August 2018 #6 - Impending Births and The Final Push!

[peterpanwendy]

Into months 7 and 8 of our pregnancies now.. this will most likely be our last 'pregnant' thread before we all have our babies!!

How did we get here? Feels like just yesterday we were waving hello from the TTC boards.

If anyone new would like to join please do, we also have a very busy (private) Facebook group for everyone due in August 2018.

@birdy1978 it's so nice to hear from you, so pleased to hear all is well with your girl! Spa day sounds lovely - I'm jealous of your pedi!

For anyone that wants to join the facebook group, please PM me the email you use for facebook, then I can generate the invite from facebook. x

@louella I am here, I am real. As beesknees suggested, try without the @. Sorry I don’t really post on here now. X

Hi @clementineclouds I see you have responded too. I'm only half awake this am so far. @louella99 I sent you a pm so you can just hit reply on that and hopefully won't have any further issues contacting myself of clementineclouds. X

@bertiebotts did you get to the bottom of what happened to your sons PE kit in the end?!

@MamofFrankie I feel your pain re. house renovations! What do you have left to do? We moved last October, I love our new home but my god it was a shite hole for the first 6 months. I spent the first 3 months of pregnancy living in 1 room whilst ceilings were being ripped down etc, almost there now though apart from the bathroom which will definitely have to wait until next year I think.

How is everyone getting on with choosing baby names?

Also partner and I went on our Maternity Unit tour last night. It was really interesting and I am pleased we went, I feel much more confident about it now! The unit I am going to is midwife led but is still much more "clinical" than I expected. Unfortunately couldn't see any of the rooms on the labour ward as they were full (!) but we were shown the birthing pool rooms and they said normally one is free at all times which is great as I would really like to try a water birth.

If anyone else is going on a tour definitely ask if they provide towels for showering, as some units do and some don't (mine doesn't!)

@iamloading you’ll probably remember I am in the same boat. If you feel up to it the secret Facebook group is really friendly. I find it a bit hard to keep up on here as you can’t reply easily to individual comments. Even if you don’t want to join until your baby is here safely I hope you’ll consider it afterwards. I’ve been open about my youngest daughter's stillbirth on there and although I hope it doesn’t make anyone else uncomfortable I feel it’s important to raise awareness and help break the taboo.

@birdy1978 I think I might have missed an update but I have been thinking about you and I so sad to read one of your twins didn’t make it. I hope you’ve had lots of support. Great that your surviving twin is doing so well! I’ve seen some lovely children’s books which are written for parents to read to a surviving twin (when they’re a bit older) if that is something you would chose to share with your daughter when she’s born.

All fine here, as any of the Facebook gang will know I have GD, which is a pain, and I’m also being induced at 37 weeks (my own choice) due to my history. I don’t have a date but I am a consultant appointment tomorrow so maybe we will get one....?
I finish work next week.

Oh yes, his PE kit was thrown away which is annoying but at least it was only cheap stuff, so have just made him a makeshift one until the end of term and we'll replace the shoes and bag properly in September. It prompted a whole discussion between DH and I about connecting with DS more generally and we've made some changes at home like making sure we have dinner at 6 so we can eat together and so on. So overall positive.

We've got a name and been set on it for a little while now :) first name is just one we both like (the ONLY boy's name we both like, apparently!) and then two middle names. One for DH's dad who sadly passed away recently and one for DH's best man who also passed away last year :( actually FIL's name was meant to just be the family connection but of course we're keeping it now. Originally we were just going to have one middle name but DH ended up liking the acronym too much with both!

So we have officially used up all of our boy's names, so we need to have a girl next if we have any more DC :o

I've splurged a bit on the C&A and H&M sales. I'll show you when the stuff arrives, I just couldn't resist!

Sales at H&M?! That's my afternoon sorted haha.

We've got the first name sorted... however I did have to go through a bit of drama with my Mum. Our DD1's middle name is my MiL and SiL's middle name (they both have the same middle name) and now Mum somehow thinks it's her turn to have some of her name in there too with this baby. Trouble is, I only picked DD1s middle name because I like it. I didn't do it to honour that side of the family tradition or something, it was just a happy coincidence. And I don't really like either of my mum's name's so its tough. I've explained this to her but she still seems offended somehow. I've reminded her that none of my names were family names so its not like there's a family tradition to uphold. I think she has a bit of jealousy over DD's strong bond with MiL as she looks after her 3 days a week, whereas my Mum still works full time so can't.

So we've got a first name... not sure on a middle name. We might just not bother with one. I feel like we'd be crow-barring one in for no reason.

I think my son will be nameless all the boys names I sort of like are just a bit 'meh...' - if anyone has any boys names they are not using, please throw them my way!

@Emmasmum2013 oooo that is a bit awkward, hopefully once your baby has arrived she won't care about what she is called :)

@WaitingforToto I know what you mean!! Also having a boy, I like lots of names but don't LOVE any of them if that makes sense? We are testing out a name at the moment and its definitely growing on me, I found thinking of girls names much easier so maybe next time I will get to use one of those!

@WaitingforToto it took us FOREVER to find a name we both agree on, although still 5 weeks to go until he is here so could all change but we really struggled with first name and too many people to upset by choosing a family middle name so hes just having the one! Xx

The boy's names which got rejected or we went off:

Robin
Lars
Idris
Orion
Alex
Max
Stanley
Alfred

Oh and Tobias (Tobi) and Emil, I forgot those two.

