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The March-ers 2019 #5

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Angelmiracle · 02/09/2018 22:48

Welcome to thread 5!!!

Check in March mamas to be 😊🤰🏼👣

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Murphyrocks · 12/09/2018 15:16

Sorry to hear that @funnybunnyfluff I so hope all is well. Glad they could get you in tomorrow as it can often be several days. Do keep a pad on so you can see what the bleeding is like and call back if it's soaking through.

Funnybunnyfluff · 12/09/2018 15:33

@Murphyrocks
Thank you, will do. My mum has told me not to panic and she had a bleed with me when pregnant.
I do read it's quite common and especially what some of you have been through.

Least it's a morning appointment so we don't have to wait to long.

SquirtlesMumAgain · 12/09/2018 17:20

Hope you can rest up and it hasn't got worse @funnybunnyfluff

Funnybunnyfluff · 12/09/2018 17:50

I would say no worst, think cramping is less often and little blood on the panty liner at the moment.
Mainly when I wipe. Scared to go to the loo.

Hopefully this is all a good sign. I just feel like I want to go to sleep, sooner I sleep the sooner I wake up and go for the scan.

ladycarlotta · 12/09/2018 18:05

that sounds promising @Funnybunnyfluff although any kind of bleed must be so frightening! so sorry you have to go through this - fingers crossed the scan is all shipshape and Bristol fashion tomorrow.

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Angelmiracle · 12/09/2018 18:10

Hope all is well in the morning @Funnybunnyfluff It must be so worrying. Take it easy tonight x

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puravida31 · 12/09/2018 18:32

thinking of you @funnybunnyfluff I hope you get some reassurance in the morning x

melissa112 · 12/09/2018 18:40

@thinking of you @Funnybunnyfluff hope all goes well with the scan tomorrow x

Funnybunnyfluff · 12/09/2018 18:46

Thank you ladies, will keep you all posted xx

VillageFete · 12/09/2018 19:02

@Funnybunnyfluff I’m thinking of you. How worrying. It does seem really common though so everything crossed for you that it’s just one of them things. Please keep us updated.

Ladies, does anyone knows if screaming/shouting/upset can cause anything to go wrong? I had some awful news this morning which lead to a real panic on my part. This then lead to a stressful screaming match with DP. I feel fine now, but so guilty incase i’ve caused the baby’s heart to stop? I know that might sound nuts, but with my history i’m so paranoid. I’ve just had an awful day and cried my eyes out for the majority of it. My heart has been racing. I’ve now booked a private scan for Sat when i’ll be 11+5. I’ve seen the heartbeat multiple times and all has looked good so far. Have I potentially messed things up? Sad

BadBadBeans · 12/09/2018 19:16

@Squirtlesmumagain thanks- amazing what I have forgotten between DS and now!

@Funnybunnyfluff I'm so sorry you are having this stress. Could anything have caused the bleed that you can think of? I had a definite, albeit small, bleed after sex a couple of weeks ago that tailed off quite quickly. Glad you have a scan first thing. Will be thinking of you.

@VillageFete you poor thing, it sounds like you have had a dreadful day. Are things between you and your DP resolved now? I don't think stress and upset like that can cause any harm to the baby so please don't let that worry you more. A lot of women get horrendous emotional swings when pregnant - I remember sobbing my heart out over a horrible shouty argument with DH when I was about 5 months pregnant and we were driving somewhere and I misread the map. I seem to remember I ended up almost hyperventilating. It was bloody awful. But my DS is absolutely a-ok! Hugs to you.

Took DS on his first plane ride today and he was a champion. We even got a compliment from an older lady sitting nearby on his behaviour! Feeling chuffed to bits with him.

Murphyrocks · 12/09/2018 19:49

@Villagefete I know we hear that stress can be bad for baby but it has to be the level of constant stress associated with perhaps wartime rather than a one-off stressful event. It really won't impact baby at all so please try not to worry. Hope all is well with DP and your news.

@BadBadBeans go you and ds! We did the journey to Australia with our 2 earlier in the year and I was so proud of how well they did, particularly the youngest who wasn't even 2 at the time. I think it's harder on us than them!

Marmite2018 · 12/09/2018 20:09

@Angelmiracle I'm too much of a wimp to use the pessary. Let me know how you get on...

