than happy to answer them for you!

I've been retching for the past few days and was sick yesterday just once. I had bad morning sickness with my first from around 7 weeks to term 🙄 I've never been so glad for morning sickness though, taking it as a good sign. How are you feeling?

@mumof1babe this is number one for me so everything is all so new.

@Missdrifter no sickness for me yet. The only thing that seems different for me so far is I have lost my appetite.

It will be interesting to hear how everyone's pregnancy and symptoms progress as time goes on

Morning everyone! I woke up through the night with a sore tummy and ran to the bathroom thinking I was going to be sick. I had that horrible feeling of being hot and sweating but wasn’t physically sick. Needed the loo at the same time which didn’t help!
Woke up this morning a bit queasy and with a horrible taste in my mouth - like blood. Still have seriously sore boobs and cramps but I don’t know if it’s a good sign or something to worry about? 🙁
@mumof1babe I’m sorry to hear about the timing, it definitely makes things feel more difficult. This is pregnancy #1 for me too

Baby number 3 for me. Pregnancy number 4 as I sadly lost twins at 8 weeks in April.

I'm feeling quite worried that it will happen again. The dreaded checking the toilet paper every time I wipe. I'm still very early on so I'm trying to keep busy. Going to book a private scan at 8 weeks. Hopefully all will be fine and we can tell family over Christmas.

Time goes so slow in the first few weeks!

It's baby number 2 for me, but I'm soooo anxious somethings going to go wrong! We've been trying for 2 years for this baby and had 2 chemical pregnancies so the wait is awful! I've not got sickness either which I had by now terribly with my first, so it's actually making me worry more I don't have it this time! How are you guys all coping with the wait and anxieties? Definitely going to book an early scan before Xmas xxx

@amysara24 that all sounds positive! I'm definitely queasy in the mornings now but not been sick yet and waking every morning at 4am for a wee!!

I'm loving every little sign at the moment though it's reassuring for me.

@Fsid00 thanks, that is reassuring. I get so worried about every wee thing, and today I’ve not really felt anything and it’s worried me as much as when I do have symptoms!
@Chlandy I’m so sorry for your loss. Fingers crossed all is well this time!