The March-ers 2019 - #7

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I think as long as you google to compare prices so you don’t pay over the odds on amazon. @LittleKitty1985
I love amazon for the delivery but some things are way more expensive than other shops

Hi all, checking in. Had a few quiet days at home. There was some weird hot air being pumped into the office on Wednesday from the server rooms which made me feel really ill so just been working from home which is nice.

Saw my belly moving for the first time over the past few days with some hard kicks. About 10 or 11 times. And there was me thinking he'd gone quiet.

Had my flu jab today. Was previously told by the midwife that the nurse wasn't licensed to do the whooping cough jab til 28 weeks but when I saw the nurse today she said it had changed and did it there and then. Flu jab arm feels fine. The whooping jab though is really achy and a little painful.

Did anyone else find this?

Just checking in, have been reading but slow to comment.

@Jenfur sorry to hear about the job, it's tough not having much notice but hopefully will mean lots of time to relax and get everything in order before baby arrives.

@melissa112 i was sore for a few days with the whopping cough vaccine with my son. I had hoped I'd be covered having had it before but apparently it only lasts for a pregnancy so I've got another on monday, not looking forward to it!

@LittleKitty1985 I agree with Melissa it's worth shopping around, there are some good deals on Amazon but some things are surprisingly steep. I got nappies through subscribe and save which were good value but definitely overspent on other things for the convenience... I brought some sippee cups on amazon and saw them next day in Wilkinsons a third of the price!

I feel like I should be shopping at the moment but because I kept everything from my son therr isn't really much. I'm worried I'm forgetting heaps though!

Checking back into this thread.

Sorry to hear some of you are still struggling so much with anxiety. @melissa112, have you considered asking for more concrete/practical support with yours, maybe? Just mentioning because it sounds like you've just got a lot of anxiety floating about, and like it fixes onto a new thing as soon as it's released the first. I recognise it from when mine was very bad, and it's not a nice place to be in, so maybe a regular space to discuss it in real life as well as here could be helpful?

@cardboard33 I don't think it makes you bad parents at all to feel deflated, just human. Agree with everyone else who's said it might be the loss of the possibilities you're feeling, and in your situation it's not surprising if that feeling runs a bit deeper than you expected. Even if we're very self-aware the actual emotion can hit us more than we expect. I was in a situation myself the other day that I knew full well might trigger me to feel a certain way, yet it still blindsided me how much so when it happened. Sometimes all you can do is accept it and ride it out and know you'll be in a different place eventually!

@Jenfur, sorry to hear about the redundancy, that is awfully sudden. It sounds like you're ok with the timeline, but if you want to double-check your position in light of the turnaround, do check in with Maternity Action? I can definitely already speak to the benefits of having a rest before the baby's here, have days of feeling unproductive, but in general it's nice to have the time to focus on the pregnancy!

I'm still ailing a bit with this stupid cold, it's been almost two weeks now, and for the past week, some (gross TMI ahead, sorry) blood in snot when I blow my nose occasionally, so I'm a bit worried it's turning into a sinus infection. Almost made a GP appointment yesterday but had a day where bloodiness seemed to have vanished, so will see how it's by Monday. Baby is super busy dancing away though so not too worried about her.

Also saw the perinatal mental health team for an assessment yesterday - it was a bit of a standard 'better to be safe' referral because of my past history. They were lovely, and we agreed to leave anything for now as things are going so well, but they're around and I can re-refer myself if things in the post-birth period become tougher than expected. Which is lovely to know!

Evening ladies. Sounds like everyone is doing ok. Had an appointment today at 22weeks for a check up and got to hear heartbeat again 💓. All looking good though I might have a UTI and got my MATB1 form sorted for work. Just waiting for the urine results to come back to see if I need antibiotics. Have a lovely weekend everyone!

@silvertongue I have had anterior placenta with both of mine and was pleasantly surprised to feel them both move at 18 weeks! I have the cervix dancing thing a lot too - I really do not especially like the feeling and prefer the stomach pokes!

