February 2019 babies - onwards and almost the third trimester!

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@twiglet @AliceRR I feel like we're soulmates from afar haha

@AliceRR - when we moved earlier this year I wasn't sure our marriage would last it! DH was a total stresshead even though I was managing everything. At one point for 4 days he started refusing to move house anymore he'd had enough - super helpful 🙄 we got there, it's horrendous but you can do it! I kept being told it's one of the top 3 most stressful things alongside divorce and death.

@twiglet I would kick that builders ass. Plaster dust is the WORST!

DH is more bothered than me by the dust etc at the moment, I'm hoping that means he will do most of the tidying up. Generally he is the one who hoovers so I think I'm pretty lucky.

@emalady be careful with plaster dust and your hoover, it could clog it! We've got plans for an extension that we've put on hold until this time next year - I refused to do it whilst I had a fresh new born. We do however need to get an electrician in for a possible full re-wire which I do want sorted before xmas. It's on my 'list of things to do that I keep putting off'.

@fizzledays Oh gosh well we are at the relatively early stage so who knows who much more stressful it will get. I can deal with a bit of stress if we can get moved but I totally believe it’s one of the most stressful life events!

Sounds like you did well / timed it well!

My building work won’t start until just after baby is here... I’d rather do it whilst pregnant than with a newborn 😩

I did move house when I was 4 days overdue once... that was stupid! Luckily my son waited another 10 days to be born, so I had time to paint/decorate a nursery before he arrived 😂

@AliceRR exciting news about the house move! It's stressful but worth it.
@Fredthespider we had our rewire done in September. It was disruptive but we moved out for one week of the work which helped (especially with a two year old around). So much dust though! We still need to get around to stripping the rest of the wallpaper and painting. Definitely got ourselves a long term project house.
@NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking you're brave moving at four days overdue. Your son must have known that he should stay put. 😂

@Celebelly just got our letter 3 Tuesday mornings in December!

@twiglet I wonder if we'll be at the same ones! How funny!

Nothing from GTT

I was told I could hear back from as early as the afternoon the day of the rest if not it would be the day after and they said to me they would ring if it's positive if I don't hear nothing it's all fine

So I'm taking it as it's all
Fine for me :)

I dont envy none of you getting your house done we started from scratch last year and finished feb this year so im glad its all done I couldnt cope I have severe OCD

We’re moving house next Thursday - decorators due to finish on Wednesday so it’s pretty tight! I can’t wait to be in and sorted. They can finally start thinking about what else we need to get for this baby!

Has anyone applied for maternity allowance before? I sent my application off and got a text saying i’d hear back in 6 weeks but that’s when I was planning to start mat leave, so I was wondering if anyone had applied before and if they really do take that long?

Yes I applied last time, don’t remember it taking that long but they did totally mess it up when they paid me so make sure you check it carefully!

@welshweasel thanks, i’ll keep an eye out once they do start paying me (🤞 that they do agree to pay me!)

I got the same MA text today but I'm not claiming until week baby arrives (I'm self-employed so can be pretty flexible) so there's plenty of time for that. Fingers crossed they get to it sooner! I'm just worried I missed filling in something on the form 

Reading an AIBU thread has got me thinking about GP's and other family visiting and who is going to come to the hospital etc. No idea if my mum is going to be reasonable or go off the deep end. She has OCD and a lot of weird anxiety so her fussing can be exceptionally overbearing and nonsensical (like she'll just buy and bring really weird things to my house and take things away to wash at her own home 3 HOURS AWAY). I think I've been putting my head in the sand about it all and hoping everyone behaves in a loving and respectful manner. Haha!

On a similar note have found my MIL not the most helpful, she's very relaxed and keeps going on about how I don't need x or y or z because she didn't, i.e. saying I should just put the baby in a sling in a taxi on the way home from the hospital and put the seatbelt round both of us, so I don't need a car seat (I don't have a car). She said she didn't need a pram because she had a sling (she is as strong as an Ox at 70 but I have chronic pain so although I want to sling I can't imagine not having the option of a pram). I know she's forgotten what it's like, and says as much, and we aren't asking for any handouts for any of these purchases either, so I'm not finding the opinions all that helpful!

Sadly both my DP's parents are dead, but my mum and stepdad are amazing. The plan is for them to come to the house when I go into labour (they live about three hours away) and stay there with our dog, and then they'll visit in the hospital and probably stay for a few days (maybe just my mum). But they are absolutely the kind of people who get stuck in and will literally just be doing what they can to help, making dinner, making cups of tea, cleaning, and letting me and DP do what we need to do, without being pushy in any way.

I got my GTT results, saying sugar result was normal but says “Please ask your gp to prescribe the treatment with iron tablets if you have symptoms of anaemia (ie tiredness, shortness of breath, headaches)...”

Seems odd as surely my iron is either low or it isn’t

On another note heartburn is getting worse and DP is pudding me off!

I have to say our parents are great too. My mum, step-dad and Mil are fantastic with my son and I'm sure they'll be just the same with my daughter. When I had my son they were round often, they'd make meals (stew - yum) and just help out where they could.
My mum and SD have even changed their holiday date (I didn't ask them too) so that it doesn't clash with when baby is due x

It must be in the air, we're moving 2 weeks tomorrow 😂 not looking forward to it, just want to be in and settled.

I’m parents will come to look after my son for a day or so whilst I’m in hospital then will probably leave us be for a couple of weeks before coming to visit again. Not sure when we will see the in laws, we will have to go to them so probably a few weeks later.

My mum and stepdad changed their holiday plans too! They always go abroad for two or three months in Jan and Feb but they aren't going anywhere now other than a cottage in England over New Year, which I'm quite grateful for!

@AliceRR anaemia is pregnancy is a strange one. I have had to have an iron infusion the other week. So am ok now. But the dr explained it as.

Because of blood loss during labour they over compensate and the acceptable level is alot higher than non pregnant people.

The level thats the bench mark also increases each week in pregnancy as due date gets closer.

So said whilst I am fine again now. In a couple weeks I could be anaemic again. (Hope this sort of makes sense? As its a bit weird and confusing how they do it)

But maybe its something simular where you are border line and they are just covering themselves kind of thing.

Your midwife should monitor your iron levels anyways? So sure it would flag up then.

My MIL will have DD while we're at hospital, my mum will be around for me, some moral support if needed lol. Then they and my dad will pop in and out regularly once we're home, we all live very close but we don't mind, they're not overbearing x

@Celebelly - I know, me too! I would never have asked them to but I'm really glad. Especially my mum, she's awesome x