Due In New Year - other thread got too big!

[pussycatmomma]

Hi ladies cant post a link to the other as apparantly it is too big to accept new messages....but this is the new one anyway. Will just copy and paste my last message on the old thread...hang on...

Beller, think it is still worth checking out yoiu rights with a employment solicitor as they may be trying to back you into a corner where you feel you have no alternative but to leave. Agree that holiday sounds like a well needed break.

Keep a diary of everything that is happening in relation to work and dont tell work anything you dont have to regarding your personal life.

Nice to know you are in Soton over the weekend

Oh Plummy ? I?m sorry about the spotting and cramps, always scary. What?d happening now? How many weeks are you again? Hope the scan goes well, we?ll be thinking of you. My EPU here is the same (St John?s, Livingston) if you call them direct, you can speak to a MW and they often will scan you or at least re-assure you or give you advice. They can assist up until 14 weeks.

Gingeme ? does seem late! Cut backs Have no idea where we?ll be for Christmas it was our year to be with my folks, sisters, nephews etc in Spain but we can?t go now ? MIL is already being bossy about being at their house (miles from my hospital) would rather stay at home in my pjs, just DH and I

Thanks Lilyloo

Hello Angelcake

Awen ? what?s with the name change?

MotherofZ ? your idea sounds very sensible. I mostly feel the same but I just couldn?t resist that one thing

Hey Beller never say never that?s awful about your pay And I?m sorry you now have more work to do too I agree with the others, make notes and consider speaking to someone about it. Sending huge hugs x The counselling sounds like a really good idea and I love the term babybel Sounds like you need that relaxing holiday

Hello Angechica

Goingfor3 ? hang in there, sounds like you are feeling a bit wobbly glad the movements are re-assuring you

Exhausted and a bit icky today ? tons of work to do and no motivation at all ? so creating a rod for my back as will have to get down to all the work sometime very soon

Before I start - our thread is about to get too big. Any ideas on a new name??

I can now play catchup quickly cos MrsMcJnr has done a fantastic summary. Bless you and thank you! Am so happy to see you are well over the 12 weeks mark MsMcJ!

Plummy I hope you are ok and the scan goes well. Sending lots of good wishes to you.

Christmas day hmmm - I hope I'm not lying on my back with my legs in stirrups thats for sure!

Awen - has someone been messing with your name and tried to take it? That's just rude. You've had it for AGES now.

goingfor3 - Im like you, I have hardly any symptoms anymore except strange dreams but the flutters are VERY reassuring. They normally occur when I'm trying to fall asleep though!

Beller - I'm so sorry work are being completely and utterly unfair. I have been continously discriminated against at work since I announced I was pg with my dd in 2005 and have just basically been here waiting to be able to sell my shares this October. Its a sorry state of affairs and this country in particular the city really need to sort their ideas out. I hope your holiday is fabulous.

Happy to see we've had more lovely scans on here.

Capricorns - so MrsMcJ and Plummy are Capricorns. I've heard they can be very sensible, sensitive, hardworking and trustworthy. Is this true? My dd is a complete nutty live wire so it would be nice to have a slightly queiter one to balance things out!

New thread has to be something like "who ate all the pies"

Gone back to normal name which you are right betty - I have had on here since 2004.

thanks everyone...im fine really, just a bad couple of days
im a capricorn too...wonder if babybel will be a birthday pressie?!

New thread title 'Due in the new year the next generation' or has that been done?

I am a sagittarius birthday 18h december - apparently i was due christmas day but my mum decided she didnt want to be in hospial for christmas so drank nearly a bottle of castor oil which apparently did the trick.

I will be 36 by the time baby born and its my first - i always wanted four but i dont think so now.

Cold sore treatment - do you mean nail varnish or nail varnish remover???

My first appointment with anyone is next thursday 19th - so not seen anyone yet i think hence my denial !!

Beller defintiely check your position out go to citizens advice or your local free representation unit you will get good advice for free - lots of my colleagues work at these centres - not my field so i cant help - if you are charged with murdering someone then i probably can help. But your employers cant put you in a position where you feel like you have no options - my mums a personeel manager will ahve a word with her.

Bad news. Baby died 4 weeks ago I am having an ERPC tomorrow afternoon. The staff at Kings were ever so nice but that made me cry all the more. It seems so unfair as it's the 3rd consecutive miscarriage. I don't think I deserve it - not that anyone does.......but you know what I mean. Poor dh is very upset too. Will miss you all and wish you every success in your pregnancies.

Plummymumm- am really sorry to hear that
Big hug for you

I will try and remember nicky6 to contact you if I murder anyone. Working here - that is a thought that goes through my head at least once a week. Thank god I'm now part-time.

