The March-ers 2019 - #7

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Thread 6

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@MrsSax welcome and congratulations!

@melissa112 try not to go stir crazy, all odds of causing a problem are so low you'd have to be truly unlucky. If you look hard enough you'll find everything can cause harm to baby.

@melissa112 I've had a few incidences of things that could potentially cause problems for the baby, but I think actual risks are so low for many things and a lot of it is over cautious advice, particularly now we are past the first trimester.

When I was very newly pregnant, so a key phase of development for the baby, I was using iodine to clean an injury on my horse's leg twice a day. No gloves, no mask, I just didn't think. I now know it can apparently cause thyroid problems in adults, let alone a developing foetus. I phoned 111 when it occurred to me that actually I was pregnant and this kind of thing probably wasn't very sensible. DH was furious with me for being cavalier (as he saw it), the doctor on 111 gave me the biggest bollocking I've ever had and referred me for an urgent blood test. I was in a total state. Got to my GP who was very reassuring, a bit perplexed by the state I'd gotten myself in about it and said "Well, we'll do the blood test, but I really think you'll both be fine." Sure enough, no problems at all.

This weekend DH has painted the nursery and we bought a mattress for the cot, which also smells funny. I've just been opening the windows when I'm home and limiting my time in the room. It'll be fine in a day or so. I doubt very much that you will have caused any harm whatsoever. If you're concerned then maybe call the community midwife tomorrow? They might be able to offer some reassurance? I have dreadful anxiety and will obsess over these things and Google myself into a total state of paranoia. Somtimes, I find expressing my concerns and getting a bit of reassurance from a professional can really help and stops me from getting into that negative thought spiral.

Thanks all for the reassurance. I need to stay away from Google. Think I'd be happy to be blissfully unaware of some of this stuff. I try and tell myself that loads of people must do up their house before a baby, new carpets, new sofa, or move into a new build house where the carpets have been newly fitted and do all this without the worry I put myself through. But then the anxiety part of my brain reminds me that I didn't feel baby move for a few days around when we got the sofa. Gaahhhhh.

@toastfiend thanks for sharing your experience. Googling into a paranoia sounds so familiar. I think I will give the midwife a ring. I'm trying to tell myself that all my stress can't be good either so to try and do what I can now (crack a few windows when not at work) and then try not to worry.

Sorry to go off topic!

It's not off topic at all. This is all pregnancy related and if we can't air concerns and seek reassurance here then where can we? I'd be phoning my GP every 5 minutes otherwise as my anxiety is so bad currently.

You do have my total sympathy. I'm terrible for agonising for hours over Google (which inevitably gives you the worst case scenario), DH the other day pointed out that I'd panicked over 4 different patches of skin on him in the last 2 weeks and he'd really like it if I stopped 'diagnosing him' with skin cancer. I didn't realise how bad my anxiety had gotten recently until then.

Hope you're OK, this is a really stressful time and it's hard to feel so responsible all the time, but do try to remember that babies all over the world survive and are born healthy in far worse conditions than some possible (and minimal) exposure to regular household chemicals. We had a freezer leak the other day and the whole house stank. The gas can be dangerous (it's regulated for use in fridges and freezers so unlikely to cause an issue, but it's hard to know if a foetus could be affected or not). I was very worried but all was fine. According to the midwife I saw recently, sometimes when movements slow down at this stage it's simply that the baby has turned around and is facing back. I went to get checked the other day as I hadn't felt anything for the whole day and all was fine and it was throwing a party in there yesterday. Perhaps give your community midwife a call? If movements have slowed down they can do a heartbeat check, which may provide a little reassurance, and you can speak to them about the sofa etc. then?

Back from our scan, all OK and we're having a little girl. They didn't check the blood vessels like the consultant asked saying it wasn't needed, but have booked our first growth scan at 28 weeks... 27th December....!
There is a good reason they don't say to start counting kicks until 24 weeks as baby can go days facing your back and they aren't big enough for you to feel anything

@SquirtlesMumAgain aww lovely news 😃

@toastfiend thank for you for saying that, I do feel better already by getting it out there. My midwife is only available 9-10am and had a meeting this morning but will try and get hold of her tomorrow for a chat. Baby has moved since I last panicked and spent yesterday evening kicking me so hopefully he's ok in there!

