June 2019 - Thread 2

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New thread for those of us due in June 2019 😊

@toomanyflatwhites I’m on a zero hour contract , don’t get sicknpay, annual leave or occupational maternity pay. Joys!

@MauisLeftNipple that's really helpful, thank you! Who would I phone to chase it up?

Mauis I’m on cyclizine and ondansetron atm and new one to introduce is metclopramide. Last time I had it all the way through although the first 20 weeks were the worst. I think mentally it’s quite challenging knowing it won’t be until around February when things start improving if it’s like last time!

@Napssavelives grrrrrrr that makes me so cross for you that such a thing still exists!!

@toomanyflatwhites it’s my choice. I’m a nurse and if I had a permenant contract I would have to work 12 hour shifts, days and nights, they wouldn’t be set shifts so it would be really hard to get childcare for. Plus I’d be out 7am -830pm and hubby 7-7 childcare would be a nightmare. At least this way I can do short shifts and he can drop off and me pick up, I can do term time only. No Christmas, no working on my kids birthdays. Pros and cons.

Torsz you need to ring NHS Business Services - these guys: www.nhsbsa.nhs.uk/help-nhs-prescription-costs/free-nhs-prescriptions. There is a phone number buried somewhere on their page.

Reastie I hope the new med helps. As you say, even though you know it should improve by 20 weeks, it doesn't really make it any easier.

I'm a disaster area during pregnancy. The sickness improves then the pelvic girdle pain kicks in. I finally shake off all the idiots with their suggestions of ginger biscuits, then I have to deal with comments of, "a bit of back pain is normal, I had it too." Great.

@MauisLeftNipple awesome thank you! It says the card should arrive within 10 working days so I'll give them until the middle of next week ☺️ I had assumed it was similar to the normal prepayment prescription cards you can buy, but they arrive within a couple of days!

Re the free prescription card. Is everyone ticking the free box on prescriptions to get them for free even though they haven’t got the card through yet? I have as my prescriptions have all been pg related but I’m slightly twitchy I’m somehow doing the wrong thing.

@Reastiepeace I lived in sea bands with my DD and this pregnancy. They are not a fix all but I do notice a difference if I'm not wearing them so they must be doing something.

I use 3 fingers and the third finger is over the band. The trick (works for me anyway) is that when you push the ball you feel it is tender in your wrist at the site of the ball - this is how you know it's in the right place. Find the tenet spot between the wrist. There is a space and you can feel a tender spot below.

Good luck hope they work for you.

@Reastiepeace as long as you're within a month of your booking in appointment then that should be fine, as your card is backdated a month - so I ticked that box when I collected a prescription last week ☺️

This thread moves so fast!

@MadeinCornwallx3 yeah I'll be about 8 and a half weeks by then, glad that's normal!

A few other people mentioned it and I want to too, the support on this thread is fantastic, this is my first and I've no idea what the hell is going on, have felt quite lost at times but I was reading through before I posted and it's comforting to know people are experiencing the same and that's there's plenty of advice on here.

Hope everyone is doing ok today x

Hthanks KS, I think I’ve got the right spot now as it feels very tender when I press it. Ive been using them wrong all these years!

Thanks tors, here’s hoping it’ll be ok as I’ve had pg related prescriptions since I was 4 weeks pg! I think I’ll mention that to mws when I see them so they can tweak the dates if that’s possible to make sure.

@Napssavelives I'm sorry that you don't get time off for your appointments. How far along will you be when you have your appointment on the 15th?

@Littleray84 ooh those are coming up soon! It's nice when the wheels start moving.

@KoalasAteMyHomework thanks, good luck to you at your appointment tomorrow!

@Blondcat good luck to you tomorrow too! I know what you mean about the scans, they can be so expensive. I wasn't sure how I'd feel after but I've felt much more positive since the first scan. I think the lack of morning sickness was making me doubt that there was anything in there. If I had stronger symptoms I might have felt more pregnant.

@coastergirl good luck for the scan on Saturday! I've had all sorts of odd pains and hoped it was the little one getting snug in there. The pains were more frequent at first but have eased up now.

9 + 4

@coastergirl I had round ligament pains quite early on, I think even 5/6 weeks! Haven’t had it so much recently but every so often and I’m 9+1 now

@kescilly sorry you’ve had bad experiences! Are you from the US and moved to the UK or the other way around? I am on the June bumpers on reddit but it’s a very busy group and I like that it’s a bit smaller here and UK based as we have the same nhs process to go through.

I really can’t wait for 12 weeks so I can get a bit more excited and tell people!