@Funnybunnyfluff I hope everything is okay for you. Please keep us posted

toastfiend · 12/09/2018 20:30

@Funnybunnyfluff thinking of you and hope all is OK. I'm not a medical bod of any kind and, having been in your position multiple times during this pregnancy, I know that no matter what people say it is very hard to feel reassured until you've seen it on the screen for yourself that things are OK. All I can say, which I hope might give you a little comfort and reassurance for tonight, is that I have had multiple bleeds during this pregnancy, mostly quite light and only really showing on the toilet paper when I wiped, and one huge bleed in France a few weeks back when I really thought things were over, and so far my, no longer so little, bean has been absolutely fine. The causes for me have been wide ranging and a few times they've not been able to find any reason at all. It's so stressful and my heart absolutely goes out to you. Good luck tomorrow, I'll be thinking of you.

toastfiend · 12/09/2018 20:32

@villagefete my pregnancy rage has been insane and DH and I have had a few huge arguments earlier in my pregnancy. So far all OK and it doesn't seem to have affected things. As others have said, I think it's prolonged stress that is not recommended, but babies are conceived and carried to term in all kinds of awful situations, I think they are more resilient than we sometimes think! Sorry to hear you've had such a shitty day and hope everything is resolved now and you have a better day tomorrow.

Funnybunnyfluff · 12/09/2018 20:57

@toastfiend

Thank you for your message. As you say it's so hard to think positive.
Hopefully I am the same as you and it will all be alright in the end.
I think also never being pregnant before it is all so scary.

Thank you all for your kind words.

Shampooeeee · 12/09/2018 21:20

@Funnybunnyfluff I hope everything is ok at your scan tomorrow.

@VillageFete I don’t think stress can ever cause the baby’s heart to stop. Ongoing distress can lead to all sorts of changes but it is linked to really long term situations- war, famine, etc. There was an interesting study on children who were in utero at the time of a long ice storm. I don’t think we should worry about the odd day here and there but if you find you are really anxious for weeks on end, it is definitely worth trying to destress.

VillageFete · 12/09/2018 21:30

Thanks for all of your lovely replies. I feel much better for the reassurance. My best friend is having some health issues, and today she took a turn for the worse. I didn’t know if I was going to lose her today and it was just awful. Thank God she is ok now. Hospital are taking very good care of her.

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Angelmiracle · 12/09/2018 21:46

@Villagefete I am so sorry to hear about your friend 💐 So glad she's being taken care of. And don't worry about your panic stress screaming I had a lot of this pregnant with DS and he was completely fine.

@Marmite2018 I didnt get the pessary. I read a cup of white vinegar in the bath helps so I had one this morning and it felt nice think it helped a little.

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VillageFete · 12/09/2018 21:48

Thanks @Angelmiracle There’s probably more panic stress screams to come from me in this pregnancy! My hormones are crazy sometimes! I think a lot of it is because i’m so exhausted all the time and it’s been a hectic week.

ballanj · 12/09/2018 22:15

@Funnybunnyfluff will be thinking of you tomorrow and hope everything is well

ballanj · 12/09/2018 22:19

@VillageFete I really do think your little one won't be affected by what's happened y'know. Sounds like you've had a tough time, be kind to yourself and get as much rest/sleep as you can manage and hope things improve for your friend and for you x

ballanj · 12/09/2018 22:24

@Gronk27 let us finally say a big hellooooooo 2nd trimester! It's been remarkable how much better I've felt this last week and a bit. Just feel more like my old self. Appetite improving, back running without the aches and having fewer what I call 'bus' days (as in the rough days I felt like I'd been hit by one 😂) long may these good feelings continue until the discomfort of the final trimester.

I am however still constipated 😂😂😂 can't have it all!

Gronk27 · 12/09/2018 22:29

@ballanj I know! I almost feel like myself again! Although I've come down with a cold this evening-teach me to be so smug. I've been constipated the whole time, it's how I live now Grin Despite the cold I do feel 'better'. Got my 20 week scan through but I'm going to have to reschedule annoyingly! DH isn't impressed but I do seasonal work
and missing a day of Halloween isn't an option.

toastfiend · 12/09/2018 22:57

Has anyone else started on the delights of bio oil? I'm very prone to stretch marks and already have lots of old marks from when I got them as a teenager so I'm desperate to avoid getting many more if I can. I'm beginning to get quite a bump already, to the point where a few people have commented on it, so I feel like I need to be pretty religious about it, but God I hate it! I feel like I've been caught in an oil slick half the time! I'm going to look into some kind of cream or balm that might be better, if such a thing exists, but I know lots of people swear by bio oil and I'll do anything to combat stretch marks as much as possible!