Evening all, sorry i've been terrible at posting but I do try and keep up with how everyone is doing. 36 weeks here, it's really creeping up.

I know what you mean about boys names. I like a few but don't love any. My favourites (vetoed by dh) are Idris and Elias. Also like Max but doesn't sound quite right with our surname. Dh loves Leo but i'm not so keen. Last time he got his first choice because I was on such a high after birth I wanted everyone to be as happy.
I think we're both veering towards Ethan as the only one we kind of both like and agree on.

Thanks @BertieBotts and @TheMildManneredMilitant , weirdly a lot of these are/were on my lists too! We have similar taste! We are the last of our friends to have a baby so a lot of the 'good' names have been taken! I've edited my long list into a short list now so might wait until he arrives to decide. It doesn't help that my mum keeps suggesting names that I associate with dogs, and every name I mention a name to my dad that I like he says 'you can't possibly call him that' 😕 not helpful Dad.

I've been a bit MIA today, been back at work after a few days poorly. I am so exhausted. 13 work days to go!!!

@BeesKnees9 another one here who moved last year and had a lot of renovations to do! Babies room is soo nearly done. I am going on a tour of the birth centre tomorrow, already been a couple of times to visit a friend and for my classes but can't be too prepared! This is also midwife led and not clinical at all which is slightly scary!

@Emmasmum2013 that's a tricky situation with your mum. Are either of her names able to be changed slightly to something you like a little better? We got very lucky in that my mum and MIL both have the same middle name so that will be this ones middle name! All of my siblings and me as well as most of OH's family are all named after family so I'd like to keep it up. She's also going to have another middle name which is the name of my sister.

@WaitingforToto we had boys names set before we knew we were expecting a girl! Found it soo hard to decide on even a short list for this little one. If she was a boy she would have been George or Oscar.

@BertieBotts @TheMildManneredMilitant I love Idris!

I adore Idris but DH didn't like it :(

I also find a lot of boys names remind me of dogs! I wouldn't worry too much about friend's children as you just end up with e.g. big James and little James. And don't worry about grandparents either, most of our chosen names will sound weird to them because of the generation gap. MIL kept suggesting things like Kevin and Barry! And if they aren't doglike, too strange, too old fashioned etc then they are bland. Though recently I've met a few baby Toms, Bens and Sams and they suit them so they are nice enough names.

We have a name for our girl, however DH wasn't too keen on it at first and had to persuade him. It's tricky to name a baby for their whole life, too much responsibility lol

I definitely feel the same, we had our girls name picked out. However ours is a boy and luckily enough our name came to us. My oh watches this guy on YouTube and his son has a nice name. Oh went what about his sons name. Didn’t like it at first but now I’ve thought about it and have referred to baby with this name many times to oh, i love it and it will deffo suit him. So luckily the name just came to us out of the blue. No other name we have thought of compares to this one. I think when you know you know.
32+2 today and last night my bump went quite hard and I started getting a achey pain just below my bump. Not sure if that’s normal probably braxton hicks.
Am now struggling to even walk up the hill to get into work and don’t even consider going anywhere that does have a toilet nearby 😂

@peterpanwendy Nah there's nothing really I can do on the name front. She's said more than once when discussing the baby's name "when's it my turn?" As if I'm obliged to name the child after her. She's just being a bit ridiculous and jealous for no reason. She's also expressed her dislike for our choice of first name (Eliza) so she can sod off if she thinks I'm going to have a middle name I don't like just for the sake of keeping her happy.

What she doesn't realise is that because she's retiring in September. It will be "her turn" to help me look after the baby 😂. I joke, she can do as much or as little as she likes.

We have one girls and one boys name chosen but I still keep browsing name boards for new inspiration! Haven’t found any yet. We will be keeping the name quite traditional but they’re both top 100 names anyway especially our girls choice.

birdy nice to hear from you. I love a good spa day. So sorry you’ve had a hard time but pleased your remaining baby is doing well.

I have midwife today for bloods and check up (having weekly bloods as I have developed OC again) seeing consultant again next week and expecting an induction date for the following week. Less than 2 weeks and I could be home with my baby. Terrifying!

Anyone else just really emotional at the moment? I’ve been ok up to now but had a stressful couple of days and I just keep crying!

@bertiebotts OHs father passed away quite suddenly this year so we are also using his name as a middle name But I think the name we are plumping towards for his first name is also a family name on my partners side which is a total coincidence - I think might set some expectations if we have another baby as @emmasmum2013 has pointed out! Love your list of unused boys names btw

@peterpanwendy you poor thing! Hope you are feeling better now

@strawberrylemonade wow so soon! Hope your bloods come back ASAP and you will know soon about your induction. I think it’s normal to feel emotional, you are going through a lot unfortunately when I feel a bit over emotional I turn into a really arsey cow instead of crying, completely unintentional but my patience goes out the window and I get really snappy :(

To anyone that already has DC, I have a question! None of our bedrooms have blackout curtains at the moment and it is so light in the evenings and mornings, plus downstairs still doesn’t have any blinds or curtains in the living room . Do babies need complete darkness to be able to sleep, is it better that they do? I’m worried that it will be still really light in the evenings/nights when the baby arrives and they will have trouble settling/sleeping..

IMO no it doesn't matter and actually you can get a bit stuck if you do rely on total darkness to get them to sleep, because then it's really hard if you're on holiday etc.