June 2019 - Part 8

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I couldn't see a new thread so started one, hope that's OK.

Massive congratulations @swiftfox. So exciting to have our first baby!

@2countries1bump just realised your baby isn’t really big so ignore that comment. I blame baby brain.

@toomanyflatwhites you’ve made me feel a bit better about my impending induction on weds. There’s no mlu here unfortunately just a big standard hospital with a terrible reputation so I think I’m mostly dreading it for that reason as was planning a home birth to avoid the hospital. Wishing it wasn’t too late to transfer to a different one. Anyway it sounds like it’s not necessarily a long drawn out process so that’s good.

Not necessarily no, @LivingOnAPear! I was seriously amazed by how things planned out and also super happy that my preparation paid off as I am quite sure the months of (on off) listening to hypnobirthing relaxation did actually help.
I'm in such a funny headspace where I want to send messages to everyone telling them he's here but I also just want to be very quiet and protected. So far our immediate family know and have posted here, emailed 1 friend and that's it!!! We haven't 100% confirmed his name yet so I'm kind of waiting to that I suppose.

Sorry I've not posted for a few days - baby arrived Wed morning and we had a boy
He arrived on his due date just like his older brother did!

Congrats to all the new mamas!

I'm now 9 days late and completely fed up and down. I feel like I'm doing something wrong but I've tried all the curry, sex, yoga ball, walking, pineapple tactics. So many people messaging me asking me where he is and if I'm doing everything I can and I'm so fed up with it all, I'm starting to feel like ifs my fault but I know it's not! I can barely sleep, I'm so uncomfortable and in a lot of pelvic pain. I get some tightening every now and then but not enough to mean anything. Lots of movement low down and the midwife said his position is fine. She did the sweep yesterday but said he some stretch but not sweep yet.

I just feel useless and my little boy who is nearly 6 is getting so confused and impatient, I feel so sorry for him.

Good luck to everyone this week xxx

@KoalasAteMyHomework congratulations!!

@2countries1bump I'm in exactly the same situation - my girl is very little and having trouble to latch on (midwife says her mouth is so small it's hard for her to get enough tissue in to stay latched). My milk has now come in and it helped a lot compared to the colostrum, but my nipples suffered so much I am now using nipple shields - maybe give that a go if you're struggling. I find them very helpful and makes it easier for your little one to latch

@annihall Thanks! Just done a feed. Fortunately milk has come in on at least one side and as you say - it's a little easier. I'm still 50/50 on the nipple shields, sometimes they help, others she can't draw the milk through enough. We are still supplementing with a cup to try and halt/reverse weight loss and I'm also pumping to build supply - all in all we're quite tired!

@excitedmama I am 10 days over today. Feel exactly the same as you. I’ve tried everything as was worried about being overdue again. I think it’s easy to feel like it’s your fault when there’s so much advice on what to do to get baby out. Mine is posterior so I think that’s partly to blame for this but I feel like I should have done more weeks ago to turn her.

Going for a sweep today but not managed to have one yet and I think she’s going to say my cervix is too far back.
Keep having pains that last for a few hours then go. It’s so annoying.

My dd age 3 is also getting impatient and organising childcare when you don’t know when it’s happening is hard. Lots of people who offered to help around my due date are on holiday and dh family has let us down.

Hope something kicks off for both of us today.

@LivingOnAPear Oh bless you, exactly the same here with childcare too. I've had to pay for breakfast club and after school club for another week just in case and all my friends who offered to help around the due date are busy and working etc so every day is a new day bothering and chasing different people to help 'just in case'. They must be so sick of me now. My parents live too far away and my husbands parents live even further so there's no emergency back up.

Last night I woke up uncontrollably shaking and ended up throwing up a lot. Not sure if that means anything or my body just had a complete anxiety attack and just rejected everything but I really thought things were going somewhere.. but then I just woke up and I'm fine. Strange.

Good luck this week xxx

@LivingOnAPear good luck with your sweep today. I have reflexology and a massage booked for this morning, hoping it’ll help lift my mood. My birthing partners husband is away until Friday now so if I go into labour between now and then I’ll be birthing alone which I was fine with but I’m starting to feel a bit scared.

@Napssavelives there seems to be a theme emerging with people going away. Can you ask anyone else?
Hope you enjoy the reflexology and massage today. I’m going for reflexology again too.

@excitedmama that’s weird about waking up shaking etc. It might be stress.
The childcare thing has done my head in. My dh assured me it would all be fine whilst doing nothing to help sort childcare. His family live just over an hour away but his mum won’t drive or get train to collect dd and take her to hers on thurs if I get induced. My mum is now coming down but although she’s being helpful the thought of coming home from hospital and her being here is stressing me out. I pictured having a lovely home water birth and then at least a week to bond with the baby before visitors. Now I feel like it’s all going the opposite way as it looks like I will have to go to horrible local hospital and have my mum here. I’m hoping I will still be high from the birth at that point and the baby blues won’t have kicked in.

