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Due Dec 2007 - finding out the flavours

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mixedmama · 25/07/2007 11:06

Hey all... over here!!

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MotherofZ · 08/08/2007 11:11

am just a bit worried about the first few weeks - baby BF 2 hrs for 45 mins each time and feeling exhausted (still remember those days). Just want to make sure that DD dosn't feel left out.

MotherofZ · 08/08/2007 11:11

meant...
am just a bit worried about the first few weeks - baby BF every 2 hrs for 45 mins each time and feeling exhausted (still remember those days). Just want to make sure that DD dosn't feel left out.

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mixedmama · 08/08/2007 11:12

That is a good idea to ask visitors to lavish attention on DS. i had also thought that could be a good time to spend time with DS when everyone is cooing over baby. Especially since I dont get on with DH family could be a good opporutnity to pop to the park (in DECEMBER) thats assuming of course that they show their face. Sorry going off topic.

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Mrswizz · 08/08/2007 11:16

Thanks Skidaddle.

Housemum · 08/08/2007 11:28

Might be worth checking out the local pantos for those of you with slightly older ones? DH is going to take DD2 (she's 4) to the panto on Jan 6th - I'm hoping I won't go overdue, if I do the contingency plan is my mum would take her, but assuming this one comes early like my other two, then I thought it would be good for them to have some time together on a treat that's just for her. DD1 is 14 and will be doing her own thing anyway! So long as she has pocket money and a lift into town she will be happy.

Housemum · 08/08/2007 11:30

Another (cheaper!) option, particularly if on your own, is to buy a new DVD or two - when you are doing the long BF session it could be cuddle up time on the sofa watching a new DVD? Perhaps have a set of "special" videos for when you have to be with the baby, or have a box of colouring stuff/small toys that you get out when you are feeding so that the older one has his/her special attention in some way too.

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mixedmama · 08/08/2007 11:32

How old does a child have to be to enjoy, not necesssarilt appreciate but enjoy and sit through panto... would love to take DS but think he may be too young.

Cant wait to take him to see Santa this year as he will be old enough to at least know something is going on.

Did anyone hear that Harrods have apparently already started something Xmasy, not sure what it is exactly I think it was santa or something and it isnt even the end of August yet...

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skidaddle · 08/08/2007 11:44

mixedmama - my niece went to a panto for her 2nd bday and loved it so think they can start quite young

housemum - yes think that's a great idea. I keep meaning to put a special box together full of little toys that dd has never seen before to get out for long BF-ing sessions. I want to try and avoid her watching too much telly if I can but not sure if this is completely unrealistic in the first few weeks. At least i will hopefully be quite adept at one-handed BF-ing this time (took me weeks and weeks last time)

Toddler groups are also probably a good idea - toddler can be off playing while you feed baby - that's if we can manage to get ourselves, toddler and new baby out of the house!!

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mixedmama · 08/08/2007 11:48

Tell me about it and most of our toddler groups start around 10 altho i think they are drop in.

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becklespeckle · 08/08/2007 11:49

The thing I found when we had DS2 was that he just sort of fitted into the family routine, first babies have a way of completely changing your life/routines but 2nd (and hopefully 3rd too) had to just fit in. DVDs to watch together are an excellent idea, I also learned to BF one-armed (as DS2 would latch on and that would always be when DS1 wanted a wee...) and in all sorts of positions so that I could still do stuff with DS1. My Mum got DS1 a lunch box filled with stickers of all shapes and sizes and a small book to stick them all in and that was great for keeping him entertained as he could chat to me while doing it and I could still feed DS2.
The other thing we did was to put a little present in DS2's crib at the hospital which was his present to his new big brother - that went down very well!

