February 2019 babies - onwards and almost the third trimester!

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@Notquiteagandt mw said she would be taking my bloods next time anyway so will mention it and perhaps she’ll check again anyway

I'm planning a home birth this time. My mum has arranged with her boss that she will take a weeks leave starting the day I go into labour so she will have DD.

It's the best solution for us as she's really close to my mum and dad and loves staying at their house.

My parents are thankfully great too. They will come up and look after DS and Ddog when I go in for my section and then my mum will probably stay for a couple of days to help with older DS, cleaning, cooking and walking Ddog. As I'm having a section I think DH will try and have about 3 weeks off and if I still need some help I'll probably go and stay with my parents for a few days whilst DH works. In laws aren't nearly as helpful though so very grateful for my folks!

Our plan is for my parents to come and look after dd at our house (they live an hour away). I suspect they'll be around a lot or my mum will stay with us because dh phoned her in a panic and asked her to come and stay after dd slept a total of 30 mins our first night home. My parents are fab and will cook/clean/do shopping/look after dd without being asked to do anything. We don't expect it though. MIL is less helpful in that she would have to be asked to make tea one night and can't be left alone with dd. She loves her and can interact more now but struggles to get on the floor to play and has never changed her nappy. MIL is likely to come down and stay for a week a few days/week after the baby is born. We then plan to visit her at Easter (she lives 8 hours away). My FIL would have been amazing with dd and the new baby but sadly passed away before I fell pregnant with dd.

My sister is already building up flexi so she can come to visit straight away too. She adores dd and they get on really well. My sister lacks a bit of confidence with her but is totally capable.

@lanalawr - my fil passed away just before we got married 4 years ago. He would have been amazing too, it really is so sad he's not here x

Well i’m living with my parents and going to be staying with them until I go back to work and probably a little longer after that as i’m hoping to buy a house once I do. My mom is also going to be my birthing partner.

I’m really grateful i’m going to be at home with my parents as it means I can just focus on my baby and his needs, but all my meals/washing will be done and if I need a nap/shower/breather my mom or Dad can always watch him for a little while. My mom has some health problems and so has retired early, but she herself has said it’s probably a good thing as it means she can’t interfere too much. My dad has always been great with babies and i’m sure his help when he gets home from work in the evenings will be much appreciated too.

I’m already quite emotional about how close living with my parents for the first year means my little boy will be to his grandparents, especially since he’s only going to have the one set in his life.

We still have to find someone who can take Ddog when I go into labour.

Both of our parents live over 10 hours away.
I know that my mum will come up in the first 2 weeks that we are allowing as she is really helpful will make cups of tea, cook etc.

MIL on the other hand we are hoping if we give her a date that we will be coming down to visit then she won't appear. It sounds horrible to say but she is a nightmare when she visits. Treats our house like a hotel, complains about the food doesn't even make a cup of tea etc.
We have also seen with our niece that her version of helping is to take the baby for several hours so sil could "get on with stuff" and hand her back when she needs a nappy change. Despite SIL objections that she wanted to be holding her baby.
I know I won't be able to cope with her doing that without getting upset/angry/both!

Oh no, SNORING! It's finally happened 😩

It was so early last time but nearly managed to the 3rd tri!

Help!! X

I haven't started thinking about parents coming over. Probably as no kids/dogs at the moment to be looked after. Can't decide if the cat should stay home or be booked into the cattery for a few days. My in-laws also moved a holiday so they will be around and are only 20 minutes away. I have no idea how they will be MIL can be a bit much but runs a church toddler group so is used to little ones. My mum is great but lives 3 hours away and doesn't drive so I'm not sure how /when she will come down. More to think about. Have you thought about wills and who would look after DC if something happened?

These posts have prompted me to man up and say to OH how I don't want anyone knowing when I'm in labour.

Just literally message them when baby is here.

This may be the hormones speaking....

I'm not a massive MIL fan and I know she'd probably try and visit first when really I'd rather see my mum, brother or SIL first. Not just that but I feel like she hasn't made much effort with me esp in pregnancy and kicked up a fuss about the baby shower so why when the baby is here should I make the effort back. 🤬

Me and DH are in discussion about who the guardians would be but so far haven't reached an agreement. Turns out we have very different criteria.

@emalady we thought about wills after dd was born and asked my sister to be guardian. We still haven't got around to sorting it out though. Need to add it back onto the to do list. Luckily guardian was an easy decision for us because DH is an only child and we both knew his mum couldn't do it. I know plenty of people who have struggled to agree though.