@stellarfox from the US and moved to the UK for my husband. It's not so much people directing things at me, but it's difficult to constantly read about how Americans and our traditions and culture are trashy, obnoxious, tacky, grabby, etc. I don't think people realize how often it happens. My first trip to the UK, one of my first experiences was a woman who started going on about how stupid Americans are. I've met lots of lovely people (like all of you!) but lately the negativity has been getting to me.

I like the May bumpers on Reddit more than the June one, so that might be worth checking out.

Good luck to all those with upcoming appointments xx

I know books are a little superseded by the info available online now but I wondered if anyone had any pregnancy / childbirth / infancy book recommendations for both me and my partner? I basically want to get my hands on all the information I can .. but also find a book for DP that explains to him why I'm such a grumpy crying mess at times haha! Any recommendations greatly appreciated x

@JBCG it’s not for everyone (and the title is AWFUL) but if you’re planning on breastfeeding then The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding was so useful to me. The chapters about childbirth were so good for both me and my partner to read beforehand as it really made me feel like my body would know what it was doing, and showed my partner how to advocate for me (I ended up with an infected placenta and an emergency c section so didn’t quite go to plan, but even when that was happening I had a weird sense of calm). When we struggled to establish breastfeeding at the beginning it was good for that too. It is very natural/hippyish though so definitely not for everyone.

Re infancy I strongly recommend all first timers read up on the fourth trimester so you don’t feel like a failure when your baby won’t sleep anywhere but on you 😂

@JBCG it’s an American book (Mayo Clinic) so I don’t think you can get the whole thing here, but I took a few pics of some relevant pages!

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Evening all, I hope everyone is doing okay?

My horrible head cold is finally easing but I have terrible nausea, all day long. I never had nausea in any of my 4 other pregnancies so i can only assume it's because I'm ten years older and because it's twins. I will be jumping on the travel bands wagon first thing tomorrow. The only thing I enjoy eating at the moment is ice poles. I've got lemon and ginger tea too but can't really decide if it is doing much.

I feel rather ashamed of myself now, I have always said what perfect pregnancies I have had! That will teach me.

I have pretty much decided I can't wait another 12 days to see if both babies are still okay after my fever and will likely pay the £100 it costs for a private scan asap.

@JBCG First pregnancy for me and I've bought the DK "Pregnancy Day by Day" book. It's actually got an entry for each day with pictures, info on what bits of the baby are developing that day (or week) and some other info like about sickness, cravings, exercise etc. At the beginning there's some general advice chapters on diet, nutrition, exercise and stuff and interspersed through the day entries there's articles about the booking in appointment, screening tests and other useful things like that. It includes a section on "the fourth trimester" and a reference section at the back on common pregnancy ailments.
I really like it as it's like an advent calendar (a really long one) and there's something to read every day. But a warning is that the book is big and heavy so easiest to read up to the table - definitely not one you want to drop on your face reading in bed!

I've ordered a book for DH too but it hasn't arrived yet. He's enjoying the day by day one with me at the moment anyway!

@Kescilly I know what you mean, I am from Germany and constantly get questioned about the war - or just get a lot of comments about it as if I would have had anything to do with it ha... also everything that the German chancellor says or does is treated as if it was my personal opinion and people complain at me for it.
I've learned to ignore these comments as people mostly don't mean it in a bad way and just want to have some banter but I know how hard this can be and when I moved here first I was upset about it a lot.
I do think it's normal though to an extend - if a British person moved abroad they would probably constantly be questioned about brexit and other things, that's just what people do but please try not to take it personal - most people don't say these things and the few that do say things that offend you, you don't need in your life x

@JBCG my husband is reading "pregnancy for men: the whole 9 months" and really likes it

Pity party.. I feel so ill. The only respite I’m getting from not feeing so sick is when I’m eating , be second I stop it starts up again :( I know it’ll be worth it, I know I’m so lucky to be having another baby and maybe it’s a good sign, maybe because the sickness has really ramped up means everything is progressing as t should. I just feel rotten.

@JBCG I have the DK book too, got it when pregnant with DS1.

I also highly recommend Expecting Better by Emily Oster. Think its American but from what I can remember it also refers to the UK system too. I found it very useful during pregnancy - she worked in statistics or something so actually delves into why doctors recommend no alcohol or X amount of caffeine but then does the research into it herself. Helped me make decisions on fact rather than blindly following a rule and then freaking out if I accidentally did the "wrong" thing as I had learned the reasoning behind it and the difference between "this could cause real harm" or "this might make you sick which isn't great but baby won't be affected". Am very tired so not sure this makes any sense sorry!

With regards to books I actually found reading so much last time did me a disservice. Nothing ever goes 100% to plan and by the book so I found I felt like I failed when things in pregnancy and birth weren't as the book described. I followed so many of the rules that think I actually ended up making my labour and post birth much harder for myself.