Due Dec 2007 - finding out the flavours

[mixedmama]

Hey all... over here!!

only comfortable for me if im on top!

I cant believe you all have the energy to do anything at all

I just could not think of anything worse atm, cant even remember the last time we did anything

On the other hand, ive got such an urge to clean and bleach everything, its strange ive got the energy for that but nothing else.

OK, have only skim read to catch up so apologies if I miss anything significant!

Sex - peanutbutter, that's exactly what it was like for me last time. Definitely stronger sensations "down there"! Not so much this time - shame. Skidaddle - with you on the rock-hard uterus.

Cazzybabs - no idea what to say - the advice to check bereavement websites sounds good. Don't avoid talking about her son - if you are talking about kids, she may want to hear that you still think of him? this can vary - and usually it is with time that people like to know you remember them too. Some people hate to hear the name mentioned so you need to take a lead from them. Only similar experience I have is with a friend who lost her daughter at birth earlier this year - they very much like to keep her in their conversations, they hate it when people don't like to talk about her. Very hard as 2 out of the 4 of us in our close circle are currently pregnant.

5 days to go until the scan!!!!

Had 20wk scan today and all good. Weird to think that next time we see curly-baby will be when it's born. Dh didn't want to know the sex so we shall now wait and see.

JARM 26/11/07 2DD's - Expecting a BOY!!!
Nbg 28/11/07 1 DD and 1DS - Expecting a BOY
Beanstermum 30/11/07 1 DD - Expecting lots of pain but worth it in the end - mint choc chip or pimms flavour??
Cazzybabs 30/11/07 2dds - Expecting a baby, but wouldn't mind a horse or a puppy! Suspect a girl.
Claraq 01/12/07 1DD - Expecting a BABY (I hope)!!
Mad4girls 04/12/07 2DD's - Expecting a BOY!!!
Ambi 04/12/07 - No1 - Expecting a GIRL!!
thelady 04/12/0 - no kids - Expecting a BABY!
Lizzer 10/12/07 - 1dd - Expecting a BOY!!!
skidaddle 11/12/07 - 1dd - Expecting a BOY!!
Fifisworld 17/12/07 - 1 ds - Expecting a BOY!!!
Lucy 17/12/07 - 1 DD - Expecting a Baby!
Insywinsy 18/12/07 - 1 DS - Expecting a Baby!
peanutbutter 21/12/07 - 1ds - Expecting a BOY
Buzzybee 23/12/07 - 1 dd - expecting a GIRL!
Curlygirly 24/12/07 -2 ds's - expecting a Baby!
Mrswizz 02/12/07 - No1 - expecting a BOY

Cant believe you lot getting it on!

I've just been guzzling hot chocolates and sleeping.
Much to dhs disappointment

Is anyone else waking up with really bad cramp in their legs???

The past 3 nights ive been woken up through the night with really bad cramps, i dont now if its just the way ive been lying or if this is common in pg.

fifi - yes I've been woken up a few times by really bad cramps - think it is pg-related - all your blood going to your uterus and forgetting about your legs?

housemum - thank God you have the hard uterus thing too - was beginning to think i was a bit of a wierdo. Also enjoying sex a lot at the mo - extra sensation and lots of dirty thoughts - could it be because I'm having a boy??

mixedmama - I have tried that one also -Me 'better not, I might give you thrush'
Him 'Oh I don't care, I'll risk it'

Me too skidaddle - lots and lots of dirty thoughts . i was just the same with ds.

neuro - i missed your question about reading something by Updike, no i haven't read anything at all by him - what's he like?

I was getting bad cramps in my legs at night so phoned the midwife and she told me to drink a small glass of tonic water (one that contains Quinine) in the evening. Must say I haven't I haven't had it again.

good on all you book readers, I haven't read a book since before DD, must get back into the habit

My sex drive went up in my last pregnancy we even had sex the day before i went into labour.

This time we are still getting it on but am so much more tired this time, not to mention having so many more aches and pains.

i do wake up with cramps, but not only in my legs, in my shoulders, my back everywhere. i actually moan out loud sometimes i am so uncomfy and DH just snores away.

Morning all.
Since we are talking about things we are suffering from, here's my list (or moan of the day):

swollen feet - where are my ankles????

Indegestion - I love spicy food, but can't tolerate it anymore - gives bad heartburn.

Feeling really bloated everytime I eat, especially in the evening.

Before my bladder seemed like it was made of steel(!) - could 'hold' myself (IYKWIM!), now sometimes if I need to go - I need to go!