I'm a bit worried about who will look after DS. My mum loves 30 mins drive away (with no traffic) and MIL is closer, but I really really don't want MIL looking after DS and being the one we come home to.

That sounds awful, but she's a nightmare nanny, DS is her world and she takes it to the extreme, to the point where she takes over, interferes and is almost competing with us (his parents!? I don't get it). She's already saying things like "this is your baby" to DS because that's what she did with her kids, even though we've been clear that no, it's his little brother, he is special because he'll be a big brother, but it's absolutely not his baby. But she doesn't listen.

30 mins drive doesn't sound far away but in traffic it could be over an hour, and as my established labour was very quick last time (5cm - 10cm in an hour) I've been told by the midwife to come to hospital as soon as my contractions start. I've got visions of myself giving birth in the car 

25 week doctors appointment all done :)

I’ve had to say to my other half that I don’t want anyone loitering around while I’m giving birth.. I’m not happy about people even being in the waiting area so I think we’ll do the same thing and keep it all quiet until the baby is here.

I’m quite lucky (and unlucky I suppose) that although my mum lives a two minute walk away, she never visits me. I was diagnosed with PND after my last baby.. her response was to just to stay away me so I’d have to bond.
I’m expecting the same level of care this time round.

My partners mother is lovely and not at all overbearing. I suspect she’ll visit fairly often (she is also local) but will try to stay away so as not to encroach. She also works full time still, so can’t be around constantly.

Morning all. Just back from a lovely break to Center Parcs. I have to say I was v sceptical (although we loved it as kids) but pleasantly surprised - a brilliant holiday. I even made it to the spa - only £10 if pregnant FYI! Defintely going back with both kids!

Re. Parents etc. My MIL lives abroad - >10 hours away so will visit later next year and once we have moved house. FIL died the week before I found out I was pregnant with DD - heartbreaking for DH.

Re childcare - my parents will have DD overnight I think. They live v near the hospital and were a godsend last time as I was in for a week with DD in NICU. Last time my mum took two weeks off work after DH went back and came over every day for a few hours - it was wonderful and lovely company in the first few weeks. I banned all visitors save family and best friend while in the hospital but my situation was v difficult.

Re guardians. We have god parents for DD but nothing legally in a will yet although we are in the process of doing on which will be my parents initially and then revised in the years to come.

I’m fortunate that my parents live v close and DD is with my mum each week anyway, and I don’t have to deal with nightmare in laws! But v much hoping to be a straight forward ELCS and to be home the next day!!!

Although this holiday has proven my toddler is defintely no more and is on the ‘threenager’ threshold - a newborn is going to be piss easy in comparison to this little minx!!!!

@NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking I'm glad I'm not alone with the waiting part. MIL lives over a hour from hospital so is adamant as soon as I go into labour she'll come to wait.... so I don't want anyone knowing.

Not just that but we both have separated parents so that's 4 lots of 2 people to come and visit plus I'm one of 5 and OH is one of 6 so it's a lot of visiting pressure!!!

Re visitors in hospital - you’ll probably find that if you’re a straight forward birth then you’re discharged within 24 hours so tbh - not much time for people to visit by the time they’ve done the newborn checks etc!

Link to new thread ladies...

February 2019 babies... here comes the third trimester www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3419628-february-2019-babies-here-comes-the-third-trimester

Wow so many posts I can't keep up! does anyone else feel like the last month or so has flown by? I am now 24 weeks and seems only yesterday I had the 20 week scan! Feeling relieved baby is now viable but wish I was entering the third trimester like some of you ladies! Not due until the 28th Feb so hoping she will be a little early like my other children (all born at 38 weeks)

How's your weekends ladies? We have two birthday parties - daughter has just started reception and has her first party today she's so excited! Just been into the shops to get some pressies last minute!

I have a bit of a situation ie parents... my mum really want to be birthing partner with DP but i need her too have DD! She will also take time off we live 10 mins from eachother very greatful although she has a sort of child herself my brother is 13 so hands are full!

Can not wait for maternity too start stuggling now! My DP is self employed so he can take leave when he plans too and as its his company will send his brother in his place and still make money from it! Just counting down the days now

@sickmumma we've also been to DD's first reception friends birthday today, bless them.

I'm tired today, is anyone else starting to feel really huge bump wise? SIL said today bump has grown a lot in just a week, and I'd been thinking the same before she said it. It's bringing it all back haha