September 2019 #12

[Florencenotflo]

Aaahhhh... thread number 12! Hold on tight ladies... here come the babies!

Must be something in the air!

That being said 3 of my 4 DC have been born while we were bickering / arguing / not speaking ...

Thanks for the new thread! Just checking in, 34+3.

DH is actually being a lot better now he can see that I’m genuinely physically a bit useless. Until about 30 weeks he just assumed I could carry on as usual as long as I didn’t lift anything heavy, now he is accepting that I need to slow down a bit and he needs to pick up the slack.

Maybe it's something to do with their hormones 😂 DH has a go at me the other day because I'd not done some random job that I said I would and apparently the house was a shit hole 🙄 he got told to fuck off and cheer up! And it seemed to have worked, he's been a bit happier since. He keeps telling me to slow down, take it easy etc but I said you then can't moan if I haven't done something! And the house is far from a shit hole!

Well the IL's offered to take Dd out today so I could rest. Then the pole in the wardrobe fell down this morning, buckling under the weight of too much shit! So I've spent 2 hours sorting clothes for the charity shop and reorganised everything! Feeling very proud of myself and keep looking in the wardrobe to see how tidy it is 😂

My wardrobe has turned into a shit cupboard

My best friend and her husband have driven 1.5hours to come and see us, take my son out for a bit to give us a break and some alone time
She is also due in September so it's very much appreciated. My husband decided no thanks, he's going to watch the football seeing as it's his team's first game of the season😟 So I've gone out with them and just sitting in a pub garden.

boodles my dp is also consumed by football today! Pub garden sounds nice though and your friend and her partner sound lovely

I had to force mine out. He had a training session today but wanted to stay home as he’d prefer to spend time with me 🤦‍♀️

I told him not to be so silly and he’ll soon be sick of being in when the baby comes ANYTIME!

DH is a bit arsey this weekend too. I'm trying to get stuff finished and he is easily distracted, then annoyed when I do it or ask for help. I think he's totally stressed out, he's been going for loads of runs to clear his head.

Is anybody else getting their DP/H to pack a bag for himself. I’ve asked him several times to sort it just so he has some spare clothes and snacks and he still hasn’t

Had a nice weekend with DH actually, my parents took DD which was amazing. However am only 33 weeks and think I've lost my mucus plug today - has this happened to anyone else? Should I be concerned!?

I've just stuck DH a t-shirt and toothbrush in my bag @Karigan195 he'll put some deodorant in when we leave the house.

But I'm not expecting him to stay overnight this time. It was a completely pointless exercise last time, all he did was keep me awake snoring! He'll be dispatched to load me up with drinks and snacks once baby is born (there's a Costa coffee in our hospital 🙌🏼) then he can go home to Dd and hopefully just come back the next day to bring us home.

@Littlehouseinthebigcity I have heard of people losing bits or the whole thing quite early on. It re-grows I believe. Could you ring your midwife or maternity day care to check?

I'd say if you weren't losing waters or having contractions there's nothing to worry about. But I've been having braxton hicks since about 33 weeks, if I'd lost my plug too I'd be wanting to get checked out.

@Florencenotflo that's what concerns me, I've been having pretty strong Braxton hicks for the last couple of weeks 🙈

littlehouse perhaps ring up to put your mind at rest but yes the plug does reform

I'd ring then @Littlehouseinthebigcity can't hurt can it.

And a complete first world problem (and didn't want to start a separate thread because I'll get my arse handed to me). But MIL has bought Dd a present so she doesn't feel left out when baby comes, which is very sweet. We've bought her some new books.

But she's bought her a toy she really wants and we'd planned to get her for Christmas. I mean it's a £40 present. I hope I sounded grateful when she told me, but I was a bit disappointed, we're going to have to really cut back this year because I'm on mat leave but I knew Dd would love it and has been looking forward to getting it, she mentions it every time the advert comes on tv. So I didn't feel as bad knowing she would have this for Christmas. Back to the drawing board! I need to give my head a wobble maybe.

@Karigan195 I’ve asked DH to pack things for himself but to no avail! I’m not doing it for him though. There are 2 toothbrushes in my bag as bought new ones in a double pack but that’s it. No doubt he’ll run around in a last minute panic if we go in to labour naturally!

decaf pub garden was lovely actually and I've found a new place to hang out with DS if the weather is ok over the next few weeks! They had a great play area that requires minimal parental input so I'm thinking a nice cup of tea and a few play dates will keep him occupied!

karigan I hadn't even thought of packing DH anything!! We are only 15 mins from the hospital but maybe I should put him some stuff in the bag. Hmm. I also need to pack DS a small bag just incase I have to ship him off to my mums earlier than the csection date!

florence completely understand why you would be disappointed in the MIL present. We havent bought ours presents from the new baby at any point tbh but would definitely only be looking at token gifts if we were going to do it! I have bought dc4 some matching onesies actually so he and baby will match but he wont give a shit its just so i can do cute photos lol

Glad it’s not just me whose DH is being man childish at the moment! Honestly, what would they be like if they actually had to go through the physical side of it that we do!

@Littlehouseinthebigcity I’d give your midwife or day care unit a call - hopefully they’ll just check things over and reassure you so that you’re not worrying about it. I have heard it can grow back as well.

@Florencenotflo was there anything else your daughter wants for Xmas? Or could you tell your mil that you’d already bought it and then she can return hers and get something different!

Had our first NCT session today, the other couples were nice and we all got on and had a bit of banter but the organisation was shocking - the lady running it didn’t have it in her calendar so she was 45 minutes late and seemed flustered for the whole day! We were also meant to have been emailed lunch plans so that everyone bought something to share for lunch which we never got so she sent two of the guys out to get stuff from a local shop last minute! 🤦‍♀️

Also my baby’s movements have been a bit different today. She’s still been active but the movements just feel a bit different, a lot jerkier at times. My bump also massively changed shape yesterday, it felt like she’d turned or something and it was right after my bump did a big jolt of movement so I don’t know if it’s just because body parts are now in different places! I don’t know whether it’s something I should ring my MW about in the morning or wait until I have my appointment with her on Tuesday?

@IVEgottheDECAF well I was convinced I lent it to SIL but she claims not to have it
I've looked everywhere in the whole house but it's gone. So irritating. It's not like it's easy to lose.
I'm still hoping it turns up somewhere (maybe the PILs have it).

@Puglover88 if the movements have reduced I'd get seen sooner than Tuesday.
Could well be that she's just changed position. Where can you feel the movements now.

@Puglover88 no, I didn't say anything when she told me, would look a bit odd now if I said I'd bought it. She's 3.5y there is loads she would be happy with I'm sure, it's just she's been going on about this toy for ages and has been so good saying that she's going to ask Santa for it.

@IVEgottheDECAF yeah I've bought 3 books as a token present so hopefully she won't feel left out, we can read while I feed the baby. I feel this is slightly over the top as 'just' a present.