September 2019 Babies #2

[TwittleBee]

Welcome to part 2! Good luck to us all through the rest if our 1st trimester and beyond

Google Doc sheet:
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@abi2790 realistically with an 8 year old, 10 year old, baby and a dog I'm probably going to have to get something bigger, will see what happens at scan in case there's more than one in there!

@TwittleBee honestly it's a piece of piss, any pop just gets flicked down the toilet (it just falls off in my experience) and nappy goes in bucket with lid or wet bag until you have a lid to wash. Obviously it's extra washing and they do need changed more than disposables but you soon get in a routine. Plus if you like buying things like I do then there are so many cute designs! If I had bigger house for drying over winter I'd do it again. Just the initial outlay that's expensive.

@DustyDoorframes oh I shall go and have a look over there. I wonder if there's a group for new baby after a big gap!

Twittle I had two in cloth at once and it’s much less scary than it seems!! Tip poo into the toilet then wash as normal We had a lidded “dirty bucket” that we put them all in throughout the day, then put a nappy wash on once every evening, the nappies would dry overnight on the radiators or I’d put them on the washing line in the morning and use my dry spares in their place and then repeat the cycle that evening

@Easterbuns1 you need to talk to @womblove about big gaps!

Easterbuns how big is your gap? I've been debating whether to start a thread, DD is 15 and I don't know anyone else with an age gap like it. GCSEs and a new baby!

Ah thank you for the cloth tips. Can't imagine the baby poo just flicking off at all though (it was like peanut butter until DS we weaned and then it varied!). Might have to give it a go. Although not sure if I can handle more washing!

@KnobJockey dd will be 8 and a half and ds just turning 10, so not that huge in grand scheme of things but feels like almost starting again as it's new dp and I never thought I'd have any more. They regularly ask for a baby though so hopefully will be delighted!

@mybreadiseggy
We have a 64 reg ix35 which I love. Great to drive, very reliable and I think bigger interior space than the quashqai etc.

Just switched our other car for a seat arona which is a little suv. Would be great family car. Decent boot and could fit two rear facing seats.

That will hopefully be a very nice age gap Easterbuns1 - old enough to understand, and to help a little but not too disruptive. But I understand where you're coming from with starting again- it feels like I'm going to be having two only children, not siblings.

I have a school friend who is the eldest with your gap @KnobJockey , they are actually really lovely close siblings. The elder used to bring the younger along with her a lot in our late teens, and they are still really close as adults.

@Hsunshine I had a 5 door mini when my DD was born and kept it until she was 2. My DH is 6ft 3 and we also had a dog crate on the back seat too. I had a bugaboo cameleon that fitted fine in the mini (and tried another couple of options that did too). I had to take the back wheels off the pram when packing the bassinet in the boot but once I got used to doing this it took me no time at all to collapse the pram.

I've moved to an SUV now but I miss my Mini so much!

If this baby comes on it’s due date my son will be 10 a week later. I’m hoping he thinks it’s a nice surprise not a bad one!

@Easterbuns1
Hello my oldest turns 16 next month and also doing her GCSE's so bit concerned about that as want to keep it all calm for her.

Just had a crying, snotty meltdown at the GP receptionist.

The medication I now have which takes the edge off the nausea (I still feel awful and can’t drink but can at least move) is expensive and they will only prescribe me with 10 tablets at a time, which last 2.5 days. So they want me to do a prescription request every 2nd day, then I’d have to leave work early to get to the doctors to collect the prescription and then get to the pharmacy to get the meds. And I’d have to be extra careful not to run out at the weekend.

I’m going to spend most of my week just making sure I have enough medication for the next day. It’s completely bonkers.

The receptionist told me to calm down. I wish she’d seen me retching into a bag every 2 minutes on the drive there or sitting in the car for 10 minutes until I’d stopped shaking enough that I could go into the surgery.

@Hsunshine I have had a seat Leon, bugaboo cameleon fitted easy but not loads else. It's as a high lip on the boot - was difficult to lift stuff in following birth. Fast forward to a big rear facing seat it does really well, we are both tall and DD will rear face for years yet. DH has a massive BMW and the slopey seats are shit.

No nursery here, baby will be with us 6months then share with DD. We have a spare bedroom but its downstairs and have had enough hassle with one child roaming about all night...but may change our mind yet!

Oh Stroan, that sounds awful, I'm sorry. Is there another gp in the surgery that you can see?

@Womblove very similar to my age gap then- DD is 15 next week. How are you feeling about it all? I put off TTC for a fair while as the thought of the age gap just put me off!

@DustyDoorframes that's good to hear. Was it a typical sibling relationship? I just imagine it will be more aunt & niece/ nephew, with a bit of babysitting, letting them do stuff I wouldn't, etc.

@KnobJockey a bit if that, but also a lot of (friendly) mutual teasing, ganging up on parents etc. Normal sibling stuff. They shared a bedroom as they lived in a teeny flat, which probably made them closer! And both went to uni close by to save money, so they were both home for nearly 15 years. They are such a lovely close family, their mum is my parenting guru!

Thanks @knobjockey I’m so done with it all. I’m exhausted, I’ve been at the doctor/midwife/hospital at least twice, if not three times a week for 5 weeks now. I can’t get a single person to even listen to all the symptoms to understand how bad things are. As soon as they find out I’m not being sick, they just switch off.

That was a different GP. Repeat prescriptions are done by the on call
Doctor, not via appointments. So I guess I’d have to get another appointment (can only get them by queuing up at 8am) to try to persuade the doctor that I need a bigger prescription. It’s just so ridiculous. The cost of all the appointments surely negates some of the cost of the medication?

I’m just so miserable and low. I can’t even cuddle DD, the smell of her lovely clean hair makes me retch. She thinks I live in my bedroom now

@stroan oh that's shite, I hope they come to a better resolution.

I was a late baby, my siblings were 10, 13 and 16 when I was born so I was pretty much brought up as an only child because they were all independent and moved out at 17! My mum always says I kept her young but jokes she would have had a much more chilled out time had they not had me!

@stroan that is really awful. Meds have now been proven to work so they should up your script. You’re right it is a waste of everyone time and money to be repeating the process so frequently.
I would ask to speak to the practice manager as it’s not on.

@munchymunchkin they had no problem giving me large prescriptions of the 4 meds that didn’t work. It’s just the one that does help is expensive. They won’t put it on an actual repeat prescription either so I can’t
Even get the pharmacy to order it for me.

@stroan ondansetron is expensive but you exhausted all other options so think this is reasonable.
You may be able to get a bigger supply via whoever manages HG at your hospital (normally emergency gynae).
The expensive medicine is keeping you a functioning member of society.
Might also be worth contacting the people at pregnancy sickness.

@munchmunchkin thank you for being so kind, I feel like all I do is whine. I’m
Not normally so negative.

I left a tearful message for my midwife earlier, who spoke to maternity triage who just called me back. They have written me a prescription for 7 days worth, and have left a note for the doctor to justify why they’ve recommended Ondansatron. I’ve to collect it tomorrow, then take the note to my doctor. Means more time off work bug will hopefully resolve all this mess. I don’t want to waste NHS resources any more than the Doctor does, but I’m so low/depressed that they’ll have some mental health costs to add to my tally if things don’t improve.

Yay for your midwife @stroan and don’t worry you’re not moaning without reason!

Right sorry for posting pics of my bob but can I get your opinions please? I seem to have a large red slight inflamed area on my bob and wondering what it is. Does anyone else have this? It could be my bra but the other boob doesn't have it and basically it's just another thing to worry about!