Pregnancy after loss: spring 2019 edition (The Brexit Babes) 🐧

[PassTheAfterEights]

Extra supportive pregnancy journey thread for grads of the penguin huddle and anyone due spring 2019 after a long and bumpy road.

All welcome 🐧

Thread commandments:

Thou shalt share and not apologise for any neurosis or worry

Thou shalt shuffle immediately to the centre of the huddle when feeling vulnerable or hopeless

Thou shalt share all photographs and good news and celebrate raucously that of others

Thou shalt not apologise for TMI, or pearl-clutchy words and language

Thou shalt add your handle, age, number of DC and EDD when joining the thread to roll call so we know where everyone is (thanks!)

May our beans snuggle down, heads stay steady & the elastic on our waistbands quickly snap x

Thanks so much guys . I'm trying to stay positive I just don't feel overly pregnant atm which is hard I'm 8 weeks tomorrow I think . I have some brief nausea waves in the morning and slightly sore nipples that's it oh boobs have got bigger . Anyone else lacking in the symptoms department? Sorry guys I appear to have become the resident anxious worry head melter lol.. I am in Majorca at the min on a weeks hop with dc and dh. It's made me feel un pregnant . Lol xoxox

@PurpleFushia hi! Yes, getting to the 12 week scan has been a huge relief, just wanting to feel baby move now.

@MisBit1 that sounds scary, I hope you're feeling better this morning?

@lolacola13 don't worry, we've all been / are going through it with you. Try to enjoy your holiday and don't feel guilty for doing so.

Hi everyone

@HidCat great to see you here and hear that your 12 weeks scan went well! 🙂 Gives us all hope!

@lolacola13 I agree with the others in that it sounds positive from your scan though completely understand the worry- I'm exactly the same. If it's any comfort during my last pregnancy I joined an antenatal group where a couple of women had the same blood clots seen on thier scans and they were absolutely fine. Remember reading that they are the cause of almost all normal spotting in early pregnancy which is experienced in up to 20% of normal pregnancies so try not to worry. Also the symptoms thing really doesn't mean anything as lots of healthy pregnancies people have absolutely no symptoms. Hope you can manage to relax & enjoy your holiday!

Thanks @MisBit1 totally get the whole feeling the pressure with telling people - I've ended up telling most close friends and family with the last couple of pregnancies just so that if does go wrong I have support which I found really helpful and important last time things went wrong- I find it a positive way of looking at it when I worry about people we've told. Though keeping everything crossed for you that you'll be able to tell everyone in a couple of weeks!

@PurpleFushia sorry but also happy for you that the symptoms are stepping up for you! It's a constant struggle between wanting to just feel better/normal and then being petrified when you do isn't it? 🙈

I've been getting some nausea but mostly fatigue on and off still and have also started to get more tight/stretchy pains below recently but ultrasound also showed an ovarian cyst so not sure how much is just that 🤷‍♀️ 9 weeks + 3 today. Is another 8 days before my next private scan (couldn't deal with waiting till the 27th- gone from no early scans to two! 🙈) I booked and time is going sooo slowly!

Thanks @PassTheAfterEights I also worry I'll feel worried for whole pregnancy but am sure will get easier once we get further along second trimester- I hope! I'm in same position as you re:maternity clothes. I also have added complication of being a short ass so am trying to find decent petite maternity clothing! 🙈 Hope the symptoms are treating you more kindly now!

I have had the most hectic week and it has really exacerbated my tiredness. I’m usually part time but did full time this week so I didn’t miss insets. Tuesday involved cleaning our classroom and putting furniture back after building work so I had to tell my job share as I couldn’t go hefting about heavy cupboards.

In other news we’ve made it to 13 weeks! Had a scan yesterday and baby was trying to fight the probe thing. It was not happy to be prodded and poked at all. It did not stop wriggling. They couldn’t get measurements for the combined test so I’ve got to go back for bloods but she said all looked ok.

I now have appointments practically every week which should break things up, diabetes nurse next week (previous GD), consultant the week after, private gender scan, then quad test and midwife appointment in the same week...I might get a break at week 17?!

I’ve told people at work now as they were a bit suss especially with me having yesterday morning off. I left them a clue in the form of some bags of jelly babies in the staff room and then shared the news at lunch. I’ve ordered DS a big brother in training tshirt to share the news with family at his party next week.