No longer team green/yellow. Our little man (Jackson) arrived late Monday night via emergency c section 6lb 2oz (38weeks 6 days). Went in as I was having contractions, they put me on the machine and his heart stopped for a second then started again shooting up really high so was rushed in the theatre. Turns out he had the cord round his neck. Had no sucking reflex so had to syringe feed and teach him how to suck. After 5 nights in hospital we were finally able to go home.
@2countries1bump we were syringe and cup feeding for 5days but he became severely dehydrated. We had to give 25ml every 2 hours (in small stages either 5ml or 10ml at a time) so feeding could take any time up to 2 hours to feed such a small amount. Now we have taught him to suck we are able to use the tests on the infant bottles (apparently long thin teats shouldn't cause nipple confusion-according to the Lactation specialist i spoke to on the phone)

@HoneyPea congrats!

@LivingOnAPear how you getting on? How was the reflexology? Mine was nice and relaxing, got told to go home and listen to the yoga nidra for pregnancy and try and stay relaxed.

@HoneyPea gosh that sounds scary but very glad to hear you're home now and hopefully things continue to improve with the feeding.
We had a very sleepy baby in day 1 but day 2 has been all about the feeding - he's been in the boob non stop! Hoping that means we won't have a whole evening of it like we did yesterday, but it's getting less painful already so I'm not experiencing the resistance I was feeling yesterday so that's a relief!

Been away for a while, congratulations to everyone that's had there baby's!!
Great news..
I'm due Saturday 22nd.. beginning a get baby out mission as of now!!

@Napssavelives I felt amazing after and super chilled. Decided to send dd away for the week so I can relax. Had a successful sweep. Thought labour was starting. Now it’s all stopped again.
I also made the mistake of reading emails and there’s a massive issue with the house we are buying. Wish I hadn’t read it now as the stress is not helping labour to start.
Hope you are having more luck staying chilled out.

Congrats to @HoneyPea.

@LivingOnAPear was getting a bit crampy but then got scared and it all calmed down. I don’t want to do this alone

My little boy was born yesterday 2am morning at 38+2, all went well and the Labour was quick and we were home by 11am x

@Fizzytonicplease Congratulations on the new arrival and getting out of hospital so quickly. That sounds amazing.

@Napssavelives can you find an alternative birth partner in case it happens this week? Most friends would be happy to do it I’m sure. Or can your birth partner get childcare?

Only just come across this thread! 38+4 today with first baby, already had to tell people to back off & stop asking if she’s here yet.

Was meant to be having a c section this week due to low lying placenta & other issues but it has moved slightly now consultant is refusing to refer me for a c section so feeling VERY unprepared.

Had pains Thurs night to Sunday morning but nothing since then.

Have a sweep booked at 39+5 but hoping she’s already here!

They attempted to sweep today . Still no change. Bump not grown, shrunk actually. Measuring 35cm so been refereed for a growth scan

Oh @napssavelives I’m sorry.

How far along are you now? The only reason I ask is that if you are at 40+ and they can’t reach for a sweep it may be worth asking if you could go straight for CS to basically avoid the fucking about of an induction cos if your cervix is mega high and closed it’s unlikely it’s going to speedily ripen and you go into spontaneous labour any time soon.

The only reason I say this is because it means you could canvass your support team (who is helping you in the first days after both seeing as DH isn’t in the picture) for a fixed date as opposed to a mad scramble adding to the stress you’re already under?

Sorry if I come across as flippant, I just think jive had a proper hard time of these past 40 weeks x

I’m 40+4, bishops score is 2. Closed, posterior, long cervix.

He doesn’t want to come out which to be fair I don’t bloody blame him! I wouldn’t want to come out to this mess. My concern is the same
@PaulHollywoodsSexGut that if my cervix isn’t ripe then it would be a very long drawn out induction process which would be likely to fail and require further intervention. I can 1) do without a traumatic delivery after the bullshit that this year has become and 2) I can’t be in hospital for 4-5 days whilst they attempt to induce me and then end up doing a c section anyway extending the stay even longer. Since ex left my eldest really struggles been away from me, he needs me. Will see what they say at the scan as the midwife did hint that they may want to induce me then if baby isn’t growing.

Has anyone out there had an episiotomy and can tell me when the stinging will go? I dread going for a wee and feel like I'm not drinking enough because I'm worried about it coming back out again! I know it will get better but I've read horror stories about it lasting months and I just can't handle that long!! Plus the nurofen gave me diarrhoea so I stopped taking it but I've had to start it again because the pain is too much otherwise!

Just some reassurance needed please!!