Due end of June/start of July 2020

[MsChatterbox]

Hello Everyone!

I am due my second baby on 27th June 2020. I thought I would start a separate thread for those due at the end of the month as I don't know about you but I feel a bit left behind in the June thread . Maybe we can have people from 20th June to 4th July in here? Then we will all be super close!

Maybe we can comment with a bit of info so I'll start:

Due date: 27th June
Baby: #2
TTC cycle: 6
Symptoms: nausea when hungry and hot flushes

The guidance is as usual, clear as mud but I'm taking it to mean limiting social interaction for now. I'm lucky in that I can work from home and my work team are more or less all doing that now anyway as of this week. I really hope that mum and newborn who tested positive are okay. What a scary time for her, being so unwell herself and then baby too. Surreal times! Stay safe ladies

Hi Ladies, I hope you don’t mind me joining your thread but hopefully you feel similar to me and in need of a bit of community right now! I am 25 weeks pregnant today with my first baby after a long period of TTC. I’m over the moon, even in this crazy age we’re living in, and taking every day as it comes. I hope you are all feeling well this morning and of course staying safe. X

Welcome @Goodgoodthings, and congratulations! It will all be okay. It will. We're all in the same boat and just have to take it one day at a time! I'm 26+4 weeks, and trying to focus on the positives - baby bean is very wriggly in there and that's great. I feel okay apart from the heartburn and not being able to get up off the floor in less than about 10 minutes. People will get used to taking the measures needed right now to minimise the spread of the virus, and the shops will have toilet roll and eggs again. I've been told to WFH from now on until told otherwise, so will save a small fortune in petrol and no longer have to care that my clothes are always covered in Weetabix (I also have a toddler, you too will find out about weetabix fashion accessories in due course).

Thank you for being so welcoming @LassoOfTruth ! You’re right, there are still so many positives and feeling baby wriggle blissfully unaware is the nicest distraction from all of this. Looking forward to the weetabix fashion accessories My husband is currently unemployed which will be a struggle, but as long as we are healthy and have Netflix we will get through this! Wondering if you girls had NCT classes booked etc? Do you have any ideas for alternatives online? Im going to look to see if I find anything useful to get us through the coming weeks at home!

Well ladies I've just a phone call at work from the midwife to say I have gestational diabetes, if it's not one thing it's another!

Oh crikey @Millettmum, sorry! What a cherry on top that is. Hopefully it's manageable, do you feel okay? I'm slightly dreading seeing my (grumpy) midwife next week as I know I have put on a ton of weight this time around. Obviously not connected to the vast quantities of cheese I have been scoffing. Going to try to get out for a little waddle at lunchtime today as I am feeling so cooped up already.

I'm 25+3 and having low back ache, braxton hicks, cramps, pelvic pressure and on top of that we are in isolation, my daughter had a cough and temp I have a cough, barley sleeping and keep being sick 😂 is it bed time yet haha x

@LassoOfTruth
Love cheese! I'm still going to work. Linking sugar with my lack of concentration now, obviously had too much fruit for dinner as the reading was high

Looks like after Friday we will be staying indoors as schools will be closing which I'm much happier with if I'm honest, means I can keep me and the kiddies safe indoors. Husbands waiting to find out whats happening with his work

Now I'm in two minds about whether to send DD to nursery next week. Technically we can, as DH is a 'key worker' - but he's not a doctor or anything (think supermarket supply chain) - and he can wfh. So although it would be a major challenge to work both our full time jobs in our tiny home, plus look after DD - I think we could muddle through. Basically we've told nursery that if places start getting tighter at nursery we're less of a priority than other key workers or single parent families who might need to send there kids in far more than us. But the other consideration is obviously my pregnancy - I don't feel particularly vulnerable, but maybe it's time to err on the side of caution? I just have so much work to do before I go on maternity but I know that's hardly the most important thing right now!

I know lots of pregnant women still going to work

Quite @Millettmum. Many women might not have the choice because of the nature of their jobs, or because their employers are not taking the issue/their vulnerability seriously enough. I know I'm lucky in that I can do my job WFH, and my employers are understanding about the realities of juggling that with childcare - to an extent. The issue is that DH's employer will expect him to do all his normal hours and his job has just become even more demanding. Okay, he's not a life-saver but without his role, the supermarkets would be even emptier than they are. People wouldn't like that! His work have said that since they are Key Workers, they will have to consider putting parents who choose to keep their kids at home on part-time pay. This isn't a good time for us for that to happen - it would (without wanting to be melodramatic) ruin everything we've scrimped and planned for over the last 5 or 6 years. We're in the middle of moving to our forever home which is putting us at maximum stretch financially. If we can't share childcare duties, I will barely be able to work at all. That isn't going to go down well with my employer and I have so little time now before maternity leave. But I realise this is all quite selfish reasons under the circumstances. We've decided to give it a week with DD at nursery. It's a small rural town, small cohort of children.The chances of her getting ill are actually tiny, and we are otherwise self-isolating (especially me) and taking all other precautions.