Awen - name is back pheww! I'm going to do a search to see which cheeky beggar tried to take it away from you though.

gingeme, awen - like both suggestions. Maybe we could combine both?

beller - was that description of a capricorn accurate then??

plummymummy. Completey shocked as was sure everything would be ok. It is so unfair. I am so so sorry for you & dp. Sorry I posted so briefly last night, I really thought it would all be ok. If I could properly hug you now I would be. hugs xxxxxxx

((hugs)) even xxx

oh god plummy I'm so so sorry. Absolutely gutting news. My heart goes out to you and your dh. You must speak to someone and see if they can give any advice or help. I'm just so sorry

dear plummy - so sad for you big hugs and hope you and dh feel happier again soon. xx

Plummy well dont know what to say except sorry feel very sad for you and your dh. Please rest and try to take things easy. Yes it is very unfair.

Plummymummy - thats terrible news....Really feel for you , I know now words will help, but thinking of you and dh xxxx

Plummy I am so so sorry. We were together on the TTC after miscarriage thread.

I really hope that you might be able to get some specialist advice. Can you get your GP to refer you to a recurrent miscarriage clinic?

Plummy just want to say how sorry I am that this has happened to you and your DH. Sending you lots of love and best wishes at this sad time. Look after yourselves xxx

Plummy, I'm so, so sad this has happened to you and DH. Thinking of you

I am so sorry PM

This is just too distressing so I'll be back after scan a week today - sorry if that seems like a copout

Plummy - so so so sorry - please fight for all the investigation they will give you - after 3 they should surely be able to try and help you, whichever postcode you are in. All our thoughts and prayers are with you. Hang on in there with dh and little one. The pain will ease even if you never forget your loss.

As for the rest - didn't like to include it in last message - seemed callous somehow...

Well done Naetha on fab op and scan and machiavellian attitude with dh's work. I asked my medic friends in Yorks and they said they would probably recommend BRI if there was any indication there might be probs but otherwise Airedale was a really nice small friendly place. He'd worked there and had no horror stories.

Beller - you seem to have been thru the mill lately hon' - chin up and hang on in there - you might want to have a very audible conversation on the phone where it is apparent you are taking legal advice - as with Nicky6 sex and violence is more my specialism but I do believe that employers if taken to tribunals rarely get any of their costs back even if they succeed so they may be most unwilling to provoke you to that level of action. Just a thought.

Beckyau - how's the cat?
Angechica - can't believe you watched that Fight for life thing - my TV guide actually said not for pg women so we satyed well clear - you are most courageous.

Glad all other scans have gone well. Mine was good too on Thurs - baby v uncooperative at first, having a comfy recline, but after being jiggled fiercly kicked off from my bladder (I thought of the effect of that in few months time and winced) and danced for the camera and you should have seen DH's face - he went from outrage at someone prodding his child like animal in zoo to complete emotional wonderment. I brought us both back to earth on leaving hospital by vomiting copiously all over pavement - my sickness is increasing if anything - now vomiting most mornings and today so fiercly I brought on a nosebleed at the same time - felt like I was emitting from every orifice practically

Anyway, love to all

Barristermum- sorry to hear about your sicknes.. have missed out on that all together, but have a bumper pack of headaches to go if anyone is interested....
re the pay cut, like i say, there is a clause to say they can do it if we dont make 2-1 ration on our salary. Its difficult to explain, but its not as easy as that to report figures as we "place" trades with bansk that pay the most brokerage, and mine happen to pay the least, but we dont get to make the brokerage agreements!!
There is nothing i can do about this, but im keeping my eyes and ears out for anything else. I also went into management today to put my greviences accross....so we will see xx

I have taped the "fight for life", should i not watch it then??

Thanks everyone. Sorry to have distressed you angechica but I didn't want to slope off leaving people wondering. Glad to hear your scan went well Barristermum, there is some comfort in knowing others are having good news. Hope your nausea abates soon. I think I knew something was wrong yesterday so I couldn't face watching that programme on t.v (not sqeamish so usually it would've been right up my street). Kings are referring me to their recurrent miscarriage clinic so should see someone in about 6-8 weeks. I must say, they were brilliant. So kind and helpful. Plus they are taking me on even though I'm now out of their borough. I have to say, when I conceive again I will probably be so neurotic that I'll want weekly scans. It's better to know early I think rather than get a third of the way through the pregnancy.

Oh Plummy NO!! I am so very, very sorry for you and DH. I can?t bear it. Please take good care of each other I just don?t know what to say hon. Huge hugs xx I?m with Barristermum, because of the way this has happened you can get a full investigation and you deserve some information after your losses. Don?t take no for an answer.