becklespeckle · 08/08/2007 11:52

What I am most worried about this time with regards to the older children is that baby is due at the end of December and DS2 will start school full-time at the start of January. Having gone overdue with the boys I would say there is a fair chance of doing so again so the school start and baby could well end up being very very close. After nearly 5 years of being the youngest I don't want DS2 to feel he is being pushed out by his new sibling. He is very much a Mummy's boy

skidaddle · 08/08/2007 11:54

Oh yes I have been thinking about what present to get dd from her baby brother - what did you get beckle? I was thinking of a doll so that she had her own baby (although she already has one so it might not be that exciting)

skidaddle · 08/08/2007 11:57

Oh dear beckle, best thing I suppose would be for him to start school BEFORE baby no.3 was born but I suppose this is an impossibility? At least he is old enough to understand that everyone goes to school when they're five etc. Hopefully school will be so exciting that it will not be an issue - plus you can talk up the whole big boys go to school thing, not like little babies who can only sleep, feed and poo

becklespeckle · 08/08/2007 12:01

I went for one of those magnetic drawing board thingies, he loved it! It gave him something creative to do (with no mess for me to clean up afterwards!). I also found that lots of family brought videos and books for DS1 when they came to visit and paying him the attention first really helped to curb jealousy,

MotherofZ · 08/08/2007 12:05

good idead skiddadle about the doll and Housemum about DVDs and box. DD really into Bob the Builder at the moment - so will keep a look out for any DVDs and then can surprise her with them at BF time etc.

becklespeckle · 08/08/2007 12:05

That is what I am hoping Skidaddle! We did want a much smaller gap but nature had different ideas! Unfortunately with the schools here they only take them the term they turn 5 so even though he will turn 5 a couple of weeks after he starts they still wouldn't take him any earlier. TBH I don't want him to go earlier, they grow up fast enough as it is! Am hoping that the thought of 'big boy school' will be exiting for him and he will be fine. Would be nice if baby was on time or a little early as I'm sure a week or so would convince him they are not much fun!

becklespeckle · 08/08/2007 12:07

I am sure a doll would be a good pressie for DD too Skidaddle, is she old enough for one of those Baby Annabell type dolls which cry and stuff?

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mixedmama · 08/08/2007 12:11

Re: the school thing, I think he will think it is really exciting. I used to love going shopping for pencil case, and bits and pieces and a little rucksack. Ahhh, so sweet.

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Neuro · 08/08/2007 12:22

Peanut I really recommend John Updike's Rabbit Series - you can buy it as three seperate books or a big one containing all three. he also wrote a collection of short stories called Licks of Love and the final story in the collection is the final part of the Rabbit series. I cannot stress how brilliant these books are. I read them back to back when away travelling in Thailand, so is a special book memory. Felt utterly bereft when i'd finished them. Luckily there were palm trees near by to relax under and get over it!

Oh and you lot who are getting 'it' LUCKY YOU!!!!

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mixedmama · 08/08/2007 12:55

Am going to post this here and on New year thread as want as many opinions as poss...

Bit of a dilemma.

We have a temp at work and we all have our own drawers. She is basically covering for someone who is away on sabatical.

The lady who is away came in and handed in her notice yesterday and came in to collect all her stuff. She asked the temp if she could get into the drawer as she had left some money in there (about £50 bagged up in change).

The temp replied that she had run out of money and taken it to the bank, changed it up and spent it. She said she would give it back.... she had not one ounce of embarrassment and was talking loudly and laughing. The lady asked for it and she said not until Friday.

Can you believe she had the audacity to call the shots as to when she would give the money.

The other people in my department are mortified and are saying it is tantamount to theft and want to report it to our manager.

What do you think?

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Neuro · 08/08/2007 13:03

You should report it. It is theft. I mean, I am permanent and the odd occasion I have to borrow a fiver out of petty cash, i get someone to witness and sign the chitty for me. If i didnt' ask i would feel like a thief as it is company money.

Neuro · 08/08/2007 13:04

is the temp a chav?!

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mixedmama · 08/08/2007 13:07

No she is actually an Aussie just temping her way through. She just said oh I was desperate and laughed.

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Neuro · 08/08/2007 13:20

Well, what about the woman who's handed in her notice. Does she have any other office stuff she needs to hand over to the manager? Perhaps she could quietly explain the situation, as she is leaving.

Also, managers are there to manage situations that other people feel uncomfortable dealing with, why let him/her sort it out and earn their money?!

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mixedmama · 08/08/2007 13:23

Problem is someone has to tell the manager first.

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