@HidCat I’ve not had anymore dizzy spells but I have form as had them when pregnant with DS including a full on faint which I preceded with knocking and smashing a glass on the floor. Luckily DH caught me and stopped me falling onto the glass.

@Jessabean not long until your next scan! Don’t blame you booking more, you need something to break up those first 12 weeks. I think I’m going to feel worried right the way through (and then some more when the baby arrives because that’s just being a Mum!) but I am gradually feeling more positive and even a tiny bit excited.

How is everyone else getting on?

Hey everyone
Little update from me, I had my booking in apt on Friday and today I went for a private scan. Our little dot is measuring 10+1 and was kicking and waving like mad!!... It was the most amazing experience 😍. Such a relief
How’s everyone else doing? Any updates?

Hi all hope I can join I recognise a few names from other boards I used to be xleanne28 but deleted after 2nd loss. Nice to see some healthy scans!! Really trying to be positive but I am shitting myself to be honest.

24, ttc#1, loss at 7 weeks Jan and mmc at 14 weeks June, 3rd pregnancy think I'm 4 weeks (lovely whacky cycles)

Congrats on all the scans

6+2 here, had a scan at 5+5 which showed baby in right place. Only saw sac and yolk sac though which is apparently normal at this stage.

Have another scan at 7 weeks at EPU I had booked a private scan for 7+6 but I'll push that out now...

Congratulations @MisBit1 - the first of us to graduate the dreaded 12 week scan! Lovely little wriggly not so bean like little one there! 😍 Know what you mean about probably not really relaxing completely even now though- am sure I'll be the same!
Was bit difficult this weekend as was at a friends- who knows all of my mc history -birthday who is also pregnant - few weeks on from me & she's just so joyful and confident about everything happening for both of us- wish I could feel the same way! Makes it so much harder to try and be all what will be will be with this one too as would be so nice for us to go through this together.
Counting down the days till my next scan on Wednesday now!

Congrats as well @Maydot how are you feeling about it all now as know you had been feeling a bit anxious? Still holding up ok symptom wise?

@dovegrey18 definitely right with the ultrasound I remember being told from before that often you don't see a little bean till nearer the 6 week point.
Wishing you luck for your next scan.
Have you long to wait?

Also forgot to say welcome @xJune88 is good to see you here over from the other thread! Keeping everything crossed for you & here for any support needed over these stressful weeks!

Thankyou @jessabean shitting my knickers to be honest haha x

Welcome xJune88, good to see you over here - good luck for the next few weeks, it's so anxiety inducing but gradually the weeks tick away.

Great scan pic MisBit1 - very good to see someone reach 12 weeks as well! Glad for those who've had early scans too. Work travel commitments mean DH and I can't go for a private scan together for at least 2 weeks but we've agreed well consider it after then if all is ok - no scan letter yet and it could be during a week when he's away again, in which case we'll definitely head off for a private scan the week before.

All that assuming everything is ok of course - have been driving myself a bit nuts today trying to remember how I was feeling at this point before I miscarried - have just reached 9 weeks today, and with the MMC in May the baby measured 8 weeks (I think she said 8 and a half but wasn't sure how accurate that was). So it's been a stressful week anyway, and through the weekend I've felt like my symptoms have faded - very little nausea and boobs less sensitive. Still very tired though and have really needed the afternoon naps this weekend - looking back ony Fitbit I can see I didn't need those last time. So I guess that's good? Argh, I'm fed up of thinking about it, I am annoying myself now, anyone got any good distraction tips?

Thankyou @PurpleFushia fingers crossed j get to full term with a healthy baby. I have 2 weddings in the next 4 weeks 🤦🏼‍♀️ one I'm a bridesmaid at and the meal is anti pasto and lamb which I'm assuming will be pink so can't eat either and hiding drink will be fun. I'm the biggest drinker ever lol. Really don't want anyone knowing though told people too early the previous 2. Going to wait until first scan (12 week) atleast. Hope everyone is ok xxx

Hi

I stepped in and out of the jks threads for the past few months so recognise a few of you.

I just got my bfp - due the middle of May if all goes well.

I thought I’d be really excited but I’m a giant ball of nerves. I don’t think i can even say the words out loud yet.

Had a horrid mmc in April at 11+4 after seeing my baby with a heartbeat at an earlier scan. I knew it was going to happen as I was only measuring 6+6 when I should have been 8+3 but was fobbed off by the HCPs as not knowing what I was talking about.

