The March-ers 2019 #5

[Angelmiracle]

Welcome to thread 5!!!

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Just reading everyone comments and I can 100% relate to feeling so exhausted 😩 I think having two boys to run around after is probably making it worse! I still feel so nauseas and thinks make me heave all the time and I’m nearly 16 weeks.. I haven’t actually been sick for the last week or so thankfully 😅
EDD and delivery timings really are the most random!!
I was told your first is late and your first is going to be a long labour... he was 2 weeks early and a 4 hour labour! Second was 5 days LATE and a 1hour and 30 minute labour. Lord help me with baby number 3 😂i will be lucky to get to the hospital with time to spare 😩 has anyone had a shorter or longer third labour?
It’s a massive worry for me.
I’ve spoken to my midwife and she said as long as my waters do not go before my contractions start then I should be okay.. I also have no family or friends living near this time so knowing I might have to be without my partner terrifies me 😩I know the midwives will be amazing but it really makes me feel anxious and sad to think I won’t have my partners hands to squeeze this time. 😂😭

@BadBadBeans

Baby will be okay! My eldest basically jumped ONTO my belly when I was pregnant with my last. He was 2 and playing around with me.
I reckon it was coincidental, but I got a small bleed a few hours later (I had 10 bleeds throughout my pregnancy.. no one knew why) I was so worried and got checked and the baby was fine! They’re a lot safer than we think. You can’t help but worry though Xxx

@Hidcat thanks for that! I think I'll be fine but I have asked for a third person to play the role or to understudy. The last thing I need is to be feeling not up to it but that the show must go on! Lots of us in the industry .

@7415N1d0r1391117 my sil's longest labour was her third!

Gosh, I keep forgetting how active this thread gets! I'm feeling a lot better sickness wise still, but healthy foods still seem to be holding out - massive cravings for sausage bagels from mcdonalds and ice tea. Then found out that my sister in law had ridiculous ice tea cravings as well throughout her entire pregnancy - maybe something genetic? Anyone else got cravings yet?

Thought I was coming down with a cold, but not sure if it was just baby exhaustion? My sleep seems very broken at night cause I'm super thirsty and need to pee a lot, although I had none of that in 1st trimester.

Nice to see all the new faces around here as well.

Welcome to everyone new! I suppose now most people have had their scans we will get more people feeling the need to post.

Thanks for the reassurance on the "normal pregnancy symptoms" thing.. I guess I just hadn't expected to feel so meh when I'm doing everything right in terms of eating. It's not fair, haha!

Husband and I started to look at pushchairs etc yesterday... There's so much choice and decisions... Feeling a spreadsheet being created here!! Something that came out of it was the very stupid but practical question below.

We don't have a car so are struggling to work out how we get home from the hospital as Ubers etc will be out due to the car seat aspect. We probably don't want to ask our parents down straight away (they both live 3-4 hours drive) so our only option is to get the bus home. Is this normal?? We live in London so assume we can't be the only new parents without a car... But what if I can't walk very far/have had a C section etc... Would he just take baby back on the bus and then I get an Uber, maybe? And then with car seats, we know our parents will need one for when we go home (on the train)... so would the sensible thing just be to get them to look after it rather than carting one across the country? The more we talked about it last night the more complex we realised this whole thing was!!

(We are planning to get a car in the long run, but I'm medically not allowed to drive and husband has never even had a lesson [I'm getting him to learn] so please no one say 'just buy a car' as that's not an option unless he passes before the baby is born)

@cardboard33 I've seen the car thing discussed (also Londoner here!). And apparently it's legally fine to take baby in a cab for "essential" trips eg the one from hospital. Or people get a car seat just for the trip but work out how to fit it. (Not all of them need a base, as I understand it? Need to look into this a bit more.)

@cardboard33 check your hospitals policy but there are quite a few that don’t let you leave if baby isn’t in a car seat. I’ve heard about people living across the road from the hospital having to have one just to walk home.

I feel like exhaustion is making a comeback for me, definitely have the insomnia after getting up to pee. Am so tired as a result. I’ve really overdone it this weekend preparing/celebrating DS Birthday. I ache everywhere, headache, stuffy nose and sore throat too, so glad I can have a quiet one today but dreading school on Wednesday. Can’t remember who said about the twinges I think half of mine are wind from my intestines getting squished up.

We finally told people this weekend. We put DS in a big brother tshirt for his party. I feel a bit weird about people knowing, it’s been our secret for so long.

I never shared my scan pic I don’t think it’s a very clear one. What do you think @murphyrocks is there a nub there? I was 13 weeks.

@MisBit1 oh dear if I'm meant to be the nub expert we're in bad shape! 😂 As you say it's a bit blurry so hard to tell, possible nub and possibly girl lean but I'm not confident! Anyone else have any thoughts?

@Cardboard33 if you do find you need one for coming home you could buy one then give it to grandparents when they come to see baby for them to have at theirs. As long as you've looked at instructions before (ours had them printed on the side) then there shouldn't be much difficulty fitting in a Uber if you do use it.

Thanks for all your reassurance everyone re the bump! I was kicking myself because I knew it was stupid before I did it but I just wanted to give DS a kiss so much!