My OH has also picked on up my anxiety like yours has. He thinks I've been asking him to wash his hands after every little thing, which to be fair to him I realised I might have been. In my head his 'contaminated' hands from touching the floor to pick something up could then contaminate me and hurt the baby. It's ridiculous when I say it out loud but sometimes no matter how much I tell myself to ignore it, my brain goes 'yes but what if??'.

Glad all was ok with the freezer gas. I think I can feel confident saying to you that all would be fine with that, knowing if it was me I would panic. Probably the same as you are able to step back from my sofa worries and be reassuring. I think it's hard sometimes to think of things rationally.

I'm so glad to be able to come here and get it out. Thank you again xx

@SquirtlesMumAgain congratulations on your little girl and glad the scan went ok!

Congrats @Squirtlesmumagain, glad all is well. We've got our first 3rd trimester growth scan on the 27th too, have to come back from Christmas with my parents specifically for it! Worth it for the peace of mind though I hope...

@MurphyRocks and @SquirtleMumAgain I've got my next scan 10th December where they will decide if I need them every 2 or 4 weeks. Obviously I'm hoping things look ok for every 4 weeks anyway but also because we are away visiting for Christmas and I don't want to have to come back (will do if needed of course).

@melissa112 I hope you can speak to your midwife for reassurance. Anxiety is a funny old thing simple things that probably wouldn’t normally bother you seem massive at times x

Everyone is luckily coming to us for Christmas so no issues on that front.
Fingers crossed those of you with extra scans too get the answers you're hoping for.

I hope you are going to be waited on @SquirtlesMumAgain

I have met with my manager today to sort my maternity leave out feels very scary now I have submitted my finishing date

@Bluebelltulip @MurphyRocks and @SquirtleMumAgain my growth scan is 20th December!

Lovely news @SquirtlesMumAgain on your baby girl.

@Wineandchoccy I have been studying my calendar all yesterday trying to figure out what official date I'm going to start mat leave. It is very surreal. How close to EDD are you working?

@Angelmiracle I’m due on the 24th Feb and finishing on the 15th Feb and the week before that working from home well that’s the plan anyway, I did similar with dd but I only had 5 days off because she decided to come early

That's really good @Wineandchoccy I took off 3 weeks before DS but he was 1 week late. I'm due 29/03 was planning annual leave from 5th with Mat leave 22nd.

If they allow me a full week of homeworking I could work on a bit but not sure if they would be flexible with that. Will play it by ear!

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Oh here you all are! I thought the other group was quiet

Hi all, had my 20 week scan yesterday and all went well. We decided not to find out! Baby was wriggling constantly which was good to see as I haven’t felt much movement. The sonographer said that this could be due to me having an anterior placenta. Glad it’s nothing to worry about.

On a different note, does anyone have any recommendations on the best changing bags?

@SquirtlesMumAgain congratulations on your little girl! So glad all went well for you and @firsttimemumjess1 too!

Hi all. 20 week scan today and all good except one kidney has extra fluid in it. Midwife said that its common as they've only just started functioning so having an extra scan at 32 weeks just to double check that its gone down. If not it could mean antibiotics after birth or in extreme case surgery but she wasn't worried at all so I'm just assuming all is well for now.

Having convinced ourselves that we're having a girl because my pregnancy has been so different, when she was scanning me I had a huge feeling that it was a boy and then she confirmed it. Disappointed that I won't have a daughter but thinking about things now, my son is the only boy with many girl cousins so this will be better for him, I think, and also no need to buy any new clothes (alright, maybe I'll treat him to a few...)

Only thing really is that we have no clues on boys names. We finally decided on my son's name at about 38 weeks and even then we weren't certain until we met him. So if anyone has any boy names that they want to share (especially those who have found out they're having girls), all ideas are welcome!

@Jenfur that sounds reassuring if they are not worried.
2 boys will be lovely
I like traditional names think Thomas the tank engine names

Although maybe not Gordon or Percy

@Jenfur we loved, but didn't go for, the names Dylan, Ewan and Bryn because in the end we're keen on Robin and we didn't think we could have too many names ending with 'in'