This is my 5th pregnancy but will (hopefully) be my 4th baby.

I haven’t told dp yet. I don’t know if I want to either, as the mmc hit him really hard.

I’m contemplating waiting until I’ve had a scan, will ask mw if I can have an early one or have it privately if I can’t, at around 8weeks (if I get that far)

Am I being cruel by not telling him?

Welcome @TheHalfBloodPrincess ! I couldn't manage to keep it to myself - if nothing else DH would have guessed well before 8 weeks, I've been so tired! Also I think he would have been hurt - but up to you. You could wait a few days I guess to rule out a chemical? But waiting until 8 weeks or more sounds impossible to me!

Have been hit with a sickness bug - proper d&v last night and now panicking that I'm going to have hurt the baby - advice online seems a bit varied. Going to try to eat something tonight but haven't all day and haven't had much fluids which would stay down ☹️ also doing solo childcare of my 2 year old as DH away, so it's not much fun here!

How's everyone else getting on?

Have an early scan at window to the womb in T- 30 mins! Eeek.. I'm 9 +1 today. Bloody £69 . I told dh it was £50 ish this be fun haha xoxox

Good luck @lolacola13! Fingers crossed for you- let us know how it goes!
I just had my other early scan this evening & was all well! Measuring bang on dates at 10+1 and healthy heartbeat with a wriggly little one in there- was kicking itself in the face and waving! Am so relieved! This is the furthest I've ever made it and the first time I've had such a positive scan & now beginning to feel things might actually be ok this time but at the same time that also makes me even more petrified now if something did happen. Have been feeling really rough the last few days though- like constantly on the verge of being sick.
How is everyone else doing? 🤢 and 😴 wise?

It went really well!! Measuring 9+3... few arm kicks and a nice heartbeat . Feeling rough in the mornings but sickness is bad until lunchtime however it does ease when I eat so I'm getting up and horsing some toast in me first thing . Literally while eyes half
Closed and it eases within minutes . Xoxox

hello

dreaminofholidays, 32, dc#1, pregnancy #2, edd mid may.

Got my BFP on Sunday, happy about it but just so worried about it going wrong. Lovely to see lots of familiar names on here from the ttc threads and hear about your early scans.

xxx

Hi @dreaminofholidays

Great to see you on here. Keeping everything crossed for you & we're all here to help each other through this nerve wracking time. The weeks do pass eventually!

@Jessabean and @lolacola13 I'm glad you both had good early scans.

@dreaminofholidays congratulations on your bfp, keeping everything crossed that this is the one for you.

Is anyone taking 75mg aspirin? I'm finding myself arguing with myself inside my head whether to take it or not. Pregnancy number 3 and I've read it can't do any harm but very unsure what to make of it! X

Hey everyone,
Lovely to see some more BFPs joining us, these first weeks are such a worry but we’ll get there xx
I know I’ve been super quiet, been so busy at work and last week I just felt so exhausted! Sickness seems to have died down now, just feeling slightly sick in the evenings which I’m guessing is pretty standard for 11 weeks!
@Jessabean I’m still really anxious but the end of the first tri is in sight and I have my date for my 12 week scan so just counting down the days!!... We’re going to Barcelona for 3 nights next week for a distraction.
We still haven’t told anyone about the pregnancy yet but I’m dying to tell my sisters, has everyone else told people yet?
@xJune88 I thought about taking it but decided not to unless it was prescribed. I don’t think it does any harm though.
How’s everyone else getting on?? xxx

@maydot so exciting you are almost at the start of the 2nd tri.

I am worrying, every time I go to the bathroom I am afraid I will see blood.
I am hoping to do a CBD maybe tomorrow or early next week hopefully for a 3+ as the one I did last week was 2-3 weeks. I never got to see last time I was pregnant, it was just stuck on 1-2 weeks.
Does anyone have any tips for relaxing? How is everyone else?
xxx

Congrats on the BFPs @xjune88 @dreaminofholidays @TheHalfBloodPrincess and great to hear about/see the positive scans!

@Maydot I’m just over 14 weeks now and our families and close friends still don’t know (work friends do out of necessity) but that changes tomorrow! I feel quite nervous about it!

@dreaminofholidays the anxiety is horrible, try to set yourself little targets (I used the weekly milestones) and just take it a milestone at a time. I'm glad the CBD is progressing but try not to keep testing as they can start to fall back / fade due to the hook effect.