@Jenfur crikey, what a shock. Will you get as much with MA as you would have with SMP? Definitely concur with Squirtles to give HMRC a ring to check. They were v helpful when i rang a little while ago.

@LittleKitty1985 I fear I am rapidly approaching the same point! I already find it hard to bend to put socks on, and am having to bring each foot up instead!

@melissa112 ooo a moving belly is so exciting! Mine has been kicking hard this morning too - maybe I should start looking to see if I can see anything! Glad you have been able to work from home - how restful. Yes, my whooping cough jab ached for days and yet my flu jab wasn't a problem at all!

@wordsmithereens sorry if this is TMI but literally just as I was reading your post I was blowing my nose with slightly bloody snot! I have had it for a couple of weeks and wondered if it is just because there is more blood in my body? V unscientific of me!

@cardboard33 hugs to you, sounds like you and DP have been doing a lot of processing. Also sounds like your feelings maybe are less about the sex of the baby and more about your particular situation? I found that a lot of pregnancy and childbirth was not how I imagined it. I was dumbfounded when I found out I was having a boy with my first - I was convinced it was a girl. I got my head round that quickly, but then when he was born I had imagined meeting him for the first time and how i would recognise him instantly as he was put on my chest... in reality he was shown to me briefly whilst the doctor was slapping him on the back to make him throw up muconium, he looked nothing like I had imagined, and I felt a lot less than I had thought I would! I then spent the entire morning throwing up so much that I could barely hold him! It was so not how I had envisaged feeling! (The second day was better...!) X

@BadBadBeans Well I started with the TMI, so whatever. I did notice my nose being drier before, and I think pregnancy rhinitis due to hormones is an actual thing as well? Mine is definitely a sinus infection now, pain got a lot worse and out of hours GP prescribed me antibiotics and steroid nasal spray saying he actually thinks that's safer whilst I'm pregnant. Just hope I don't end up with thrush next.

Hope yours settles and is just irritation from change in weather!

@wordsmithereens oh no, sorry it got worse for you! Mine is literally just a bit of congestion and bloody snot; definitely no pain. I have since googled it, and it appears that this kind of thing is very common in pregnancy due to increased blood flow to the mucous membranes. Lovely! Hope you feel better soon x

Thanks @badbadbeans. :)

Hi everyone, I dipped out of the thread for a bit as I was just so pre occupied with other things going on.

My anxiety seems to have settled slightly which i’m pleased about.

This pregnancy is so different to my first one. I hate the majority of food, I never feel like anything in particular, nothing is appealing to me! I’m still eating and putting weight on I’m just grabbing crap on the go. I seem to be having a love affair with Cadbury's Roses Really must get my shit together from tomorrow and make a conscious effort to eat better and cook more!

A random one, but does anyone know when I can expect my periods to return after an elective C section? With my DD I didn’t get a period for 6 months, even though I only breastfed for about 6 weeks. Surely that’s not normal? I won’t be breastfeeding my son, just giving him the colostrum. Should I expect a period after about 6 weeks post section and do they return to their usual pattern straight away?

@VillageFete I’m not sure after a c section but mine took 5 months to return after stopping breastfeeding I thought it would be immediately afterwards

Good morning everyone.
Finally back got home last after nearly 20 hours of travelling. Baby is going mental this morning! It's the first time I've properly felt it move apart from the odd flutter/flick. Got my scan tomorrow so hoping everything is well!
Hope everyone is keeping well!

20 hours of travel doesn’t sound fun @AssumeItWasSomethingClever 😭

We are taking dd swimming today I’m going to look like a beached whale

We went round to the in laws last night to see what baby stuff they had-I was thinking a pram and a few bits. My MIL went absolutely mad with my newphews and we have come away with three huge bags of newborn stuff and we’re going to get to the 3-6 months stuff later! She had a serious eBay addiction. All nice stuff though. Slightly overwhelming. It got to the point where no-one could buy the nephews anything because they had so much stuff. I am of course grateful and it’s all boy/neutral stuff so at least we and others can get some ‘girl’ bits. I’m sure I won’t care when the baby has something clean to put on (in abundance).

