May 2020

[BlueberryPoppy123]

Hi everyone! I can't find a May 2020 group yet. Most of you don't even know you're expecting yet. I'm due May 1st and got my bfp on 9 dpo. So I'm only 3 weeks 3 days. I feel like I may be lonely in here for a little while.
Looking forward to being joined by other mummies to be :)
This is my 3rd pregnancy. 1st was 7 years ago and I have a 7 year old son. 2nd was 5 years ago which ended in a m/c feeling positive for my rainbow.

Hello! Just joined this group- I’m 7weeks and according to google due 15th May. Feeling pretty awful with sickness and exhaustion so happy to find some ladies going through it together- exciting times but just feel like crap right now! This is my second. I’ve a 3 year old daughter :)

@Cleozeta woke up to a very red toilet this morning, things aren't looking good. No pain as yet but I've got a sinking feeling I'm losing this baby. Won't know for sure until 7 October just got to sit and wait it out! Keep everything crossed for me x

@mystie oh no. Hopefully it's not what you think. Keeping everything crossed x

Oh @Mystie I'm so sorry to read your story :( i just wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you ❤️ Perhaps try speaking to the doctor again today to see if that can give you any advice/further info to help settle your mind xx

(Thank you everyone for the nice responses to my first post about this pregnancy)
Does anyone know of any useful links that i can make my other half read because he thinks he knows it all and i'm getting really annoyed. Hes all like "we are just carrying on as normal its only 6 weeks" but i don't feel normal, i can think of nothing else, every twinge, every cramping sensation, every light headed moment when i get up from a chair too fast, crazy emotions (like right now I;m really angry but crying) not to mention the worries about my lack of sore boobs and lack of nausea (we are never content are we!) and i could do with a bit of support, like maybe him just asking if i feel ok once a day would be nice. Does anyone else have a know it all other half who it totally clueless and driving them mad? His ex miscarried at 9 weeks and so hes very much "i've been here before" and not letting himself think about it but i'm not his ex and i need him to be there mentally.
Sorry about the rant, i just needed to get that out.

@Mystie would the hospital scan u as an emergency if u phoned? That seems like such a long time to wait. Will be thinking of u!

@mystie, i am so sorry to read your message, I am thinking of you and i hope that everything is ok.

@calmcat I don't know of anything useful for him to read but just wanted to say I can empathise with u about ur OH, mine has been a nightmare this last couple weeks, SO NEGATIVE! I understand he doesn't want to be shouting it from the rooftops incase anything happens but he was giving me a hard time about wanting to tell my family at nearly 11 weeks as I'm going away a weekend with them the week after. I'm like, do u honestly think if anything was to go wrong at this point my mum wouldn't know about it?! Madness. I can't be doing with it. And also the only reason he's actually been asking how I am is because he literally cannot ignore how ill I am lol. So I will be milking it.

@Mystie I'd definitely give the EPU a call as i cant believe they will ignore you til the 7th october in that situation!!

@Skiaddicted we went to the EPU on Monday and had a scan where they couldn't confirm viability or not as was too early. They told me whatever happens within the 2 weeks (even heavy bleeding and pain) that I wasn't too come back before the 7th. If I'm really in pain she advised going to A&E. I understand they don't want people turning up every other day for scans etc but I still feel like I'm in purgatory! Currently in Pret surrounded by crying babies which isn't helping

Hi @mollysmummy1970 thank you for the empathy. My OH didn't want to tell anyone either because of his ex miscarrying (i am about sick of hearing about it but its obviously worrying him), he conceded that i should tell my best friend as she has 2 kids and can really support me. I have now convinced him that we have to tell my folks because i am so close to them i feel like i am lying to them by not telling them and I agree with you, if something bad happened i would need my mum anyway so she will know anyway then she will be hurt i didn't share it with her even though she would tell me that, he thankfully agreed so we will tell them next weekend. Hes just such a know it all, everything i find out he poo poos. I think because i look the same from the outside its hard for him to understand how it all feels. Arghhh.

@Mystie I know you probably don't want to seem like you're being a pain (which you wouldn't be at all) but if it was me, I would definitely just go to A&E to be on the safe side regardless of pain or not just so they can check everything is ok. I really hope it is! October 7th just seems too far away! xxx

@Mystie that sounds terrible!!

@calmcat ive told plenty of people for the reason of if i misscarry I'd want their support so might as well tell them. I understand in a way his hesitation but i think id tell people regardless of his opinion

@calmcat this article might help?

www.nct.org.uk/pregnancy/dads-be-and-partners/first-trimester-tips-for-dads-be

My husband has been good, but has also been acting like everything's normal too (I think because I've told him things could still go potentially wrong, so he's being a bit wary). It's on my mind all the time so I sometimes wonder how it's not always on his too?! I guess it's not happening to them though so it's hard for them to fully relate at this stage! I also downloaded the Pregnancy+ app and showed it to him and it shows all the things your body is busy doing at the different early pregnancy stages, so that might help him understand the toll it's taking on you emotionally and physically! My husband was fascinated by it!

@calmcat Also if you want to tell your parents, tell them! I can understand he had a bad experience previously but he shouldn't let it shroud this whole experience you're having together! Apart from the anxiety and worry (!), it's an exciting time for you both!

@TwinklyTwinkle thank you.

@skiaddicted thank you

I am at 5w 6d and starting getting longish spells of nausea.. wow this is a treat! 🤦🏽‍♀️ but strangely reassuring that something is happening!

@helpasisterout Me too! I'm at 5 weeks 7 days I felt gross this morning! It's like severe hunger mixed with a mild pukey feeling! I'd convinced myself that maybe I just wasn't going to get any sickness or nausea because I'd had nothing till today!

I am 6w 1d and finding I have a dull kind of nausea - it's not too strong but it is around most of the time. I find eating helps and so I have been slightly overeating these past few days.

I am now thinking exercise might help so planning on getting back to jogging and bodypump tomorrow.

@flossy12 good luck for the scan tomorrow! Update us when you can x

@Coastaldreamer thank you honey! I will do x

Yes good luck to those who have scans today (I think there's a few from memory!). I hope it is amazing as it should be and pleeeaassse share pics if you want to :)

Thank you! I’m so nervous!!

Hi everyone i’m Saff and i’m 5 weeks and due end of May. Lovely to meet you all and find this group as i’ve found these groups really helpful in the past 😊 Time seems to be going very slowly and i’m waiting on my letter with all my appointment details. I’m nervously excited for this pregnancy as I have been diagnosed as a carrier of a muscular dystrophy so will need to get genetic testing done in a few weeks to check baby isn’t affected. Fingers crossed.

I’ve been trying to keep active and doing some YouTube pregnancy workouts and yoga workouts. Interested to hear what others have been doing? Next week i’m planning on getting back to the gym for some gentle workouts like aqua bump and maybe spin or body pump (@woollycat let me know how you find doing it and if you do the sit up section? I’ve heard mixed advice on sit ups in pregnancy and a bit confused....)

Lovely to meet you all. Xx