Maternity bra question. Im now in the position that I most definitely need a maternity bra but don't want to go out for obvious reasons so was looking at getting one online. How can u judge what size I will need?

How can you tell if you're having braxton hicks or baby's doing a big turn?

I am crying. I have just had a call from my birth centre and they said until further notice all birth centres are closed, all home births are cancelled. We need to go to hospital now. Because they were told that there are no ambulances available in London. And although risks are minimal without an ambulans to call, they can't operate! Now the hospital will be packed because I am sure I am not alone, a lot of people would be referred to hospital now. This is a ridiculous excuse to shut down birth centres and home births. I am so sad 😞 Also I am worried, if there are no ambulances available anymore, are we at risk if something happens? Do they hide real numbers of corona virus cases? Will hospital have enough capasity or staff?

My scan has now been cancelled on the 9th

It was for growth and my palcenta is damaged it was to check how that is functioning too, and a consultant plan of how and when this baby is arriving

I'm now worried af , maybe over emotional but what if something goes wrong and that could of been picked up on the scan !?

@Piecrust32 I am so sorry to hear this. Did they tell you the reason? Will they postpone it or cancel it? Private clinics don't offer 3d/4d scans but continue offering 2d scans if you really need to. I am so sorry :( hopefully everything will be alright.

I have found a very nice video from Milli Hill at the positive birth movement facebook group talking about covid-19 and how to still keep positive mood (as much as we could)

I have got a growth scan on the 7th April, because of the gestational diabetes

Morning everyone, just wanted to send my thoughts to you ladies who have had things cancelled/plans changed because of all this. From what I’ve read it’s likely that lots of areas will cancel home births/birth centre births because of ambulance and midwife capacity in the hospitals. I live in Birmingham and haven’t heard anything yet but assume my hospital will follow suit with it being a big city. It’s so frustrating to lose the little control we may have had but I’m trying to focus on what’s best for baby and trust the process. I don’t want all of this to taint the pregnancy but it’s hard isn’t it? I’ve got two appointments at hospital and GP next week and still waiting for the confirmation that they’ll go ahead. Sending love to you guys x

@Millettmum i have also have scan on 8th. I have sent an email to radiology department to see if there are any cancellations. Midwives dont know anything about this at the moment.

@Goodgoodthings very helpful indeed. 🙏🏻😇 let's buy some battery operated tealights and fairylights in case ...

FYI->Due to some rumours at social media, I have asked my midwife whether birthing partners are banned. And she clearly said there are no plans at the moment at least in their trust.

@bikbikmum those social media rumours are so annoying! I haven’t got Facebook but got three different messages from family this week about that in particular. The RCOG website is updated regularly and right now their stance is “ Women should be permitted and encouraged to have a birth partner present with them in their labour and during birth. Having a trusted birth partner present throughout labour is known to make
a significant difference to the safety and well-being of women in childbirth. A single, asymptomatic birth partner should be permitted to stay with the woman, at a minimum, through pregnancy and birth,
unless the birth occurs under general anaesthetic.” Trying my best to ignore Auntie Whatsit’s medical advice at all costs

I think people are reading things about abroad and presuming it's about here, is it in America where they've banned birthing partners?
I've only recently had my appointment through for the scan and they've always said to carry on with appointments and such haven't they?

Lets be grateful we are still healthy 🙏🏻 I keep reminding myself to be reasonable, I guess because of hormones, I am sometimes childish.

My Trust have cancelled all 36-week ultrasounds - I think just if you have no risk factors. This growth scan isn't considered as essential as the 20-week one, so that's kind of understandable, if unwelcome! I'm less concerned about that than about the birth partner issue. At the moment, birth partners are still allowed, but only one, and no children/visitors - normally the hospital has facility to have children present during the whole labour/birthing shenanigans in a 'family room'. That would have been very useful for us with no extended family very close by. Otherwise, my DD would go to one of her aunts (either my sister or DH's sister, both around an hour+ away). Now under lockdown we won't be able to send her to an auntie's either, so even if DH is theoretically allowed with me, he will instead have to be at home with DD. My local midwife-led unit is still open - and they're great and all, but I deliberately chose to go to the hospital (about 45 minutes from us) because of what happened with my first birth, and because they had this family room option. Now everything feels much more up in the air/uncertain, and I am feeling a bit overwhelmed about it too sometimes @Bikbikmum. But, deep breaths. Worrying about it isn't going to help. On the plus side - the in-laws won't be able to descend en masse the second I've popped out the placenta this time (they are lovely, but a LOT iykwim).