@cardboard33 god the car seat thing is a pain. Honestly, if you don't have a car then I wouldn't buy one for home. They are expensive and they are a pain in the ass to cart around on public transport. I would get one to keep at your parents' place for visits. I like to use trains for visiting people but it is so much more difficult when they live a car journey away from the train station. I've not visited my nan as much as I ought to because I can't face taking the seat on public transport!

As for leaving hospital, personally I would choose the bus option and have baby in a pram. And as you say, if you can't walk far then maybe you could get a cab separately. I was fairly mobile after my emergency c section but I was verrrrrrrry sloooooooow!

@Bluebelltulip that is a genius solution! Ahhh logical people. I wish I had a bit more common sense!

@7415N1d0r1391117 My friend had two labours like yours and was very worried about the third! It was pretty rapid, but she did just make it in hospital in time.

Sorry if it's already been talked about- but how are people feeling about finding out the sex?

DP and I always said we wouldn't want to find out, it's meant to be a surprise - one of nature's most wonderful surprises - and we wouldn't want people to buy us lots of pink frilly stuff for a girl etc anyway.

But now we're approaching that time where we could find out I'm wobbling a bit. I've convinced myself it's a girl and I'm already a bit scared about bonding etc - I could see the hormonal part me struggling to adjust expectations if it were a boy if I didn't know beforehand- even though the rational part of me really doesn't care and just wants a happy baby.

Hope some of that makes sense- sorry for the ramble! How are other people feeling about finding out? Anyone else on the fence with it?

@NotDoingThat if you think finding out will help you come to terms with whether it is a boy or girl then it may be a good idea to.
We didn’t find out with dd and are not finding out this time either.
I was convinced I was having a boy last time but once dd was in my arms I forgot all about that it was an amazing moment I was the one to announce that it was a girl once she was placed on my chest.

@NotDoingThat we are not finding out, we didn't with DS and I feel that way when your baby is actually born you will not care one hoot what the sex is - if that is a concern and it really makes no difference as babies all get on the same regardless of sex. You'll just love your little bundle of joy at the end of the day.

@Cardboard33 I completely agree with @Bluebelltulip get car seat for grandparents and use in an uber. Many can be strapped in with seatbelt without base!

@MisBit1 beautiful scan pic! Can't wait to see baby again in 10 days 😁 We also got a Big Brother tshirt for DS but I'm wondering do we just put it on him and drive around to everyone so they see it or what lol 😂

@NotDoingThat I really want to find out for the reason you mention - even if I know it's irrational and I'll love it no matter what, it'll still be reassuring to know I'm not bonding on mistaken expectations. But I think everyone is different and you know yourself best - go with your gut!

I finally managed to hunt down our NT risk results (clinic lost the letter), which are really good at 1in 8200, so very happy. :)

@angelmiracle we were lucky we were having a party so everyone came in and went to say happy birthday to him and noticed on their own (some took longer than others) I’ve sent a picture to a couple of friends but they haven’t clocked it at all. 😂 If you generally go visiting anyway I’d do that and just go round, it’s funny waiting for people to notice and I preferred it to actually telling them which I found a bit awkward.

@NotDoingThat I’m impatient anyway but I think it’s sensible to find out if you feel it will help you manage emotions. We’re finding out early this time so we can better explain to DS.

Me and DP talked about this yesterday - we’re both leaning towards finding out so we can plan/bond, not that I think we wouldn’t anyway! But because it’s our first think we’re going to find out. Ah so exciting! It’s lovely and sunny here and starting to relax and forget about work yay!
Hope all good with the March-ers

@NotDoingThat I too was convinced my first was a girl... and he wasn't! We found out the sex and it was brilliant for me for bonding. My personal opinion is that it is a surprise whenever you find out. And actually it's quite nice to spread out the excitement - find out sex halfway through pregnancy, and then actually meet your little baby at the end! All that said, we most likely aren't finding out this time as my husband doesn't want to. (Basically I reckon he doesn't care now because he already has a boy... Pfuh!) I still would like to but I am no good with secrets so I don't trust myself not to tell my husband!

@wordsmithereens we just got our results and we were approx 1 in 1,100 for Downs, adjusted from a baseline of 1 in 495. This is very similar to my result with DS and although it is a low risk result, I'm glad we had the Harmony done as well as less than 1 in 10,000 is much more reassuring...

Thanks all for the comments about getting home - food for thought!!

@misbit1 that's similar to what we had heard too, but surely they can't force you to buy a car seat if you can prove that you don't have a driving licence let alone a car??

We will ask what is the done thing at our hospital the next time we go as we know we aren't the first or the last to be in this position, it was more that we had never really considered the practicalities until last night!!

@wordsmithereens ooh yes maybe I can find someone who has had it at the same hospital and then work out what the policy is...!

Just had my 12 week scan and found out it is twins! Due 27.3.19. Mind blown. Our home is tiny! Eeeep!

@badbadbeans, definitely, it is a whole other ballpark!

@cardboard33 We haven't got a car either, so for now I just picked up a second hand car seat someone was giving away in local sell/swap group. Figure it it's only going to get used the once anyway. Is there anyone you know you could borrow one from for the trip maybe?

@Hurradieweltgehtunter OMG, congratulations! Double the joy- you'll find a way. (Also, are you German, or why the name?)