We’re going back next week to look at 5 prams!

I am very grateful that we don’t have to fork out a fortune and can pick what we do splurge on. But 5 prams!

Leg cramps and not being able to sleep on my side are my biggest bug bears still but on the whole feeling good. Hope everyone else is doing well.

@Gronk27 ha ha that’s crazy but it will definitely save you some money

@wineandchoccy definitely! It’s strange in a way that we won’t go and buy everything. But I’m determined not to spend lots.

In other news OH has just felt baby move for the first time!

Ooh congrats @Gronk27, always a special moment! We got the same with hand-me-downs from my nephew and neice, got at least a bin bag full of stuff for each size from newborn to aged 10 it was awesome! Still got some new bits of our own but was great not to have to get a full wardrobe each time!

@Wineandchoccy I quite like wearing a swimsuit preggers - particularly this time of year when you're all layered up I worry that I just look a bit fat but in a swimsuit there's no room for misinterpretation! Hope you had a good time.

Thanks to all for your kind words reg baby sex. We are finally getting our heads around it and as others have said, think the upset wasn't really related so much to the sex but more to the situation we find ourselves in but such is life. Can't remember who it was who shared their birth story, but it's similar to how I've been feeling all of the way through... I didn't really know what "being pregnant" would be like so didn't really have expectations but by the same token I didn't think it would be like this. I guess I just expected to feel "more pregnant" when I was more than half way through although also very happy that I've had it easy!!

We got our pushchair on Saturday as my parents were down... Had a "fun" time trying to put it all together and made the whole baby thing feel more real. We've decided to do practice putting up/down each week to get the hang of it. And then got an appointment next Sunday in JL to quiz their brains about other things before Black Friday.

Also on Saturday I got Spice Girls tickets which may possibly be the best thing that's happened to me. Ever. Husband said I was more excited about it than finding out we were pregnant or when he finally got around to proposing... But c'est la vie. He also didn't believe I was pregnant as the line wasn't strong enough so made me do several tests over multiple days before he believed me... So I'm sorry if my excitement there was subdued!!

@villagefete I don't think you've posted recently but I'm thinking about you, your friend and her little boy. It must be very tough.

@cardboard33 I also got Spice Girls tickets and when confirmed I turned round to my partner and went "oh my god. It's going to be the best night of my life".

He's not let me live that comment down yet and I don't think he ever will do.

Thank you @cardboard33 I won’t lie, i’m exhausted and heartbroken. She is in her final weeks. There’s never a “right” time but bloody hell, why on top of Christmas? Her poor baby boy
Also, fully understand your feelings re - sex of the baby. I’m glad we can all be open and honest about it on here in a safe space. I got the shock of my life (for various reasons) when I found out I was carrying a boy. I was genuinely upset about it. I’ve now got my head around it and I love him deeply. I think it’s so common to be shocked/a bit deflated when finding out the sex, but it all works out in the end. X

@cardboard33 @whatalearningcurve I can't believe you've got tickets well jell!

@cardboard33 I don't have much advice I'm afraid generally but just to say I honestly keep forgetting I'm pregnant I'm so busy! The middle bit is strange. I also think hormones have a lot to be blamed for, it's not just weeping and shouting! It can make you feel a bit off. I think Spice Girl tickets is a far less complicated thing to be simply joyful about anyway!!

@villegefete Hope you're managing to get some time for you with all that going on. It's very sad. This is such a lovely safe space isn't it.

Just got back from the 20 week scan. All is well and growing as it should be. Baby wasn't playing ball and kept rolling away from the sonographer. Couldn't get a decent profile photo as baby kept putting its arms and legs (!?!?!) infront of its head. Decided to keep the sex a surprise but I'm convinced I saw balls. 😂