However - generally am feeling better and way more energetic than the first three month!

Night cramps are a definite pregnancy thing, I get them in my calves but not every night (thankfully), sometimes they leave me with sore calves for a couple of days afterwards though.
As for sex I have to say my drive is usually high in pregnancy but not so much this time, probably because I am just so tired!
List of boys/girls/babies is coming together well although we seem to have a high number of boys at the moment! How many of you had 'feelings' about which sex your baby would be and how many were right? I have a feeling mine is a boy, DH says a girl (but only cos he wants one). DS2 was all snuggled up to me last night and baby was kicking so I put his little hand on my tum and baby kicked him! He was so excited! DS1 also had a turn and felt a kick but one was enough and he went back to playing, DS2 then snuck his hand back to feel more kicks!

And totally agree with the bladder thing MotherofZ, mine is currently waking me up in the night too...

So sweet about you DC bespeckle...

MotherofZ - we also eat spicy food alot and the smell of the food cooking makes me feel nauseous even just thinking about it. Hopefully will all go back to normal once LO is here.

Yes, leg cramps still annoying. Sore back also annoying, wish I could to yoga back bends. Hate sitting at my desk for hours a day, it is sooo uncomfortable.

Sex drive up, that's a good thing. Am besotted by DH at the moment. Must be hormones.

Becklespeckle, knew mine was a boy from about 8 weeks. I was right.

Any of you know when I have to give my MatB1 form in? Anyone had to do it yet? Midwives seem v. thin on the ground for advice, haven't seen one since May and don't have an appointment until 21st Aug.

aah, bless your ds, beckle - how old is he?

dd has started saying hello baby into my tummy but don't think she has a clue that there will actually be a baby coming out.. have been lent loads of books from a friend about being a big sister and having a new baby in the family etc so hopefully those will help - sometimes I feel so sad for her that her whole world is about to be turned on its head and she has no idea I know it is a good thing but it might not feel like it for her, at least at first

mrswizz - think MATB1 form is at 26 weeks

Sore back here too, especially when cycling

Also completely besotted with my dp at the mo - he's getting used to all this affection and will have a rude awakening when ds arrives, pg hormones disappear, sleep deprivation kicks in and I turn back into the miserable old witch he knows and loves

DS2 is 4.5 Skidaddle, he has been very excited since we told him. DS1 (7) is a bit indifferent really, says he doesn't like babies because he "can't be doing with the crying" (!). How old is your DD? DS1 was just over 2.5 when DS2 was born and he adjusted really quickly. For the first few days he just kept checking that 'baby' was still here and then he lost interest when he realised babies didn't do anything. Now they are great friends (and also great enemies!) which is nice. I felt a lot of guilt when pg with DS2 about turning DS1's world upside down but in reality it was okay. Feel guilt this time too about upsetting the boy's lives but I have come to the conclusion that guilt is just a part of parenthood!

it feels weird that my DD is going to be an older sister at the ripe of age of two!

I have to say I havent really felt any guilt as such - bad mother!! But my DS is only grandchild, nephew to absolutely everyone so think he will certainly be a little put out so trying to give him lots of attention and plan all major changes for now. He will only be 22 months so I think it may be a little difficult to help him understand.

As i mentioned ages ago I am trying to plan (I plan my life in theory constantly) to make it so that DS has special activities just for him, like a couple of mornings at nuresry. Evening time for bathing and playing and story time. Of course, nothing ever goes according to plan does it.

Think 22 months is a lovely gap Mixedmama, give him a few months and he will never remember being and 'only child'!

I hadnt thought of that, very good point.

beckle my dd is nearly 22 months and will be 2,2 when ds arrives. I don't exactly feel guilty because i know we are doing nothing wrong but i just feel sad for her that it will be such a confusing time, and one day out of the blue there will be someone else demanding (and getting)our attention.

mixedmama - think it is a great idea to plan things you can do alone with ds, even if it doesn't quite work out the way you hope. My thinking is that while a tiny baby knows no different, dd could feel really put-out by the new arrival so I am going to try to focus as much attention as I can on her. Ds will presumably be feeding and sleeping most of the time so will invest in a good sling so I can feed and play with dd at the same time. Am also going to ask all visitors to ignore new baby for five mins when they arrive and lavish attention on dd. And of course expect a bit of bad behaviour from dd... I'm sure it will all be fine

oh yes that's true - you'll probably avoid the whole jealousy thing